Hey guys,
I have done well last few years, graduated, found a job I enjoyed for few years, moved onto another job which was global finance company until my luck finished and I was made redundant.
Since than it has been nothing but bad luck. Due to my past successes (happiness) I am able to keep going and push myself despite rejections left right and centre.
The main issue I am having is, my friends, closest ones seem to be using this time to teach me where I have been going wrong.
I am happy to listen, as soon as I have something to say or I have a positive breakthrough..my friend will let me finish the sentence and completely change the subject as if he does not want to discuss it.
As a result I became very weary, and started looking around to find a lot of vultures which I called my friends. Many angry at me, but yet the answer can not be pinpointed about why they cannot support.
My only thought can be that after years of reaping the rewards of a good salary, holidays, cars, freedom, I never once questioned the moody and miserable mood of my best friend or two. I continued to be myself. Perhaps because it did not bother me, I asked but they would only tell me things that are amazing in their life however their face would say otherwise.
Now few months have passed and I feel extremely alone. If I meet my friends they don’t really ask much, if I discuss something , I never get a response. So I have withdrawn myself.
The last straw was when I contacted a friend that moved away, him and me were very close, now he has a growing family but very successful guy (well seems to me). I discussed my job situation, and his suggestion was to work in a entry level role accepting a salary which is 1/3 of my previous. - I was shocked!!
I clarified if he means temporary, but no he feels I am perfect for this particular role. I mean seriously if I flipped it and told him to do it he would find it so insulting but hey it’s okay to suggest it to me because it’s my passion.
Everyone around me is making me feel I need to do worse than I was before. NO ONE is making me aim higher. Than I realised.. I have no one who believes or even encourages me.
I used to think failures can’t motivate, but I have successful friends who have used my unemployment as a opportunity to make me feel low.
Seriously I would never have guts to suggest to someone to take a 66% pay cut for an entry level job! When I said it’s not good , it’s not going to be enough ...the response was: “yeah but you will enjoy it”
Seriously!? I never said I never enjoyed my previous jobs. These people can’t seriously be looking out for me can they? Oh god the truth is going to hurt so much about friends.
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I have done well last few years, graduated, found a job I enjoyed for few years, moved onto another job which was global finance company until my luck finished and I was made redundant.
Since than it has been nothing but bad luck. Due to my past successes (happiness) I am able to keep going and push myself despite rejections left right and centre.
The main issue I am having is, my friends, closest ones seem to be using this time to teach me where I have been going wrong.
I am happy to listen, as soon as I have something to say or I have a positive breakthrough..my friend will let me finish the sentence and completely change the subject as if he does not want to discuss it.
As a result I became very weary, and started looking around to find a lot of vultures which I called my friends. Many angry at me, but yet the answer can not be pinpointed about why they cannot support.
My only thought can be that after years of reaping the rewards of a good salary, holidays, cars, freedom, I never once questioned the moody and miserable mood of my best friend or two. I continued to be myself. Perhaps because it did not bother me, I asked but they would only tell me things that are amazing in their life however their face would say otherwise.
Now few months have passed and I feel extremely alone. If I meet my friends they don’t really ask much, if I discuss something , I never get a response. So I have withdrawn myself.
The last straw was when I contacted a friend that moved away, him and me were very close, now he has a growing family but very successful guy (well seems to me). I discussed my job situation, and his suggestion was to work in a entry level role accepting a salary which is 1/3 of my previous. - I was shocked!!
I clarified if he means temporary, but no he feels I am perfect for this particular role. I mean seriously if I flipped it and told him to do it he would find it so insulting but hey it’s okay to suggest it to me because it’s my passion.
Everyone around me is making me feel I need to do worse than I was before. NO ONE is making me aim higher. Than I realised.. I have no one who believes or even encourages me.
I used to think failures can’t motivate, but I have successful friends who have used my unemployment as a opportunity to make me feel low.
Seriously I would never have guts to suggest to someone to take a 66% pay cut for an entry level job! When I said it’s not good , it’s not going to be enough ...the response was: “yeah but you will enjoy it”
Seriously!? I never said I never enjoyed my previous jobs. These people can’t seriously be looking out for me can they? Oh god the truth is going to hurt so much about friends.
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