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At the beginning, you see someone living the life you want to live, and ask "How do they do it?"
When your journey begins, you are at a rock bottom in your life. You've been taught to live your life a certain way growing up, you've been playing by the rules, and it hasn't been working out for you. The harder you try, the more things resist against you.
As a result of this, you feel stuck. You are at a low point in your life, you feel stuck, everything you try to do seems to make things get worse.
You're at rock bottom, you are stuck, and you are wanting more.
Then, someone or something comes in your life that gives you belief that the life you are living today is not the way things will always be. This new thing in your life gives you a glimpse of a better future.
In your mind, you have these doubts and thoughts saying that you can't do it...but deep down, there is a gut feeling that you already feel as if you're living that type of life you see this other person living. You have visions in your mind of a better future.
Despite the doubts, this intuition (if you can call it that) lets you know it's a good idea to keep pushing forward.
You now have a dream of a better future, but you aren't convinced it's possible for YOU, and you have no clue where to start. It feels as if you're staring into the darkness, feeling as if any step forward would lead you off a deep, dark cliff, where you would fall and hit your head on every rock on the way down.
So you stay where you are....and you still feel stuck, now with the fear of taking the actions you haven't taken before. The longer you stay in the same place, the longer you think that life you live now looks like the way things are always going to be.
But then you see more and more people living this type of life you dream of living, and the picture of your future in your mind gets more clear. You can see it being more and more possible, but something is missing. All of the people you see living this dream life are already there. They made it sound so easy for them. They did a little bit of work, made a lot of money, and it was easy for them.
So you try to take the shortcut. You see advertisements and articles about a shortcut you can take. With a little bit of work, you can get the same results these people are getting. You are sick of not getting results, so you try to take the shortcut. You follow a step-by-step blueprint that promises to get you there.
Each and every time it leads to a dead end.
You want the quick results, and the quick results never show up, so your doubt in yourself and frustration get stronger.
But by this point, you see so many others living this dream life, where you know it's already out there waiting for you...that you can't go back. Most of society is nice and happy living the mediocre life that most people live, but you've gone too far to turn back, yet you're nowhere near where you want to be.
You are stuck in the middle.
You are stuck in the struggle.
Your friends and family say you are wasting your time, and the more you try to convince them of this "other way of life", the more they resist.
You spend a lot of time reading books, watching motivational videos, and learning, learning, learning. The more you learn, the more you feel good about yourself...but you don't take action on what you learn, and you continue to feel stuck where you are.
I call this "The Learning Loop".
When one idea doesn't work right away, you jump straight to the next one. "It wasn't meant to be", you tell yourself. The more you jump from one idea to another, the more this pattern continues.
Then, eventually, when you commit to this journey and don't give up you will being to meet others who are just like you. They have the same dreams and they are stuck in the same struggles, so you begin to walk the next leg of this journey together.
These mastermind buddies of yours will help you continue working on the same thing when you face a failure, despite the urge to jump ship to something else. They push you to work harder when you want to give up.
They are going through the same struggles as you, and you all feel like you are lost in the darkness, not knowing what to do...but you commit to keep walking forward together.
Then, a mentor appears.
A man or women will appear in your life, and this person will already be living the dream you want to live. They have the money, they have the freedom, they have abundance, they have the happiness. You look up to them as a role model.
This mentor begins to tell you to do things differently than you've been conditioned to do things while growing up. You either choose to embrace those lessons, and do what they say without question, or you resist the new information and try to prove that you are right.
Do you want to be right, or do you want to be rich?
You try, you fail, you fail some more, but because you have the mastermind group of people like you...you don't give up for at least 100 failures...
Then one of you strikes it big....Someone who was in your shoes when you first met is now living the type of life you thought was impossible for any of you, so your belief that it is possible for you gets stronger.
You commit to one thing, you continue to learn as you go, you push through the failures instead of quitting, and you make yourself accountable on a daily basis...that one day, you have your first big breakthrough.
My first app got 2,000 downloads on the first day.
You failed so many times until there are no failures left, and you finally learned how to get things right. And getting things right is just like riding bike....Once you break this small threshold, things continue to go right.
More success.
After enough work after breaking this threshold, you are already living this life you once dreamed of. All of a sudden, the friends and family who you tried to convince that what you were doing was the right way....start to notice your results and you don't feel the need to convince them anymore. They are now envious of you.
You've reached the top of your mountain. You quit your job, leave your old live behind, and you bask in your rewards. You celebrate your success.
You reach the top of the mountain and stop doing what you did to get up there.
Then, you come falling down the mountain, because when you think you're at the top, there is nowhere to go but down.
After this, you are left with a choice - think to yourself "I got lucky this once...it was good while it lasted" or you realize that you can do it faster this time, and do it better.
You learn from your failures, and you adjust...and you keep pushing forward. You remove the old traits that resulted in your fall...and now you can climb the next mountain faster.
The harder you work, and the more committed you become, the more mentors begin appearing in your life. You get to the point where you've done this before, so you can easily and effortlessly spot opportunities, things seem to flow together, you're experienced in your trade...and you begin to climb higher and higher mountain, and you embrace the falls that come with it, because after each fall comes a higher mountain to climb.
Then, one day, someone will appear in your life, when you're already living these dreams....and you will notice these same doubts, fears, limiting beliefs, and frustrations in them at the start of their journey.
And just like you asked one time, they will come up to you and say "How do you do it?"
And in that moment, you will realize that were are all on this same journey, and every single struggle you went through on this journey...is a normal part of the process.
And you hope, that when you tell them the answer...they are ready to listen.
When your journey begins, you are at a rock bottom in your life. You've been taught to live your life a certain way growing up, you've been playing by the rules, and it hasn't been working out for you. The harder you try, the more things resist against you.
As a result of this, you feel stuck. You are at a low point in your life, you feel stuck, everything you try to do seems to make things get worse.
You're at rock bottom, you are stuck, and you are wanting more.
Then, someone or something comes in your life that gives you belief that the life you are living today is not the way things will always be. This new thing in your life gives you a glimpse of a better future.
In your mind, you have these doubts and thoughts saying that you can't do it...but deep down, there is a gut feeling that you already feel as if you're living that type of life you see this other person living. You have visions in your mind of a better future.
Despite the doubts, this intuition (if you can call it that) lets you know it's a good idea to keep pushing forward.
You now have a dream of a better future, but you aren't convinced it's possible for YOU, and you have no clue where to start. It feels as if you're staring into the darkness, feeling as if any step forward would lead you off a deep, dark cliff, where you would fall and hit your head on every rock on the way down.
So you stay where you are....and you still feel stuck, now with the fear of taking the actions you haven't taken before. The longer you stay in the same place, the longer you think that life you live now looks like the way things are always going to be.
But then you see more and more people living this type of life you dream of living, and the picture of your future in your mind gets more clear. You can see it being more and more possible, but something is missing. All of the people you see living this dream life are already there. They made it sound so easy for them. They did a little bit of work, made a lot of money, and it was easy for them.
So you try to take the shortcut. You see advertisements and articles about a shortcut you can take. With a little bit of work, you can get the same results these people are getting. You are sick of not getting results, so you try to take the shortcut. You follow a step-by-step blueprint that promises to get you there.
Each and every time it leads to a dead end.
You want the quick results, and the quick results never show up, so your doubt in yourself and frustration get stronger.
But by this point, you see so many others living this dream life, where you know it's already out there waiting for you...that you can't go back. Most of society is nice and happy living the mediocre life that most people live, but you've gone too far to turn back, yet you're nowhere near where you want to be.
You are stuck in the middle.
You are stuck in the struggle.
Your friends and family say you are wasting your time, and the more you try to convince them of this "other way of life", the more they resist.
You spend a lot of time reading books, watching motivational videos, and learning, learning, learning. The more you learn, the more you feel good about yourself...but you don't take action on what you learn, and you continue to feel stuck where you are.
I call this "The Learning Loop".
When one idea doesn't work right away, you jump straight to the next one. "It wasn't meant to be", you tell yourself. The more you jump from one idea to another, the more this pattern continues.
Then, eventually, when you commit to this journey and don't give up you will being to meet others who are just like you. They have the same dreams and they are stuck in the same struggles, so you begin to walk the next leg of this journey together.
These mastermind buddies of yours will help you continue working on the same thing when you face a failure, despite the urge to jump ship to something else. They push you to work harder when you want to give up.
They are going through the same struggles as you, and you all feel like you are lost in the darkness, not knowing what to do...but you commit to keep walking forward together.
Then, a mentor appears.
A man or women will appear in your life, and this person will already be living the dream you want to live. They have the money, they have the freedom, they have abundance, they have the happiness. You look up to them as a role model.
This mentor begins to tell you to do things differently than you've been conditioned to do things while growing up. You either choose to embrace those lessons, and do what they say without question, or you resist the new information and try to prove that you are right.
Do you want to be right, or do you want to be rich?
You try, you fail, you fail some more, but because you have the mastermind group of people like you...you don't give up for at least 100 failures...
Then one of you strikes it big....Someone who was in your shoes when you first met is now living the type of life you thought was impossible for any of you, so your belief that it is possible for you gets stronger.
You commit to one thing, you continue to learn as you go, you push through the failures instead of quitting, and you make yourself accountable on a daily basis...that one day, you have your first big breakthrough.
My first app got 2,000 downloads on the first day.
You failed so many times until there are no failures left, and you finally learned how to get things right. And getting things right is just like riding bike....Once you break this small threshold, things continue to go right.
More success.
After enough work after breaking this threshold, you are already living this life you once dreamed of. All of a sudden, the friends and family who you tried to convince that what you were doing was the right way....start to notice your results and you don't feel the need to convince them anymore. They are now envious of you.
You've reached the top of your mountain. You quit your job, leave your old live behind, and you bask in your rewards. You celebrate your success.
You reach the top of the mountain and stop doing what you did to get up there.
Then, you come falling down the mountain, because when you think you're at the top, there is nowhere to go but down.
After this, you are left with a choice - think to yourself "I got lucky this once...it was good while it lasted" or you realize that you can do it faster this time, and do it better.
You learn from your failures, and you adjust...and you keep pushing forward. You remove the old traits that resulted in your fall...and now you can climb the next mountain faster.
The harder you work, and the more committed you become, the more mentors begin appearing in your life. You get to the point where you've done this before, so you can easily and effortlessly spot opportunities, things seem to flow together, you're experienced in your trade...and you begin to climb higher and higher mountain, and you embrace the falls that come with it, because after each fall comes a higher mountain to climb.
Then, one day, someone will appear in your life, when you're already living these dreams....and you will notice these same doubts, fears, limiting beliefs, and frustrations in them at the start of their journey.
And just like you asked one time, they will come up to you and say "How do you do it?"
And in that moment, you will realize that were are all on this same journey, and every single struggle you went through on this journey...is a normal part of the process.
And you hope, that when you tell them the answer...they are ready to listen.
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