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Hey Fastlaners,
My name is Carlos, I'm 28 (Birthday in April) and from the UK.
I joined the forum a few years back but never really introduced myself, partly to just being overwhelmed in life and feeling this forum would contribute to that feeling.
Anyway here is my story so far...
Life growing up wasn't good, it was bad. My father walked out on my mom and left me with her and in her care, whilst in her care, I was neglected and abused numerous times.
My aunty said she found me inside my mothers flat screaming, alone and in a piss-soaked nappy.
So, as a result, I was placed into the care system at aged 4. I was moved around 34 different times to different foster homes and eventually care homes. In some foster homes further, the abuse happened.
I developed learning difficulties and couldn't concentrate at school, I acted reckless, irresponsible and inappropriate and almost always got myself excluded or sent to detention.
The early therapeutic intervention wasn't tailored to the issues I was presenting and didn't take into account my particular situation and so my behaviour became worse and worse.
Eventually, I got expelled from high school in year 9 (UK) and was sent to a behavioural school, I still found it difficult to learn and get school work done but I still managed to get my GCSE's.
Around the same time I was excluded from mainstream education (14), I began drinking alcohol and smoking cigarettes and I started hanging around with the wrong people.
I would run away from my care home almost daily and started smoking weed. By the time I was 14.5 I had sniffed cocaine, popped pills, had unprotected sex and been reported as missing over 100 times and been arrested a ton of times too, this behaviour continued by 15 which was when I started taking harder drugs (not crack or heroin) but amphetamines and increased amounts of drugs. I stopped eating and stopped caring about myself completely, I was on the verge on a hefty prison sentence and was hanging around people committing disgusting crimes on others.
Something happened to me at 16 however, I started thinking about myself and what my life was. I started thinking "what is it that I want to do". I always had an interest in music technology so I decided to apply for college.
It was at this time when I had reached the critical mass in my behaviour so the care home I had been in for years gave my 28 days notice before they were going to move me to another city.
This was nerve-wracking for me but simultaneously relieving because I guess up until that point I had no other way out.
So I was moved to another city and had my college placement there, although it wasn't music, it was art. I was placed into a halfway house (a home which prepares you for adulthood), the staff didn't give a f*ck about us and didn't help us develop the skills we needed to survive on our own at all.
My reckless behaviour continued however just to a lesser extent. But one night something drastic happened and it did change me for the better, although nearly killing me.
I got drunk with my best friend; really drunk! I started robbing people and found myself with about 10 phones that I had stolen in my pocket. As I and my friend were walking over this bridge a group of about 10 guys were there, I began swearing at them and the next thing I remember is picking myself up off the floor in a pool of blood with my friend laying next to me. My best friend told me they were kicking my head like it was a football.
It was at this night that in my mind I left that old broken part of me and decided to follow the better and quieter part of me that guided me to life.
My time in care was coming to an end, I was approaching 18. I was not prepared, I was scared and had nobody (aside from my bestfriend). I was kicked out of the care home and was homeless for around 3 weeks or so whilst they found me adequate housing. During this time I was resisting the urge to go back to my first city where I felt comfortable but something inside me told me to keep pushing, so I did.
I found a place to live and stayed there for 8 years in total. During those years were many depressions, thoughts of suicide, loneliness, apathy, self-harm and overall brokeness.
It was hard I can't lie. Even normal things like "getting a job" were alien concepts to me. I let myself go a ton of times. If it wasn't for God and my best friend and later my girlfriend I would be either dead or in prison.
Around my 6th year, I met my girlfriend and she has been my rock, I have never met such a beautiful, kind and loving soul and she has helped transform me into the confident man I am today.
When I started to love myself for who I started to have more energy to deal with aspects of my life that I had involuntarily neglected such as:
I started my 1st venture back in December 2015 with a network marketing company (I know now it violates CENTS) and failed, I made literally $30 for the entire year.
I then developed shiny object syndrome and bounced from business to business, I remember hearing Dan Lok in an interview say that he started and failed in over 13 businesses; I couldn't even count how many I started and failed lol.
By 2017 I had discovered The Millionaire Fastlane and had decided I wanted to be an entrepreneur like MJ. His no bullsh*t and honest approach resonate with me and I have since been on my mission to create wealth aka FREEDOM through the Unscripted and TMFL framework.
In 2017 my best friend killed himself and it absolutely crushed me because he helped me grow in so many ways and I am forever grateful for that friendship and love.
Over the years, it's been tough ngl. I was diagnosed with a personality disorder (BPD), which it made it difficult to care and stay focused as I would have intense polarities of emotion, identity issues and dissociate more frequently so exerting energy to my business, my girlfriend, employment or my health or anything important, was just hard and this caused a downward spiral to form, which in turn made it hard to fix my issues (from an effort and monetary level) let alone build a business.
These are not excuses they are FACTS.
A lot of personal development junkies who don't understand the ramifications of negligence and/ or abuse say sh*t like...
"You just don't want it bad enough" etc..
Which is incorrect in my case, it's not even "want" for me, it's a NEED and sometimes due to the personality disorder I deal through, my brain just does what it does, I think it's healing itself piece by piece and/or aiming to protect me from further damage. Saying all of this I do believe in neuroplasticity and the fact the brain can change because in recent years I have been feeling more certain and genuinely believing in myself and being able to process my life logically and I know it's because I have been doing a ton of personal development over the years.
Anyway...
I started getting more serious with my business around 2.5 years ago (August 2020 now) and wanted to create a 'real' business one that embodies the Fastlane framework.
So I started planning what type of business to create and then I started walking in that direction so to speak.
From 2015 to 2018ish all I saw were people winning and winning on various channels, even though I was doing the work I just couldn't grasp what it meant to be an entreprenuer. Many stressful days/nights; even all-nighters just to see $0 lol. I had my financial goals plastered all over my walls, I had the affirmations; I was doing the work but still seeing nada. It was extremely painful (still is but my focus is higher).
So in late 2018, I started an internet company. I have been working on it ever since. Now I am developing the skills necessary to be an entrepreneur who operates on a higher level, it may take me 10 more years to get to MJ's level but I am falling in love with the process more and more. My goal with this business is to eventually sell it for a liquidation event so I can give my family and myself the life we dream of.
I now surround myself with better individuals and some of the friends I have made are making financial moves which motivate/ inspires and sets fire on my a$$ to do the same and even greater.
I also have a son about to be born in October and he will NEVER EVER go through anything I did and I want for him the best and the same to my woman who I aim to eventually marry.
I wrote all this and some who read it may have been expecting me to have written: "I went through all this crippling sh*t, created 10 companies and sold them all for $100,000,000 each!". Ey, listen life isn't all sunshine and rainbows it's full of crap sometimes and in order to navigate through the crap and get to the gold you have to grow. Some of us have to grow more than others and not all of us have the same situations and environments conducive to wealth and a greater mindset. But what I can say is that if you never give up, it's possible (look at Jeff Bezo or Elon Musk) and also...
NEVER BE ASHAMED OF WHO YOU ARE AND WHERE YOU ARE.
Thanks for reading and thank you for fueling me to write my life down, it's been a journey and if I can help anyone out there who read this and resonated or has/ had a similar story, take heed to these words...
NEVER EVER GIVE UP
and..
WHERE YOUR JOURNEY BEGINS IS NOT WHERE IT HAS TO END
Steering Wheel = Your choice
Keep pushing, keep believing and fall in love with the process!
Ya boy,
Carlos
My name is Carlos, I'm 28 (Birthday in April) and from the UK.
I joined the forum a few years back but never really introduced myself, partly to just being overwhelmed in life and feeling this forum would contribute to that feeling.
Anyway here is my story so far...
Life growing up wasn't good, it was bad. My father walked out on my mom and left me with her and in her care, whilst in her care, I was neglected and abused numerous times.
My aunty said she found me inside my mothers flat screaming, alone and in a piss-soaked nappy.
So, as a result, I was placed into the care system at aged 4. I was moved around 34 different times to different foster homes and eventually care homes. In some foster homes further, the abuse happened.
I developed learning difficulties and couldn't concentrate at school, I acted reckless, irresponsible and inappropriate and almost always got myself excluded or sent to detention.
The early therapeutic intervention wasn't tailored to the issues I was presenting and didn't take into account my particular situation and so my behaviour became worse and worse.
Eventually, I got expelled from high school in year 9 (UK) and was sent to a behavioural school, I still found it difficult to learn and get school work done but I still managed to get my GCSE's.
Around the same time I was excluded from mainstream education (14), I began drinking alcohol and smoking cigarettes and I started hanging around with the wrong people.
I would run away from my care home almost daily and started smoking weed. By the time I was 14.5 I had sniffed cocaine, popped pills, had unprotected sex and been reported as missing over 100 times and been arrested a ton of times too, this behaviour continued by 15 which was when I started taking harder drugs (not crack or heroin) but amphetamines and increased amounts of drugs. I stopped eating and stopped caring about myself completely, I was on the verge on a hefty prison sentence and was hanging around people committing disgusting crimes on others.
Something happened to me at 16 however, I started thinking about myself and what my life was. I started thinking "what is it that I want to do". I always had an interest in music technology so I decided to apply for college.
It was at this time when I had reached the critical mass in my behaviour so the care home I had been in for years gave my 28 days notice before they were going to move me to another city.
This was nerve-wracking for me but simultaneously relieving because I guess up until that point I had no other way out.
So I was moved to another city and had my college placement there, although it wasn't music, it was art. I was placed into a halfway house (a home which prepares you for adulthood), the staff didn't give a f*ck about us and didn't help us develop the skills we needed to survive on our own at all.
My reckless behaviour continued however just to a lesser extent. But one night something drastic happened and it did change me for the better, although nearly killing me.
I got drunk with my best friend; really drunk! I started robbing people and found myself with about 10 phones that I had stolen in my pocket. As I and my friend were walking over this bridge a group of about 10 guys were there, I began swearing at them and the next thing I remember is picking myself up off the floor in a pool of blood with my friend laying next to me. My best friend told me they were kicking my head like it was a football.
It was at this night that in my mind I left that old broken part of me and decided to follow the better and quieter part of me that guided me to life.
My time in care was coming to an end, I was approaching 18. I was not prepared, I was scared and had nobody (aside from my bestfriend). I was kicked out of the care home and was homeless for around 3 weeks or so whilst they found me adequate housing. During this time I was resisting the urge to go back to my first city where I felt comfortable but something inside me told me to keep pushing, so I did.
I found a place to live and stayed there for 8 years in total. During those years were many depressions, thoughts of suicide, loneliness, apathy, self-harm and overall brokeness.
It was hard I can't lie. Even normal things like "getting a job" were alien concepts to me. I let myself go a ton of times. If it wasn't for God and my best friend and later my girlfriend I would be either dead or in prison.
Around my 6th year, I met my girlfriend and she has been my rock, I have never met such a beautiful, kind and loving soul and she has helped transform me into the confident man I am today.
When I started to love myself for who I started to have more energy to deal with aspects of my life that I had involuntarily neglected such as:
- Health
- My Relationship
- Work
- Living Situation
- Family etc
I started my 1st venture back in December 2015 with a network marketing company (I know now it violates CENTS) and failed, I made literally $30 for the entire year.
I then developed shiny object syndrome and bounced from business to business, I remember hearing Dan Lok in an interview say that he started and failed in over 13 businesses; I couldn't even count how many I started and failed lol.
By 2017 I had discovered The Millionaire Fastlane and had decided I wanted to be an entrepreneur like MJ. His no bullsh*t and honest approach resonate with me and I have since been on my mission to create wealth aka FREEDOM through the Unscripted and TMFL framework.
In 2017 my best friend killed himself and it absolutely crushed me because he helped me grow in so many ways and I am forever grateful for that friendship and love.
Over the years, it's been tough ngl. I was diagnosed with a personality disorder (BPD), which it made it difficult to care and stay focused as I would have intense polarities of emotion, identity issues and dissociate more frequently so exerting energy to my business, my girlfriend, employment or my health or anything important, was just hard and this caused a downward spiral to form, which in turn made it hard to fix my issues (from an effort and monetary level) let alone build a business.
These are not excuses they are FACTS.
A lot of personal development junkies who don't understand the ramifications of negligence and/ or abuse say sh*t like...
"You just don't want it bad enough" etc..
Which is incorrect in my case, it's not even "want" for me, it's a NEED and sometimes due to the personality disorder I deal through, my brain just does what it does, I think it's healing itself piece by piece and/or aiming to protect me from further damage. Saying all of this I do believe in neuroplasticity and the fact the brain can change because in recent years I have been feeling more certain and genuinely believing in myself and being able to process my life logically and I know it's because I have been doing a ton of personal development over the years.
Anyway...
I started getting more serious with my business around 2.5 years ago (August 2020 now) and wanted to create a 'real' business one that embodies the Fastlane framework.
So I started planning what type of business to create and then I started walking in that direction so to speak.
From 2015 to 2018ish all I saw were people winning and winning on various channels, even though I was doing the work I just couldn't grasp what it meant to be an entreprenuer. Many stressful days/nights; even all-nighters just to see $0 lol. I had my financial goals plastered all over my walls, I had the affirmations; I was doing the work but still seeing nada. It was extremely painful (still is but my focus is higher).
So in late 2018, I started an internet company. I have been working on it ever since. Now I am developing the skills necessary to be an entrepreneur who operates on a higher level, it may take me 10 more years to get to MJ's level but I am falling in love with the process more and more. My goal with this business is to eventually sell it for a liquidation event so I can give my family and myself the life we dream of.
I now surround myself with better individuals and some of the friends I have made are making financial moves which motivate/ inspires and sets fire on my a$$ to do the same and even greater.
I also have a son about to be born in October and he will NEVER EVER go through anything I did and I want for him the best and the same to my woman who I aim to eventually marry.
I wrote all this and some who read it may have been expecting me to have written: "I went through all this crippling sh*t, created 10 companies and sold them all for $100,000,000 each!". Ey, listen life isn't all sunshine and rainbows it's full of crap sometimes and in order to navigate through the crap and get to the gold you have to grow. Some of us have to grow more than others and not all of us have the same situations and environments conducive to wealth and a greater mindset. But what I can say is that if you never give up, it's possible (look at Jeff Bezo or Elon Musk) and also...
NEVER BE ASHAMED OF WHO YOU ARE AND WHERE YOU ARE.
Thanks for reading and thank you for fueling me to write my life down, it's been a journey and if I can help anyone out there who read this and resonated or has/ had a similar story, take heed to these words...
NEVER EVER GIVE UP
and..
WHERE YOUR JOURNEY BEGINS IS NOT WHERE IT HAS TO END
Steering Wheel = Your choice
Keep pushing, keep believing and fall in love with the process!
Ya boy,
Carlos
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