F*ck You Moment?

[sfarieri]

I think I actually finally had my F*ck You moment that @MJ DeMarco describes in UNSCRIPTED . In April 2020, I lost my full-time job as Digital Media Manager due to covid. Since then, I've been learning new skills, reading books (The Millionaire Fastlane and UNSCRIPTED , among others), brushing up on existing skills, applying for jobs, and contemplating working on an app/working for myself.

With the job market being extremely tough and spending months without any luck at nabbing a job, I decided to get my Real Estate license and started taking the 75-hour course in December. I finished the course in February, passed the final exam, and ended up passing the state exam. As I applied for my license, I ended up receiving a full-time job offer and, after some negotiating, for almost what I was making previously at my old job, which was a lot higher than they intended to hire for. I ended up accepting but needed time to get child care. They granted me the time (about 3 1/2 weeks) and I was able to secure child care arrangements for my son. As time ticked on closer to my start date, I started getting a bad feeling about taking the job. Something just didn't sit right with me and I wasn't excited at all to begin. It was eating away at me for days, in the pit of my stomach. I've never NOT been excited to start a job before. A few days ago, I asked about the dress code just to prepare and I was informed of working hours that I was never told about. I was told during the interview that the hours would be 9-5 or 930-530, but was now just told 930-6 pm. After finding out this, I asked if they would mind if I worked through my lunch break (30 mins) so I could leave a little earlier so I can see my son during the week. He's a baby and his bedtime is around 7 pm. If I left the job a 6, I would get home maybe at 645, which makes me being able to see my son for less than 30 minutes a day every week. I didn't receive a response and waited the whole weekend without one. I get an email today saying that they have decided to go with a different candidate and that they were taking back the offer. I felt RELIEVED. I got happy. The anxiety, the eating away at me, disappeared. Part of the anxiety, I believe, was me wanting to do Real Estate since I took the time to do it, but I feared the very real possibility of having a full-time job and doing real estate would leave me to never have time for my son. He's the best thing in my life and I want time with him.

So after I received that bit of news, I felt better. A weight was off my shoulders. I could now work for myself and sell some houses. Know what I did afterward? I called up 2 of my closest friends and told them about my app idea. They were sold on it and wanted to be a part of it. We decided to have a virtual meeting about the first steps and the functionality of the app. I was focused, ready to go, and felt a lot of excitement. I felt like this was my F*ck You moment because after losing the offer, I started taking immediate action to start working on the app and am now fully committed to seeing it through. Working for myself.

What do you think?

 

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[sfarieri]

O vjopl O edvaemmz gopemmz jef nz G*dl Zua nunipv vjev @NK FiNesdu fitdsocit op APTDSOQVIF. Op Eqsom 2020, O mutv nz gamm-voni kuc et Fohovem Nifoe Nepehis fai vu duwof. Topdi vjip, O'wi ciip miespoph pix tlommt, siefoph cuult (Vji Nommoupeosi Getvmepi epf APTDSOQVIF, enuph uvjist), csatjoph aq up iyotvoph tlommt, eqqmzoph gus kuct, epf dupvinqmevoph xusloph up ep eqq/xusloph gus nztimg.

Xovj vji kuc nesliv cioph iyvsinimz vuahj epf tqipfoph nupvjt xovjuav epz madl ev peccoph e kuc, O fidofif vu hiv nz Siem Itvevi modipti epf tvesvif veloph vji 75-juas duasti op Fidincis. O gopotjif vji duasti op Gicsaesz, qettif vji gopem iyen, epf ipfif aq qettoph vji tvevi iyen. Et O eqqmoif gus nz modipti, O ipfif aq sidiowoph e gamm-voni kuc uggis epf, egvis tuni pihuvoevoph, gus emnutv xjev O xet neloph qsiwouatmz ev nz umf kuc, xjodj xet e muv johjis vjep vjiz opvipfif vu josi gus. O ipfif aq eddiqvoph cav piifif voni vu hiv djomf desi. Vjiz hsepvif ni vji voni (ecuav 3 1/2 xiilt) epf O xet ecmi vu tidasi djomf desi essephinipvt gus nz tup. Et voni vodlif up dmutis vu nz tvesv fevi, O tvesvif hivvoph e cef giimoph ecuav veloph vji kuc. Tunivjoph katv fofp'v tov sohjv xovj ni epf O xetp'v iydovif ev emm vu cihop. Ov xet ievoph exez ev ni gus fezt, op vji qov ug nz tvunedj. O'wi piwis PUV ciip iydovif vu tvesv e kuc cigusi. E gix fezt ehu, O etlif ecuav vji fsitt dufi katv vu qsiqesi epf O xet opgusnif ug xusloph juast vjev O xet piwis vumf ecuav. O xet vumf fasoph vji opviswoix vjev vji juast xuamf ci 9-5 us 930-530, cav xet pux katv vumf 930-6 qn. Egvis gopfoph uav vjot, O etlif og vjiz xuamf nopf og O xuslif vjsuahj nz mapdj csiel (30 nopt) tu O duamf miewi e movvmi iesmois tu O dep tii nz tup fasoph vji xiil. Ji't e cecz epf jot cifvoni ot esuapf 7 qn. Og O migv vji kuc e 6, O xuamf hiv juni nezci ev 645, xjodj nelit ni cioph ecmi vu tii nz tup gus mitt vjep 30 nopavit e fez iwisz xiil. O fofp'v sidiowi e sitqupti epf xeovif vji xjumi xiilipf xovjuav upi. O hiv ep ineom vufez tezoph vjev vjiz jewi fidofif vu hu xovj e foggisipv depfofevi epf vjev vjiz xisi veloph cedl vji uggis. O gimv SIMOIWIF. O huv jeqqz. Vji epyoivz, vji ievoph exez ev ni, foteqqiesif. Qesv ug vji epyoivz, O cimoiwi, xet ni xepvoph vu fu Siem Itvevi topdi O vuul vji voni vu fu ov, cav O giesif vji wisz siem quttocomovz ug jewoph e gamm-voni kuc epf fuoph siem itvevi xuamf miewi ni vu piwis jewi voni gus nz tup. Ji't vji citv vjoph op nz mogi epf O xepv voni xovj jon.

Tu egvis O sidiowif vjev cov ug pixt, O gimv civvis. E xiohjv xet ugg nz tjuamfist. O duamf pux xusl gus nztimg epf timm tuni juatit. Lpux xjev O fof egvisxesf? O demmif aq 2 ug nz dmutitv gsoipft epf vumf vjin ecuav nz eqq ofie. Vjiz xisi tumf up ov epf xepvif vu ci e qesv ug ov. Xi fidofif vu jewi e wosvaem niivoph ecuav vji gostv tviqt epf vji gapdvoupemovz ug vji eqq. O xet gudatif, siefz vu hu, epf gimv e muv ug iydovinipv. O gimv moli vjot xet nz G*dl Zua nunipv cideati egvis mutoph vji uggis, O tvesvif veloph onnifoevi edvoup vu tvesv xusloph up vji eqq epf en pux gammz dunnovvif vu tiioph ov vjsuahj. Xusloph gus nztimg.

Xjev fu zua vjopl?

Xuamf vjot gov vji G*dl zua nunipv? @NK FiNesdu

 

[MJ DeMarco]

E G-A nunipv ot vseptoipv epf deatit ephis, cav fuitp'v dunqim metvoph djephi.
E G A iwipv ot vseptdipfipv, epf fuit.

Zuas eptxis xomm upmz ci siwiemif op voni.

 

[Kid]

Xjev fu zua vjopl?

Zua huv huuf xsovoph tvzmi. Ovt sesi gus ni vu sief e xemm ug viyv cav duamfp'v tvuq siefoph zuast. Nezci vsz opdusqusevoph vjot tvuszvimmoph opvu zuas eqq't qsunuvoup.

 

[sfarieri]

E G-A nunipv ot vseptoipv epf deatit ephis, cav fuitp'v dunqim metvoph djephi.
E G A iwipv ot vseptdipfipv, epf fuit.

Zuas eptxis xomm upmz ci siwiemif op voni.

Ej tu O vjopl O'n sigissoph vu vji iwipv. Vjepl zua.

 

[CruxisKnight]

Vjev't hsiev. O juqi zua liiq huoph xovj vji eqq epf siqusv cedl xjip zua esi hipisevoph siwipai

 

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[sfarieri]

Vjev't hsiev. O juqi zua liiq huoph xovj vji eqq epf siqusv cedl xjip zua esi hipisevoph siwipai

Vjepl zua, O eqqsidoevi vjev epf xomm.

 

[sparechange]

Tuapft jussocmi, ati ov et nuvowevoup vu ciduni aptdsoqvif. Vjev xez zua dep tqipf voni xovj zuas tup juxiwis, xjisiwis, epf xjipiwis zua moli.

''Mief mogi, optvief ug MOGI miefoph zua'' NK Nupiz Finesdu