I'd put the most emphasis on this & I wouldn't be surprised if most of your results have come from this. Going to the gym is a fantastic action. Stretching is a great action. These get you results. But I'll quote myself on a post I made.Weight gain grind...
- Since Aug 1, which is when I started my weight gain journey / diet overall, I've gained an average of slightly above 1kg per month.
- I now currently weigh around 52.5kg; at the start of August, I was hovering at 47kg.
- I've been on a calorie surplus 9 days out of 10: I still have days where I may not eat exactly enough, but all in all, I've made tremendous progress and will continue to do so.
- I've been on a clean bulk rather than dirty bulk, despite some of my friends' suggestions, as I'm not willing to sacrifice my short- or long-term health just to put on a few extra kg's. The weight gain has been going well all the same, however.
- Also improved my diet: Eating more nuts and pulses (specifically chickpeas), as well as fruits. Eating eggs very consistently overall.
Here's what else you've been doing, too.
Meditating twice a day now...
- Since my last post, I started meditating twice a day, once in the morning, and also at night as usual.
- I have now hit 100 days of meditation as well, and I'm currently on day 124 or 125.
- For a few weeks, I experienced a drastic improvement in my mindfulness - my brain felt less foggy and I experienced less wandering thoughts. However, at the moment, my mindfulness has dropped slightly... perhaps I need to up the ante with my meditation.
Started on daily cold showers every morning...
- From 2nd September, I started taking cold showers every morning. This has many benefits, like increasing dopamine sustainably (unlike how social media does), as well as improving tolerance towards the cold (and discomfort in general).
- I've recently hit 100 days of cold showers in a row; I've not skipped a day since I started, and haven't gotten sick at any point, despite it being winter.
Started Deep Journalling every morning...
- Deep journalling consists of asking oneself "deep" questions, where the answer may not come to mind straight away, and therefore a bit of digging deep within is needed.
- I've started this more recently, so I've not experienced any long-term benefits yet, but it's a nice way of self-discovering and potentially giving myself actionable advice to implement into my life.
Started manifesting...
- I've started manifesting, as it is a powerful way to shape one's identity to match their dream version of themselves.
- My manifestations at the moment are...
I am a successful entrepreneur
I have retired my parents
I am fit and healthy
I am spiritual and present
I am a hard-worker
I am organised and productive
This stuff above may take up a good chunk of your day, but I'm willing to bet 80% of the results were because of the gym - the rest is 20%.Some other improvements to my overall lifestyle...
- Drinking more water. I know drink a solid 2.5L of water a day.
- Reading more and more entrepreneurship / self-improvement books.
- Consuming no degenerate, "entertainment" content. Only watching self-improvement videos.
That's great! But you've got to remember that while you're meditating, reading entrepreneurship books, having cold showers, deep journalling...
... People still have problems that they need to solve.
Read this quote from a post I made about my most significant lessons for my first year on the forum:
TO ALL YOUNG FASTLANERS - Journalling, meditation, reading, overcoming social media, cold showers, and gratitude don't do anything past a point. I can’t emphasise this enough. I often see people starting and never leaving this stage because it's uncomfortable (I did this).
- Go produce something of value.
- Get a purpose. Align identity with that purpose. Do something. Doing is ten times better than becoming an amateur philosopher.
- Don't trick yourself into watching Hamza, Alex Hormozi, or anyone else as "education". It's entertainment unless you're taking notes during the video.
I'm saying all of this because I fell into this for years, and I reflect, and I saw I hadn't done a thing to help another person & create a business off the back of it. Had I moved forward? Well, I think I had at the time, but nothing happened. I made this exact mistake.
"Why am I not moving towards being a fastlaner?"
"Why am I posting weekly accountability, and nothing is happening?"
"Why am I so damn broke? I journalled!"
I knew I wasn't doing anything, and I started catching on that I wasn't doing enough focus on business. The final nail in the coffin was from @BizyDad (thank you again!).
It wasn't directed at me, but it felt like he had shaken me through the screen. The text in bold resonated.
This was in June, going into July. As soon as I consciously shifted my focus from "self-improvement" to "business", everything exploded.Stop posting daily updates if you have nothing business to talk about. Get serious or be quiet.
Tomorrow? Tomorrow?
Tomorrow is not promised to you. Tomorrow never comes buddy. Tomorrow is where the dreams of the inactive go to die. All you have is today.
But convincing your dad to spend money on you when you can't even be bothered to physically take care of yourself enough to exercise. You had a whole day of no school, you could've played games, exercised AND tried to convince your dad.
But here's the thing. Even if you do convince your dad, he'll be wasting his money because you won't take action.
So I have a better idea.
Why don't you take inspiration from any number of threads on here where school-age kids are making money.
And then save that money to do the Fox school if you want.
This forum is not a place for shortcuts and handouts.
It's for action takers and money makers.
You want to be taken seriously? You want to inspire other people? You want your dad to respect you and say yes to your ideas?
Learn to take action. Learn how to provide value. Learn how to ask for what you're worth.
From someone other than your father.
And stop with all the nonsense and crutches. You're mindfulness doesn't work because you don't want it to work. You're not committed to your success yet. You have it too easy.
It's time to start growing up and taking responsibility to make the things that you want to see happen happen.
I stopped posting anything about self-improvement as a primary goal. I had to talk about business. I made the active decision on my accountability thread.
You can see the before and after. It is a CLEAR distinction point for me.
... here's the kicker: my self-improvement got BETTER
Here's what I achieved in five months:
- I gained 5kg in muscle mass in three months
- from squatting 80kg 3x10 reps to 115kg 3x10 reps
- I filled out my shirts, my trousers - everything. I had to buy new clothes because I was ripping the old ones.
- I was able to be not only strong but also flexible. I can touch my toes, feel my hands behind my back and sit in an Asian squat with ease.
- My mind is more at ease than at any other time in my life & there is not a day that goes by that I'm not grateful for. I'm also at peace that EVERY DAY, I'm moving towards the Spenny I envision at thirty - that gives tremendous satisfaction & joy.
"How can you make a sale this week? Who can you help?" I already hear @Andy Black shouting.
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