KingKo
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Hi,
I’m in the middle of a difficult decision and truly wonder if people have gone through the same, would love your guys opinion!
I have a relationship for 6 months now, with a girl I truly melt for. She is so cute. But our backgrounds differ pretty much, briefly:
me travelling around the world, living in Bangkok and Greece for more than 2 years altogether being now an international salesman - She living all her life in a small city with 7000inhabitants, being a teacher for small children.
Her dream is a house and children, to start with within 3years.
My biggest dream now is to succeed as an entrepreneur.
Besides, I want to travel a lot, visiting awesome conferences globally and live partly the year as a digital nomad, managing my business from abroad. I want to create and make a change in the world. I want to meet inspiring people all over the globe. Makes me feel that I'm alive! Deepening myself every day more and more in personal development and philosophy, reading books and create the best version of myself in order to have beautiful roots from my tree of life and enjoy the beautiful fruits from it of richness, wealth, happiness and fulfilment.
All day I question my relationship, which results in me staring at the void a couple of times a day during dinner for example, or having not much sexual interaction anymore and she pondering what's going on. She feels my hesitation, which is indeed 24/7 present on top of my mind. She confronted me with the fact that I don't give her trust for a future perspective. This makes her feel so sad and she starts crying, asking me: 'can you assure me that we will fight for a future together?' when she asks, I'm not able to give an answer, as I question the relation so much, and I start crying for making her feel so bad. This has been going on for a while now and I need to make a decision. It's too much weight for us both to life with this much uncertainty. Besides, she doesn't want to waste here time as she is getting older and wants to make children, or at least, have the perspective that she is together with a man who plans to have children in the near future.
I question:
me working at home listening to bob Dylan and grinding my startup - she being with her local friends from the village going to carnival parties, still frequenting the same pub as 15years ago in her local village
me visiting inspiring fellow entrepreneurs in Barcelona or London - she going to parties where teenagers are fighting drunk for a girl
me not having any touch with her party friends, she not having any touch with my entrepreneurial friends
me being a playboy before, she having a 10year long relationship before
me reading Richard Branson and Elon musk biographies in bed at night before we go to sleep - she going through facebook and snap chat
She respects me for working and is open to joining yearly trips with me. Even though I wonder - if she is not into this travel/business/free world mindset from herself, would she ever really enjoy it?
She tells me I have a big wall around me which protects my emotions because I always had to count on myself in the past, during good and bad times. I question myself:
* is it me who needs to learn to open up more, push myself to join her friends more which I don't feel like?
* am I not ready for a relationship because I first have to start my business and become the person I truly am (an entrepreneur instead of an employee surrounded by small minded people)
* isn't it that plus and min attract each other? She comes from a warm family with tonnes of love, me from a cold individualistic family.
*are our visions to far apart?
*I'm also afraid to become too much business focussed not being able to connect with a girl anymore. This relationship experienced me the warmth and love of somebody who is always there for you. It makes me so much stronger. (been single for a while before) But I can't stay in a relationship out of fear of being alone again of course.
*In case I choose for an entrepreneurial girl, does it really attracts and works - a marriage between two high achievers?
Has anybody been through the same?
What are your thoughts, past actions and results?
Thank for the feedback amigo's!
I’m in the middle of a difficult decision and truly wonder if people have gone through the same, would love your guys opinion!
I have a relationship for 6 months now, with a girl I truly melt for. She is so cute. But our backgrounds differ pretty much, briefly:
me travelling around the world, living in Bangkok and Greece for more than 2 years altogether being now an international salesman - She living all her life in a small city with 7000inhabitants, being a teacher for small children.
Her dream is a house and children, to start with within 3years.
My biggest dream now is to succeed as an entrepreneur.
Besides, I want to travel a lot, visiting awesome conferences globally and live partly the year as a digital nomad, managing my business from abroad. I want to create and make a change in the world. I want to meet inspiring people all over the globe. Makes me feel that I'm alive! Deepening myself every day more and more in personal development and philosophy, reading books and create the best version of myself in order to have beautiful roots from my tree of life and enjoy the beautiful fruits from it of richness, wealth, happiness and fulfilment.
All day I question my relationship, which results in me staring at the void a couple of times a day during dinner for example, or having not much sexual interaction anymore and she pondering what's going on. She feels my hesitation, which is indeed 24/7 present on top of my mind. She confronted me with the fact that I don't give her trust for a future perspective. This makes her feel so sad and she starts crying, asking me: 'can you assure me that we will fight for a future together?' when she asks, I'm not able to give an answer, as I question the relation so much, and I start crying for making her feel so bad. This has been going on for a while now and I need to make a decision. It's too much weight for us both to life with this much uncertainty. Besides, she doesn't want to waste here time as she is getting older and wants to make children, or at least, have the perspective that she is together with a man who plans to have children in the near future.
I question:
me working at home listening to bob Dylan and grinding my startup - she being with her local friends from the village going to carnival parties, still frequenting the same pub as 15years ago in her local village
me visiting inspiring fellow entrepreneurs in Barcelona or London - she going to parties where teenagers are fighting drunk for a girl
me not having any touch with her party friends, she not having any touch with my entrepreneurial friends
me being a playboy before, she having a 10year long relationship before
me reading Richard Branson and Elon musk biographies in bed at night before we go to sleep - she going through facebook and snap chat
She respects me for working and is open to joining yearly trips with me. Even though I wonder - if she is not into this travel/business/free world mindset from herself, would she ever really enjoy it?
She tells me I have a big wall around me which protects my emotions because I always had to count on myself in the past, during good and bad times. I question myself:
* is it me who needs to learn to open up more, push myself to join her friends more which I don't feel like?
* am I not ready for a relationship because I first have to start my business and become the person I truly am (an entrepreneur instead of an employee surrounded by small minded people)
* isn't it that plus and min attract each other? She comes from a warm family with tonnes of love, me from a cold individualistic family.
*are our visions to far apart?
*I'm also afraid to become too much business focussed not being able to connect with a girl anymore. This relationship experienced me the warmth and love of somebody who is always there for you. It makes me so much stronger. (been single for a while before) But I can't stay in a relationship out of fear of being alone again of course.
*In case I choose for an entrepreneurial girl, does it really attracts and works - a marriage between two high achievers?
Has anybody been through the same?
What are your thoughts, past actions and results?
Thank for the feedback amigo's!
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