This is for the people who know they need to let go of friends and acquaintances to travel the Fastland road. I'll try to be brief. I hope it gives you insight.
Over the past 6 months, I've had to let go of people in my life that are stuck in the slowlane, constantly complaining with a million excuses why life sucks and just wasn't going to change for them....why they can't do this or that...and not taking responsibility for where they are right now in their lives.
I let go one friend I worked out with on and off for the past 20 yrs, and worked with side by side at a company for 2 yrs. We hung out at sporting events, bars...guy stuff. I never told him directly I couldn't hang with him anymore. I just took longer to return his calls... I told him I was soooo busy I didn't have time to hang out. Now, I don't hear from him. It's sad. He is one of many people I've tried to help over the years but wouldn't help themselves. I can't expend my limited energy and time on someone like that anymore.
I let go an Attorney friend of 20+ yrs. ( yes he's successful but in debt big time and lives the slowlane) This was very difficult because he truly values our friendship. I suppose, depending on the circumstances, if he were to need something, I would be here for him.
There are many acquaintances I've just stopped talking to.
This is all difficult because they are people in my life I care about. Part of me is sad, part is relieved.
BUT...my motivations, the deep emotionally charged reasons I have to live the Fastlane FAR out weigh these friendships and aquaintances. I HAVE PURPOSE.
I've had to explain these changes to my Wife. She understands 100% and is supportive. I am fortunate.
THE POSITIVE.
I've made friends with some incredible people in a short period of time. I've found them by talking "Fastlane talk". If they're on the same page, they love to talk and share what they do, their beliefs and attitudes....It's uplifting.
My Chiropractor of many years....I told him my Fastlane plan..to my surprise he said "I'm glad for you. Finally, your in control of your destiny." That was heavy. He told me if I needed help with anything, to ask him.
One guy I used to work with contacted me and he's started his own business. He's already put me in contact with 2 guys who I'm going to work with to drive traffic to each other's sites.
There are more, but you get the idea.
While in NJ for my Daughter's H.S. graduation, I met a very short, modest looking, elderly Korean woman who had an 'air' of wisdom about her. We were on the subject of violent movies...negative music...and how things that we see and hear truly affect us without us knowing. She padded her hand on her chest and in her slight Korean accent said to me, "It gets into your heart."
I've thought about what she said many times since. I think the same is true about our friends and the people we associate with. They, along with their beliefs, actions, and life styles, get into our hearts.
So, expect your friends and acquaintances to not understand. Expect to feel sad....but only allow it for a minute. Expect negative feedback and 'talk'. Also expect to meet some incredible people. Expect great connections to be made. Expect to succeed while racing in the Fastlane.
Over the past 6 months, I've had to let go of people in my life that are stuck in the slowlane, constantly complaining with a million excuses why life sucks and just wasn't going to change for them....why they can't do this or that...and not taking responsibility for where they are right now in their lives.
I let go one friend I worked out with on and off for the past 20 yrs, and worked with side by side at a company for 2 yrs. We hung out at sporting events, bars...guy stuff. I never told him directly I couldn't hang with him anymore. I just took longer to return his calls... I told him I was soooo busy I didn't have time to hang out. Now, I don't hear from him. It's sad. He is one of many people I've tried to help over the years but wouldn't help themselves. I can't expend my limited energy and time on someone like that anymore.
I let go an Attorney friend of 20+ yrs. ( yes he's successful but in debt big time and lives the slowlane) This was very difficult because he truly values our friendship. I suppose, depending on the circumstances, if he were to need something, I would be here for him.
There are many acquaintances I've just stopped talking to.
This is all difficult because they are people in my life I care about. Part of me is sad, part is relieved.
BUT...my motivations, the deep emotionally charged reasons I have to live the Fastlane FAR out weigh these friendships and aquaintances. I HAVE PURPOSE.
I've had to explain these changes to my Wife. She understands 100% and is supportive. I am fortunate.
THE POSITIVE.
I've made friends with some incredible people in a short period of time. I've found them by talking "Fastlane talk". If they're on the same page, they love to talk and share what they do, their beliefs and attitudes....It's uplifting.
My Chiropractor of many years....I told him my Fastlane plan..to my surprise he said "I'm glad for you. Finally, your in control of your destiny." That was heavy. He told me if I needed help with anything, to ask him.
One guy I used to work with contacted me and he's started his own business. He's already put me in contact with 2 guys who I'm going to work with to drive traffic to each other's sites.
There are more, but you get the idea.
While in NJ for my Daughter's H.S. graduation, I met a very short, modest looking, elderly Korean woman who had an 'air' of wisdom about her. We were on the subject of violent movies...negative music...and how things that we see and hear truly affect us without us knowing. She padded her hand on her chest and in her slight Korean accent said to me, "It gets into your heart."
I've thought about what she said many times since. I think the same is true about our friends and the people we associate with. They, along with their beliefs, actions, and life styles, get into our hearts.
So, expect your friends and acquaintances to not understand. Expect to feel sad....but only allow it for a minute. Expect negative feedback and 'talk'. Also expect to meet some incredible people. Expect great connections to be made. Expect to succeed while racing in the Fastlane.
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