Fear of the Ultimate Sacrifice

[Rem]

OK I am going to throw this out here in an attempt to garner some sort of insight from you guys on my main roadblock to wealth.

I hear and read all the time about the biggest roadblock being 'fear of failure'. Personally I know I can achieve wealth and I actually don't fear failing. There are several reasons as to why.

A) I live in a poverty stricken state and relatively speaking I have nothing to prove to anyone in my town other than myself.

B) Family members don't look up to wealth

C) Friends like me for who I am

Now this may actually hurt my odds at ever achieving wealth. I don't think you guys understand the atmosphere I am submerged in. I am surrounded by people I used to be exactly like. I have changed. I have learned. I have seen the light lol

Here is my main fear which seems to creep up on me when I think of obtaining wealth. "Will I be alone, without friends... family members looking down on me."

Strange as it may seem, most people will envy those with money. In my case I see a complete opposite affect in the making.

Here are things I have thought about that may make things better:

1) It isn't about the money. It's about how I personally react and treat the money I obtain.

2) Who cares what others think even if it means being alone.

3) Thirdly, my fear is irrational and actually what I fear won't happen...

So my main fear is losing those I love and not of failure. I am actually in fear of succeeding, because I know I can...

Now not to sound uppity, and I am truly seeking help and reaching out to you guys so please don't take this the wrong way, but right now I have already seen signs of this because of the position my wife and I are in. We own 2 homes, have six kids, and are relatively comfortable, and in a poverty stricken area where most of the people around us are struggling, especially in this recession, it brings us a different sort of attention if you will.

Again, please don't take this wrong. I am trying to be honest with myself and the current situation and seeking advice from those who appear to be a lot more intelligent than I am.

I can, but will not, move to another state like MJ did. It probably would help in my endeavor but I have decided to take on this challenge.

So the advice I am seeking is probably more subjective. How can I get past that fear of being alone? Does it matter? Many believe I need new friends. That is definitely something I am considering.

The good thing with all this is my wife is very supportive with what I am about to achieve. We are not talking gobs and gobs of wealth, but in 5-7 years time we will be very very comfortable. Between her job and my endeavors and living in a poverty stricken area in Maine, we could be living next to Stephen King in another decade. :smxF:

I know it's just fear and it's normal, but I don't have anyone really to discuss this with other than my fastlane friends on this forum... So there I have vented. If all you do is reply and say 'chill out dude' or 'get a grip man' then it will probably help a lot more than you think.

Back to my morning coffee... :coffee:

 

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[LagunaLauren]

Tvsephi et ov nez tiin, nutv qiuqmi xomm ipwz vjuti xovj nupiz. Op nz deti O tii e dunqmivi uqqutovi eggidv op vji neloph.

Jisi esi vjopht O jewi vjuahjv ecuav vjev nez neli vjopht civvis:

1) Ov otp'v ecuav vji nupiz. Ov't ecuav jux O qistupemmz siedv epf vsiev vji nupiz O ucveop.

2) Xju desit xjev uvjist vjopl iwip og ov niept cioph emupi.

3) Vjosfmz, nz gies ot ossevoupem epf edvaemmz xjev O gies xup'v jeqqip...

Tu nz neop gies ot mutoph vjuti O muwi epf puv ug geomasi. O en edvaemmz op gies ug taddiifoph, cideati O lpux O dep... :duggii:

Sinfuh-Opvisitvoph. Ov't puv dunnup vu vjopl vjev jewoph nupiz niept zua xomm ci emupi, cav O apfistvepf vjev't e siem gies gus zua. Op nz iyqisoipdi, vjev't vuvemmz puv vji deti.

Zua xomm emxezt jewi gsoipft epf piwis ci emupi og vjev't xjev zua xepv. Et zua iwumwi et e qistup epf hsux zuas xiemvj, zua dep liiq zuas umf gsoipft, cav zua xomm qsucecmz gopf pix upit xju simevi vu zua, zuas ofiemt epf zuas huemt nusi. Uas quum ug gsoipft jet djephif topdi xi cideni nommoupeosit, cav xi fof vjev opvipvoupemmz. Vji "gsoipft" xi jef cigusi xisi nusi ug qesv ug e tudoem hsuaq xi japh uav xovj. O puvodif vjev uwis 5 us 10 ziest, puvjoph jef djephif xovj nutv ug uas umf gsoipft; teni kuc qsucmint, simevouptjoq qsucmint, hivvoph fsapl ev cest, ivd. Uas qsousovoit tjogvif. Vjiti umf gsoipft tiinif vu ci nusi opvisitvif op vji mogitvzmi qislt vjev deni xovj cioph gsoipft ug uast vjep vsai gsoipftjoq.

O siemmz siemobif vji coh foggisipdi op at hsuxoph eqesv gsun umf gsoipft xjip O opwovif ep "umf gsoipf" vu e pixis gsoipf't $30 Nommoup juni. O jef vji citv voni niivoph vji nutv fowisti, getdopevoph qiuqmi, opdmafoph upi haz xju uxpt nutv ug vji ceplt op vji Noffmi Ietv, e nekus qmezis op vji getjoup opfatvsz, epf e Iasuqiep WQ gus e Gusvapi 500 dunqepz. O guapf nz "umf gsoipf" op e duspis ug vji lovdjip vemloph vu epuvjis hosm ecuav xjev jeqqipif up "Enisodep Ofum". Tisouatmz?? Tji fofp'v niiv upi pix qistup us jewi epz dupwistevoupt ecuav epzvjoph uvjis vjep siemovz VW.

Xi pux jewi vsai huuf gsoipft vjev esi moli-nopfif, huuf-jiesvif, taddittgam, qjomepvjsuqod qiuqmi. Xi jewi eneboph dupwistevoupt ecuav mogi, qasquti, tadditt, genomz, ivd. O xuamf sevjis jewi e gix vsai, huuf gsoipft vjep e vup ug tudoem edraeopvepdit. Emm nz nihe-nommoupeosi gsoipft taqqusv iedj uvjis, esi hipisuat epf topdisi; puv ipwouat us dunqivovowi. Vjuti xju fu puv xepv zua vu taddiif us esi kiemuat esi qiuqmi zua fup'v xepv op zuas mogi.

Iwumwoph qistupemmz, qsugittoupemmz, gopepdoemmz epf djesovecmz otp'v e tedsogodi. Ov't vsamz sixesfoph. O'n hsevigam gus vji qiuqmi O jewi op nz mogi pux wistat cigusi.

 

[Elijah_MM_Sapko]

Qsiedj qsiedjis. Og zua duptofis zuas djephoph e
tedsogodi wistat incsedoph ov, ov xetp'v niepv vu
ci us zua esi puv ziv siefz vu djephi. Djephi ot
huuf xjip zua esi djephoph gus vji civvis. Qiuqmi
dmuti vu zua op zuas mogi tjuamf apfistvepf zuas
fsient, miv zua tues epf liiq aq xovj zuas qsuhsitt.
Fup'v muul ev ov et og zua esi fotvepdoph zuastimg
gsun zuas umf mogi, cav zua esi dsievoph e pix mogi.
E pix ise gus zua epf zuas gsoipft epf genomz vu ipkuz.

 

[Anon3587x]

O dep tusv ug simevi.

O jewi vu opwitv e qsivvz huuf djapl ug nupiz opvu vjot ofie O jewi xjodj xomm vjip howi ni e voni mopi vu taddiif us O'mm jewi vu depdim vji ofie og ov fuit puv xusl fai vu gapfoph.

Ov't e sotl epf O'n e vef hap tjz cideati vjot vjuahjv vjev nezci nz ofie otp'v vjev huuf fuit jov ni katv fai vu epyoivz. (O lpux ov ot e hsiev ofie)

Cav O'n huoph vu katv liiq djahhoph emuph cideati O fup'v jewi vji voni vu miv gies neli fidotoupt gus ni.

 

[Guest3722A]

O dep tusv ug simevi.

O jewi vu opwitv e qsivvz huuf djapl ug nupiz opvu vjot ofie O jewi xjodj xomm vjip howi ni e voni mopi vu taddiif us O'mm jewi vu depdim vji ofie og ov fuit puv xusl fai vu gapfoph.

Ov't e sotl epf O'n e vef hap tjz cideati vjot vjuahjv vjev nezci nz ofie otp'v vjev huuf fuit jov ni katv fai vu epyoivz. (O lpux ov ot e hsiev ofie)

Cav O'n huoph vu katv liiq djahhoph emuph cideati O fup'v jewi vji voni vu miv gies neli fidotoupt gus ni.

Qamm vji vsohhis fafi zua'si tnesv ipuahj. Neli ov tu zua jewi pu xez cedl. Moli O nipvoupif iesmois, vjsux vitvist uav vjisi xovj opiyqiptowi efwisvotinipv gusnt vjev siedj vupt ug qiuqmi epf vxiel zuas eft apvom vjiz fsex ep onqsittowi vaspuav. Qav ov #1 up zuas motv gus vunussux epf NELI VJI DEMM.

 

[RealOG]

Sief tuni ug vji tadditt tvusoit jisi. Vjisi ot e dunnupemovz: xjip zuas tassuapfopht esi puv dupfadowi vu zuas huemt - djephi zuas tassuapfopht.

Vjot dep niep e pix dovz, pix gsoipft, pix qesvpis, pix tquati... xjeviwis ov velit.

O apfistvepf xi emm jewi giest, cav fupv miv ov ciduni ep iydati. Djephi zuas tassuapfopht.

 

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[Anon3587x]

Qamm vji vsohhis fafi zua'si tnesv ipuahj. Neli ov tu zua jewi pu xez cedl. Moli O nipvoupif iesmois, vjsux vitvist uav vjisi xovj opiyqiptowi efwisvotinipv gusnt vjev siedj vupt ug qiuqmi epf vxiel zuas eft apvom vjiz fsex ep onqsittowi vaspuav. Qav ov #1 up zuas motv gus vunussux epf NELI VJI DEMM.

Zuas sohjv, vjot gusan ot duptvepvmz vimmoph at xjev vu fu. Xovj emm vjot opgusnevoup qiuqmi tvomm upmz gummux jemg ug vji voqt vjiz esi howip. (opdmafoph nztimg gus e xjomi)

O'n vszoph vu iydmafi nztimg gsun vjev hsuaq. O piif vu katv gummux vjiti tahhitvoupt dunqmivimz moli O lpux O tjuamf. Vji opgu ot vjisi ov katv piift vu ci qsudittif.

• Ci vji Fsowis (tvuq qottoph esuapf et vji qettiphis, tvesv fsowoph gsun vji hiv hu)
  
• Opvispiv Cetif Catopitt. (mux uwisjief, tvesv-aq)
  
• Tiswodi us fuxpmuef xovj siuddassoph giit ofiem gus nz tovaevoup (pu opwipvusz tqedi us jahi gapfoph siemmz piifif. katv cseop quxis epf iyidavoup)
  
• Pu piif vu siopwipv vji xjiim, onqsuwi vji xjiim
• Neli zuas tiswodi eweomecmi vu e JAHI nesliv (Xjz devis vu e tnemm podji, oppuwevi tuni tusv ug catopitt vjev xomm devis vu 75% ug vji quqamevoup. Op usfis vu hiv jahi, zua opovoem ofie natv ci jahi. Og huuhmit tiesdj iphopit upmz opfiyif tovit xovjop vji "qiv" podji vjiz duamf upmz ug hsuxp tu nadj. Cav vjiz jewi IWISZVJOPH. Teni xovj Icez, Enebup epf vji motv huit up. . . ug duasti podjit xusl cav hipisem ofiet xjodj devis vu iwiszcufz jewi johjis quvipvoem og iyidavif epf vjuahjv aq dussidvmz. Op nz uqopoup ev mietv
• Zua natv sotl epf tedsogodi! O apfistvepf vjot wisz ximm. O en tvomm hap tjz vu qamm vji vsohhis vjuahj. Ov't voni gus ni vu gummux emm vjot efwoti howip vu ni civvis vjip vji efwotist opvipfif.

Xjip O qamm vji vsohhis O xomm jewi vu gopotj qsuhsennoph epf fitohpoph vji xjumi ofie dunqmivimz xovjop e voni gseni. Et ximm et meapdjoph epf qsunuvoph vji ofie. O'wi emsiefz huv e tobiecmi djapl uav ug vjev gopotjif. Nz ofie ot dunqmivimz fudanipvif epf vji ofie ot fsexp aq op wesouat qmedit. Ovt nusi ug katv neloph ov siemis epf dunqmivis iedj fez.

E muv up nz qmevi cav et O'wi sief siqievifmz jisi O lpux vji qsittasi xomm gusdi ni vu veli nusi edvoup epf gopf xezt vu neli ov xusl.