I would like to share my story with you, for multiple reasons.. First of all I just want to dump my toughts, share some things, maybe help some people and I just want to remind people to take action..
I am 21 years old and I live in The Netherlands, I am currently in College (study Marketing/Entrepreneurship/Innovation) and also running a Business with my dad. We've been through some tough shit the last years (haven't we all?)..
Our Business.
What it all comes down to is the fact that my dad got screwed multiple times and lost his job and we now have to "survive" with running a catering business. So basically my dad can do almost anything with food and the quality is great. I am taking care of the marketing/business side of it. For me this is a good learning process, but it is also a Huge "burden" because I am feeling very responsible for the income we get. If we don't bring enough money in every month we could lose the house and everything.
My dad has become pretty depressed and he is very very stressed, we have a lot of arguments but I cannot let him down..
My mom works as much as she can but she can't bring enough money in to pay the bills and stuff.
I know that this business is far from fastlane but we have to make this a succes so we can pay our bills. My dream is to have a fastlane business so I can support my family so they don't have to worry about financial burdens.
I am constantly thinking about "fastlane ways" to bring some cashflow into our houshold, but at the same time I have to work on our business to bring enough money in.
Health Issues.
I also have a big problem with my health, since I was young I am having lots of trouble with my stomach, and all the stress from the last years and now has made it worse, I have Adrenal Fatigue/Burn-out (wich means that your hormones are not functioning well > always very tired, brain fog during morning and afternoon, mood swings etc.) and a bacterial infection in my stomach. These things are caused by lots of stress and it is pushing me out of balance every day.
Everyday I wake up I feel like having a hangover and this feeling disappears after around 16:00..
I am fighting this with healthy food and a different lifestyle, but it is very hard and I am keep falling back. It also seems as nobody really understands it, no matter how hard you try to explain this.
What am I doing to push myself forward?
I am reading books about self-development, business, marketing, copywriting etc. To develop essential skills to bring enough money on the table in the future..
Doing the Gary Halbert Challenge (but not in 30 days..)
I am trying to heal myself from my health issues. (clean foods, sleep, meditation etc.)
Working on the Catering business to make it a succes..
Going to College (But I have planned to take the next year off so I can focus on our Business)
Trying to come up with a plan to support us financially with a more "fastlane / scalable business"..
Looking for some cashflow/passive income (Is affiliate marketing/CPA and stuff like that worth pursuing? Or should I explore other ways to generate passive income?)
What You Should Realize..
I am learning very much of these hard times, especially from my health problems, it is a long and hard process (so is everything worth getting in life) and it makes me realize the potential I have when I could function a whole day with normal energy and a clear mind. I want you to realize that you should appreciate the fact that you have enormous potential if you have the right mindset, motivation, dedication and a vision. If you have the energy you can make almost anything a reality. One day I hope I will have the energy again to live the life I dream of. If YOU have a healthy mind and body, what are you waiting for to realize your dreams? WAKE up and go after it, take f*cking action. I am so tired of the people around me that always talk about the things they want but they never go after it.
This whole process is really scary but that is life. You could either choose to stay in you scared place and seek a little comfort, or you could look your fear right in the eyes and move forward to a better place where you can enjoy the fruits of life.
Realize that the majority of the people don't want to pay the price, only seeking comfort and they just want people to tell them what to do. I would say, use this in your advantage. If you can shift your mindset and embrace the process you can kick start your journey to succes..
Lessons learned so far:
PS:
I used to go out alot, drink, smoke weed with friends etc. But I had to change that because I am trying to move things forward and those things bring me backwards. But it is very hard to connect with these friends because they have the "Chill-out mindset", here smoke this joint... All they do is play games, smoke weed and hang around and do nothing.. Alltough they are my friends for many years I just can't seem to connect with them anymore, they don't understand that I have to put many hours in our business and I cannot talk to them about my health issues, they simply don't or don't want to understand. It sometimes feels as if I am on a whole other level, more aware of things around me.. Does anyone have these experiences? That if you throw your life around that you simply disconnect from people you were once close to? How do you deal with this?
It feels like a relieve to post this actually, I would be suprised if anyone read this big a$$ post, anyway it did make me feel a little better and I hope I could wake some people up to take some action..
I am 21 years old and I live in The Netherlands, I am currently in College (study Marketing/Entrepreneurship/Innovation) and also running a Business with my dad. We've been through some tough shit the last years (haven't we all?)..
Our Business.
What it all comes down to is the fact that my dad got screwed multiple times and lost his job and we now have to "survive" with running a catering business. So basically my dad can do almost anything with food and the quality is great. I am taking care of the marketing/business side of it. For me this is a good learning process, but it is also a Huge "burden" because I am feeling very responsible for the income we get. If we don't bring enough money in every month we could lose the house and everything.
My dad has become pretty depressed and he is very very stressed, we have a lot of arguments but I cannot let him down..
My mom works as much as she can but she can't bring enough money in to pay the bills and stuff.
I know that this business is far from fastlane but we have to make this a succes so we can pay our bills. My dream is to have a fastlane business so I can support my family so they don't have to worry about financial burdens.
I am constantly thinking about "fastlane ways" to bring some cashflow into our houshold, but at the same time I have to work on our business to bring enough money in.
Health Issues.
I also have a big problem with my health, since I was young I am having lots of trouble with my stomach, and all the stress from the last years and now has made it worse, I have Adrenal Fatigue/Burn-out (wich means that your hormones are not functioning well > always very tired, brain fog during morning and afternoon, mood swings etc.) and a bacterial infection in my stomach. These things are caused by lots of stress and it is pushing me out of balance every day.
Everyday I wake up I feel like having a hangover and this feeling disappears after around 16:00..
I am fighting this with healthy food and a different lifestyle, but it is very hard and I am keep falling back. It also seems as nobody really understands it, no matter how hard you try to explain this.
What am I doing to push myself forward?
I am reading books about self-development, business, marketing, copywriting etc. To develop essential skills to bring enough money on the table in the future..
Doing the Gary Halbert Challenge (but not in 30 days..)
I am trying to heal myself from my health issues. (clean foods, sleep, meditation etc.)
Working on the Catering business to make it a succes..
Going to College (But I have planned to take the next year off so I can focus on our Business)
Trying to come up with a plan to support us financially with a more "fastlane / scalable business"..
Looking for some cashflow/passive income (Is affiliate marketing/CPA and stuff like that worth pursuing? Or should I explore other ways to generate passive income?)
What You Should Realize..
I am learning very much of these hard times, especially from my health problems, it is a long and hard process (so is everything worth getting in life) and it makes me realize the potential I have when I could function a whole day with normal energy and a clear mind. I want you to realize that you should appreciate the fact that you have enormous potential if you have the right mindset, motivation, dedication and a vision. If you have the energy you can make almost anything a reality. One day I hope I will have the energy again to live the life I dream of. If YOU have a healthy mind and body, what are you waiting for to realize your dreams? WAKE up and go after it, take f*cking action. I am so tired of the people around me that always talk about the things they want but they never go after it.
This whole process is really scary but that is life. You could either choose to stay in you scared place and seek a little comfort, or you could look your fear right in the eyes and move forward to a better place where you can enjoy the fruits of life.
Realize that the majority of the people don't want to pay the price, only seeking comfort and they just want people to tell them what to do. I would say, use this in your advantage. If you can shift your mindset and embrace the process you can kick start your journey to succes..
Lessons learned so far:
- Take NOTHING for granted (not your health, not your GF, not your money..)
- Nobody gives a f*ck so just do what you think is best for you
- What you learn in "School/College" has simply almost no value in the real world..
- Work hard for what you want and pay the prize to enjoy life
- Family is the most important thing in life
- Stay away from everything related to short term gratification (Junk food, drugs, games etc)
- Your body and mind is the only thing you have so you better support it, rather than destroy it..
PS:
I used to go out alot, drink, smoke weed with friends etc. But I had to change that because I am trying to move things forward and those things bring me backwards. But it is very hard to connect with these friends because they have the "Chill-out mindset", here smoke this joint... All they do is play games, smoke weed and hang around and do nothing.. Alltough they are my friends for many years I just can't seem to connect with them anymore, they don't understand that I have to put many hours in our business and I cannot talk to them about my health issues, they simply don't or don't want to understand. It sometimes feels as if I am on a whole other level, more aware of things around me.. Does anyone have these experiences? That if you throw your life around that you simply disconnect from people you were once close to? How do you deal with this?
It feels like a relieve to post this actually, I would be suprised if anyone read this big a$$ post, anyway it did make me feel a little better and I hope I could wake some people up to take some action..
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