- Joined
- Nov 14, 2011
- Messages
- 2,486
Rep Bank
$5,040
$5,040
User Power: 433%
Theres going to come a point on your journey where you'll reach a final test before you reach the next level.
"My friends and family are holding me back. I try to convince them, but they won't change."
...but in reality, it is only you who needs to change.
At this point of the journey, you've already woken up, you know that there is something great out there waiting for you in life, and you've already began to make this internal shift and realized that it's possible for you think to becoming successful.
You haven't been there yet, but you know it's there.
We all go through that phase where we have woken up, yet our friends and family have not.
The harder you try to convince them, they more they resist.
Remember on this journey to keep the focus on you and your growth.
When you change yourself, the rest will take care of itself.
Everything you notice in your world around you is a symbolic representation and projection of your own unconscious mind.
I know it might sound kind of trippy that your friends and family resisting your desire to change them is actually symbolic of part of you resisting change.
If you want your outside world to change, you must be the change and the rest will follow.
Imagine for a moment that the life you are living now is as if you've been born into a tribe on some island in the middle of the ocean. You hear tales of abundance and prosperity across the ocean into the distance, but you haven't seen it yourself.
At first, you didn't know it existed. Then, you hear more and more stories and believe that it's there. But can someone like you make it? Have you been there yourself, or are you telling a secondhand tale?
The question I have for you is this: Are you already getting the results in your life that you want to get?
When you realize that it's possible for anyone to get there, you've been woken up. At this stage, your natural inclination is to wake up your friends and family and bring them along with you.
There you all are are, on this island, the only island anyone in your tribe has ever known for generations on end, and you come running along telling others to swim off into the cold dark ocean with you to a place you've never been before.
On this island, they have food. They have comfort. They have security.
Why would they risk it all to swim into the dark ocean on a secondhand story told by a person (you) who hasn't been there yourself?
A wise man once told me, if you want to change others, you must change yourself first.
You can spend your time trying to convince others, but they aren't ready. I tell you this because I've done this before.
Do you want to know what it took for them to finally listen to me?
I realized that in order to live the life I wanted to live, I had to jump in the cold, dark ocean and begin swimming and get there myself.
When they see me get there, they will believe.
But I had to do the scary thing and leave the old behind before I was able to bring in the new.
I swam and I swam, with no land in sight. Soon enough, I'm in the middle of nowhere. The island behind me disappeared, and I hear the voices of my friends and family in my ears "You're wasting your time. The life you were born into is all that exists. You should turn back now. Be realistic."
But you know there is no turning back.
At this point, talking back would waste my breath. So I kept swimming.
I stopped listening to those voices and trusted my inner compass. And then one day, after you swim long enough, just when the night is the darkest, the sun rises and you see the mainland.
As you get closer, you swim faster and you make it there.
When those around me saw me make that transition first hand and live that life I told was possible, instead of just talking about it; when they began to wake up.
Symbolic Projections of Your Unconscious
I'm going to lead you into some advanced neuroscience learnings that you'll learn in more detail later in this book.
The world around us has no attached meaning.
Those meaning you attach to the events around you are nothing more than projections from the deepest parts of your unconscious mind.
When you see others around you not waking up, it is actually a projection that you haven't made that full transformation yourself. You're almost there, but they are the ones that are the final test.
The test goes as follows: You are at a crossroads to cling on to the old version of reality that you've been stuck in all along, or you can choose to let it go and make room for the new.
When you leave the old behind, that is the symbolic shift in your mind that you've finally let go of the old, and are ready to reach the next level of YOUR journey.
It's not until after you make that leap until you begin to notice new people appear in your life. These new people will be on this journey, just like you, and they will be the ones that will help you reach the level after that.
Once again, the new people who are about to appear in your life are going to do the things and say the things that represent this new level you have just reached.
It starts with YOU letting go, now...
Whether you make room for this new life you've been wanting to life, or if you continue to cling on to the old...the choice is yours.
Your friends won't disappear forever.
A funny thing happened to me the last time I made that leap into the new. I noticed a friend of mine wasn't progressing on his journey. For months on end, I tried to tell him to work harder.
But in reality, I wasn't working harder myself (what I saw in him was my unconscious attaching a meaning to something I needed to work on in my life).
When I let him go, and began working harder than ever before, I reached the point where I was making $300-$1,600 per day for a couple of weeks straight with my business.
A month after I made that shift, I heard back from this old friend. The interesting thing is that when I made the shift, he caught up a few weeks later.
Think of what you're doing right now not as saying goodbye to your friends. It's more of a vacation where you can say "See you later."
A really cool analogy someone else made was thinking of it like a racetrack. You're with one pack of cars and you finally decide to step on the accelerator.
When your friends see you moving faster and up ahead, they'll want to catch up.
It all starts with you making this next change, and has nothing to do with them.
The focus has been, and always will be with your growth and you taking this next step, now, on your journey to success.
"My friends and family are holding me back. I try to convince them, but they won't change."
...but in reality, it is only you who needs to change.
At this point of the journey, you've already woken up, you know that there is something great out there waiting for you in life, and you've already began to make this internal shift and realized that it's possible for you think to becoming successful.
You haven't been there yet, but you know it's there.
We all go through that phase where we have woken up, yet our friends and family have not.
The harder you try to convince them, they more they resist.
Remember on this journey to keep the focus on you and your growth.
When you change yourself, the rest will take care of itself.
Everything you notice in your world around you is a symbolic representation and projection of your own unconscious mind.
I know it might sound kind of trippy that your friends and family resisting your desire to change them is actually symbolic of part of you resisting change.
If you want your outside world to change, you must be the change and the rest will follow.
Imagine for a moment that the life you are living now is as if you've been born into a tribe on some island in the middle of the ocean. You hear tales of abundance and prosperity across the ocean into the distance, but you haven't seen it yourself.
At first, you didn't know it existed. Then, you hear more and more stories and believe that it's there. But can someone like you make it? Have you been there yourself, or are you telling a secondhand tale?
The question I have for you is this: Are you already getting the results in your life that you want to get?
When you realize that it's possible for anyone to get there, you've been woken up. At this stage, your natural inclination is to wake up your friends and family and bring them along with you.
There you all are are, on this island, the only island anyone in your tribe has ever known for generations on end, and you come running along telling others to swim off into the cold dark ocean with you to a place you've never been before.
On this island, they have food. They have comfort. They have security.
Why would they risk it all to swim into the dark ocean on a secondhand story told by a person (you) who hasn't been there yourself?
A wise man once told me, if you want to change others, you must change yourself first.
You can spend your time trying to convince others, but they aren't ready. I tell you this because I've done this before.
Do you want to know what it took for them to finally listen to me?
I realized that in order to live the life I wanted to live, I had to jump in the cold, dark ocean and begin swimming and get there myself.
When they see me get there, they will believe.
But I had to do the scary thing and leave the old behind before I was able to bring in the new.
I swam and I swam, with no land in sight. Soon enough, I'm in the middle of nowhere. The island behind me disappeared, and I hear the voices of my friends and family in my ears "You're wasting your time. The life you were born into is all that exists. You should turn back now. Be realistic."
But you know there is no turning back.
At this point, talking back would waste my breath. So I kept swimming.
I stopped listening to those voices and trusted my inner compass. And then one day, after you swim long enough, just when the night is the darkest, the sun rises and you see the mainland.
As you get closer, you swim faster and you make it there.
When those around me saw me make that transition first hand and live that life I told was possible, instead of just talking about it; when they began to wake up.
Symbolic Projections of Your Unconscious
I'm going to lead you into some advanced neuroscience learnings that you'll learn in more detail later in this book.
The world around us has no attached meaning.
Those meaning you attach to the events around you are nothing more than projections from the deepest parts of your unconscious mind.
When you see others around you not waking up, it is actually a projection that you haven't made that full transformation yourself. You're almost there, but they are the ones that are the final test.
The test goes as follows: You are at a crossroads to cling on to the old version of reality that you've been stuck in all along, or you can choose to let it go and make room for the new.
When you leave the old behind, that is the symbolic shift in your mind that you've finally let go of the old, and are ready to reach the next level of YOUR journey.
It's not until after you make that leap until you begin to notice new people appear in your life. These new people will be on this journey, just like you, and they will be the ones that will help you reach the level after that.
Once again, the new people who are about to appear in your life are going to do the things and say the things that represent this new level you have just reached.
It starts with YOU letting go, now...
Whether you make room for this new life you've been wanting to life, or if you continue to cling on to the old...the choice is yours.
Your friends won't disappear forever.
A funny thing happened to me the last time I made that leap into the new. I noticed a friend of mine wasn't progressing on his journey. For months on end, I tried to tell him to work harder.
But in reality, I wasn't working harder myself (what I saw in him was my unconscious attaching a meaning to something I needed to work on in my life).
When I let him go, and began working harder than ever before, I reached the point where I was making $300-$1,600 per day for a couple of weeks straight with my business.
A month after I made that shift, I heard back from this old friend. The interesting thing is that when I made the shift, he caught up a few weeks later.
Think of what you're doing right now not as saying goodbye to your friends. It's more of a vacation where you can say "See you later."
A really cool analogy someone else made was thinking of it like a racetrack. You're with one pack of cars and you finally decide to step on the accelerator.
When your friends see you moving faster and up ahead, they'll want to catch up.
It all starts with you making this next change, and has nothing to do with them.
The focus has been, and always will be with your growth and you taking this next step, now, on your journey to success.
Dislike ads? Become a Fastlane member:
Subscribe today and surround yourself with winners and millionaire mentors, not those broke friends who only want to drink beer and play video games. :-)
Membership Required: Upgrade to Expose Nearly 1,000,000 Posts
Ready to Unleash the Millionaire Entrepreneur in You?
Become a member of the Fastlane Forum, the private community founded by best-selling author and multi-millionaire entrepreneur MJ DeMarco. Since 2007, MJ DeMarco has poured his heart and soul into the Fastlane Forum, helping entrepreneurs reclaim their time, win their financial freedom, and live their best life.
With more than 39,000 posts packed with insights, strategies, and advice, you’re not just a member—you’re stepping into MJ’s inner-circle, a place where you’ll never be left alone.
Become a member and gain immediate access to...
- Active Community: Ever join a community only to find it DEAD? Not at Fastlane! As you can see from our home page, life-changing content is posted dozens of times daily.
- Exclusive Insights: Direct access to MJ DeMarco’s daily contributions and wisdom.
- Powerful Networking Opportunities: Connect with a diverse group of successful entrepreneurs who can offer mentorship, collaboration, and opportunities.
- Proven Strategies: Learn from the best in the business, with actionable advice and strategies that can accelerate your success.
"You are the average of the five people you surround yourself with the most..."
Who are you surrounding yourself with? Surround yourself with millionaire success. Join Fastlane today!
Join Today
