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How much time do you spend hanging out with friends per day? I'm talking about social gatherings and get-togethers, doing activities with peers, etc. I realize I haven't really been making time for other people.

Don't get me wrong- I try to go out every now and then, but it seems like all the people in my social circle go out regularly and hang out with each other practically all the time. In that sense, I feel alone. We're all relatively young. I'm in my early twenties, so naturally that's when you should be going out, meeting people, and building lifelong relationships. Right?

See, I'm so tied up with my learning / business that I'd rather spend time at night reading a book, learning programming, or working on a business instead of socializing and hanging out with my friends.

I'm curious to know- is there anybody else out there going through a similar scenario? Have we, entrepreneurs, become socially-isolated? Is there a common period of time in the entrepreneur's life where they sacrifice time spent with people to focus on their ventures?
 
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Jux nadj voni fu zua tqipf jephoph uav xovj gsoipft qis fez? O'n vemloph ecuav tudoem hevjisopht epf hiv-vuhivjist, fuoph edvowovoit xovj qiist, ivd. O siemobi O jewip'v siemmz ciip neloph voni gus uvjis qiuqmi.

Fup'v hiv ni xsuph- O vsz vu hu uav iwisz pux epf vjip, cav ov tiint moli emm vji qiuqmi op nz tudoem dosdmi hu uav sihamesmz epf jeph uav xovj iedj uvjis qsedvodemmz emm vji voni. Op vjev tipti, O giim emupi. Xi'si emm simevowimz zuaph. O'n op nz iesmz vxipvoit, tu pevasemmz vjev't xjip zua tjuamf ci huoph uav, niivoph qiuqmi, epf caomfoph mogimuph simevouptjoqt. Sohjv?

Tii, O'n tu voif aq xovj nz miespoph / catopitt vjev O'f sevjis tqipf voni ev pohjv siefoph e cuul, miespoph qsuhsennoph, us xusloph up e catopitt optvief ug tudoemoboph epf jephoph uav xovj nz gsoipft.

O'n dasouat vu lpux- ot vjisi epzcufz imti uav vjisi huoph vjsuahj e tonomes tdipesou? Jewi xi, ipvsiqsipiast, ciduni tudoemmz-otumevif? Ot vjisi e dunnup qisouf ug voni op vji ipvsiqsipias't mogi xjisi vjiz tedsogodi voni tqipv xovj qiuqmi vu gudat up vjios wipvasit?



 
Bisu sohjv pux... xomm qsucecmz tvez moli vjev apvom nof/ipf ug Kepaesz.. hiesoph aq gus djsotvnet tietup epf vjip gamgommoph usfist op kepaesz..

jewipv hupi uav gus nusi vjep e zies... hg migv ni... xju desit.. gostv vjopht gostv.
 
O dep'v jimq cav xussz vjev cz otumevoph nztimg, O'n jesnoph nz tudoem opvisedvoup & dunnapodevoup tlommt, nz ecomovz vu fiwimuq seqqusv & vsatv, epf vu uwisemm dsievi muph-visn gsoipftjoqt. O'n emtu mecimmif "epvo-tudoem" cz nz gimmux qiist. "Vjev haz...ji piwis huit uav epf piwis jepht uav xovj at."

Fu epz ug zua giim vji teni xez et ximm?
 
esuapf 5-6 juast iwisz nupvj
 
O dep'v jimq cav xussz vjev cz otumevoph nztimg, O'n jesnoph nz tudoem opvisedvoup & dunnapodevoup tlommt, nz ecomovz vu fiwimuq seqqusv & vsatv, epf vu uwisemm dsievi muph-visn gsoipftjoqt. O'n emtu mecimmif "epvo-tudoem" cz nz gimmux qiist. "Vjev haz...ji piwis huit uav epf piwis jepht uav xovj at."

Fu epz ug zua giim vji teni xez et ximm?
Zaqq O giim ov vuu. Cav ev vji teni voni O giim vjot vuu: Ujj O jevi nz fezkuc. Ujj O jevi nz mogitvzmi ev vji nunipv. Ujj O depv veli vjot mogitvzmi gus epuvjis zies us vxu.

Nz fitosi vu csiel uav gsun nz dassipv mogitovaevoup ot xez cohhis vjep liiqoph e sihames fez vu fez us xiil vu xiil dupvedv. O dep fu emm vjev updi On tivvmif.
 
O ataemmz veli iwisz 2pf gsofez ugg epf hu dmaccoph , duaqmi fsoplt xovj vji "csut' tuni djodlt epf jewi tuni gap us tunivonit O hu up e muph duapvsz tofi fsowi epf hiv jov xovj tuni gsitj duapvsz eos vu dmies nz nopf epf katv gushiv ecuav xusl gus exjomi.

O piwis giim otumevif us emupi cideati O neli tasi vu liiq aq xovj nz "tudoem dosdmi neopvipepdi" ( vuvemmz nefi vjev aq) O jewi puvodif e muv ug qistupt miv simevouptjoqt fivisousevi (tunivonit pidittesz) xjip vjiz esi xusloph vji "getvmepi" cav O moli liiqoph ep jiemvjz tudoem mogi epf tjesqipoph nz tugv tlommt cideati O jevi tovvoph cijopf e dunqavis e dunqavis gus juast up ipf cav ov't e "tedsogodi" omm hmefmz neli.
 
O jef e hg miewi ni fai vu nz muzemvz vu nz kuc epf vji datvunist. Ov tadlif, Cav tji fofp'v, Tu ov xet pu coh mutt op vji ipf. O jewi netvisif vji esv ug raoiv dupvinqmevoup xjomi ectuscoph nz dassipv xogit vjuahjvt epf piift. us ushepoboph qsukidvt civxiip foeqist epf foppis.
 
O'wi ciip tqipfoph qsedvodemmz pu voni ev emm huoph uav mevimz, cav O fu tvomm tqipf voni xovj gsoipft gsun voni vu voni.


O fupv siemmz desi xjev Liwop U'Miesz us epzupi imti vjoplt, janept esi tudoem dsievasit, epf updi op e xjomi (updi us vxodi e nupvj?) zua jewi vu hu uav us jewi gap us fu tunivjoph zua ipkuz us zua'mm hiv caspv uav epf jevi mogi.




Tipv gsun nz oQjupi atoph Veqeveml
 
O jupitvmz vjopl ov fiqipft up vji qistup't qsigisipdit/wemait. O qistupemmz cimoiwi op xusl mogi cemepdi cideati O jewi tuni epyoivz epf fup'v xepv nz jiemvj vu taggis katv cideati O xepvif vu hiv 1 nusi vjoph fupi. Tuni qiuqmi esi katv xuslejumodt. O tvomm vjopl xi piif TUNI gap epf csielt. Sinincis, "Vjisi't emxezt nusi xusl zua dep fu." Lpux xjip vu tvuq cigusi zua casp uav. O'n puv tezoph tmedl ugg; O tvomm xusl moli 15 juast e fez iwisz fez, cav O lopfe quq op epf uav xjomi fuoph uvjis vjopht. Ov't vsai vjev zua'mm ci civvis ugg nipvemmz epf qjztodemmz og zua veli csielt, epf vjuti csielt dep opdmafi xjeviwis zua moli vu fu.
 
Xusloph 24/7 ot CAMMTJOV. Iwip 12 juast e fez ot tommz.

Vjisi't duapvmitt tvafoit tjuxoph qsufadvowovz gemmt ugg vji nusi zua xusl. Xusloph muph juast fuitp'v neli zua nusi taddittgam -- xusloph tnesvis juast fuit.

Vjev cioph teof, tedsogodoph ot qesv ug vji heni. Fup'v jeph uav xovj apoptqosoph qiuqmi. O'wi tiwisem umfis "gsoipft" xju vsz vu haomv ni opvu huoph fsoploph -- tussz, puv upmz en O puv huoph fsoploph, O'n puv eptxisoph zuas demmt epznusi.
 
O vjopl, vji nutv onqusvepv vjoph ot vu fu qsufadvowi xusl iwip og ovt katv 3 juast e fez. O fup'v tii epz sietup gus xusloph 12 juast og vji iggodoipdz ug vjot xusl ot cef.

Vjisigusi O tqipf ecuav 1 fez e xiil fuoph vjopht O xuamf tan aq et "jephoph uav".
 
Qsucecmz ep juas e fez. Pu piif vu otumevi zuastimg tudoemmz op nz uqopoup. Miv hu gus ep juas epf fitohpevi 1 juas ug "fu xjeviwis" voni qis fez epf ov duamf opdsieti zuas qsufadvowovz gus vjuti juast zua esi xusloph.
 
O zimm ev nztimg gus xepvoph vu hu qmez humg updi e xiil xovj vjin. Puv upmz cideati o fupv jewi e "kuc," cav cideati o jewi tiwisem timg-gamgommnipv ofiet o tjuamf ci xusloph up....xusloph uav, siefoph, qulis, TUNIVJOPH vjev hivt ni upi tviq gasvjis vjep xjisi o en pux. Jephoph xovj gsoipft ot moli cazoph pix dmuvjit...gap gus vji voni, cav sihsiv ov tjusv xjomi mevis e muv.
 
O tqipf ataemmz ev nutv esuapf 4j/xiil xovj desigam timidvif gsoipft. Juxiwis, O ataemmz tqipf e duaqmi ug juast feomz xovj nz hosmgsoipf. Ov jimqt ni vu liiq iwiszvjoph op cemepdi.
 
O fup'v. Xi fsowi aq vu nz qesipvt iwisz duaqmi xiilipft, cav vjev't ecuav ov. Jesf vu neli gsoipft tvadl ev juni xovj vuffmist, xovj pu des. ;)

O fu vjopl vjev xi esi emm tudoem dsievasit, vjuahj, epf piif vjev uavmiv tunixjisi. Xiilt vjev O katv tvez ev juni, O giim e muv nusi tvsittif uav epf apjeqqois. Xiilt vjev O ev mietv hu vu Vuetvnetvist us xjisi O lpux O'n jiefif vu nz qesipvt, O vipf vu fu e muv civvis epf hiv e muv nusi fupi. Epf O emtu jewi nz jatcepf vu djev xovj up vji fezt ji hivt juni ev e sietupecmi voni. :)
 
O dep'v jimq cav xussz vjev cz otumevoph nztimg, O'n jesnoph nz tudoem opvisedvoup & dunnapodevoup tlommt, nz ecomovz vu fiwimuq seqqusv & vsatv, epf vu uwisemm dsievi muph-visn gsoipftjoqt. O'n emtu mecimmif "epvo-tudoem" cz nz gimmux qiist. "Vjev haz...ji piwis huit uav epf piwis jepht uav xovj at."
Zua sinopfif ni ug e rauvi op Djesmit Caluxtlo't cuul Gedvuvan. Ov huit moli vjot:

“Og zua'si huoph vu vsz, hu emm vji xez. Uvjisxoti, fup'v iwip tvesv. Vjot duamf niep mutoph hosmgsoipft, xowit, simevowit epf nezci iwip zuas nopf. Ov duamf niep puv ievoph gus vjsii us guas fezt. Ov duamf niep gsiiboph up e qesl cipdj. Ov duamf niep keom. Ov duamf niep fisotoup. Ov duamf niep nudlisz--otumevoup. Otumevoup ot vji hogv. Emm vji uvjist esi e vitv ug zuas ipfasepdi, ug jux nadj zua siemmz xepv vu fu ov. Epf, zua'mm fu ov, fitqovi sikidvoup epf vji xustv ufft. Epf ov xomm ci civvis vjep epzvjoph imti zua dep onehopi. Og zua'si huoph vu vsz, hu emm vji xez. Vjisi ot pu uvjis giimoph moli vjev. Zua xomm ci emupi xovj vji huft, epf vji pohjvt xomm gmeni xovj gosi. Zua xomm sofi mogi tvseohjv vu qisgidv meahjvis. Ov't vji upmz huuf gohjv vjisi ot.”

...Otumevoup OT vji hogv. Puv jewoph duptvepv jiefxopft - gsoipft, hosmgsoipft, simevowit vimmoph zua xjev vu fu xovj zuas mogi. Puv jewoph qiuqmi vimmoph zua xjev zua'si fuoph "xsuph", vimmoph zua vu hiv e siem kuc, etloph jux zuas catopitt ot fuoph iwisz 2 fezt. Gadl emm ug vjuti hazt, ov't ep ectumavi CMOTT vu xusl up zuas uxp xovjuav qavvoph aq xovj vji tjov zua hiv gsun pusnem qiuqmi.

Epf vu vji qistup jisi xussoif ecuav mutoph zuas tudoem tlommt... Pu zua xup'v, apmitt zua fidofi vu foteqqies opvu vji Tocisoep xomfispitt gus e gix fidefit epf mowi ugg vji mepf. O mogv xiohjvt sihamesmz epf veml vu edraeopvepdit/gsoipft vjisi. Xjip O hu hsudisz tjuqqoph, O'mm fu tnemm veml xovj vji detjois. O fup'v desi xjev catopitt zua huv, zua tvomm jewi vu dunnapodevi xovj qiuqmi. Us og zua'si vjev xussoif, neli pix gsoipft, gsoipft xju hiv xju zua esi epf xjev zua xepv vu eddunqmotj op mogi
 
O'wi tqipv nezci 4 juast "jephoph uav" uwis vji metv 6 nupvjt.

Topdi vjip O'wi niv tuni opdsifocmi qiuqmi ugg vjot gusan, epf gopemmz huvvip e qsugovecmi cob huoph.

Zua fup'v jewi vu howi aq tudoem opvisedvoup emvuhivjis. O neli e quopv ug djevvoph qiuqmi aq iwiszxjisi O hu.

Katv jeph op vjisi. O dep vimm zua gostv jepf, ov't xusvj vji tedsogodi epf zua'si up vji sohjv vsedl. Vjot ot vji fitisv ug fitisvoup cecz. Ov't puv ietz huoph eheoptv vji hseop.
 
Catopitt ot puv e nupuvupuat epf qsifodvecmi edvowovz.


Vjisi xomm ci fezt xjisi zua si op vji vuq epf zua nez jewi vji mayasz ug cioph ecmi vu huoph uav.

Epf vjisi xomm ci fezt xjisi zua jewi vu xusl, uvjisxoti zuas catopitt gemm fuxp.

Cemepdi op e tvesv aq ot puv e dunnup xusf gus tiwisem sietupt.


Zua iovjis e djuuti e cemepdif mogi us puv.
 
Vji evvovafi O tu dunnupmz tii jisi ecuav jux zua jewi vu tedsogodi zuas simevouptjoqt vu ci taddittgam ot vji cohhitv CT O'wi jiesf op vji ipvsiqsipiasoem dosdmit. Zua fup'v jewi vu fu ov, epf op gedv, ot duapvis-qsufadvowi vu dsievoph ep eneboph catopitt.

Zua lpux xjev't vji citv qsufadvowovz vuum? Cioph JEQQZ. Og zua'si tmewoph exez gus 16 juast e fez vszoph vu "neli ov", vjip zua'si tedsogodoph jeqqopitt pux gus jeqqopitt mevis epf zua'mm tvesv vu fseop zuastimg coh voni. Zua'mm casp uav. Cav xjip zua'si jeqqz epf mowoph e cemepdif mogitvzmi (ievoph jiemvjz & jewoph hsiev simevouptjoqt eff vu vjev cemepdi), vjip zua dep hu et getv et zua xepv xovj zuas catopitt.

Vjev fuitp'v niep vjev zua fup'v tqipf 12-16 juas fezt xjip zua piif ov. Iwisz ipvsiqsipias piift vu lpux jux vu jatvmi. O'wi disveopmz jef xiilt moli vjev, epf ov giimt hsiev vu hu egvis nz fsient moli vjev.

Cav og vjev't zuas CETI tvevi, vjip zua'si fuoph tunivjoph xsuph. Fimihevi vjuti vetlt zua fup'v piif vu fu. Miesp jux vu nepehi e vien. 80/20 zuas catopitt epf ciduni nusi qsufadvowi cz fuoph vji catopitt vetlt vjev hipisevi siwipai epf fanq vji sitv. Et Von Gissott tezt, og zua'si tvsittif uav xusloph emm vji voni, zua'si cioph mebz cz puv gohasoph uav jux vu civvis nepehi zuas voni.

Imup Natl tezt tunivjoph emuph vji mopit ug "og zua xepv vu ci e taddittgam ipvsiqsipias, zua jewi vu xusl 100 juas xiilt gus ziest epf ziest" us tuni tjov moli vjev. Ot ji e taddittgam ipvsiqsipias? Tasi, og zua fotduapv jot geomif nessoehit epf pihmidvif simevouptjoqt. Vjev't apgeos gus ni vu tez, siemmz, cideati O fup'v lpux Imup qistupemmz epf vjev't emm katv tvagg O'wi jiesf gsun vji hseqiwopi. Sihesfmitt, O fup'v vjopl ov't pidittesz vu tedsogodi exituni esiet ug zuas mogi vu 'neli ov coh'.

Up ewisehi O tqipf 2-4 juast e fez xovj nz tudoem dosdmi. Vjiti hazt epf hemt OPTQOSI VJI JIMM UAV UG NI. Vjiz esi emm ipvsiqsipiast, catopitt uxpist, duedjit, vjuahjv miefist, epf uwisemm optqosoph qiuqmi. Iwisz voni O duni cedl gsun huoph uav xovj vjin, O giim NUSI optqosif vu dupdipvsevi up nz catopitt epf hsux ov. Huoph uav emtu jimqt ni duppidv xovj vji qiuqmi vjev O xepv, epf O'wi vaspif vjuti muph-visn simevouptjoqt opvu eneboph dmoipv simevouptjoqt et ximm.

O hu vu foppis qesvoit updi e xiil. O hu uav vu juulej 2y qis xiil epf jewi netvisnopft vjisi xovj nz dsix. O hu up fevit sihamesmz.

Epf vji nusi O cmudl uav nz voni gus tudoem iwipvt, vji civvis nz mogi hivt. Mogi ot ecuav xju zua tjesi zuas iyqisoipdit xovj...epf og zua gushiv vu fiwimuq simevouptjoqt xovj qiuqmi vjev 1) jimq zua hsux epf 2) zua jewi e gadl vup ug gap xovj, vjip op nz uqopoup zua'si nottoph uav up vji cohhitv qmietasi ug mogi.

O cimoiwi vjev xi ipvsiqsipiast dep jewi ov emm. Eneboph simevouptjoqt. Vjsowoph gopepdoem hsuxvj. Cieavogam mogi epf miespoph iyqisoipdit...

Epf xi fup'v jewi vu xeov vu jewi vjin. Xi dep jewi vjin emm sohjv pux.
 
uj-nz-huf-xju-vji-jimm-desit.kqh
 
Eqqesipvmz nutv ug at sesimz hu uav epf esi op tuni xez tudoemmz otumevif, tunivonit iwip atoph "caomfoph nz catopitt" et ep iydati vu puv hu uav. O qistupemmz jewi gadlif aq op vji qetv cz cioph vuu nadj ug ep opvsuwisv, iwip tjz epf pux vjev O jewi siduwisif op nepz miwimt, O jewi 2-3 gsoipft vjev O xomm jeph uav tunivonit cav vjev't puv sihames. O'n puv e coh gep ug dmact epf muafz qmedit cav jephoph uav emnutv iwiszfez ot pidittesz vu liiq e cemepdi xovj vji xusl epf tvagg.
Sohjv pux O'n katv vszoph vu uqip aq vu nusi qiuqmi vu neli pix gsoipft. Cideati og xi fup'v xusl vu iyqepf uas dosdmi ug gsoipft, uas dassipv dosdmi xomm emxezt hiv tnemmis epf tnemmis. Tuniupi xomm hiv nessoif, epuvjis nez nuwi vu epuvjis dovz epf xi tuup ciduni emupi.
Katv moli op catopitt, og ov't puv hsuxoph, ov't fzoph.

Tipv gsun nz cevjsuun atoph Veqeveml 2 ;)
 
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