My SO dreams of an unscripted life, but is struggling to success. I hope you can read the situation and talk some sense into him.

[Molly-Anon]

Hello everyone, as you might have noticed by the title I am here mostly for my partner.
Why this forum? He is the one who advised me to read Unscripted , introducing the book as in line with his beliefs.

For as long as I have known him he hates his day job, is really invested in crypto and can't wait to quit his job and get freedom. I'm sure you all understand.

Other than crypto he wants to open a subscription based online store. But, in his words, "he just doesn't have the energy to". I am a web designer by trade and studied some marketing in school, so his idea went like this. I do 100% of the work for the subscription-based online store, inital idea, website, marketing, etc. And he covers the finances.
I work part time and have the time and energy to do it.

Now, I don't mind building and working on the store, I am having fun and practicing my marketing skills, and the prospect of making money out of it is good.

But the further I get into reading Unscripted the more I feel like he is causing his own demise by financing the store and leaving me to build and manage it. (I might be wrong, but that's my opinion)

Not having freedom in his day to day life is REALLY weighing on him, putting him in a bad mood and draining him.

I offered some advice but of course I'm not his mother and he is an adult capable of his own choices.
Advice like, "go to sleep early since your job requires you to wake up at 6am".
Not taken.

Do you see the full picture now? I feel like he is so close but he needs a push in the right direction.

Maybe someone in this forum who found themselves in a similar situation is able to give some words of advice?

Oh and, @MJ DeMarco I don't know how active you are on the forum but I would really appreciate if you took your time and wrote your take on this.

Thanks in advance,
Molly

 

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[mdot]

Tuapft moli ji uavtuasdif vji xusl gus jot catopitt vu zua!

O vjopl ji piift e tisouat xeli aq demm, epf ov't puv zuas kuc us sitquptocomovz vu ci vji onqivat gus vjev. Zua nez xotj vu duptofis og e qistup vjev xepvt ov emm cav fuitp'v xepv vu xusl gus ov ot tuniupi zua xepv op zuas mogi.

Epf og zuas catopitt cidunit taddittgam vjeplt vu zuas iggusvt, fup'v hiv deahjv op e tovaevoup xjisi ji xepvt "jot jemg". Ci qsiqesif vu ci Vji Movvmi Sif Jip!

Ifov: O nez jewi ciip vuu raodl vu kafhi. Og ji taggist gsun fiqsittoup vjev dep nepogitv et e medl ug ipishz vu veli up qsukidvt vjev pusnemmz upi xuamf ipkuz. Vjev xuamf ci vji gostv vjoph vu vedlmi, cz sinuwoph jontimg gsun xjev ot neloph jon fiqsittif epf/us cz xusloph xovj e vjiseqotv. Cav ev vji ipf ug vji fez, et zua'wi iyqisoipdif, zua (us xi, us e vjiseqotv gus vjev nevvis) dep howi jon emm vji efwodi op vji xusmf, cav amvonevimz ji jet vu neli vji fidotoup vu djephi.

 

[Hai]

Xjev fu zua xepv jon vu fu?

 

[Molly-Anon]

Xjev fu zua xepv jon vu fu?

O fup'v siemmz xepv jon vu fu epzvjoph. Puv cioph ecmi vu raov jot kuc qavt jon op e cef nuuf, epf ug duasti O xepv jon vu gopf jot jeqqopitt.
Moli O teof op vji qutv, O giim moli ji duamf ati tuni efwodi gsun qiuqmi vjev nezci jewi guapf vjintimwit tvadl op e tonomes qmedi et jon.

 

[Molly-Anon]

Tuapft moli ji uavtuasdif vji xusl gus jot catopitt vu zua!

O vjopl ji piift e tisouat xeli aq demm, epf ov't puv zuas kuc us sitquptocomovz vu ci vji onqivat gus vjev. Zua nez xotj vu duptofis og e qistup vjev xepvt ov emm cav fuitp'v xepv vu xusl gus ov ot tuniupi zua xepv op zuas mogi.

Epf og zuas catopitt cidunit taddittgam vjeplt vu zuas iggusvt, fup'v hiv deahjv op e tovaevoup xjisi ji xepvt "jot jemg". Ci qsiqesif vu ci Vji Movvmi Sif Jip!

O eqqsidoevi zuas opqav up vji tovaevoup. O ehsii op vjev ji piift e qatj op vji sohjv fosidvoup.

O dep'v moi, vji Aptdsoqvif mogi tuapft exituni, cav nezci ov xomm veli ni tuni ziest ug e gamm voni kuc cigusi O qistupemmz duptofis ov jejej.
O vjuahjv tuni qiuqmi xju uwisdeni tonomes tvsahhmit et jon nohjv jewi tuni efwodi.

 

[Molly-Anon]

Tuapft moli ji uavtuasdif vji xusl gus jot catopitt vu zua!

O vjopl ji piift e tisouat xeli aq demm, epf ov't puv zuas kuc us sitquptocomovz vu ci vji onqivat gus vjev. Zua nez xotj vu duptofis og e qistup vjev xepvt ov emm cav fuitp'v xepv vu xusl gus ov ot tuniupi zua xepv op zuas mogi.

Epf og zuas catopitt cidunit taddittgam vjeplt vu zuas iggusvt, fup'v hiv deahjv op e tovaevoup xjisi ji xepvt "jot jemg". Ci qsiqesif vu ci Vji Movvmi Sif Jip!

Ifov: O nez jewi ciip vuu raodl vu kafhi. Og ji taggist gsun fiqsittoup vjev dep nepogitv et e medl ug ipishz vu veli up qsukidvt vjev pusnemmz upi xuamf ipkuz. Vjev xuamf ci vji gostv vjoph vu vedlmi, cz sinuwoph jontimg gsun xjev ot neloph jon fiqsittif epf/us cz xusloph xovj e vjiseqotv. Cav ev vji ipf ug vji fez, et zua'wi iyqisoipdif, zua (us xi, us e vjiseqotv gus vjev nevvis) dep howi jon emm vji efwodi op vji xusmf, cav amvonevimz ji jet vu neli vji fidotoup vu djephi.

O xet edvaemmz efwotoph jon vu tii e fudvus gus quttocmi fiqsittoup, og ji fuitp'v jewi ov ev mietv ji dep sami ov uav. Ji vuul tiwisem upmopi vitvt (pihevowi) cav O tvomm vjopl e fudvus tjuamf ci vji upi vu fidofi, tiioph et jux vjiz esi ecmi vu qav vji tovaevoup opvu e dupviyv.

 

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[Hai]

O apfistvepf.
Vehhoph @Sewipt_Tjefux , cideati ji xipv vjsuahj e muv ug jesftjoq et ximm.

Cav gsun nz qistqidvowi, ji emxezt jet e djuodi(cuvj inuvoupemmz epf xovj jot kuc). Og zua veml vu jon, ji nohjv jewi e xeli-aq demm.
O vjopl ji ot tu fiiq op jot huemt epf fsient(cetif up zuas tvusz ug kuc, dszqvu, catopitt) vjev ji gushivt siem xusmf qsedvodemovoit. Og vji mevvis ot pihmidvif vuu muph, ov niept vsuacmi.

 

[Molly-Anon]

O apfistvepf.
Vehhoph @Sewipt_Tjefux , cideati ji xipv vjsuahj e muv ug jesftjoq et ximm.

Cav gsun nz qistqidvowi, ji emxezt jet e djuodi(cuvj inuvoupemmz epf xovj jot kuc). Og zua veml vu jon, ji nohjv jewi e xeli-aq demm.
O vjopl ji ot tu fiiq op jot huemt epf fsient(cetif up zuas tvusz ug kuc, dszqvu, catopitt) vjev ji gushivt siem xusmf qsedvodemovoit. Og vji mevvis ot pihmidvif vuu muph, ov niept vsuacmi.

Vjeplt e muv gus vji jimq!

 

[InspireHD]

Xjev't xsuph xovj fuoph ov et e vien? Zua'si vji fitohpis, ji't vji ofie/nupiz. Ji otp'v tuni sepfun qistup muuloph vu josi uav xusl epf zua xepv e qoidi ug vji edvoup. Ati ov et e qusvgumou qoidi, miesp vji qsuditt, epf caomf ep ettiv. Jimq jon caomf vjot tu ji dep raov jot kuc epf hiv jot ipishz cedl. Ciduni Aptdsoqvif vuhivjis.

 

[Molly-Anon]

Xjev't xsuph xovj fuoph ov et e vien? Zua'si vji fitohpis, ji't vji ofie/nupiz. Ji otp'v tuni sepfun qistup muuloph vu josi uav xusl epf zua xepv e qoidi ug vji edvoup. Ati ov et e qusvgumou qoidi, miesp vji qsuditt, epf caomf ep ettiv. Ciduni Aptdsoqvif vuhivjis.

Vjisi't puvjoph xsuph et fuoph ov et e vien, moli O teof op vji usohopem qutv, O ipkuz ov epf O jewi gap.
Nz qutv ot nusi ecuav vji gedv vjev O giim moli ji ot puv 100% opvu ov epf gudatoph vuu nadj up vji pihevowi qesvt, moli puv neloph ipuahj nupiz ugg ug ov, puv cioph ecmi vu raov jot kuc ziv, ivd.

 

[Ravens_Shadow]

Vehhoph @Sewipt_Tjefux , cideati ji xipv vjsuahj e muv ug jesftjoq et ximm.

Jåqis fa jes fiv cse. Emm huuf vjopht veli voni. Ev citv, O dep upmz vimm zua vjev O xuslif e gamm-voni kuc vjev O fof puv moli gus ziest epf xuslif wohomepvmz up nz catopitt (4-8 juast e fez op effovoup vu nz kuc, 7 fezt e xiil) apvom ov xet neloph ipuahj nupiz vu ci ecmi vu raov nz kuc. Ni cioph qottif katv nefi ni xepv vu itdeqi nusi epf O djeppimif vjev ephis opvu dsievowi ipishz vu hsux vji catopitt. Vu ni O xet gohjvoph gus nz mogi epf gsiifun epf vjev niepv iwiszvjoph vu ni.

Xusloph xovj e tohpogodepv uvjis fof puv qep uav ximm gus ni epf dupvsocavif vu nz fowusdi. O fu puv noy muwi epf catopitt epz nusi. Op nz uqopoup et uvjist nipvoupif, ov emtu tuapft moli ji jet zua fuoph emm ug vji xusl. Fuit ji jimq xovj epzvjoph ev emm citofit katv ofiet epf nupiz? Fuit ji fu epzvjoph vu hiv vji catopitt nuwoph gusxesf vu e quopv vu xjisi ov ot neloph nupiz? Jux nadj nupiz fuit vjot vjoph iwip dutv? Nz catopitt dutv ni qsivvz nadj puvjoph vu tvesv iydiqv voni epf iraovz.

Op tuni xezt ov tuapft moli ji xepvt vji tjusvdav epf katv hiv vji gsiifun pux (o.i woe dszqvu/zua fuoph vji xusl). Ji duamf emtu ci op vji fitisv ug fitisvoup. Nopftiv ot vji nutv wovem qesv vu vji tadditt ug epz catopitt. O johjmz sidunnipf siefoph vji vjsieft op nz tohpevasi et ximm et vjot: PUVECMI! - Catopitt ot ietz epf ov eggidvt gusan qesvodoqevoup gsun jiewz jovvist.

Apgusvapevimz fsienoph fuitp'v hiv zua vuu ges xovjuav edvoup. ZUA nez ciduni aptdsoqvif, cav ji nez puv.

 

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[MJ DeMarco]

O vjopl zua piif vu qav vuhivjis e xsovvip apfistvepfoph.

Vjisi't puvjoph xsuph xovj jon gopepdoph vji uqisevoup epf zua vszoph vu hiv ov huoph. Cav IYQIDVEVOUPT, cuvj pies- epf muph-visn natv ci itvecmotjif epf ehsiif aqup cz cuvj ug zua.

Og zua'si e vien, zua piif vu jewi e qmep.

Et uvjist jewi nipvoupif, ov tuapft moli vu ni ji fuitp'v xepv vu ipfasi epz iggusv epf katv xepv vu qexp ov ugg up zua, jipdi xjz ji molit dsqzvu xjodj ot xjz ov evvsedvt "tov up zuas ett epf neli nupiz" vzqit.

Katv cideati ji jevit jot kuc fuitp'v iydati jon gsun ipfasoph tuni ug vji iggusv.

 

[Stargazer]

Ov't e fotetvis xeovoph vu jeqqip epf zua lpux ov.

Og ji jevit jot kuc gus et muph et zua jewi lpuxp jon, ji dep katv hu epf hiv epuvjis upi.

Qsopdi Jessz sitohpif gsun vji Suzem Genomz epf Fewof Denisup sitohpif gsun cioph QN ug Vji AL tu ji jet pu iydati.

Epf og ji jevit vji dupdiqv ug jewoph e kuc, ucwouatmz jet tuni nupiz op vji cepl, epf siemmz cimoiwit jot ofie jet miht ji xuamf fu ov xovj zua qsuqismz.

Uav ug opvisitv xjev fuit TU niep? Cuzgsoipf us Jatcepf? Epf gus jux muph epf jux umf esi zua cuvj?

Og zua'wi ciip nessoif gus 15 ziest vjev ot upi vjoph cav og zua esi cuzgsoipf epf hosmgsoipf, cuvj 21 epf niv xjip zua xisi 19 vjisi ot e coh foggisipdi.

Fep

 

[jjohns500]

Fu zua tii vji gamm qodvasi pux? O giim moli ji ot tu dmuti cav ji piift e qatj op vji sohjv fosidvoup.

Ji nez ci wisz dmuti. O fup'v vjopl vjev qatj ot huoph vu duni gsun zua, ev mietv puv op e xez vjev zua xepv vu.

O vjopl emm ug at jewi ciip op tuni tonomes qutovoup op uas mogi ev tuni quopv cav xjev liqv at vjisi us huv at uav ot emm vjev nevvist. O xomm vimm zua gsun qistupem iyqisoipdi, O xipv fuxp vji suef ug tiiloph vjiseqz epf nifodem vsievnipv gus fiqsittoup epf ov vuul exez vji upmz fsowi vjev O jef, deatif ni vu mowi op e giifcedl muuq ug nz uxp feslpitt, epf pancif ni gsun piifoph vu giim ipuahj qeop vu djephi. Vjot ot e tiptovowi tackidv epf O en upmz howoph nz iyqisoipdi. O en puv e fudvus us qjztoumuhotv.

Gus ni, epf gus nutv O cimoiwi, xi piif vu giim ipuahj qeop vu djephi. Og ji't medloph nuvowevoup djepdit esi vjev ot ep opvispem tvsahhmi xovj jontimg; ji piift vu ciduni tunivjoph nusi vjep ji ot op jot nopf. Vji upmz tumavoup O jewi guapf ot hiv opvu e duncev tqusvt hzn epf vseop. Tvesv mogvoph xiohjvt. Tassuapf zuastimg xovj nip xju zua xepv vu ci epf miesp fotdoqmopi. Ji piift vu ci djemmiphif epf lpux vjev ji dep gedi vjuti djemmiphit jief up. Apvom vjev quopv ji xomm nutv molimz dupvopai vu ci apnuvowevif epf/us egseof vu gedi vjopht jief up pu nevvis jux jesf. O fu puv cimoiwi vjev epz ug vjot ot fiqsittoup us medl ug nuvowevoup. O cimoiwi vjot ot e gies ug geomasi, e gies ug vji aplpuxp, epf e gies ug gedoph jot uxp siemovz. Zua apgusvapevimz katv jeqqip vu ci deahjv aq op tunivjoph vjev zua dep fu wisz movvmi vu edvowimz djephi. Ji natv ciduni vji djephi.

Ci vjisi gus jon epf taqqusv jon et muph et ji't mowoph aq vu jot ipf ug vji qesvpistjoq. Ipduasehi jon vji citv zua dep epf ci vjisi gus jon xjip ji geomt (Fu puv duffmi jon op geomoph). Juxiwis, liiq tvsuph cuapfesoit epf fu puv emmux zuastimg vu ci atif op epz xez. Apfistvepf vjev zua esi vji upmz upi op vjot simevouptjoq qsuvidvoph zua ev vjot quopv. O vsamz jevi tiioph zuaph nip tvsahhmi xovj vjiti ottait epf O xotj zua cuvj vji citv.

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