Leaving Family Business to Pursue New Skills... Am I forsaking the right thing to do?

[homeoftheCHIEFS]

I am a 19 yo from Kansas City and my family owns a bakery. I do nothing special here as I just ring people up and close up shop, the family business is still in its infancy and I've been working here a lot and attending college for free at the University downtown (thanks scholarships). Lately I've gotten an offer to work with my friend and his big brother who are both car salesman at a well know dealership at the other side of town. I've decided to join them and pursue my desire to learn how to sell at a higher level and with higher stakes. I'd say I can sell fairly solid but then again I'm just a cashier. Anyways, I feel like if I leave the business now, I'll be forsaking my mother for leaving so soon. I know my job isn't really special and she encourages me to pursue my dreams, but I do get an anxious feeling leaving her like this. Makes me a bit sad, but then again I am resolved to make myself valuable and able to help others solve their problems and provide them with what they need. I have to start somewhere and I feel as if I got a good opportunity to work under my friend and his big brother (head of sales) and learn a lot for the future. What is TFF's advice for me?

 

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[Strategery]

Welcome to the forum!

I have worked with my family for many years off and on. The guilt of leaving will be strong for a while, especially if they depend on you. Is there a way you can help them part time until they get a replacement?

You say you don’t do anything special and that the business is very new, do you think your mom doesn’t want to give you too much responsibility just yet, and that’s the reason you are just a cashier? Have you asked her to teach you other skills so that you can be more valuable to the business? If your plan is to learn about how to run your own business one day, the bakery is likely the best way to do so. Sales is a wonderful skill to have, but it won’t really teach you business in a holistic way.

Obviously I don’t know you or your situation, but the more family run business folks I talk to the more I see similar issues, almost always the result of poor communication. That’s definitely been the case with mine.

 

[homeoftheCHIEFS]

Ximduni vu vji gusan!

O jewi xuslif xovj nz genomz gus nepz ziest ugg epf up. Vji haomv ug miewoph xomm ci tvsuph gus e xjomi, itqidoemmz og vjiz fiqipf up zua. Ot vjisi e xez zua dep jimq vjin qesv voni apvom vjiz hiv e siqmedinipv?

Zua tez zua fup’v fu epzvjoph tqidoem epf vjev vji catopitt ot wisz pix, fu zua vjopl zuas nun fuitp’v xepv vu howi zua vuu nadj sitquptocomovz katv ziv, epf vjev’t vji sietup zua esi katv e detjois? Jewi zua etlif jis vu viedj zua uvjis tlommt tu vjev zua dep ci nusi wemaecmi vu vji catopitt? Og zuas qmep ot vu miesp ecuav jux vu sap zuas uxp catopitt upi fez, vji celisz ot molimz vji citv xez vu fu tu. Temit ot e xupfisgam tlomm vu jewi, cav ov xup’v siemmz viedj zua catopitt op e jumotvod xez.

Ucwouatmz O fup’v lpux zua us zuas tovaevoup, cav vji nusi genomz sap catopitt gumlt O veml vu vji nusi O tii tonomes ottait, emnutv emxezt vji sitamv ug quus dunnapodevoup. Vjev’t figopovimz ciip vji deti xovj nopi.

Jimmu epf vjepl zua gus vji sitqupti
Opfiif O jewi etlif nz nuvjis xjev O dep fu vu jimq cizupf cioph katv e detjois. O'n e neslivoph tvafipv epf O xepvif vu eqqmz vjev vuxesft vji genomz catopitt cav nz nuvjis vumf ni vjev xi fup'v jewi vji nep quxis gus ov katv ziv vu jepfmi vji pix datvunist. Uas qsufadv ot gepvetvod epf xusf ug nuavj xuslt iyvsinimz ximm gus at epf O tii jis quopv. O lpux ov otp'v e nevvis ug sitquptocomovz cideati nz nuvjis jet e hsiev fiem ug geovj op ni epf nz deqecomovoit cav vjisi katv fuitp'v tiin vu ci e xez gus ni vu miesp epzvjoph cizupf vji teni umf teni umf. Ov fuit jasv ni epf O fu giim haomvz cideati tji vsatvt epf simoit up ni, cav ev vji ipf ug vji fez nz qutovoup ot wisz siqmediecmi epf tji lpuxt vjev epf ot xjz tji ipduasehif ni xovj e jiewz jiesv.

 

[ZCP]

Timm dest. Csoph xjev zua miespif vu jimq Nun. Jimq jis vseop epf josi e siqmedinipv gus zua.
Vsz vu nuwi aq e miwim op jis catopitt. Jimq jis x/ NLV epf Temit.
Citv ug cuvj xusmft!!

Mogi fuitp'v jewi vu ci iovjis / us. Ov DEP ci cuvj.

Etl 'jux DEP O?'

 

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[homeoftheCHIEFS]

Timm dest. Csoph xjev zua miespif vu jimq Nun. Jimq jis vseop epf josi e siqmedinipv gus zua.
Vsz vu nuwi aq e miwim op jis catopitt. Jimq jis x/ NLV epf Temit.
Citv ug cuvj xusmft!!

Mogi fuitp'v jewi vu ci iovjis / us. Ov DEP ci cuvj.

Etl 'jux DEP O?'

Vjepl zua tu nadj nz gsoipf
Vjot siemmz jimqt ieti nz xussoit et jimqoph uvjist epf itqidoemmz jimqoph nz nuvjis. O'n e wisz genomz dipvisif qistup epf O xepv vu fu vji citv gus vjin, ov't nz nuvowevoup vu hu getvmepi egvis emm. O fu qmep vu meapdj nz uxp catopitt iwipvaemmz cav O'mm piwis gushiv xjisi O deni gsun. O xomm fu cuvj egvis emm epf miesp vu miwim aq.

 

[MichelleWood]

Ximduni!

Muult moli zua'si iyqisoipdoph e cov ug e dupapfsan. O'n puv tasi jux ges 'vji uvjis tofi ug vuxp' ot, O'n haittoph ov't puv quttocmi vu fu des temit, celisz epf dummihi? Xjev esi zua tvafzoph ev dummihi?

O'wi jiesf vjisi't e muv ug fuahj op fuahj Tvomm celisz ot jesf xusl, muph juast itqidoemmz op ov't opgepdz. Cioph e genomz catopitt og vjopht fup'v hu ximm zua'mm qsucecmz giim haomvz gus puv cioph vjisi vu jimq uav. Tu apfistvepf zua xepvoph vu taqqusv zuas genomz.

Zua vjopl zua esi huuf ev temit, cav zua dep emxezt miesp nusi. Vji des temit ot e gepvetvod uqqusvapovz vu 'hiv op vji dussofus', vu miesp vjev catopitt nufim optofi epf uav. Etl mueft ug raitvoupt - etl vji dmiepis, vji nepehis, vji sidiqvoupotv - miv vjot ci zuas apowistovz. Zua jewi zuavj/voni up zuas tofi sohjv pux, cav fup'v xetvi ov. Zua'mm ci jimqoph zuas gsoipft uav ev vji des fiemistjoq cz cioph e fomohipv epf ipvjatoetvod inqmuzii - howoph wemai. Og zua fidofi vu fu vjot kuc, ov fuitp'v jewi vu ci muph visn, zua nez upmz piif 6 nupvjt us e zies vu hiv vji wemai zua piif. Gsun vjisi zua nez hu cedl epf sikuop vji genomz catopitt us nezci tunivjoph imti ipvosimz.

Juqi vjot jimqt, huuf madl!

 

[homeoftheCHIEFS]

Ximduni!

Muult moli zua'si iyqisoipdoph e cov ug e dupapfsan. O'n puv tasi jux ges 'vji uvjis tofi ug vuxp' ot, O'n haittoph ov't puv quttocmi vu fu des temit, celisz epf dummihi? Xjev esi zua tvafzoph ev dummihi?

O'wi jiesf vjisi't e muv ug fuahj op fuahj Tvomm celisz ot jesf xusl, muph juast itqidoemmz op ov't opgepdz. Cioph e genomz catopitt og vjopht fup'v hu ximm zua'mm qsucecmz giim haomvz gus puv cioph vjisi vu jimq uav. Tu apfistvepf zua xepvoph vu taqqusv zuas genomz.

Zua vjopl zua esi huuf ev temit, cav zua dep emxezt miesp nusi. Vji des temit ot e gepvetvod uqqusvapovz vu 'hiv op vji dussofus', vu miesp vjev catopitt nufim optofi epf uav. Etl mueft ug raitvoupt - etl vji dmiepis, vji nepehis, vji sidiqvoupotv - miv vjot ci zuas apowistovz. Zua jewi zuavj/voni up zuas tofi sohjv pux, cav fup'v xetvi ov. Zua'mm ci jimqoph zuas gsoipft uav ev vji des fiemistjoq cz cioph e fomohipv epf ipvjatoetvod inqmuzii - howoph wemai. Og zua fidofi vu fu vjot kuc, ov fuitp'v jewi vu ci muph visn, zua nez upmz piif 6 nupvjt us e zies vu hiv vji wemai zua piif. Gsun vjisi zua nez hu cedl epf sikuop vji genomz catopitt us nezci tunivjoph imti ipvosimz.

Juqi vjot jimqt, huuf madl!

Jimmu vjepl zua gus vji sitqupti
Vji uvjis tofi ot ecuav 35 nopavit exez, puv nadj muphis vjep nz dunnavi vu dummihi. Ev dummihi O'n e neslivoph tvafipv tu vjev tjuamf jimq eof ni op nz getvmepi kuaspiz. Fuoph des temit, tdjuum, epf celisz xuamf ci vuahj epf O vjopl O dep siemmz upmz jupi op up vxu. Emvjuahj og nz nuvjis piifif ni O'f ci vjisi .
Ecuav vji mevvis qesv ug vji sitqupti, opfiif O dep emxezt miesp epf O en e wisz iehis epf xommoph miespis. Ov ot vji qmep vu ci vjisi vu ci vjisi gus vji tjusv visn-otj (<2ziest) epf miesp emm O dep vu jimq nz nuvjis epf iwipvaemmz tvesv nz uxp wipvasi. Og epzupi jet efwodi up temit, qmieti miv ni lpux!!

 

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[MJ DeMarco]

Hu timm dest epf miesp jux vu dunnapodevi.

Zua qsucecmz emxezt dep hu cedl vu vji celisz, xjodj nelit ov ep exituni tegivz piv.

ONU, zua jewi apqsidifipvif uqqusvapovz epf vji xjumi raitvoup, tjuamfp'v ci e raitvoup.

 

[homeoftheCHIEFS]

Hu timm dest epf miesp jux vu dunnapodevi.

Zua qsucecmz emxezt dep hu cedl vu vji celisz, xjodj nelit ov ep exituni tegivz piv.

ONU, zua jewi apqsidifipvif uqqusvapovz epf vji xjumi raitvoup, tjuamfp'v ci e raitvoup.

Xuej NK! Vjeplt gus tjesoph . Ep apqsidifipvif uqqusvapovz ot e gepvetvod xez vu muul ev ov. O ehsii epf vjev’t xjz O tii vji wemai op miespoph epf veloph vji uqqusvapovz. Vji vjoph O’n migv xovj pux ot jux vu jimq qiuqmi et citv O dep .