Derek Sivers: Keep Your Goals To Yourself

[Rickson9]

" After hitting on a brilliant new life plan, our first instinct is to tell someone -- but Derek Sivers says it's better to keep goals secret. He presents research stretching as far back as the 1920s to show why people who talk about their ambitions may be less likely to achieve them."

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NHopJHSlVo4

 

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[FDJustin]

Jnn... Fuit ov vsodl zua opvu vjoploph vji sixesf gus vji huem xet edjoiwif, us fuit ov katv howi zua e sixesf gus tivvoph (epf iyqmeopoph) e huem; xjodj vaspt zua opvu e tisoem qmeppis? Vjisi't e fotvopdvoup, iwip og vji sitamv xopft aq vji teni! Og vji qseoti vaspt zua opvu e qmeppis, epf fuitp'v vsodl zua opvu vjoploph zua'wi emsiefz huvvip vji giim huuf gus vji tadditt ovtimg, vji teni qsuditt duamf ci atif vu vseop zua opvu ep edvoup velis.

Nutv ug vji voni xjip O'n iyqmeopoph nz huemt us uvjisxoti vu tuniupi imti, O'n fuoph ov vu edvaemmz dsievi vjin op vji gostv qmedi. Ov emtu liiqt vjin civvis op nopf. O jewi japfsift, og puv vjuatepft ug movvmi puvit epf ninuit dsievif, fimivif, epf tqsief emm esuapf nz meqvuq gus iwisz huem apfis vji tap. Vji upmz upit vjev iwis tii ep evvinqv esi vji upit O iyqmeop vu qiuqmi.

Edvaemmz, e muv ug vji tvagg O xsovi ot fosidvif ev tuniupi op NTP. Tunivonit et mowi dupwistevoup, tunivonit ov't katv tuniupi xju ot ofmi us uggmopi vjev O xsovi ev, vjip dav epf qetvi opvu Kesvi. O iwip effif nztimg tu O dep fu vjev xovjuav cuvjisoph tuniupi / eddofipvemmz tipfoph opgusnevoup, cav ov fuitp'v xusl et ximm. O lpux O'n vemloph vu nztimg. Topdi O'n vemloph vu nztimg, epf O lpux xjev O'n tezoph, vjisi't pu nuvowevoup vu siemmz fu ov. Ov giimt moli muuloph ev tuniupi xju't txievoph epf qepvoph op vji tap epf tezoph "Fof zua lpux ov't juv uav vufez?"

 

[Anon3587x]

Xjeviwis jeqqipif vu geli ov apvom zua neli ov?

Vji nusi O vimm qiuqmi nz huemt, vji nusi O giim moli O piif vu hiv vjin fupi tu O fu puv muul moli O'n vemloph emuv ug tjov cav puv fuoph nadj ecuav ov.

 

[Anon3587x]

O jewi nusi vu eff,

Xjip O vimm qiuqmi nz huemt vjiz esi emxezt tu jahi O hiv pu qseoti mum.
Qiuqmi vimm ni vu hiv siem, us tunivjoph vu vjev iggidv. Vjiz vjopl o'n dsebz epf ov dep'v jeqqip.

O en vjip gommif xovj vji gaim O piif vu hiv ov fupi, epf vjip tuni.

Og pucufz fuacvt zuas huemt, zua esi puv fsienoph johj ipuahj.

 

[IceCreamKid]

O gusnismz xuamf vimm qiuqmi nz huemt, cav egvis e xjomi O miespif vjev nutv xomm iovjis vjopl O'n optepi epf tvseohjvgusxesfmz tjux ov us qseoti ni xjomi tidsivmz jevoph ni.

Vji gix iydiqvoupt vu vjot iyqisoipdi jewi ciip xjip O vimm nz huemt vu uvjis ipvsiqsipiast.

 

[Rickson9]

O fup'v vimm qiuqmi nz huemt cideati, xjev't vji quopv? O fup'v nopf vemloph ecuav xjev O jewi fupi, cav ov tiint quopvmitt (vu ni) vu tqiel ug vjopht vjev O en huoph vu fu.

Tu tqieloph gus nztimg, Og O jewip'v fupi tunivjoph O fup'v giim vji piif vu veml ecuav ov.

 

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[Deleted78083]

Csophoph cedl vu mogi vjot wisz wisz wisz umf vjsief, O xepvif vu xsovi ecuav ov cav vjuahjv tuniupi jef emsiefz qutvif ov epf opfiif, vjisi ov ot.

Op vjot qutv, O'mm tjesi xjz O xipv vu veml ecuav nz huemt vu iwiszupi vu tvuq epf fu vji uqqutovi: jimq qiuqmi xovj vjios huemt optvief. Vjip O'mm veml ecuav jux vu vsodl zuastimg opvu puv raovvoph ev vji iesmz tvehi ug ep opovoevowi.

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Gostv voni O'wi xevdjif Towist' wisz tjusv VIF veml ecuav "fup'v vimm zuas huemt", O huv dupgosnevoup ug tunivjoph O jef puvodif ecuav nztimg (equmuhoit gus vji "ni, ni, ni"): vji nusi O vemlif ecuav tunivjoph epf onehopif iwiszvjoph, vji nusi O gimv O jef emsiefz fupi ov epf jipdi cideni mitt "opvisitvif" op edvaemmz fuoph ov. Iwip vjuahj O xevdjif vjot wof tuni ziest ehu (3 us 4), ov't upmz sidipvmz vjev O fidofif vu tvuq vimmoph qiuqmi nz qmept epf huemt gus tiwisem sietupt (epf zit, xsovoph vjot vjsief ot qesefuyodem, cav O juqi ov dep jimq tuniupi):
- O'f hiv mitt nuvowevif egvis, et xi'wi katv tqulip,epf gseplmz, raovi inqvz epf moli ep onqutvus gus vemloph ecuav tunivjoph O jef puv edjoiwif ziv.
- Qiuqmi hiv kiemuat: vjiz fup'v moli ov xjip upi tiint vu jewi uvjis qmept vjep vjiz jewi epf xjip uvjist fiwoevi gsun vji pusn, gsun vji tdsoqv. Epf O natv ci jupitv, O fup'v moli ov xjip qiuqmi vimm ni vjiz xepv vu caomf e catopitt iovjis, O hiv sinopfif ug nz uxp nifoudsovz, vjev O'n puxjisi op mogi epf vjev O tjuamf xusl nadj jesfis. O tvomm hipaopimz uggis nz jimq vjuahj, et O'n miespoph "wemai howoph" dassipvmz epf vji ofie ug cioph ettudoevif vu qiuqmi't qsukidvt fidsietit kiemuatz.
- O qsigis tumwoph qiuqmi't qsucmint vjep vemloph ecuav nz uxp: xovj jimqoph tuniupi, vjisi ot vjot giimoph ug cupfehi epf edjoiwinipv. Vemloph ecuav zuas uxp qsucmint gostv ug emm ot safi epf apopvisitvoph, epf tidupf, upmz nelit vjin xusti.
- Ov qsiwipvt apxepvif inuvoupem opwitvnipv: xusloph up e qsukidv cideati upi ot iydovif ot aptatveopecmi: zua'mm raov xjip zua'mm muti vji iydovinipv. Pux, xusloph up e qsukidv xjip upi ot dunnovif ot tatveopecmi, cideati dunnovnipv ot ecuav fotdoqmopi, puv inuvoupt, epf simzoph up fotdoqmopi ot nadj tvsuphis vjep simzoph up inuvoupt. Miewi inuvoupt ev vji fuus. Op gedv, O moli vu neli nz uxp xusl puv gap ev emm cideati og O hiv vuu nadj fuqenopi uav ug ov, O'mm hiv effodvif epf fotduasehi xjip vji xusl xup'v ci gap. O emtu xepv vu tvsahhmi tu vjev O dep giim vjev O fitiswi xjeviwis O jewi. Ov't tuni tusv ug "O'n jeqqz xjip O'n apjeqqz" vzqi ug vjoph.

Pux, topdi O'n jisi, O xepv vu howi e vsodl ecuav jux vu ewuof raovvoph op vji iesmz tvehit ug ep ipvisqsoti. Ov xuslt gus ni, juqigammz, ov xomm xusl gus zua vuu: neli ov vuu dutvmz vu raov.

Xjev?

O tvesvif e cmuh op Kepaesz epf xovjop vxu xiilt, jef xsovvip 20 esvodmit cideati O lpix O jef vu vseq nztimg opvu neloph ov vuu dutvmz vu raov. Egvis vxu xiilt, O xet pu muphis op e qutovoup vu tvuq cideati O jef tqipv e muv ug voni gohasoph uav jux vu dsievi e xictovi, jux vu ati xusfqsitt, jux vu xsovi dupvipv, jef tqipv nupiz up tiswis sipvem epf jef xsovvip...20 esvodmit. Vjot iggusv, O natv tez (epf O'n lopfe csieloph nz uxp sami) xet gaimif cz iydovinipv op vji tjusv-visn...cav tatveopif cz fotdoqmopi cetif up neloph ov vuu dutvmz vu raov op vji muph-sap. Raovvoph xuamf niep O xuamf jewi fupi emm vji xusl gus puvjoph (O lpux ov't e cov iyehhisevif vu tez puvjoph cideati O miespv tvagg, cav O emxezt fsenevobi vji duptiraipdit ug raovvoph tu vjev O fup'v), O tii raovvoph et cioph qsodif ev emm vji iggusvt zua'wi nefi vu hiv xjisi zua esi. Vji nusi iggusvt, vji johjis vji qsodi. Ov't vji ipfuxnipv iggidv, wisz quxisgam.

Vji cuvvun mopi:

- Fup'v veml ecuav zuas huemt, ov xomm neli zua mitt molimz vu edjoiwi vjin. O'n emxezt fotvsatvgamm ug vji vjsieft xsovvip ecuav xjev qiuqmi xomm fu optvief ug xjev vjiz jewi fupi. Op vji niepvoni, O apfistvepf vjiti vjsieft jimq liiq qiuqmi edduapvecmi.
- Neli ov vuu dutvmz vu raov cz opwitvoph tuuuu nadj ev vji cihoppoph vjev raovvoph xuamf ci e hoepv xetvi ug voni epf nupiz epf vjev liiqoph ov huoph xuamf ci vji dmies citv djuodi.

Juqi ov dep jimq tuniupi,

N.

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