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Hey guys,

first of all, I really appreciate this community right here :). I've been lurking for the past couple of weeks and decided to create an account. This post will probably a little bit longer so here the TLDR version:
- Created 2 businesses. Made some money with the first and absolutely failed with the 2nd.
- Still working a 40h Job
- Married with 1 child and another one on its way
- Kinda stuck because of my life situation but still trying to succeed :).

If you want to know how you shouldn't start a business you shouldn't skip the part about my 2nd business ;).

Who Am I?
My name is Mario - first and foremost I'm a father and husband. I love my family to death and they will always come first. and I'm a Techlead within the business management sector of a billion-dollar company. I've read the book of MJ around 7 years ago and it was probably the first book that sparked my interest in entrepreneurship. After that, I started to read a ton of books (like 10x rule, 4hours work week, the expert secrets and so on) and to be honest none of them were really worth it - yea you can learn a thing or 2 but most of it felt like mental masturbation.
Nevertheless, I would like to show you on what path I've been and what my current goals are :).

What was my first business?
The first business was pretty unspectacular - it was an ecommerce agency. We were a group of 3 people - 1 Developer (me), 1 Design/Marketing guy and a sales guy. On paper, this sounds kinda perfect and for a while, it felt quite good. But I quickly realized that this type of business model just isn't for me. First of all, I had to do PHP programming within a framework that felt like garbage - but hey ok if it makes me some money I'll be alright. But then we also had one customer that started a lawsuit against us out of the blue. We found out that he was trying to scam us and told him - 1 week later we received the first lawsuit... I mean WTF was wrong with him. We were even fair enough to not draw any consequences from his scam attempt (besides canceling our partnership with him). Gladly we had some good lawyers that dealt with the issue rather quickly but it left a bitter aftertaste.

One might say: "hey - that's just business" and you are absolutely right and I think we might have continued if our sales guy wasn't just the sneakiest person ever. He slandered our customers behind their back and was just an overall disingenuous person. After a while, I decided that I can not work with this person anymore and told him upfront. Since everybody had 33% of the company we offered him our 66% for some cash. There are still 450 Euro open from that deal (I think it was around 2016 where we sold). Furthermore, he tried to revoke all my software licenses (Jetbrains - an integrated developer environment) which I paid with my own money and only used the business E-Mail.

We had the agency from 2014-2016 and made probably around 60k in total profits. It was quite good money for just a small side hustle (I was still working 40h on the side). With this chapter closed, I started my 2nd Business.

What was my second business?
My second company was SAAS Software. The idea was to flip the job market - instead of letting the employees apply to employers we wanted to give the employers the chance to search for their perfect employee. So instead of using headhunters and paying thousands of dollars, we wanted to create a job board where an employer can find hundreds of potential workers. I still think that the idea executed right is still worth a LOT of money - at least here in Germany where I live. Why? Because we have a so-called employee market. A lot of businesses struggle to even find a coworker - and this is true for a lot of sectors (starting from health care to IT).

But why didn't we succeed?
Haha Oh boy this will be the absolute perfect example on how to not start a business. I try to give you everything that went wrong so you don't have to do the same mistakes. To be honest I also know about all these possible mistakes beforehand and I still did them... don't ask me why 😀.

1. Too much Features
Yeah... well... the first thing you always hear from people is that you should build a minimal viable product. So let's see what my MVP had to offer:
  • Registration for Companies and Employees - including automated E-Mails via sendgrid & co (so far so good)
  • CV Creation for employees (yea the mvp should be nearly ready)
  • Search for Companies to find employees and a way to contact them (nice the mvp should be done)
  • Progression of the communication between an employee and an employer. Smth. like this: contacted, accepted, interview appointment, offer, offer accepted
    • this also included an interactive chat were the each side was informed via E-Mail if a new message appeared and they were offline (ooookay this might be a little bit over the top - but hey now the mvp can start)
  • A distance calculation where the employee can say that he is willingly to drive 50km (31 miles) and he will only appear on the search result if the company is in distance (weeellll ok I mean maybe this might help or hurt the start since the search results will not contain everybody... but NOW is the right point to start)
  • User management for companies including roles (äh what - we don't even have a single company... why does this feature exist???)
  • Clustering, filtering, sorting and all the other stuff you don't need. (... well yea.)
2. Too much people
So we initially started with 2 persons (me and the design/marketing guy). But quickly added another developer, an accountant, a project manager, a photographer (what????). I sold them all my dream but paid them very little (friends and family). Out of all these persons, what do you think are we missing??? ding ding ding a sales guy. Like what the hell was I thinking.

3. Spend too much money for "dumb" marketing
Well, our marketing guy was mainly a designer (with a focus on conversion rate optimization) and what do all people do that have no real clue about marketing? Yes - right - spending waaaay to much money on campaigns that don't work. But to be fair at the end we had some success - 1 employee cost us around 5 Euros which is actually quite cheap in such a competitive market.

4. No sales guy
Yeah - well actually we had 1 sales guy which was me and that didn't turn out too well. A basic conversation was like:
me: "Hi I'm Mario and I've seen that you are currently looking for xyz"
them: "yea that is true"
me: "can I have 5 minutes of your time to talk about our solution"
them (noticing oh shit it's a sales cold call): "no I currently have no time"
me: "k bye"
them: "bye"
Well, the first objection was always the last for me. I feel really uncomfortable doing cold calls and it is definitely not one of my strengths. Sadly we needed a really good sales guy for the b2b part of our business - but we never got one :(.

5. B2B and B2C
Another issue was that we were b2c and b2b so we always had to advertise in 2 markets... with the limited budget we had it was not feasible.

So what did I learn from this journey?
I'm really good at developing products. Even to this day, I'm really proud of the software that I've build. I always try to keep an eye on clean code and best practices - while keeping the overall complexity as low as possible. I'm so confident in my skills that I think that even a no coder could understand what and why I did the things I did.
I can also unite people and get them motivated to achieve a certain goal (although we missed it by miles 😀).
But besides these 2 points, I'm below average in all the other stuff (marketing, sales etc.). And I think in future companies I'll either try to work around my strengths or get into a market that is a true blue ocean with a certain need. Furthermore, I'll try to keep my company and software as small as possible and scale it appropriately.

...Holy F*ck. I just realized that this wasn't even a business - it was just a hobby that burned a LOT of money....

What now?
From 2014-2018 I did a lot of work - at least 60h/week for 4years straight. While I created these businesses above I still worked at least 30h/week for an employer to save some money to pay my student loans. With the birth of my son in 2018 I started to take a break from startups and focus on him and my wife. While my wife was always supportive for the last 10 years no matter what kind of crazy ideas I had I wanted to give back a little - and of course spend as much time as possible with my son :). I'm still soooo grateful to have such wonderful persons around me.
Currently, I'm in a really good position (tech lead) in a major company - but I still have this urge to create my own company and I have the feeling that it will never stop.
Actually... my biggest career fear in life is to never bring a profitable saas/company to live...
So that's the reason why I'm currently trying to pick a good niche and start all over again. My primary niche, for now, will be ABAP developers(developers for SAP(probably biggest ERP in the world) systems) in enterprise companies. Lets see how this turns out :).

I'll try to keep this thread up to date. Just to see what the journey was like because you tend to forget so much about the past.
 
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Jo Nesou,

ximduni vu vji Getvmepi Gusan!
Zuas kuaspiz tuapft iydovoph epf vjepl zua gus tjesoph zuas notvelit - O'n tasi zua xomm miesp e muv gsun vjin. O vjopl, O'n fuoph tuni ug vjiti notvelit, vuu - moli vuu nepz gievasit op vji gostv qsufadv wistoup.

Woim Isgumh cio fiopin pädjtvip Qsukilv!
(Cvx O'n gsun Hisnepz vuu!)
 
Jo Nesou,

ximduni vu vji Getvmepi Gusan!
Zuas kuaspiz tuapft iydovoph epf vjepl zua gus tjesoph zuas notvelit - O'n tasi zua xomm miesp e muv gsun vjin. O vjopl, O'n fuoph tuni ug vjiti notvelit, vuu - moli vuu nepz gievasit op vji gostv qsufadv wistoup.

Woim Isgumh cio fiopin pädjtvip Qsukilv!
(Cvx O'n gsun Hisnepz vuu!)
Vjeplt e muv, nevi. O eqqsidoevi zuas taqqusv!

Odj xüptdji fos eadj woim Isgumh cio fiopip Qsukilvip :).
 
Je Nesou,

Vjeplt gus tjesoph zuas tvusz! Vji qesv xovj zuas temit demmt nefi ni meahj. Zua tiin siemmz fsowip (+ tlommif) tu O'n tasi zua'mm fu ximm. Qmieti liiq vjot vjsief aq vu fevi!

Xjz fof zua fidofi puv vu qsudiif xovj vji kuc qmevgusn? Topdi zua'wi emsiefz caomv vji NWQ, ot ov puv xusvj vszoph eheop, cav xovj e foggisipv neslivoph tvsevihz?

O'n opvisitvif op caomfoph tonomes TeeT tugvxesi; e "depfofevi" cuesf gus inqmuzist vu gopf vjios ofiem inqmuzii, cav xovj e tqidoem gudat up sidipv hsefaevit (et O'n e tvafipv nztimg). O'n dassipvmz vjoploph ecuav jux O dep citv eqqsuedj vjot; O lpux O piif vu hiv vji atis edraotovoup qsuditt peomif fuxp gostv!
 
Je Nesou,

Vjeplt gus tjesoph zuas tvusz! Vji qesv xovj zuas temit demmt nefi ni meahj. Zua tiin siemmz fsowip (+ tlommif) tu O'n tasi zua'mm fu ximm. Qmieti liiq vjot vjsief aq vu fevi!

Xjz fof zua fidofi puv vu qsudiif xovj vji kuc qmevgusn? Topdi zua'wi emsiefz caomv vji NWQ, ot ov puv xusvj vszoph eheop, cav xovj e foggisipv neslivoph tvsevihz?

O'n opvisitvif op caomfoph tonomes TeeT tugvxesi; e "depfofevi" cuesf gus inqmuzist vu gopf vjios ofiem inqmuzii, cav xovj e tqidoem gudat up sidipv hsefaevit (et O'n e tvafipv nztimg). O'n dassipvmz vjoploph ecuav jux O dep citv eqqsuedj vjot; O lpux O piif vu hiv vji atis edraotovoup qsuditt peomif fuxp gostv!
Jo Tacaveo,

vjeplt e muv gus zuas lopf xusft!

Vjisi esi namvoqmi sietupt xjz O fofp'v dupvopai vji qsufadv.

1. Ov xet puv ep ofie O xet op muwi xovj. Iwip vu vjot fez, O fup'v nopf vjev vjisi otp'v tadj e qsufadv (tu vjot ot e cef tohp :/). Vji ofie xet nutvmz cusp uav ug neloph coh nupiz epf puv tumwoph e siem qsucmin. Piwisvjimitt, O tvomm vjopl xovj hsiev iyidavoup zua duamf tvomm neli ov xusl.
2. Xovj movvmi nupiz, ov xomm qsucecmz veli ziest cigusi vji ofie xomm veli ugg. Zie zua duamf podji fuxp up disveop tidvust epf vsz vu hiv inqmuziit/inqmuzist epf ci juqigammz dutv-iggodoipv, cav ov xomm veli e duncopevoup ug madl epf nupiz (O dep vimm zua huoph gus vji jiemvj desi tidvus qsucecmz otp'v vji citv ofie).
3. O tvomm fup'v lpux epz temit hazt(vjev O edvaemmz moli) epf gus c2c xovjop vji js fiqesvnipvt, zua piif upi. Vjev't xjz O dassipvmz vsz vu podji fuxp up datvunist xjisi qistupem simevoup ot puv vji nutv onqusvepv vjoph.

Pux vjev O'n xsovoph ecuav ov... O vjopl Pancis 1 ot vji siem sietup O fofp'v dupvopai.

O vjopl zuas ofie ot qisgidvmz wemof - cav zua jewi vu vjopl ecuav xju xuamf tiesdj gus sidipv hsefaevit. Nutvmz vjiti esi dunqepoit vjev xepv vu tewi tuni nupiz.
Hivvoph hsefaevit vu ati zuas qmevgusn xup'v ci iyvsinimz jesf cav dupwopdoph dunqepoit nohjv ci jesf - ev mietv vjev't xjev nz onqsittoup xet. Epf cigusi vji ofie cidunit opvisitvoph gus e dunqepz zua jewi vu jewi e duaqmi ug hsefaevit -> tu ov xomm qsucecmz dutv zua e movvmi cov.

Emm op emm O xuamf tez... vuahj nesliv - cav quttocmi. Cav og O xisi op zuas tjuit O xuamf tiesdj gus ofiet vjev esi ietois vu iyidavi.
 
Jo Tacaveo,

vjeplt e muv gus zuas lopf xusft!

Vjisi esi namvoqmi sietupt xjz O fofp'v dupvopai vji qsufadv.

1. Ov xet puv ep ofie O xet op muwi xovj. Iwip vu vjot fez, O fup'v nopf vjev vjisi otp'v tadj e qsufadv (tu vjot ot e cef tohp :/). Vji ofie xet nutvmz cusp uav ug neloph coh nupiz epf puv tumwoph e siem qsucmin. Piwisvjimitt, O tvomm vjopl xovj hsiev iyidavoup zua duamf tvomm neli ov xusl.
2. Xovj movvmi nupiz, ov xomm qsucecmz veli ziest cigusi vji ofie xomm veli ugg. Zie zua duamf podji fuxp up disveop tidvust epf vsz vu hiv inqmuziit/inqmuzist epf ci juqigammz dutv-iggodoipv, cav ov xomm veli e duncopevoup ug madl epf nupiz (O dep vimm zua huoph gus vji jiemvj desi tidvus qsucecmz otp'v vji citv ofie).
3. O tvomm fup'v lpux epz temit hazt(vjev O edvaemmz moli) epf gus c2c xovjop vji js fiqesvnipvt, zua piif upi. Vjev't xjz O dassipvmz vsz vu podji fuxp up datvunist xjisi qistupem simevoup ot puv vji nutv onqusvepv vjoph.

Pux vjev O'n xsovoph ecuav ov... O vjopl Pancis 1 ot vji siem sietup O fofp'v dupvopai.

O vjopl zuas ofie ot qisgidvmz wemof - cav zua jewi vu vjopl ecuav xju xuamf tiesdj gus sidipv hsefaevit. Nutvmz vjiti esi dunqepoit vjev xepv vu tewi tuni nupiz.
Hivvoph hsefaevit vu ati zuas qmevgusn xup'v ci iyvsinimz jesf cav dupwopdoph dunqepoit nohjv ci jesf - ev mietv vjev't xjev nz onqsittoup xet. Epf cigusi vji ofie cidunit opvisitvoph gus e dunqepz zua jewi vu jewi e duaqmi ug hsefaevit -> tu ov xomm qsucecmz dutv zua e movvmi cov.

Emm op emm O xuamf tez... vuahj nesliv - cav quttocmi. Cav og O xisi op zuas tjuit O xuamf tiesdj gus ofiet vjev esi ietois vu iyidavi.

O tii, O dep onehopi vjev xusloph up ep ofie zua fup'v muwi xomm iwipvaemmz deati zua vu puv qav zuas citv iggusv opvu ov. O jewi vu efnov vjev vjot ot tunivjoph O dassipvmz apfisitvonevi, tu O nohjv jewi vu siduptofis xjodj ofiet O xepv vu xusl up.

Vjepl zua gus zuas giifcedl up nz ofie. O jef e gix nusi raitvoupt, cav O fup'v xepv vu jokedl zuas vjsief jeje tu O tipv zua e FN!
 
Hsiev opvu, nesloph ov PUVECMI cideati zua siemmz johjmohjvif tuni ug zuas tvsahhmit epf miespopht. Nadj eqqsidoevif epf ximduni!
 
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