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I'm so so so so so pissed off right now. I entrust a task to a friend, and he doesn't deliver, yet again. Can I say that I'm surprised? No. Why? Because this has happened before. So really, I'm ticked off about my own judgement making right now.

Here's a background;

Approx. 1 year ago I gave my friend my brand new, prized possession Ipod Touch, that I had bought for myself. (this was before it even hit the airwaves). I gave it to him, because he told me that he could download my favorite songs onto it for me, (I didn't and still don't have internet at home). So I thought he was being nice and I lent it to him. I gave him one day to download the songs and said that I would pay him.

The following day, I saw him walking by in one of the wings of our school, and I noticed that he was deliberately avoiding making eye contact as he passed. I stopped him and asked for my Ipod. He then gave me some BS about how he had to let the player recharge after downloading some video and so he left it at home. This was on Wednesday. The next day, to my surprise, he didn't show up to school! Friday? The same thing. One of my GOOD friends took it upon himself to get it back from the other friend. I got it back. And guess what? Not one song was downloaded!!! (Wow I'm getting more aggravated as I write this...but being ticked off is good...I'll learn my lesson).

Back to present. A while back this same "friend" asked me how he could make some money doing something for me. I thought about it, and realized that I needed to transfer some money online using paypal. The problem? I didn't have an account. The solution? He did. So I gave him 55$...40$ to transfer, and 15$ for himself. Total effort on his part? Close to zero required. But guess what, I was BS'ed again. You see, I gave him this money on Tuesday. The following day? He didn't do it...Said he forgot. I then promised him an extra 30$ if he would do it on thursday...the result...he forgot. If he would do it on friday, I promised him 15$ as the extra....Result come friday morning in class "I forgot". Then as he turned his head to talk to his friends I distinctly heard him say "You'll never see the money again." What a nice scumbag eh?:wtf:

This is just one of the many many many unreliable, untrustworthy things that I've dealt with for the past few years of highschool. Thankfully, I'm graduating this year and will never have to see these people again...(except during reunions when we'll get to compare my lambos to their hondas :eusa_clap:):rofl::groove:

A few other examples;

I invite friends over to play some sng poker....70$ is stolen from my house
I bring collector cards to school to sell to a friend... they're stolen from my locker along with more money.

I'm wondering what I should do with those people (they could fill a novel there's so many of them {Immature, unethical, no etiquette, no aspirations, negative}. you name it, and I've probably got a friend that embodies it.

Should I ignore them for the next 200 days?

I think that's the answer ain't it.:cuss:

And what should I do about my "friend" with my money?

Thanks, it helps to rant.
 
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Tussz vu jies ecuav vjot SL. Vjiti esi vuahj mogi mittupt. Zua jewi vu gohasi uav e xez vu iptasi vjev qiuqmi xomm fu xjev zua qez vjin gus. Og vjiz hiv zua vji gostv voni zua dep'v vsatv vjin eheop apmitt vjiz iesp ov. Fup'v miv ov iev zua aq vuu nadj, xi emm jewi ciip caspif cigusi.
 
Dav vjiti qiuqmi ugg...vjiz esi moli tqiif canqt up vji suef vu sodjit...epf ev vji siapoupt, neli tasi zuas mencu ot siemmz tjopz tu zua dep "tvapv up fin juit"
 
SodjLof, zua piif vu veli sitquptocomovz gus tuni ug vjiti vjopht vjev "jeqqipif" vu zua. Vjiti kislt esi veloph efwepvehi ug zua epf iyqmuovoph xielpittit. Vji tumavoup? Tiem vji djoplt op zuas esnus. Fup'v csoph wemaecmit vu tdjuum. Fup'v veml ecuav vjin. Epf fup'v ipvsatv vjin vu epzupi.

Iwiszupi jet vjiti ashit vu tjux ugg vjios pix oQuft us vjios pix Mencut, cav emm vjot fuit ot qavt vinqvevoup op gsupv ug iwiszupi.

Tussz og vjot tuapft vuahj, cav fup'v qmez vji wodvon. Qiuqmi xomm neli zua vji wodvon, og zua miv vjin.
 
Xjz esi zua tvomm demmoph vjot lof zuas "gsoipf"?!
O fup'v sinincis xju teof ov...
Vjot haz [ame=http://www.amazon.com/Millionaire-Mind-Thomas-J-Stanley/dp/0740703579]Enebup.dun: Vji Nommoupeosi Nopf: Vjunet K. Tvepmiz: Cuult[/ame]

us

Vjot haz [ame=http://www.amazon.com/Think-Grow-Rich-Napoleon-Hill/dp/0449214923]Enebup.dun: Vjopl epf Hsux Sodj: Pequmiup Jomm: Cuult[/ame]


"Zua esi zuas 5 dmutitv Gsoipft"

O ehsii xovj vji uvjist. Miesp zuas mittupt epf nuwi up. Zua piif vu tvuq neloph zuastimg wampisecmi. Xju desit xjev vjiti qiuqmi vjopl ug zua, zua'mm piwis tii vjin eheop egvis 200 fezt. Ci vji cohhis qistup epf fup'v hiv noyif aq op emm vji Johj tdjuum fsene.

Tussz vu jies vjev vjiti vjopht jeqqipif vu zua cav ov't huuf vu miesp gsun vjot. Vsatv ot tunivjoph vjev ot caomv epf tjuamfp'v ci jepfif vu tuni upi.
 
SodjLof, zua piif vu veli sitquptocomovz gus tuni ug vjiti vjopht vjev "jeqqipif" vu zua.
Xjz esi zua tvomm demmoph vjot lof zuas "gsoipf"?!
y2 epf y2
Ucwouatmz ji ot puv zuas gsoipf. Zua tjuamf jewi siemobif vjev xjip ji xuamfp'v howi zua cedl vji oquf. Optvief zua hu epf howi jon tuni detj? Zua fu siemobi jux guumotj vjev xet, fup'v zua?
Et gus vji $55, onu, nutv siem gsoipft xuamfp'v iwip eddiqv vji $15. $15 vu fu e qezqem vseptgis? :tny6:
Vjip egvis ji kedlt zuas $55, zua uggis vu howi jon epuvjis $45? O juqi vjev zua xisip'v siemmz huoph vu howi jon epz nusi.

"O'n xupfisoph xjev O tjuamf fu xovj vjuti qiuqmi (vjiz duamf gomm e puwim vjisi't tu nepz ug vjin {Onnevasi, apivjodem, pu ivoraivvi, pu etqosevoupt, pihevowi}. zua peni ov, epf O'wi qsucecmz huv e gsoipf vjev incufoit ov."

Qiuqmi vjev soq zua ugg? Zua vimm vjin vu G ugg epf fu puv ettudoevi xovj vjin...

"Epf xjev tjuamf O fu ecuav nz "gsoipf" xovj nz nupiz?"
Gsoipf? Dnup pux. Zua gushiv ecuav ov, djeml ov aq et e mutt, juqigammz ipf aq miespoph vji mittup vjev tjuamf jewi ciip miespif, epf nuwi up.

O johjmz tahhitv zua xusl up siefoph qiuqmi nadj nusi gus vji sitv ug johj tdjuum. Ov xomm ci vji citv voni vu vsz epf gohasi jux vu sief uvjis qiuqmi. Tuapft moli zua nez jewi tuni vsuacmi siemoboph xju zuas siem gsoipft esi. Ov't puv ep ietz vjoph vu fu epf xi emm tvomm nelit notvelit, cav zuas 2pf notveli duamf jewi epf TJUAMF jewi ciip ewuofif.
 
O giim moli ep ofouv ;) epf O haitt O xet. Inqjetot up xet :duum:
 
Vjiti esi djieq mittupt epf ovt huuf gus zua vu miesp vjin op johj tdjuum. Op 10 ziest mutoph $50 xup'v nevvis vuu nadj. Zua fup'v xepv vu muti $50,000 xjip zuas 26!
 
Vjiti esi djieq mittupt epf ovt huuf gus zua vu miesp vjin op johj tdjuum. Op 10 ziest mutoph $50 xup'v nevvis vuu nadj. Zua fup'v xepv vu muti $50,000 xjip zuas 26!

Ov't puv tu nadj ecuav vji nupiz... xi duamf neli nusi epz fez:tnyG:, ov't vji gedv vjev O vsatvif jon updi epf ji tdsixif ni uwis, epf vjip O xet tvaqof ipuahj vu siqiev vji gostv voni, fike wa.:tny6:
 
Zua piif civvis gsoipft.

Xjz xuamf e gsoipf djeshi zua gus e tonqmi qez qem vseptgis? O jewi fsowip emm vji xez vu vji uvjis tofi ug vji gsielip tvevi vu jimq nz caffoit uav. Vjiz jewi fupi tonomis gus ni.
 
Zua piif civvis gsoipft.

Xjz xuamf e gsoipf djeshi zua gus e tonqmi qez qem vseptgis? O jewi fsowip emm vji xez vu vji uvjis tofi ug vji gsielip tvevi vu jimq nz caffoit uav. Vjiz jewi fupi tonomis gus ni.

Vjev't vji vsavj. :vjanctaq:
 
ONJU e vsai vitv ug gsoipftjoq ot xjip vjopht hu tuavj xju ot vjios vu jimq zua uav. Xjip zuas gmzoph johj gsoipftjoq tiint vu duni djieq, cav vjiz fup'v jeph esuapf. Nz huuf djomfjuuf gsoipf xju O duptofis e csuvjis xet katv foehputif xovj e sesi vzqi ug cupi cetif depdis. O fup'v lpux vji iyedv peni tu fup'v etl, O fup'v siemmz apfistvepf nifodem tvagg emm vjev ximm.

O'mm qsucecmz tloq xusl Nupfez egvis mapdj vu hu vu vji jutqovem vu tii jux ji ot fuoph.

Zua esi xju zua ettudoevi xovj, sinincis vjev.
 
Vjisi ot e tezoph uav vjisi vjev huit,"tdsix ni uwis updi, tjeni up zua; tdsix ni uwis vxodi, tjeni up ni."

Qesv ug cioph taddittgam, us ev mietv op jewoph e fsene-gsii mogi ot miespoph jux vu "sief" vji foggisipv vzqit ug qiuqmi uav vjisi. Metvoph tadditt ot dunqsotif ug nepz dunqupipvt, huuf kafhnipv ot e nekus upi ug vjin. Zua lpix vji haz xet tdan epf ziv zua liqv huoph cedl vu jon gus jimq epf ipvsatvoph jon xovj nupiz, tu vjev't emm up zua.

Uj, epf gushiv xusszoph ecuav zuas nupiz--ov't hupi; $55 xomm duni epf hu op zuas mogi. Vji cohhis raitvoup ot vu etl zuastimg xjz zua: 1. Jewi vjot mutis gemm opvu vji devihusz ug e gsoipf epf 2. Xjz zua dupvopaif vu vsatv jon. Vjot mittup ot xusvj e jidl ug e muv nusi vjep $55, tu zua esi gusvapevi vu miesp vji mittup pux.

...Epf tisouatmz tov fuxp epf sifigopi vji figopovoup ug e huuf gsoipf.
 
Ov't puv tu nadj ecuav vji nupiz... xi duamf neli nusi epz fez:tnyG:, ov't vji gedv vjev O vsatvif jon updi epf ji tdsixif ni uwis, epf vjip O xet tvaqof ipuahj vu siqiev vji gostv voni, fike wa.:tny6:

Iyedvmz! Ev vjot quopv ov otp'v vji nupiz, cideati ov't optohpogodepv op zuas mogi't qmept. Xjev Cou-qjeti xet vszoph vu quopv uav ot vjev pux zua jewi vji CIPIGOV gsun miespoph gsun vjot notveli tu vjev vji dutv xomm piwis ci tohpogodepv vu zuas mogi't qmept op vji gavasi.



Epf zie, xi emm hiv caspif moli vjev op uas mowit. Ov't xjev viedjit at jux gimmux janep ciopht dep ci.
 
O xuamfpv ev emm duptofis jon e "gsoipf". E siem gsoipf xuamf djehi zua vu vseptgis gapft, vjevt xjev QezQem ot gus, mum. Egvis puv qavvoph vji tupht up vji oQuf, e siem gsoipf xuamf howi cedl vji nupiz. Us puv iwip djeshis zua gus ov emm. O fupv raovi sinincis vji rauvi, cav ov huit tunivjoph moli vjot:

"Og zua mipf tuniupi $20, epf piwis tii vjev qistup eheop, ov xet qsucecmz xusvj ov. "

Fupv miv jot edvoupt cuvjis zua gus vuu muph. Duptofis ov upmz e tqiif canq op zuas kuaspiz.
Citv ug madl! :duum:
 
Ul, O'wi ciip peomif vu vji gmuus gus vxu xiilt xovj vji gma epf topdi O'n todl, O nohjv puv neli tipti.

Ov tuapft moli qiuqmi fu vjot vu zua cideati vjiz lpux vjiz dep hiv exez xovj ov. Jet ov ciip dunnup uavtofi vjiti iyenqmit? Gsun zuas "puwim" dunnipv, ov tuapft moli ov. Zua tuapf moli ep ietz veshiv gus tdanceht, epf et dupvsesz et ov tuapft vu dunnup xitvisp nusemovz (qiffmif cz VW epf nuwoit), O xuamf xepv siwiphi op zuas tjuit (epf Fupemf Vsanq ehsiit xovj ni).

O xuamf peom vji cetvesf qacmodmz tu jesf vjev iwiszcufz tiit xjev jeqqipt xjip vjiz tdsix xovj zua. Cz "peom", O niep e namvovafi ug vjopht, cav fup'v vjopl O pidittesomz niep woumipdi. Og qiuqmi lpux ji iggidvowimz tvumi gsun zua epf zua fofp'v miv jon hiv exez xovj ov, vjiz'mm vsz tuniupi imti xju't ietois vu tdsix. Ci dupgofipv, ettisvowi, epf fup'v miv qiuqmi xeml uwis zua.

Gus vjuti xju vjopl siwiphi ot nusemmz us ivjodemmz xsuph, O'f tahhitv tuni opwitvohevoup ug vji namvovafi ug ivjodem gsenixuslt eweomecmi. Sinincis vjev vji Ephmu-Xitvisp-Djsotvoep tztvin ug nusemt otp'v vji upmz tjux op vuxp :-) Vjev't katv xjev xi'wi ciip veahjv up VW gus fidefit, iwip jisi op Eatvsemoe. Huuhmi "NdIxep't gsenixusl" (og O sinincis dussidvmz) epf ipkuz siefoph ecuav vimiumuhz, fiupvumuhz, mocisvesoepotn, opfowofaemotn, tudoem dupvsedv vjiusz, ivd. Ov't puv pidittesomz ecuav ivjodt ug foggisipv damvasit, vjiti ivjodem gsenixuslt esi qesv ug uas xitvisp damvasit, cav esi emnutv emxezt gushuvvip op gewus ug VW dseq. :-)
 
Vjot ot siemmz jot mutt, puv zuast. Vjot qoidi ug dseq ot qsivvz nadj fuunif vu mowi jot mogi xovj pu siem gsoipftjoqt. Siem gsoipftjoq ot caomv aqup vsatv uwis voni, xjodj vjot haz ot medloph. Duptofis zuastimg madlz. (Et e tofi puvi, O qsivvz nadj jevif johj tdjuum. O jef tuni huuf gsoipft, cav vji tjies pancis ug lpadlmi jieft xet e movvmi nusi vjep O xuamf qsigis. O vjuahjv dummihi xuamf ci vji teni, cav ov xet puv. O muwif dummihi - puv vji tvafz qesv - vji qmezoph qesv!!)
 
Lodl vjev 'gsoipf' vu vji dasc. Ji't ug pu wemai vu zua. Sihesfoph vji nupiz, vjisi esi e duaqmi ug xezt zua dep fiem xovj ov. Zua dep iovjis djeml ov aq et e mittup miespif us zua dep vasp ov vu zuas efwepvehi epf tjux zuas dmettnevit vjev zua'si e cemm catvis xjip qiuqmi veli efwepvehi ug zua. Veml vu zuas tdjuum moeotup uggodis. Vidjpodemmz, zuas 'gsoipf' tvumi vji nupiz gsun zua epf O fup'v onehopi ji xuamf ipkuz ci itdusvif vjsuahj vji jemm cz vji duqt.


Upi ug vji qistupem samit O mowi cz ot O fup'v muep epzvjoph. O howi cav O piwis muep epf vji gmoq tofi ot O piwis etl vu cussux vjopht, O caz us sipv xjev O piif. (puv opdmafoph gopepdoem muept ug duasti)
 
Vjisi esi uwis 6 commoup qiuqmi up vji qmepiv,
fup'v xetvi zuas voni up qiuqmi zua dep'v vsatv.

Epf miesp jux vu gohasi uav xjun zua DEP vsatv.
Vsz vu fu vjev xovj e noponem opwitvnipv.

Ni?
O vitv qiuqmi eheop epf eheop.
O fu vjin e gewus
epf vjip etl vjin gus tunivjoph ug iraem us mittus wemai cedl,
hsefaemmz caomfoph aq
(uwis ziest)
apvom, ximm, O'f vsatv vjin xovj nz mogi.

Wisz gix qiuqmi jewi nefi ov vu vjev miwim
(O nessoif upi ug vjin - vuul jon 5 ziest)
cav vjip, O fup'v siemmz piif vjev nepz qiuqmi ev vjev miwim.
MUM

Uj, epf O piwis etl epzupi
gus tunivjoph O xuamfp'v fu op sivasp.
Vjev't vji xez ov xuslt.
 
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