I really really need help & advice. I do not have anyone to talk too about this.
The people in my life will think I am going crazy and because I'm doubting my own sanity right now, they will probably convince/steer me to stay on my current path.
I have seen how you people on this forum, time & time again, offer idiots like me quality & impartial advice with level of patience & understanding that is beyond me.
It is really a beautiful environment here & I hope that you can offer me the affirmation/criticism I need to start sleeping peacefully again.
MJ, you have destroyed my life. This is an astonishing gift that you given & I will always be thankful to you for shattering this old reality.
Needless to say this re-birth will have drastic consequences and I am really not sure what the F*ck I am about to do.
Quick Intro
I'm male, 35 yo, Mechanical Engineer & single (thankfully)
Time & energy are the two biggest obstacles now holding me back.
I have a business idea & I am dying to get started.
For the past two months I have been:
These include learning to; program apps; releasing product in a foreign country; market research; marketing; etc. etc.
(don't worry, these aforementioned skill are not intended for critique here)
I am starting to burn out already. You guys who do this, have done this, or tried doing this with a family on top of it all? I salute you!
Plain and simple, this is not working for me. I cannot sleep because all the stress & this is further driving me mad.
I see two solutions:
1) Accept my scripted life, enjoy working a 40 hour week, live for the pension, marry the next one, have children & die and perish wealthy? F*ck THAT!!!
2) Take radical action to set off on a completely unscripted path? OH F*ck!!!!
Solution 1: MJ de Marco destroyed that life (thanks buddy!). I would rather die alone & poor than live a mediocre life without giving my best to the world.
Solution 2: The Reason I Need a FASTLANER Shrink (Therapist)!
So, I have a plan & yes it is F*cking Crazy, even for me.
I am just soooo F*cking 'Done' with this life now.
F*ck my amazing job & ridiculous working hours,
F*ck my two houses & mortgages,
F*ck my pathetic little life in little shitty whoTheFuckCaresVille.
F*ck F*ck F*ck it all!
I'm done, I'm Out, I Fold!!
From Hereon This is Where I Really Need Your Advice/Experience -
My Crazy Plan (before end of year 2019 until 2025 retirement):
A Camper Van is Not Very FAST, but Can we Drive it in the FASTLANE?
A camper has MANY advantages with respect to Freedom & Exploring & Travelling. As a mechanical engineer this camper will be built to my own specification to ensure I can work & live even when off grid.
N.B. These wonderful things are not why we are here today, but it should play into the overall craziness equation.
The main foreseen advantages of a camper from a business point of view is that:
Flexible Work:
This is going to be a challenge I think to maximize income whilst minimize hours in a sidewalk job.
I am not sure what type of viable 100% online jobs are available at this moment but a few ideas are:
Personal Trainer for the Bellyproof program (see link below REF1).
This will involve training people on a 5 week course from belly to six pack. For this I will most likely need a license & training from the London based founder Jacob.
Hopefully he has a list of contacts in Europe Mainland or receives requests from people who are interested in such a service.
This would involve 2-3 hours work 5 days a week, delivering a niche product with guaranteed results.
Also it meets my need of combining fitness with work which saves me additional hours to work on getting the business out there.
I have not brought this up with him yet because I know he is a busy guy and do not want to knock him off his course until the plan crystallizes a bit better.
Foreseen Challenges:
Worries, fears:
Absolutely NONE!
AND that is why I am here lovely people! It sounds so crazy & yet it feels so right!
My heart says go for it and my logical brain is scrambling to hang on to its pre-conditioned reality.
Why am I so okay with this idea?? Have I gone completely bonkers? Has MJ broken me?
Please Help Me Folks!
What am I missing here?
What am I risking here?
How does this picture compare to your experience?
Is it possible?
Am I being completely naive or foolish?
Is there a better more efficient way to go fast lane?
Thanks you all so much for your time. I really look forward to reading your advice here.
Regards,
B
REF1:
BellyProof / MovementFirst – Let's Get you Fit
The people in my life will think I am going crazy and because I'm doubting my own sanity right now, they will probably convince/steer me to stay on my current path.
I have seen how you people on this forum, time & time again, offer idiots like me quality & impartial advice with level of patience & understanding that is beyond me.
It is really a beautiful environment here & I hope that you can offer me the affirmation/criticism I need to start sleeping peacefully again.
MJ, you have destroyed my life. This is an astonishing gift that you given & I will always be thankful to you for shattering this old reality.
Needless to say this re-birth will have drastic consequences and I am really not sure what the F*ck I am about to do.
Quick Intro
I'm male, 35 yo, Mechanical Engineer & single (thankfully)
Time & energy are the two biggest obstacles now holding me back.
I have a business idea & I am dying to get started.
For the past two months I have been:
- Working 9-10 hours a day in my stressful Engineering Job (design management role),
- 2-3 hours dedicated to fitness & health,
- 1-2 hours healthy cooking + cleaning
- 2-3 hours left for business development
- Chill out hours = 0
These include learning to; program apps; releasing product in a foreign country; market research; marketing; etc. etc.
(don't worry, these aforementioned skill are not intended for critique here)
I am starting to burn out already. You guys who do this, have done this, or tried doing this with a family on top of it all? I salute you!
Plain and simple, this is not working for me. I cannot sleep because all the stress & this is further driving me mad.
I see two solutions:
1) Accept my scripted life, enjoy working a 40 hour week, live for the pension, marry the next one, have children & die and perish wealthy? F*ck THAT!!!
2) Take radical action to set off on a completely unscripted path? OH F*ck!!!!
Solution 1: MJ de Marco destroyed that life (thanks buddy!). I would rather die alone & poor than live a mediocre life without giving my best to the world.
Solution 2: The Reason I Need a FASTLANER Shrink (Therapist)!
So, I have a plan & yes it is F*cking Crazy, even for me.
I am just soooo F*cking 'Done' with this life now.
F*ck my amazing job & ridiculous working hours,
F*ck my two houses & mortgages,
F*ck my pathetic little life in little shitty whoTheFuckCaresVille.
F*ck F*ck F*ck it all!
I'm done, I'm Out, I Fold!!
From Hereon This is Where I Really Need Your Advice/Experience -
My Crazy Plan (before end of year 2019 until 2025 retirement):
- Cash in my UK pension (ca €20k) - it is sitting there in a pot doing nothing & helping no body.
- Sell my Brewery
- Buy/Build/Modify a VW Camper Van (or equivalent).
- Find a flexible job:
- to work when & where ever I want in Europe
- to generate cash - from my camper office
- generate the minimum required income to live comfortably in a camper van (plenty of YouTube expenses videos out there)
- preferably inline with what I will do in my day (e.g. fitness) or what need for the future (during execution).
- to allow maximum free time to focus on my core work (minimum 8 hours per day)
- Get my house rented out to cover the taxes & mortgage (let it pay for itself).
- The Apartment is already rented (paying for itself).
- Live at friend/camper and begin tying up all loose ends in home country
- Quit my Job/Ask for extended; open ended sabbatical
- Drive to Portugal or Spain or Italy or Greece or where I can work
- Work my butt off wherever I am
- Consider telling parents, people what I have done/am doing or not.
A Camper Van is Not Very FAST, but Can we Drive it in the FASTLANE?
A camper has MANY advantages with respect to Freedom & Exploring & Travelling. As a mechanical engineer this camper will be built to my own specification to ensure I can work & live even when off grid.
N.B. These wonderful things are not why we are here today, but it should play into the overall craziness equation.
The main foreseen advantages of a camper from a business point of view is that:
- I can stay in any big city for any length of time in city-camping without spending much more money than a normal day parked beside a beach.
- Compared to a cheap apartment in a big city, this is still a massive reduction in expenses during the start up phase.
- If I want to travel to another city within Europe, I can drive always drive there in less than 24 hours.
- No hotels, no flights etc.
- If I want to recruit customers I will always have my office base & house with me in that particular city
- Can always rent a desk in a city office, preferably with an entrepreneurial theme/atmosphere
Flexible Work:
This is going to be a challenge I think to maximize income whilst minimize hours in a sidewalk job.
I am not sure what type of viable 100% online jobs are available at this moment but a few ideas are:
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- Translation (Dutch to English)
- Online tutor
- Teacher
Personal Trainer for the Bellyproof program (see link below REF1).
This will involve training people on a 5 week course from belly to six pack. For this I will most likely need a license & training from the London based founder Jacob.
Hopefully he has a list of contacts in Europe Mainland or receives requests from people who are interested in such a service.
This would involve 2-3 hours work 5 days a week, delivering a niche product with guaranteed results.
Also it meets my need of combining fitness with work which saves me additional hours to work on getting the business out there.
I have not brought this up with him yet because I know he is a busy guy and do not want to knock him off his course until the plan crystallizes a bit better.
Foreseen Challenges:
- Loneliness could be an issue (thank god for tinder haha) - getting to know myself and facing my own inner demons (we all have them folks)
- Tax issues (bit of experience working in multiple countries - good learning experience)
- Getting used to frugality
- Money (rainy day pot) for:
- Tenants moving out [deposit+finding someone new],
- Camper van and/or general unplanned maintenance,
- Product roll out costs - Design, Advertising, Law Fees, Tax Fees, Registration Fees etc.
- Tax
Worries, fears:
Absolutely NONE!
AND that is why I am here lovely people! It sounds so crazy & yet it feels so right!
My heart says go for it and my logical brain is scrambling to hang on to its pre-conditioned reality.
Why am I so okay with this idea?? Have I gone completely bonkers? Has MJ broken me?
Please Help Me Folks!
What am I missing here?
What am I risking here?
How does this picture compare to your experience?
Is it possible?
Am I being completely naive or foolish?
Is there a better more efficient way to go fast lane?
Thanks you all so much for your time. I really look forward to reading your advice here.
Regards,
B
REF1:
BellyProof / MovementFirst – Let's Get you Fit
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