Maturing in your perspective - From a "Young'n"

[CorsePerVita]

For the first time tonight I shook a man's hand and congratulated him on a job well done when we competed for jobs that were high stake. One position in the entire company for training our technical teams and all other departments in technology. Excellent position to be in and I love teaching people things. I'm not only excellent with technology, not only do I learn fast, but I'm damn good at what I do and I am excellent at relaying it back, making tools and presentations and assisting large groups of people. My entire team was rooting for me, yet my competition actually did indeed get the job.

At first, I was disappointed. That is to be expected. I didn't get the job. When my boss broke it to me I was frustrated, a bit upset, but calmed down and my perspective came back to mind and thought about it.

I said "I tell you what. I trust your judgement. In the past I applied for (position name) and got turned down. I was mad, I took it personally, was angry and even threatened to quit. I threw a fit. You remember that (i was 19 at the time)." and he said "Yes, I do." and I said "Let me tell you something, we don't talk on a person to person basis much. You mind?" and he let me talk.

For the first time in a very long time I just said exactly how I felt. I said: "After (name) got that position I noticed he had the skills that made up for the position and he has since entirely excelled at that job. I work with him every day, coordinate with him from my own position and together we get the job done. He's great. I also see now that had I been in that position I'd not only be unhappy but that I would not in any way shape or form fit that title. Now, I sit here in a job I CAN do but have simply been outmatched by someone who has more training experience than me. I'm the more technical guy, I'm the more technology oriented and quick learning fellow. However, if you say he fits the bill, and you say you want someone who you KNOW can do it from the start rather than wondering without a doubt if i'd be able to then he's your man."

He stopped for a minute and looked at me like "Ummmm" and so i stopped him and kept talking: "Now, to function like a business you have to think like one. I'm not going to get mad. One point I will argue is that you aren't always near me, you don't always see what I do so some of these points you make may be valid but not on the level you assume them to be. So I'm going to lay out a stipulation. If you're going to tell me no and say you've chosen the other guy I'm going to ask this of you. I want the feedback from you and everyone who interviewed me and I want what they think I could have done better, my weaknesses, my strengths that they noticed and what I did well. If you can compose a detailed list and get this to me and give me some feedback so I can work on this and work on the things I can offer the company then I will be satisfied."

I think it's the first time I've ever seen him surprised at anything. He stopped for a minute before he spoke to me and went "Uhhhh wow, yeah, um.... ok I can do that." and he talked about how he has noticed my attitude has changed since I was a teenager.

This company literally took me under their wings when I was 19, before I could drink. They've seen my immature side and watched me grow all up till now at 22.

A while back I was very dissatisfied in life with where I was out. I got out of a very difficult divorce and MJ himself had some inspirational words for me that sparked me in my business ethic.

Since my divorce i got into investing, doing my own computer work on the side as my own business, web design and this other job as my main job. I'm a busy guy. However tonight I looked on the bright side. I impressed my boss with my attitude and how I handled my rejection, as well as shook the hand of the guy who got the job in front of our entire department and congratulated him. My co-workers were PISSED when they found out i got turned down... until I did that.... and the guy I shook hands with? I don't think he is used to it, he said thanks with his amazed look on his face and said thank you and offered to buy me a beer (hell yeah, free beer! I should do this more often...)

But recently when I looked back on everything I realized what I was in my past:

- Lazy
- Undefined
- Chaotic (my mind as all over the place, I DID NOT KNOW what I wanted to do)
- Confused
- Unsure and little confidence (I was the guy who knew WHAT he was talking about but was afraid to commit to saying "YES, that's how it is" when someone asked a question. I'd always ask for re-assurance, I'd never step up)
- Afraid to fail.


After my divorce I stepped up and said enough was enough in life. I stopped taking crap, stopped ignoring red flags, stopped all the garbage and being this reliant person on everyone but myself and stepped up to the plate to change it.

Even then my business ethic and attitude needed adjusting, I was burned out and hated it. MJ and a few other people really motivated me towards an attitude and perspective to me that hit home and made sense.

I have a very good friend who him and I were talking about this and it's like I've been set on a totally different wavelength. You want to strive, you want it, you want to move forward, push on and you have this insane "CAN DO!" attitude that you never thought you had in yourself.

It's amazing that in these 3 years of time that so much has changed. I'm now the guy people can come to for assistance, the guy who makes website tools for our products, the guy who is the supervisor on the weekends when no one is around, the guy people trust with the business and know it will get done if they give me something.

To top it off I've got a hard kick into the investing world and started doing stocktrading before and after my divorce as well as other types of investing on my days off and when I have free time I do website work and computer work for local businesses.

And when I have time I ride my motorcycles to stay sane and hang out with my girlfriend.

Dear god. All I can say is that I feel awesome.

One day you feel like you're moving at the pace of molasses, then you wake up and look back and go "Holy crap was that me?" and you're blazing full speed ahead :fastlane:


Figured I would post this up for any other people my age on here who are struggling to find who you are, trying to get a good attitude towards your future. Remember, there are always opportunities, take them when you get them but if they don't work out then use that momentum to build up some speed for the next one and be ready!

Tonight was disappointing, but a learning experience and I will use it. I've gone from almost nothing decent to a young guy who is very happy with his life, is good at what he does and is satisfied in where he is and where he is headed. As long as I don't go careening off a cliff on my motorcycle and die in a fire.....

I will repeat the famous words from MJ that sparked me in such a hot fashion.

To sum up, no one gives a rats a$$ about your dreams and "doing what you love" -- what they do care about is what you can do for them; what your business can do for them.

Ultimately, you have to ask yourself this: "What do I have to offer the world?"

:thankyousign:

 

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