Hello Everyone,
I just wanted to start by saying a huge thank you to MJ and everyone on this forum. Not to sound melodramatic but I have spent most of my life believing that I am completely different from everyone else. Like an alien who just 'doesn't get it'. That was until I read the fastlane millionaire and began reading posts on this forum.
A little about me, I'm 32 years old and live in the UK. Until recently I have been studying for an advanced degree within the mental health field. I have worked so hard for this and now I have what would be regarded as a 'good' job. However, the job does not pay nearly enough for the workload/responsibility involved and I also feel like all I ever do is work and then spend my weekends 'catching up' with all the other boring parts of life (cooking, cleaning, appointments etc).
I also have a partner who works hard and has what would be regarded as a 'good' job, however I don't think we are really enjoying life to the fullest as all we seem to do is try to save for a house (we live in an area where house prices are crazy high) with the rest going on bills, groceries etc. This has always bothered me but I guess as a long term student I felt that my time was more my own and it was up to me to structure my day rather than follow an employers schedule.
I actually read the fastlane back in June but as usual I have been procrastinating over doing anything further. I have been thinking a lot recently about the reasons why I don't take things further (especially since part of my job is motivating others and supporting them in overcoming problems). Here are just some of the barriers I think are getting in my way:
1. Confidence - maybe I'm just not all that good, what will others think
2. Over complicating things - this is a biggy I feel like I need to know everything before I embark on something new and that I am always looking for the things that could go wrong and then talking myself out of it.
3. "Someone else has already done it" -having an idea then searching extensively until I find someone who has done something similar and talking myself out of it as I believe that they have already done it to a decent standard.
3. Fear - what happens if things don't work out
4. Avoidance - due to the above reasons I make many many excuses a to why I would need to wait.
Anyway I've decided that I either need to do something about my current situation or else accept how things are and stop moaning about it (it's not like I have a terrible life or anything).
I do have a couple of ideas, my first idea would be in the area of mental health. There is a definite need and the entry level is set fairly high. The problem is that I don't have a definite idea yet and I think the problems I would run into would be around scale and time. I would like to do something in this area as I would then feel that the last 15 years of my life were not a waste of time plus I do genuinely enjoy this field.
My second idea is in an area which I know fairly little about, however again I think there would be a need in this area and also I think there would be good scope to expand on it. The biggest problem I think would be the entry as it isn't particularly skilled. I know that others are doing it but I don't think they are doing it all that well.
Ok so I ended up writing more than I thought! Just wanted to get something down so that I could start to feel more accountable. I'm hoping to start a progress thread at some point. It would be great if someday I was able to give back to this forum as you guys really have been very inspirational.
Lily
I just wanted to start by saying a huge thank you to MJ and everyone on this forum. Not to sound melodramatic but I have spent most of my life believing that I am completely different from everyone else. Like an alien who just 'doesn't get it'. That was until I read the fastlane millionaire and began reading posts on this forum.
A little about me, I'm 32 years old and live in the UK. Until recently I have been studying for an advanced degree within the mental health field. I have worked so hard for this and now I have what would be regarded as a 'good' job. However, the job does not pay nearly enough for the workload/responsibility involved and I also feel like all I ever do is work and then spend my weekends 'catching up' with all the other boring parts of life (cooking, cleaning, appointments etc).
I also have a partner who works hard and has what would be regarded as a 'good' job, however I don't think we are really enjoying life to the fullest as all we seem to do is try to save for a house (we live in an area where house prices are crazy high) with the rest going on bills, groceries etc. This has always bothered me but I guess as a long term student I felt that my time was more my own and it was up to me to structure my day rather than follow an employers schedule.
I actually read the fastlane back in June but as usual I have been procrastinating over doing anything further. I have been thinking a lot recently about the reasons why I don't take things further (especially since part of my job is motivating others and supporting them in overcoming problems). Here are just some of the barriers I think are getting in my way:
1. Confidence - maybe I'm just not all that good, what will others think
2. Over complicating things - this is a biggy I feel like I need to know everything before I embark on something new and that I am always looking for the things that could go wrong and then talking myself out of it.
3. "Someone else has already done it" -having an idea then searching extensively until I find someone who has done something similar and talking myself out of it as I believe that they have already done it to a decent standard.
3. Fear - what happens if things don't work out
4. Avoidance - due to the above reasons I make many many excuses a to why I would need to wait.
Anyway I've decided that I either need to do something about my current situation or else accept how things are and stop moaning about it (it's not like I have a terrible life or anything).
I do have a couple of ideas, my first idea would be in the area of mental health. There is a definite need and the entry level is set fairly high. The problem is that I don't have a definite idea yet and I think the problems I would run into would be around scale and time. I would like to do something in this area as I would then feel that the last 15 years of my life were not a waste of time plus I do genuinely enjoy this field.
My second idea is in an area which I know fairly little about, however again I think there would be a need in this area and also I think there would be good scope to expand on it. The biggest problem I think would be the entry as it isn't particularly skilled. I know that others are doing it but I don't think they are doing it all that well.
Ok so I ended up writing more than I thought! Just wanted to get something down so that I could start to feel more accountable. I'm hoping to start a progress thread at some point. It would be great if someday I was able to give back to this forum as you guys really have been very inspirational.
Lily
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