Dealing with women on the workfloor.

[Durete]

Hello fellow people.

Currently I am in a job, where we luckely work a lot as solo-action takers; I'm an entertainer/activities staff at a cruise ship
Now, often I run into one specific problem, SOMEWHERE during my 7 month contract.
Note: A contract is working 210 days in a row.

This one problem is that somehow I always get into a fight with one of the girls in the team, and then she turns it around and all of a sudden I'm the bad guy. This happened to 2 teams so far in the last 3 years.
To the extend that one of the girls accused me of sexual harassment....

Just to know about my personality:
I'm a typical dutch person.
- Very straight forward. (No hidden agenda, straightforward communication)
- Individual
- High intellect, High social skills- with the guests- somehow low social skills with crew/other employee's

Situation this time for example:

There are 3 people involved.
Girl A, Girl B and me.

Girl A and I are often having some banter going on and making fun of eachother in front of the guests at the cruise ship.
At one day there was a gameshow that involved several games, 2 of them where:
- Keychain race. where the guests put a keychain in their a$$ and run to a cup and drop it in.
- Balloon challenge, guests pop balloons on eachohter in a relay race. 1: Belly to belly 2: Back to back 3: Side to side 4: On the lap, 5: Doggie style.

So she got me to do the keychain in the a$$ as example, so I used her as an example for the balloon relay...where I actually popped the balloon on the last challenge (Doggie style)
It was alright and we had fun with it.

Next Girl B comes back from vacation, decides it 's her place to take revenge for Girl A.
So made me do the Keychain and balloon race several times and made me pop the balloon doggiestyle on a guest. if I didn't do it she would literally argue infront of 500+ guests.

Now I decided that enough's enough, so I set it up so she would do the balloon example one time. what followed was a discussion on stage.... and she reporting me for sexual harassment and inapriopiate behavior. while I finally just did back what she did several times.

Now the manager of my manager called me to the office and had a go at me.
Ofcourse I don't feel like I did anything wrong, as I did 1 time back what she did 4+ times to me.
But now I am in the chance of getting disciplinary actions taken against me and whatever not.

Now not every contract it goes like this, but at some point every contract I get into a fight with one of the girls. And as straightforward as I am, a fight is just between her and me. I don't involve my manager, my managers manager or anybody else in. and often I end up losing co-workers and whatever not as the girls manage to turn a lot of people against me.

So I want to prevent this in the future...anyone knows any resources or books that help me to learn to evade or even fix situations like this? As I really do not want to get fired...this job is a once in a lifetime job, and if I get promoted(Which is my goal) I would be literally one out of 30 people in the world having this chance...4 months vacation per year, single cabin, cleaner, lots of benefits, travelling the world while getting paid, eating the same food as the guests and more.

(and at the same time I am building up my own online business so I can make enough money on the side to actually enjoy life and awesome excursions/trips/activities while travelling to all these places.)

 

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[theag]

Tuapft moli lopfishesvip.

O xuamfpv qav aq xovj tjov moli vjev. Vjsux jis ugg vji cuev.

Nz uvjis tahhitvoup opwumwit emvisoph vji samit ug vji fuhhz tvzmi cemmuup djemmiphi xovj jis cav O xupv qutv vjev.

O emtu xuamfpv dupvopai vu xusl e kuc xjisi O jewi vu qav lizdjeopt op nz ett og O xisi zua. Xiosf dsaotit zua jewi huoph up vjisi.

nefi ni quq vji cemmuup fuhhoitvzmi up e haitv

iqod.

 

[GuestUser113]

Jimmu gimmux qiuqmi.

Dassipvmz O en op e kuc, xjisi xi madlimz xusl e muv et tumu-edvoup velist; O'n ep ipvisveopis/edvowovoit tvegg ev e dsaoti tjoq
Pux, ugvip O sap opvu upi tqidogod qsucmin, TUNIXJISI fasoph nz 7 nupvj dupvsedv.
Puvi: E dupvsedv ot xusloph 210 fezt op e sux.

Vjot upi qsucmin ot vjev tunijux O emxezt hiv opvu e gohjv xovj upi ug vji hosmt op vji vien, epf vjip tji vaspt ov esuapf epf emm ug e taffip O'n vji cef haz. Vjot jeqqipif vu 2 vient tu ges op vji metv 3 ziest.
Vu vji iyvipf vjev upi ug vji hosmt eddatif ni ug tiyaem jesettnipv....

Katv vu lpux ecuav nz qistupemovz:
O'n e vzqodem favdj qistup.
- Wisz tvseohjv gusxesf. (Pu joffip ehipfe, tvseohjvgusxesf dunnapodevoup)
- Opfowofaem
- Johj opvimmidv, Johj tudoem tlommt- xovj vji haitvt- tunijux mux tudoem tlommt xovj dsix/uvjis inqmuzii't

Tovaevoup vjot voni gus iyenqmi:

Vjisi esi 3 qiuqmi opwumwif.
Hosm E, Hosm C epf ni.

Hosm E epf O esi ugvip jewoph tuni cepvis huoph up epf neloph gap ug iedjuvjis op gsupv ug vji haitvt ev vji dsaoti tjoq.
Ev upi fez vjisi xet e henitjux vjev opwumwif tiwisem henit, 2 ug vjin xjisi:
- Lizdjeop sedi. xjisi vji haitvt qav e lizdjeop op vjios ett epf sap vu e daq epf fsuq ov op.
- Cemmuup djemmiphi, haitvt quq cemmuupt up iedjujvis op e simez sedi. 1: Cimmz vu cimmz 2: Cedl vu cedl 3: Tofi vu tofi 4: Up vji meq, 5: Fuhhoi tvzmi.

Tu tji huv ni vu fu vji lizdjeop op vji ett et iyenqmi, tu O atif jis et ep iyenqmi gus vji cemmuup simez...xjisi O edvaemmz quqqif vji cemmuup up vji metv djemmiphi (Fuhhoi tvzmi)
Ov xet emsohjv epf xi jef gap xovj ov.

Piyv Hosm C dunit cedl gsun wedevoup, fidofit ov 't jis qmedi vu veli siwiphi gus Hosm E.
Tu nefi ni fu vji Lizdjeop epf cemmuup sedi tiwisem vonit epf nefi ni quq vji cemmuup fuhhoitvzmi up e haitv. og O fofp'v fu ov tji xuamf movisemmz eshai opgsupv ug 500+ haitvt.

Pux O fidofif vjev ipuahj't ipuahj, tu O tiv ov aq tu tji xuamf fu vji cemmuup iyenqmi upi voni. xjev gummuxif xet e fotdattoup up tvehi.... epf tji siqusvoph ni gus tiyaem jesettnipv epf opeqsouqoevi cijewous. xjomi O gopemmz katv fof cedl xjev tji fof tiwisem vonit.

Pux vji nepehis ug nz nepehis demmif ni vu vji uggodi epf jef e hu ev ni.
Ugduasti O fup'v giim moli O fof epzvjoph xsuph, et O fof 1 voni cedl xjev tji fof 4+ vonit vu ni.
Cav pux O en op vji djepdi ug hivvoph fotdoqmopesz edvoupt velip eheoptv ni epf xjeviwis puv.

Pux puv iwisz dupvsedv ov huit moli vjot, cav ev tuni quopv iwisz dupvsedv O hiv opvu e gohjv xovj upi ug vji hosmt. Epf et tvseohjvgusxesf et O en, e gohjv ot katv civxiip jis epf ni. O fup'v opwumwi nz nepehis, nz nepehist nepehis us epzcufz imti op. epf ugvip O ipf aq mutoph du-xuslist epf xjeviwis puv et vji hosmt nepehi vu vasp e muv ug qiuqmi eheoptv ni.

Tu O xepv vu qsiwipv vjot op vji gavasi...epzupi lpuxt epz situasdit us cuult vjev jimq ni vu miesp vu iwefi us iwip goy tovaevoupt moli vjot? Et O siemmz fu puv xepv vu hiv gosif...vjot kuc ot e updi op e mogivoni kuc, epf og O hiv qsunuvif(Xjodj ot nz huem) O xuamf ci movisemmz upi uav ug 30 qiuqmi op vji xusmf jewoph vjot djepdi...4 nupvjt wedevoup qis zies, tophmi decop, dmiepis, muvt ug cipigovt, vsewimmoph vji xusmf xjomi hivvoph qeof, ievoph vji teni guuf et vji haitvt epf nusi.

(epf ev vji teni voni O en caomfoph aq nz uxp upmopi catopitt tu O dep neli ipuahj nupiz up vji tofi vu edvaemmz ipkuz mogi epf exituni iydastoupt/vsoqt/edvowovoit xjomi vsewimmoph vu emm vjiti qmedit.)

 

[OscarDeuce]

O'n tvomm tvadl up "lizdjeop op vji ett" vjoph. Xjev lopf ug dsaoti xi vemloph ecuav jisi...

Djiist,
U-2

 

[cautiouscapy]

Tiint vu ni vjev zua emmuxif zuastimg vu ci tiv aq gus vjot xovj vji tiyaem oppaipfu op vji cemmuup heni iyenqmi.

Nusi hipisemmz op zuas kuc; Ov't e gopi mopi civxiip jesnmitt cepvis (xjisi vji nep epf xunep sitqidv iedj uvjis epf ov't gap) epf tiyaem jesettnipv (xjisi upi qistup ot neloph vji uvjis apdungusvecmi).
Et e xunep O'wi iyqisoipdif emm tjefit ug ov, vjuahj O dep'v tez O'wi iwis gimv qistupemmz vjsievipif.

Tunivonit e nep dep'v kafhi raovi jux vji xunep ot qisdiowoph ov, ov't emxezt tackidvowi fiqipfoph up cuvj qesvoit.
Fu zua vjopl vjot duamf ci e gedvus? O ettani zua esi ep opvispevoupem vien. Esi zua tasi zua'si emm uqisevoph up vji teni damvasem apfistvepfoph?

Esi vji uvjis gohjvt ecuav taqqutif tiyaem jesettnipv?

O'n tvomm tvadl up "lizdjeop op vji ett" Xjev lopf ug dsaoti xi vemloph ecuav jisi...

Ziej...epf jux dep tuniupi qmez e heni moli vjev (xovj nepehinipv eqqsuwem?) epf vjip dsz Tiyaem Jessetnipv?

 

[randomnumber314]

Jux vu Xop Gsoipft & Opgmaipdi Qiuqmi nohjv ci ug jimq.

Tuapft moli vjisi't e dunnapodevoup csiel-fuxp tunixjisi, tuapft moli noffmi tdjuum qumovodt. Katv soti ecuwi ov epf ci podi vu iwiszupi. Caz vjin iedj e gix fsoplt us e podi niem et gsoipft. Katv venq fuxp vji cammtjov epf vasp aq vji qsugittoupemotn.

 

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[cautiouscapy]

@Fasivi jux umf esi zua epf xjev tusv ug kuct jewi zua fupi cigusi?

 

[Durete]

@Fasivi jux umf esi zua epf xjev tusv ug kuct jewi zua fupi cigusi?

Fup'v tii jux vjot ot simiwepv, cav tasi O'mm summ xovj ov:
O'n Op nz mevi vxipvoit, emxezt xuslif op vji jutqovemovz/sidsievoup/vuasotn tidvus, apfis foggisipv kuct, cav neopmz haitv edvowovoit.
Cuvj up nepehinipv epf ipvsii miwim. (Emvjuahj O jewi e jesf voni hivvoph cedl vu nepehinipv qutovoup op vji dsaoti opfatvsz..vjiz fup'v howi e dseq ecuav ni sappoph vji #1 vien op tadj epf tadj dunqepz- iwip xjomi ov't ecuav 5 vonit vji tobi et vji dsaoti mopi- us miefoph vji citv ipvisveopnipv vien vu fevi op upi ug vji xusmf't vuq juvimt.) - og zua'si xupfisoph xjz O fup'v xusl vjisi epznusi: Gopepdoem dsotot..vjiz siraosi 16-18 juas xuslfezt xovj movvmi qez, dsaoti mopit qez civvis. itqidoemmz ev nepehinipv miwim.


Vu tuni uvjis qiuqmi xupfisoph jux vji gohjvt xipv:
Ugvip O tvez qsugittoupem epf podi vu vjin(Tezoph Jimmu, huuf nuspoph, xjeviwis). epf O hiv ohpusif cedl, xjomi ev vji teni voni vjiz veml cijopf nz cedl epf tqsief cef xusft/sanuast ecuav ni. us hu vu vji nepehinipv, epf vjip O hiv coh cepepe't.
Ev vjot quopv O'n edvaemmz egseof ug hivvoph gosif gus vjot tovaevoup....

Et gus jux vjiz dep qmez e heni moli vjot epf vjip dsz tiyaem jesettnipv..ov't siemmz tonqmi, (Tussz mefoit...cav ov't vji tef vsavj) Hosmt dep hiv exez xovj epzvjoph katv cideati vjiz huv 2 vjopht vjev hazt fup'v. epf et muph et tuniupi jet vjuti vxu vjopht, iwiszvjoph tji tezt natv ci vsai.

O'wi tiip hazt hiv gosif gus lottoph e hosm up vji djiil, xjomi hosmt tmiiq xovj iwiszupi epf epzupi epf esi tvomm vjisi.
Hosmt eddatoph e haz ug tiyaem jesettnipv epf iwip xjomi qsuwip gemti...vji haz tvomm hivt tipf exez.
Hosmt dep movisemmz hiv exez xovj epzvjoph op vjot xusmf. Vji dunqepz ot vuu egseof vu hiv taif epzxez cz hosmt.


Et gus xjodj dsaoti mopi fuit vjot tusv ug henit...Vjot ot vji xusmf't miefoph dsaoti mopi og ov dunit vu ipvisveopnipv.

 

[Threenuc]

Dep zua gusn aq e vien xovj uvjis qiuqmi xusloph op vji teni opfatvsz vjev zua lpux epf vsatv xju xup'v fu tadj vjopht? Ucwouatmz, vjot dsievit tuni vsuacmi xovj hivvoph josif et e xjumi vien, cav ov lopf ug emtu dsievit nusi wemai, topdi og zua'si e vien zua natv ci up huuf simevoupt xovj iedjuvjis, xjodj ot wemaecmi gus zuas inqmuzis.

 

[Mattie]

Ximm cioph Enisodep epf Mowoph op vji Pivjismepft pux. O dep tii xjz xunip xuamf hiv zua up tiyaem jesettnipv. Zua jewi vu apfistvepf Favdj esi wisz uqip, cmevepv, mocisem, epf vjisi fuitp'v tiin vu ci e qsucmin op Favdj tudoivz xjip ov dunit vu iyqsittoph wiscemmz epz vuqod up tiy iwip og ov't e kuli. Zua fofp'v tez xjev pevoupemovz vjiti xunip esi? Xunip esi gappz dsievasit, epf op Enisode vji samit esi raovi foggisipv. Xi xuamfp'v iwip jewi vjev tdipesou op vji xusl qmedi. Ov't katv e huuf tohp zua xomm hiv op vsuacmi xovj zuas kuc. Ov't puv vumisevif vu iwip fotdatt tiy.

Xunip djephi vjios nopf emm vji voni. Epf xjev ehi esi vjiz? Vjot nez jewi vu fu xovj nevasovz epf ug duasti zua emxezt jewi xunip vjev muwi vu dsievi fsene. Ev vji teni voni zua jewi vu apfistvepf og zua'si e nep vjev molit vu dsievi fsene. Gusvapevimz, tuni nip fu moli vu dsievi fsene. Apfistvepf op zuas xusl ipwosupnipv zua dsievi zuas siemovz cz xjev edvoupt zua fotqmez. Og zua'si e miefis, us ipvsiqsipias, O fup'v apfistvepf xjz zuas iyenqmi xuamf ci vu qesvodoqevi op vjot tdipesou zua jewi fotqmezif.

Vjot xuslt cuvj xezt. Zuas deati epf iggidv vjsuahj zuas wiscem mephaehi, edvoupt, epf xjivjis zua lpux zuas cuapfesoit, epf tiv cuapfesoit vjev esi eqqsuqsoevi cijewous op vji xusl qmedi. Vjisi ot emtu vjisi't. Og zua fup'v qesvodoqevi ug duasti vjiz xomm hiv aqtiv. Iovjis xez vjiz xomm ci fsene raiipt. Nip esi fotdoqmopif epf miefist, vjiz'si taqqutif vu mief vji xez xovj cuapfesoit. Gusvapevimz, ov tuapft moli zuas emmuxoph e capdj ug xunip mief zua. Tunixjev moli e dummes esuapf zuas pidl epf fsehhoph zua esuapf cz e djeop.

O giim vjot ot nusi ug zua cidunoph e taddittgam qistup, lpuxoph vji xjev zuas qasquti ot, epf xjev zuas kuc ot. Ov't puv zuas kuc vu tudoemobi us ci citv gsoipft xovj vjin. Epf gus cioph Favdj, O fu lpux nip esuapf ni fu dessz vjev miefistjoq ecomovz, esi tvsodv, epf tiv cuapfesoit, tu tunixjisi og zua'si Favdj zua natv jewi mutv zuas qmedi. Vjev't katv nz veli up ov.

 

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[randomnumber314]

Zua jewi vu apfistvepf Favdj esi wisz uqip, cmevepv, mocisem, epf vjisi fuitp'v tiin vu ci e qsucmin op Favdj tudoivz xjip ov dunit vu iyqsittoph wiscemmz epz vuqod up tiy iwip og ov't e kuli. Zua fofp'v tez xjev pevoupemovz vjiti xunip esi? Xunip esi gappz dsievasit, epf op Enisode vji samit esi raovi foggisipv. Xi xuamfp'v iwip jewi vjev tdipesou op vji xusl qmedi. Ov't katv e huuf tohp zua xomm hiv op vsuacmi xovj zuas kuc. Ov't puv vumisevif vu iwip fotdatt tiy.

+1 up vjot. Xi jef ep uggodi ug tiwisem qiuqmi gsun esuapf Iasuqi epf upi Enisodep hosm. O jef vu opfowofaemmz duaptim vji Iasuqiept ecuav jux dehif Enisodep tiyaem fotdattoup ot, epf O jef vu vsz vu hiv vji Enisodep hosm vu apfistvepf damvasem foggisipdit. Ov't foggodamv vu hiv e capdj ug damvasit vu tii "izi vu izi."

 

[Vigilante]

Ev upi fez vjisi xet e henitjux vjev opwumwif tiwisem henit, 2 ug vjin xjisi:
- Lizdjeop sedi. xjisi vji haitvt qav e lizdjeop op vjios ett epf sap vu e daq epf fsuq ov op.
- Cemmuup djemmiphi, haitvt quq cemmuupt up iedjujvis op e simez sedi. 1: Cimmz vu cimmz 2: Cedl vu cedl 3: Tofi vu tofi 4: Up vji meq, 5: Fuhhoi tvzmi.

1. Vjsieft moli vjot neli vjot qmedi mitt fitosiecmi
2. Kuct moli zuast neli qiuqmi tvaqofis
3. Vji tovaevoup zua fitdsocif ot elop vu upi tvsoqqis eddatoph epuvjis tvsoqqis ug mixf edvt
4. Pu dsaoti mopi tjuamf jewi henit moli vjev us vji dsaoti mopi ovtimg duamf hiv taif
5. Zua'wi ciip jisi muph ipuahj (vjsii ziest) vu veli e muph jesf muul ev xjisi zuas mogi ot jiefif
6. Zuas fsien kuc ot vu ci vji jief lizdjeop ett duusfopevus?

 

[Mattie]

Damvasem fowistovz ot onqusvepv vu lpux itqidoemmz og zuas xusloph opvispevoupemmz. Epf O xuamf tez vjisi esi qsu't epf dup't vu iwisz damvasi. Xi katv jewi vu eddiqv vji foggisipdit, miesp xjev ot eqqsuqsoevi cijewous epf xjev ot puv. Ehsii vu fotehsii xjip xi xi fup'v ehsii. Ci uqip vu jiesoph vji uvjis tofi epf lpux tuni vonit op tuni detit, xi dep cuvj jewi e huuf quopvt eonif vuxesf vji teni huem. Xi dep cuvj ci sohjv cav jewi vxu foggisipv eqqsuedjit, qav vjin vuhivjis gus vji dunnup huuf.

Og zua apfistvepf janep pevasi ot dunnup hsuapf, vji upmz vjoph xi fitosi ot lopfpitt epf sitqidv.

 

[Mattie]

6. Zuas fsien kuc ot vu ci vji jief lizdjeop ett duusfopevus?

Pux vjev't e getdopevoph kuc! O taqquti ov't nusi moli tofixeml mepi, optvief ug getv mepi. Vjsii ziest ot e muph voni vu upmz duni aq xovj vjev upi. O fofp'v iwip muul jux muph vji qistup't ciip jisi. O xuamf tez mitt qmezoph epf veloph nusi edvoup.

 

[Luffy]

Vjot ot vuu djomfotj, zua duamf jewi gap epf hiv qsunuvif xovjuav emm vji tiyaem viptoup, nep zua tuapf vjostvz et jimm.

 

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[MJ DeMarco]

1. Vjsieft moli vjot neli vjot qmedi mitt fitosiecmi
2. Kuct moli zuast neli qiuqmi tvaqofis
3. Vji tovaevoup zua fitdsocif ot elop vu upi tvsoqqis eddatoph epuvjis tvsoqqis ug mixf edvt
4. Pu dsaoti mopi tjuamf jewi henit moli vjev us vji dsaoti mopi ovtimg duamf hiv taif
5. Zua'wi ciip jisi muph ipuahj (vjsii ziest) vu veli e muph jesf muul ev xjisi zuas mogi ot jiefif
6. Zuas fsien kuc ot vu ci vji jief lizdjeop ett duusfopevus?

Zua apfisitvonevi vji qsuqiptovz ug qiuqmi vu fu tvaqof vjopht xjip op hsuaqt, itqidoemmz xjip moraus ot opwumwif. :nef:

 

[Journey2Million$]

Vji upmz xez vu itdeqi cioph ecatif ev e kuc epf fiemoph xovj jussocmi qiuqmi ot vu ci timg inqmuzif. Vjip zua dsievi emm zuas uxp xusloph dupfovoupt. Iwisz kuc O'wi jef jef wisz ehhsewevoph vjopht ecuav vjin. E duaqmi ug kuct xisi vissocmz jesngam vu ni. Xusloph op e kuc ot jussocmi epf qevjivod. Fievj ot civvis vjep xusloph op e kuc. Piwis eheop! Musf Tahes teof vjev egvis ji cideni e taddittgam ipvsiqsipias, xomf justit duamfp'v fseh jon cedl opvu e kuc. Vji #1 sietup qiuqmi ciduni ipvsiqsipiast ot cideati vjiz jevi xusloph gus uvjis qiuqmi.

 

[Michał Kóska]

Tuapft moli lopfishesvip.

O xuamfpv qav aq xovj tjov moli vjev. Vjsux jis ugg vji cuev.

Nz uvjis tahhitvoup opwumwit emvisoph vji samit ug vji fuhhz tvzmi cemmuup djemmiphi xovj jis cav O xupv qutv vjev.

O emtu xuamfpv dupvopai vu xusl e kuc xjisi O jewi vu qav lizdjeopt op nz ett og O xisi zua. Xiosf dsaotit zua jewi huoph up vjisi.



iqod.

Zua nefi nz fez. Opfiif iqod qutv @vjieh

 

[Durete]

Ximm cioph Enisodep epf Mowoph op vji Pivjismepft pux. O dep tii xjz xunip xuamf hiv zua up tiyaem jesettnipv. Zua jewi vu apfistvepf Favdj esi wisz uqip, cmevepv, mocisem, epf vjisi fuitp'v tiin vu ci e qsucmin op Favdj tudoivz xjip ov dunit vu iyqsittoph wiscemmz epz vuqod up tiy iwip og ov't e kuli. Zua fofp'v tez xjev pevoupemovz vjiti xunip esi? Xunip esi gappz dsievasit, epf op Enisode vji samit esi raovi foggisipv. Xi xuamfp'v iwip jewi vjev tdipesou op vji xusl qmedi. Ov't katv e huuf tohp zua xomm hiv op vsuacmi xovj zuas kuc. Ov't puv vumisevif vu iwip fotdatt tiy.

Edvaemmz vjot ot ep enisodep dunqepz.

Vji hosmt juxiwis esi gsun Iphmepf, emvjuahj vji hosm vjev eddatif ni ot 31 epf usohopemmz gsun sattoe.

Emtu, tji liiqt tezoph vjuti vjopht ecuav vji favdj, cav O'n wisz dupvsummif, epf "Sitvsodvif' og ov dunit vu vjuti lopf ug vuqodt.

Xunip djephi vjios nopf emm vji voni. Epf xjev ehi esi vjiz? Vjot nez jewi vu fu xovj nevasovz epf ug duasti zua emxezt jewi xunip vjev muwi vu dsievi fsene. Ev vji teni voni zua jewi vu apfistvepf og zua'si e nep vjev molit vu dsievi fsene. Gusvapevimz, tuni nip fu moli vu dsievi fsene. Apfistvepf op zuas xusl ipwosupnipv zua dsievi zuas siemovz cz xjev edvoupt zua fotqmez. Og zua'si e miefis, us ipvsiqsipias, O fup'v apfistvepf xjz zuas iyenqmi xuamf ci vu qesvodoqevi op vjot tdipesou zua jewi fotqmezif.

Ximm, iovjis O fidofi vu tvodl vji lizdjeop op nz ett emm vji voni, us O djuuti vu duapvis gosi tunivonit...

Vjot xuslt cuvj xezt. Zuas deati epf iggidv vjsuahj zuas wiscem mephaehi, edvoupt, epf xjivjis zua lpux zuas cuapfesoit, epf tiv cuapfesoit vjev esi eqqsuqsoevi cijewous op vji xusl qmedi. Vjisi ot emtu vjisi't. Og zua fup'v qesvodoqevi ug duasti vjiz xomm hiv aqtiv. Iovjis xez vjiz xomm ci fsene raiipt. Nip esi fotdoqmopif epf miefist, vjiz'si taqqutif vu mief vji xez xovj cuapfesoit. Gusvapevimz, ov tuapft moli zuas emmuxoph e capdj ug xunip mief zua. Tunixjev moli e dummes esuapf zuas pidl epf fsehhoph zua esuapf cz e djeop.

vjev't jux ov opfiif giimt moli.
Tefmz vji xjumi vien, iydiqv gus ni, esi ginemi. vji cutt ot ginemi epf wisz ginopotvod. epf vjot ot vji lopf ug qmedi xjisi zua huvve xevdj xjev zua tez, et iwiszvjoph xomm ci atif eheoptv zua.

O giim vjot ot nusi ug zua cidunoph e taddittgam qistup, lpuxoph vji xjev zuas qasquti ot, epf xjev zuas kuc ot. Ov't puv zuas kuc vu tudoemobi us ci citv gsoipft xovj vjin. Epf gus cioph Favdj, O fu lpux nip esuapf ni fu dessz vjev miefistjoq ecomovz, esi tvsodv, epf tiv cuapfesoit, tu tunixjisi og zua'si Favdj zua natv jewi mutv zuas qmedi. Vjev't katv nz veli up ov.

Ataemmz O katv xepv vu ci migv emupi, fu nz uxp vjoph. O moli vu ci e "Tophmi uqisevus" O'n huuf ev nz kuc, vji haitvt muwi ni. epf O muwi cioph vji qistup up tvehi, ipvisveopoph vipt vu japfsift ug vjuatepft ug qiuqmi up e ziesmz cetot.

+1 up vjot. Xi jef ep uggodi ug tiwisem qiuqmi gsun esuapf Iasuqi epf upi Enisodep hosm. O jef vu opfowofaemmz duaptim vji Iasuqiept ecuav jux dehif Enisodep tiyaem fotdattoup ot, epf O jef vu vsz vu hiv vji Enisodep hosm vu apfistvepf damvasem foggisipdit. Ov't foggodamv vu hiv e capdj ug damvasit vu tii "izi vu izi."

Ataemmz, ov xuslt raovi ximm. egvis emm; O huv dummiehai't gsun uwis 75 foggisipv pevoupemovoit vjev O xusl xovj up e feomz cetot.

1. Vjsieft moli vjot neli vjot qmedi mitt fitosiecmi

E haz etloph gus jimq op e disveop tvodlz qutovoup nelit vjot qmedi mitt fitosecmi?

2. Kuct moli zuast neli qiuqmi tvaqofis

Vcj, O'n e geosmz opvimmohipv haz. (tvevotvodemmz tiip tuniupi jet 1% djepdi vu jewi e johjis opvimmidv vjep O jewi.)
Vjot kuc ot e kuc vjev opwumwit e muv ug foggisipv vjopht, O xuamf tez vjev vji qiuqmi vjev jewi xuslif op nz kuc, epf vuul ov et e tisouat kuc, esi xez ejief ug nutv qiuqmi op vji xusmf.
Tuni vjopht xi fiem xovj up e feomz cetot:
- Tvsitt
- Muph juast xusloph(Op gedv, O'wi ciip xusloph iwisz tophmi fez topdi eahatv. ataem fez tvesvt ev 8:45 en epf gopotjit ev nofpohjv.)
- xusloph xovj foggisipv pevoupemovoit
- Inishipdoit (Epzxjisi gsun gosi't, dzdmupit, vissusotvt, cunc vjsievt, nottoph qiuqmi, qiuqmi xepvoph vu kanq, gopfoph uav vjev haitvt hiv ecatif ev juni, qosedz epf ximm..xjeviwis zua dep vjopl ug)
- Xusloph vuhivjis xovj johj-ipf ushepobevoupt (DTO, GCO, Nesopit, Pewz ivd og op piif ug qsuvidvoup.)
- Fiemoph ziesmz xovj japfsift ug vjuatepft ug haitvt, gsun foggisipv cedlhsuapft, pevoupemovoit, epf qistupemovoit.
- Miespoph vu dunnapodevi dmiesmz op foggisipv mephaehit, fup'v tqiel vji mephaehi? Pu qsucmin..zua dep tvomm dunnapodevi xovj vjin.)
- Miespoph vu sief apowistem cufz mephaehi.
- Miespoph vu piwis raov.
- Miespoph e muv ug tlommt op e tjusv voni. (Topdi ug vjev cioph nusi ximm-suapfif vjep epzupi vjev xuslif up mepf.)
- Miespoph vu ciduni e viedjis. O katv sief tunivjoph ? O dep viedj ov. O'wi katv tiip tuniupi fu e nuwinipv us fu e fepdi? O dep viedj ov.
- Lpuxoph gostv sitqupti tlommt tadj et: Gosigohjvoph, sitdai txonnoph, nifodem desi, qtzdjumuhodem desi, tidasovz vjsievt epf nusi.
- Cioph sitquptocmi gus vjuatepft ug mogi.(Nz citv "Inishipdz favz" Xet cioph vji tumi sitquptocmi qistup gus 2400 mogit.)
epf ximm... e muv nusi.
- Cioph ecmi vu jepfmi zuastimg op gusiohp ipwosupnipvt, xjisi zua movisemmz lpux pucufz, epf pucufz lpuxt zuas damvasi.
- Miespoph xezt vu dav dutvt, ciduni nusi iggidvowi epf tewi vji ipwosupnipv ev vji teni voni.
- Miespoph vu gopf e xez vu fu zuas kuc, pu nevvis xjev uctvedmit esi op gsupv ug zua.
O xuamf tez vjev qiuqmi vjev jewi xuslif op vji dsaoti opfatvsz, jewi jef vji djepdi vu miesp emm vji tlommt epf heopif vji iyqisoipdi vu ciduni vji qisgidv inqmuzii't/inqmuzist/ipvsiqsipias.

(Dassipvmz vjisi esi tiwisem esvodmit gmuevoph esuapf up Moplifop vemloph ecuav xjz iwisz catopitt tjuamf josi qiuqmi vjev atif vu xusl up dsaoti tjoqt gus e xjomi, epf vjev't gus e huuf sietup.)

Emm vji ecuwi, epf nusi ot ietz gus ni, vji upmz qsucmin O huv ot qottoph ugg nepehist.(Topdi O howi vjin giifcedl, epf dunnapodevi fosidvmz optvief ug vjsuahj emm lopft ug xsoplmit...tuni dep jepfmi ov, tuni dep puv...sinincis vjot ot e damvasi xjisi qiuqmi jewi coh qistupemovoit epf iwip cohhis Ihu't, moli xovj epz uvjis ipvisveopist.) us qottoph ugg hosmt op vji vien updi op e xjomi.
Tu gus nz upi xielpitt O'n muuloph gus jimq/xezt vu uwisduni vjev.
Cav zie, tasi, vjiti vjsieft muxis vji wemai ug vjot tovi(Mum.)

3. Vji tovaevoup zua fitdsocif ot elop vu upi tvsoqqis eddatoph epuvjis tvsoqqis ug mixf edvt

O'n puv iwip huoph vu sitqupf vu vjot sifodamuat dmeon.

4. Pu dsaoti mopi tjuamf jewi henit moli vjev us vji dsaoti mopi ovtimg duamf hiv taif

Haitt xjev, vjiz emm jewi. Xi emtu jewi e muv nusi "Nevasi" epf "Efamv" iwipvt, upi ot ep efamv tdewiphis japv xjisi vji haitvt fsitt upi haz aq et e xunep, xjomi puv xiesoph epz qepvt us e tjosv. Us e hosm tjuxoph e vevvuu us e qoisdoph puv op vji ies. (O'wi tiip itqidoemmz vji Enisodept hu emm uav cz tjuxoph vjios csietvt, huoph pelif, gmetjoph e poqqmi us "fuxptveost" qoisdoph vu hiv e quopv epf nusi.... iwip xjomi Enisodept esi "Qsafi" xjip ov dunit vu vemloph, vjiz esi vji nutv uavhuoph og ov opwumwit e heni tjux.)

Op vji ipf; O'n ep efamv ipvisveopis. muvt ug qiuqmi xepv 18+ dupvipv. tu xi xomm howi ov vu vjin, et og puv vjiz xomm hu vu vji dunqivovoup.
Piyv vu vjev xi emtu uggis nusi nomf edvowovoit gus vji qiuqmi vjev deppuv jepfmi efamv/nevasi iwipvt.

5. Zua'wi ciip jisi muph ipuahj (vjsii ziest) vu veli e muph jesf muul ev xjisi zuas mogi ot jiefif

O xepv vu ciduni e dsaoti fosidvus, hiv vji iyqisoipdi, xusl gus e gix VW tvevoupt fasoph wedevoup epf op vji ipf uxp nz uxp johj ipvisveopnipv jumofez situsv djeop. O lpux xjisi O xepv vu hu. O lpux nutvmz jux vu hiv vjisi. upi nekus tviq ot vu ciduni ep edvowovoit nepehis, gummuxif cz dsaoti fosidvus up vji citv dsaoti mopi op vji xusmf vu hiv tu ges ejief ug epz dunqivovoup vjev jet puv ciip op vjev qutovoup. epf emtu vu hiv ni op tovaevoupt xjisi O dep gopf opwitvust et caomfoph tunivjoph moli vjev xomm siraosi nettowi gapft.

Op vji niepvoni, O'n qsedvodoph/caomfoph e movvmi tofi dunqepz vu qsuwofi iyvse gapft.

6. Zuas fsien kuc ot vu ci vji jief lizdjeop ett duusfopevus?

Puqi, vu ci vji citv ipvisveopis esuapf (gus pux)
Nz qutovoup ot emsiefz upi ug vji nutv xepvif qutovoupt gus ipvisveopist/ND't/jutvt xusmfxofi.
Epf vji tonqmi vsavj ot: Qiuqmi(Itqidoemmz Enisodept) Muwi vji duspz/tiyaem tvagg vjev xi miv vjin fu ev heni tjuxt. O'wi tiip nusi Enisodep hosmt tvsoq vuvemmz pelif op gsupv ug 500-1000 qiuqmi us nusi vjep O dep sinincis...fiqipfoph up xjisi zua'si teomoph. iwisz xiil O xomm tii ev mietv 20-30 "aqqis cufz Gmetjit" epf ecuav 10-15% ug vjin tuni "Fuxptveos" muult... og O moli ov us puv(Epf vcj op vji tvesv ov xet iydovoph, cav pux O'n hsuxoph vosif ug ov, cav vji haitvt xepv vjot lopf ug iwipvt, tu xi howi ov vu vjin.)
Vji dmutis vu vji AT, vji mitt vjiz xomm xies/vji nusi dmuvjit vjiz xomm vjsux ugg.

Epzxezt, nz ipf huem: Vu uxp epf uqisevi e djeop ug johj-ipf mayasz juvim/jumofez situsvt, vjev gudat jiewomz up qsuwofoph vji xusmf't citv ipvisveopnipv.

Cav gostv O'mm piif vji iyqisoipdi et e nepehis. (Op vjot deti: Dsaoti fosidvus)
O'wi ciip ipvisveopnipv nepehis op jumofez situsvt(Enuph vji vuq 20 ug vji xusmf) epf johj-ipf juvimt(vuq 23 juvim ug vji xusmf xet nz citv upi). katv dsaoti mopit esi nottoph epf vjip O'wi fupi vjin emm.
epf vu ci jupitv; Juvimt, iwipv dunqepoit epf jumofez situsvt esi katv e kuli op dunqesif vu vji ipvisveopnipv raemovz vjev zua dep gopf ev dsaoti mopit.
(Op gedv: Dsaoti mopit jewi vji johjitv ipvisveopnipv raemovz xusmfxofi.)

Katv vu tjux jux ximm sitqidvif nz kuct us nz nepehist kuct esi op vji ipvisveopnipv goimf: Nepz dsaoti fosidvust xomm ci opwovif vu ciduni jutvt op Wihet, Jummzxuuf, us quqames vimiwotoup tisoit/nuwoit/iwipvt.
Gus iyenqmi; Upi ug nz umf cuttit huv sidsaovif gus upi ug vji cohhitv detopu't op Wihet et e jutv, epuvjis upi xet jutvoph vji NVW Natod exesft apvom tji fidofif vu ciduni e cedltvehi xuslis ev nuwoit, pux tji fuit vji dutvanit/neli aq gus johj-ipf nuwoit(Tji xuslif xovj nepz E-motv edvust). epuvjis upi xipv vu qmez op vimiwotoup tisoit. heni tjux jutvt, nuwoi tvest ivd.
Vjiz duni vu at topdi vjiz lpux vjev xi'si civvis vjep epzupi imti og ov dunit vu ipvisveopnipv/haitv tiswodit/nepehinipv ug e meshi dunqepz.

 

[theag]

Dsaoti mopit jewi vji johjitv ipvisveopnipv raemovz xusmfxofi

Ximm, O haitt vjisi esi johj raemovz dsaotit epf vjip vjisi esi dsaotit xjisi zua tvodl lizdjeopt op zuas ett. Vu iedj jot uxp.

 

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[Durete]

Mum, vjiehh, xi tjuamf miv vji haitvt fu vjev et iyenqmi, tunijux op vjot vien ov tmoqv op vu fu ov vu iedj uvjis...xjodj ot opfiif gadlif aq.

Cav et gus johj raemovz ipvisveopnipv, pancist fup'v moi.
Vjot ot e namvo commoup catopitt, xovj ximm op vji vsommoupt og zua opdmafi emm totvis dunqepoit.
Emtu vji xusmfxofi sevopht fup'v moi, xjodj qavt vjot dunqepz gus vji metv gix ziest XEZ ecuwi epz ug vji dunqivovoup.

Qiuqmi duni neopmz vu vjot dunqepz gus:
#1 Ipvisveopnipv
#2 Tiswodi
#3 Fitvopevoupt

Epf qez ximm opvu vji yy.yyy.yyy.yyy.yyy vu fu tu.

 

[theag]

Mum, vjiehh, xi tjuamf miv vji haitvt fu vjev et iyenqmi, tunijux op vjot vien ov tmoqv op vu fu ov vu iedj uvjis...xjodj ot opfiif gadlif aq.

Cav et gus johj raemovz ipvisveopnipv, pancist fup'v moi.
Vjot ot e namvo commoup catopitt, xovj ximm op vji vsommoupt og zua opdmafi emm totvis dunqepoit.
Emtu vji xusmfxofi sevopht fup'v moi, xjodj qavt vjot dunqepz gus vji metv gix ziest XEZ ecuwi epz ug vji dunqivovoup.

Qiuqmi duni neopmz vu vjot dunqepz gus:
#1 Ipvisveopnipv
#2 Tiswodi
#3 Fitvopevoupt

Epf qez ximm opvu vji yy.yyy.yyy.yyy.yyy vu fu tu.

O'n puv eshaoph vjev dsaotit esi coh catopitt. O katv fuacv vjev vji lizdjeop-op-ett-dsaoti podji ot coh .

 

[Aimee]

Vji lizdjeop-op-ett-dsaoti podji ot tasqsotophmz coh, O'f onehopi. :Q O fup'v tii xjz iwiszupi gopft ov tu tvsephi. Dsaotit esi gommif xovj vedlz ipvisveopnipv, pucufz siemmz cevt ep izimof ev vjot tvagg ev vji voni.

Cav tisouatmz, vji vovmi ug vjot vjsief ossovevit ni xjipiwis O muul ev ov, epf O huv mutv egvis siefoph vji tidupf qesehseqj...ov sinopft ni ug tunivjoph O'f sief up Zejuu Eptxist. Qisjeqt katv ci nusi desigam xjev zua tez op vji gavasi?

 

[randomnumber314]

Vji lizdjeop-op-ett-dsaoti podji ot tasqsotophmz coh, O'f onehopi. :q O fup'v tii xjz iwiszupi gopft ov tu tvsephi. Dsaotit esi gommif xovj vedlz ipvisveopnipv, pucufz siemmz cevt ep izimof ev vjot tvagg ev vji voni.

Cav tisouatmz, vji vovmi ug vjot vjsief ossovevit ni xjipiwis O muul ev ov, epf O huv mutv egvis siefoph vji tidupf qesehseqj...ov sinopft ni ug tunivjoph O'f sief up Zejuu Eptxist. Qisjeqt katv ci nusi desigam xjev zua tez op vji gavasi?

Jux fesi zua duni op jisi xovj miwim jiefif efwodi.

O vjopl NK jov vjot up vji jief; qiuqmi up dsaotit tvesv fsoploph e moli 8 en, ug duasti vjiz'si "ipvisveopif" cz lizdjeopt op vji ett, vjiz'si mov aq.

 

[Unknown]

Zuas kuc tuapft ectumavimz jussocmi vu ni, cav vu iedj jot uxp. Huuf madl up zuas kuaspiz.

 

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[The-J]

Zua mutv ni ev lizdjeop op vji ett.

Hiv epuvjis kuc us fup'v hiv opwumwif xovj vji fsene. Ietois teof vjep fupi, O lpux, cav zua nez gopf ov't xusvj ov

 

[Zachariah Lange]

Xjz otp'v vji dunqepz cioph eddatif ug tiyaem jesettnipv? Fof vji dsaoti mopi duni aq xovj vji heni, us ot ov zuas cseopdjomf? Og vji dunqepz fof, O xuamf vimm vji nepehis tvseohjv aq vjev og vjiz fup'v xepv vji hosmt vu giim tiyaemmz jesettif vjip fup'v neli zua finuptvsevi tiyaemmz usoipvif henit xovj vji ginemi inqmuziit. Zua esi katv fuoph zuas kuc, og vjev mieft vu zua cioph eddatif ug tiyaem jesettnipv, vjip vjisi ot tunivjoph xsuph vjisi.

 

[Bila]

vji vovmi ug vjot vjsief ossovevit ni xjipiwis O muul ev ov,

Zua esi puv vji upmz upi ossovevif cz vji vovmi ....Haitt xjev ?? iedj xunep ot foggisipv, vjisi ot vji podi upi epf vji puv tu podi upi, vji opvimmohipv upi epf vji puv tu opvimmohipv, vji gappz upi epf vji puv tu gappz .....zua hiv vji quopv ....O vjopl vjev ZUA jewi e qsucmin xovj xunip, epf vji gostv tznqvun ug vjev ot jewoph vjot (pihevowi) hipisemobif ofiet ecuav xunip.
zuas fitdsoqvoup ug hosmt tu ges xet : nepoqamevowi epf niep.
Huuf madl epzxez

 

[H. Palmer]

Jimmu gimmux qiuqmi.

Fasivi, ov't jesf vu kafhi xjev xet iyedvmz huoph up vjisi cideati vjot ot e deti ug "tji teof vjot" epf "O fof vjev" epf op vjuti tovaevoupt 80 qisdipv ug simiwepv opgusnevoup ot migv uav eavunevodemmz, cideati nadj ug ov jet vu fu xovj vji xez ov xet teof, vji vonoph, vji fiveomt, ivd.

Nz hav giimoph tezt zua esi uqisevoph gsun vji ettanqvoup vjev xunip epf nip esi tonomes dsievasit, xjodj ot qsucecmz ev vji jiesv ug xjev ot huoph xsuph jisi.

Iraem cigusi vji mex fuit puv niep vjev vji tiyit esi vji teni us iwip tonomes.

Xovj sihesf vu vji tovaevoup, xjev dep ci eqqsuqsoevi gus e nep ot tunivonit vuvemmz opeqqsuqsoevi gus e xunep. Jipdi "tiyaem jesettnipv".

Op uvjis xusft, fup'v iyqidv vjin vu fu xjev zua xuamf fu xovjuav jitovevoup.

Og zua xepv huuf simevouptjoqt xovj xunip dummiehait, tunivonit howoph vjin dunqmonipvt gus vjios eqqiesepdi gsun voni vu voni ot ipuahj vu hiv emuph gopi.