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Hi everyone. I’ve been picking up tidbits and golden nuggets everywhere, and want to share my experience so far. My goal is to provide value and contribute to the continued experiences of this forum and community. Avoiding the taker mentality, building interaction, and hoping to provide some insight along the way.

Every good process starts with getting organized. And getting used to this forum is a challenge. I’m starting to get my bearings here, getting my thoughts organized, and creating an approach for purposeful and valuable interaction. Why? Because there’s great value just about everywhere I look, and it’s unbelievable.

These resources are only as good as discovering them, then using them. Putting them to work for the process.

Here’s my general takeaway so far, a synthesis from reading the book, others, and browsing through this forum:

Process: Always changing, absorbing, reviewing. Only do this 10-25% of the time, shift when needed. Prepare and outline. Get organized. Get Going.

Planning: Write out goals for morning. Day. Night. Etc. Whenever it works for you. Detail them, track them. Make them visible.

Balance: This is my key to life, a formula that is always changing. Sometimes you have to go back to basics and restart. Such is life. But just make sure your basic balance is Intune with life. Respect health, wealth, time, and interaction. The recurring theme of putting value out into the world to get value back – well this is imperative to your own success in things outside the chasing of monetary wealth as well.

Health balance: mental health, physical health, nutrition. Some things are out of our control, such as having organs mis-produce, tumors and growths occur, or neuro-wiring structures getting out of whack. Some are obvious, some aren’t. Example: my thyroid died early on in life. Each day was an energetic struggle, even with mass amounts of exercise and eating right. Figuring it out helped tremendously. Sometimes a simple observation of other people thinking you’re lazy, is because you’re lazy. Others – it’s because there’s something wrong.

Authority: Everything has a provided value and authority. In here, it’s recognized by speed points, and Rep Bank. A clear way to have community value assessed and transferred to everyone else. Points out who is actively participating, who’s ideas have been accepted and validated, and who contributes. From both experiential and real knowledge, the way this forum works has certainly helped cut through some of the synthesis. There’s lots to be gained, and the identification and provision of gold threads certainly helps. Dang, very impressive.

My own tricks: mindfulness to be aware – when to blend in, when to stand out. Sometimes you learn as you go. But always be learning. Even if it may not feel like it in the moment, you are. And then you build even more awareness, and conscientiousness about what you’re doing.

Things that work for me: Music. Working out – I like music that connects with the effort, something with a beat, something that makes me tap my feet. Or helps connect with a run, job, or swim.

Learn how you learn. Use any and all multiple intelligences to determine what works best for you. This is crucial when trying to break down anything life throws at you, or picking up any new skill or concept.

Depending on the day, swimming is glorious. And sometimes when you duck your head under that water, you can disconnect. It’s like a cold hug for the body. Maybe it has something to do with taking cold showers, as documented here. The nicer thing is, you can warm your body up, get in synch with your joints, and have an aerobic experience while clearing your head.

Music for work, studying: I like music that connects with what I’m doing. I like songs without words when doing deep thinking, or connective thinking. When learning new concepts, especially those that rely on language manipulation or abstract concepts. It helps. Sometimes you can draw on the energy of what is being sung, or sometimes you need to mix it up.

Switching up a long or stressful drive to Classical or Jazz can help soothe the soul. Make it a better experience. Avoid the trafficky hours if you can, but if circumstances demand it, make the best of it. I know other people listen to audiobooks while driving, I’ve tried – in heavy traffic or with many morons around you, this can be more difficult. Especially if you’re immersing yourself in the story. But it works for some, and can maximize auditory learning.

Oblique Learning Strategies: I’ve seen this mentioned, and there’s quite a few ways of learning things through multiple perspectives. Adjusting or altering your perspective is great. For instance, I opened up my ThinkPad=k by Michael Michalko just now to test it, and drew a card. It described how Toyota created Just-in-Time systems through an elimination method, creating a unique value and system for Toyota. Similar concepts are used today by some wildly successful companies, such as Apple.

Another way I do this is by making Mind Maps. I attached one from some of what I’ve picked up through this forum. Tony Buzan and Paul Scheele document them. The examples in Tony Buzan’s book, his created mind maps, were pretty awesome in expressing huge schemas of thought in words. Connecting concepts instead of verbose verbiage.

Rigidity: I’ve been guilty of this. I’ve developed systems and patterns that have worked in life. Some reactive, some proactive. Overall, I’m starting to embrace more flexibility – testing things up, seeing what works best.

Different stages: during life, demands change. Adjust with them.

You move into the Biological stage where you want, or your significant other wants children. Do yourself a favor, get genetically tested. At the very least consider figuring out what your genome has to say about you. Some things are illuminating, others may reshape your approach.

Reread: Every time you interact with your elements, such as books, you have a different perspective. And sometimes things can be extremely valuable and useful. Such as reading a book, something that clicked. You reread, rediscover, reconnect, re-experience.

Chances are, the more you progress in life and gain perspective and experiences, the more connections and threads you’ll make with that book. Eventually, you may have condensed all the value from it. Because that’s all you’re going to currently get from it. Or have a moment of discovery that it’s naïve, condensing, basic crap. However, you had to discover, learn, and embrace. Find high quality reads and experiences, and see how they change with your experience.

Fast Lane Experience: I’ve dipped my toe in this. I’ve launched my own business before, and also experienced the creation of a system online that produces income online. More focused on attainment from affiliates, etc. Scaled it up over time to hit benchmarks, push the goals. Got it to produce a targeted XX,XXX per month. But this was before I knew about more core principles, about having and respecting control.

A “guru” online learned about the system, at least the underpinnings. And then they duplicated it, created a course, and within 12-18 months flooded the market. It destroyed earnings, and I retreated.

Lesson learned: In perspective, this happens. In any industry, anywhere – no matter the development and effort invested. You can moan and complain, chalk it up to circumstances, or just move on. I later learned that in my expansion, a sysadmin sold the method after messing around with cloning a development site. I let part of my secret sauce out, I cannot blame someone for realizing it’s potential. Sure it was immoral and legally gray, but it’s part of what can happen.

Almost Instant Karma came to all those that supported and bought the system, when it crashed after Google changed their ranking. Pure crap and small value inputs – all following a determined system, with certain affiliate or other aspects, can get crushed and moved into the penalty box. Good experience overall. Get back up and dust off, move forward. Refocus energy.

Different Life Categories: Reflections on the Journey so far

Mind, Body, Soul: Always show up throughout the process. Pay attention to them, their changes demands, wants, and needs. Adjust. Incorporate. Reflect.

Personal Development, Business Development, Etc.

Experiential Learning: ripe with it through case studies and things here and in every facet of life.

Business Threads: Forum has a great design for this, including feedback system. Awesome.

Death: Sometimes you never truly appreciate someone till they’re gone. The moment and time you experience this, is well out of your control. Losing someone to old age in a more natural process can still suck, but it doesn’t hurt anywhere near as losing someone young unexpectedly, in rough circumstances.

So appreciate life. Respect it, value it. Enjoy the experience you generate and share with others. To me, there has been no greater impact or in life then these valuable interactions. They share, shape, and define you.

Taking care of others: This goes with death. If there’s things you can do, to help prevent or make someone’s life easier – it may be worth it at the time to do everything in your power to help get them back. From physical to other maladies, sometimes you can contribute in meaningful ways to impact their lives. And the process is amazing. But it, as cold as it may sound, has to be one where you balance the value to yourself too.

Why? Conditions and people change. They can lose their minds, change their world perception, or experience a disconnect with who you are. Eventually you’ll learn that no matter what you do, some things cannot be changed. And that you’re wasting time and effort, trying to further your own motives and feelings. Or that you’re being manipulated and used by others, instead of teaming up in providing value.

Where and how your spend this time and action has consequences in your own life. Make sure to account for it, no one else will. And depending on the circumstances, the appreciation others express to you, cannot recharge your daily battery. And you get worn/burnt out. So again, balance.

Along with this: you can’t change people. Worse, trying to actively change someone in a personal relationship, results in lots of hardships. They have to change themselves, period. To want and to actively change. It’s nice to share your experience and provide support to where they can connect, reflect, or take value from what you offer. But they have to hear, believe, embrace, and become aware that you’re trying to share some life lesson or experience that can help them get through their own stuff. You cannot develop them in your vision, they have to develop and launch their own. And sometimes you cannot learn or discover the meaning behind something until you experience it. It’s different – cerebrally embracing it – to actually launching and connecting with the world. It follows the discovering, learning, understanding, experience, embracing method. Some people become experts at it, and can translate it through teaching and mentorship. Others, simply master something, but have no idea how to make it resonate within someone else.

Groups: Executive teams, partners, whether in personal life or business, can help make or break life. The best things come when people join together, motive free, and work to contribute with one another to accomplish a task or goal. Those that bring lots of individual value, may stumble across another’s suggestion, embrace it, and discover a whole new world of connections and meaningfulness. Constructive feedback can shake up life – some people do this more harshly or intensely and it can be needed – to drive a point home, especially to a hardhead. Get a group of people flowing together, and they’re unstoppable.

Trust: Completely trusting someone can lift a weight on your soul. Find a way to trust someone, after they’ve earned it. If not, trust your pet. Talk to your dog. Or run it through your mind, with a mental partner. Just don’t go full schizophrenic. The only problem is, when it’s betrayed, it can also be crushing.

Help: It’s ok to get help, to ask for it. This applies to all areas of it, whether mental or physical help. A tutor can help learning concepts, don’t let the stigma of, wow you’re getting help from a tutuor? Great ones later on are like mentors. They can make connections to the way you learn and experience and create invaluable insight. If you made it this far, here’s some help I can provide: I learned a great deal about jewelry, the industry in general, and gemstones when going through the repeated engagement ring process. I’d be glad to help out and provide pointers if you have any questions. It’s seriously saved some of my friends from buying synthetic crap, saving thousands. And can be a completely undervalued skill.

If we knew everything, or could correct everything, we’d live in a perfectly balanced and harmonious society where we wouldn’t have to search for value to provide. Pain points and maladies wouldn’t exist.

Intuition: One of the key things is to follow this skill. Develop it. And start to provide for it, no matter where you’re at, or who you’re with. This can be the difference in making a meaningful personal or business relationship. Doing something unexpectedly, but is just something you do – because it makes sense or reflects one of your values. It comes from experience by trying things. And can become a valued skill in providing things for partners and clients – before they ask for them.

Willpower: Sometimes you just have to do something. Buckle down, amp up, or zen out. Build in the pattern of persistent consistency. Some of the ugliest areas of your life will occur, and the problems that come with them, by ignoring or lacking in willpower. Sheer determination, when applied correctly, can overcome obstacles and bust mental|physical roadblocks. It feeds the success pattern. Learn to recognize and tap into this developmental strength along the journey.

Judgment: You can never accurately judge a person. You cannot be in their body and mind, knowing, seeing, feeling, and perceiving everything that they are. In that moment, in their state of mind, or knowing the conditions and experiences that led up to that decision.

You may be able to make an informed decision, or provide some valuable experiential sharing, if you’ve had that experience, felt the same way, or have been in that exact situation.

You can and should judge an idea, and approach, how well an idea, concept, or process is working out for you. That’s business. It’s the process of life. Those of us that make better judgments and adjustments for what life throws at us build up flexibility and resiliency. The result in decisions that can provide elemental building blocks for the future. And it’s a path to choosing what you want to do, and ultimately your success. That’s lots of judgments you have to make when browsing this forum, and can provide perspective on values.

Faith & Belief: Have it. It’s free. And when done correctly, doesn’t hurt anyone else or push your beliefs on them. Whether it’s in yourself or in something higher, believing you can do anything and everything, and embracing it – then releasing it into the world – can shift perspective, provide empowerment, and tap into your soul. Or at the very least, give you support and feed your drive in accomplishing your goals and dreams. You, in effect, provide the path and generate a meaningful experience and existence. Push it, and make it meaningful and valuable.

Values: You provide value to the world to generate value. And everyone has a different meaning and interpretation of what value is. Everyone of us balances and requires different values to make us unique, and to determine our current situation and strategy. We provide, become, translate, and share our values to generate new and meaningful experiences.

Hope this provides a brief intro. Attached is the mindmap of the life hacks thread – figured it would be an easy way to catchup, and a different way to visualize the info. Plus, I like sharing what I do sometimes to reveal other connections, contributions, and putting a different perspective on reading. If anyone wants to raw file, let me know. Did this with the MFL book in that thread as well. Just not sure where to put files that fall outside of the allowed attachment format. Also, I know the audience is quite varied - from ages and experiences. Hopefully something will click with your perspective, resonate, or provide some elusive value|insight. At the very least, you'll get to have some insight about a new member.

Any feedback appreciated. Hope this is the right place for this mind dump and trying to connect process.

Razz
 

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