@garyfritz explained the problem of reading so many ideas and great advice on attention which always turned out to be complete!y useless to him.
This thread is about what you actually can do to overcome distractibilty.
The discussion will cover "Indistractible," the new book by Nir Eyal. His information is new and it also works.
You can pre-order the book on Amazon and get immediate access to the free downloadable PDF.
Note: the free download might have expired as of 8.9.19.
All the talk on this forum about DNA, dopamine, ADD/ADHD, personality, depression and health really only deals with one of the four elements of focus and distractibility explained in Eyal's absolutely useful work.
Hey, the old braino doesn't tell the diff between "genetics" and "environment."
If what you need is a real plan of action, read "Indistractible." The book will change your life.
Skip the personality tests. Personality traits and habit formation are two completely independent concerns.
Whether the problem is ADD/ADHD, poor nutrition, poor health and so on, it is the absence of good habits and the ongoing presence of environmental distractions that will cause you to fail to carry out your intentions and make you wholly fail at being yourself.
You might be fed up with all the encouragement to "just try." You know this problem of shiny objects and rabbit holes is not a matter of will. A person can have great quantities of will without having a clue about how to use it.
Read "Indistractible." Check out the workbook and aids also if that's your style.
This is the "How-To" content you need to get your act together, a scientifically researched, NEW solution to distraction and weak focus for everyone.together
For the first time it's going to be easy for you to change what you're doing wrong. You can learn to recognize what the heck is really going on with you throughout the day.I have not found any of this insight presented anywhere in this forum so far.
I'm hoping we can go through the book in sections on this thread.
Please indicate at top of your comment which sections you 've worked through. Feel free to post reviews however you prefer. I'm going to post questions and a survey at some point.
Label your posts as listed below if you're serious about doing this.
That way people can skip over the same old, same old face-melting common sense, the side glints of wisdom, cheerleading, product promotion, brand-building bromides and neurotrash.
First Section: (Introduction and) Master Internal Triggers
Second Section: Make Time for Traction
Third Section: Hack Back Internal Triggers
Fourth Section: Prevent Distraction with Pacts
Fifth Section: How to Make Your Workplace Indistractible
Sixth Section: How to Raise Indistractible Children (And Why We All Need Psychological Nutrients)
Seventh Section: How to Have Indistractible Relationships
Scroll the thread below for reviews of each section.
I'll post my review on each section every few days.
Let's do it.
Thank you @garyfritz.
Thank you MJ.
[QUOTE="garyfritz, post: 801979, member: 6889]
Do you think I haven't been TRYING to do that for over 50 years?? Some people (maybe including you) don't have this problem. That doesn't mean ALL people can "fix" the about lf.problem with a simple application of will. People are different. You may be very disciplined/motivated but I've had very little success with "deciding to" be that way myself.
(My brother, a typical type-A hyper-productive type, just doesn't understand this. It's easy for him, so obviously it's just easy, so if you don't do it, obviously you're lazy or not trying. He typically asks me questions like "Well why don't you just ..." One time I shot back "Well why don't you just read a damn book?" (He's fairly badly dyslexic.) That shut him up fast. It started to dawn on him that maybe other people have different challenges than he does.)
Yes, I *CAN* work hard at it and change my behaviors, and I do it frequently. I can hold my breath, too. But it's unsustainable and I can't keep it up. Sooner or later I have to breathe. Sooner or later I fall off the wagon and revert back to my "normal" behaviors, and I have never found a way to prevent that.
And I have a pretty solid internal locus of control. I don't blame anybody else for stuff unless it's clearly out of my control, like the weather or something like that. I would not have survived 30 years as a self-employed contractor/consultant if I didn't have a fairly good lock on that. My failings are my own. My focus and my productivity suck, but my **discipline** is pretty good. It's very common for me to plant my a$$ in my office chair 16 hours a day to get a job done. During the day I'm rabbit-holing and shiny-objecting (?) all over the place, so my time efficiency sucks rocks -- I might charge for only 4 hours of productive work. But my discipline keeps me in the chair until the job is done. The really maddening thing is that I can WATCH myself doing this, and think "you idiot, there you go again." I might pull myself out of it for the moment, but I seem nearly powerless to prevent it from happening again and again and again. I can't hold my breath forever.
I titrated up to 20mg/day, if I remember right, using a very high-quality recommended supplement, tons of B12, lots of Mg, etc. Zero effect.
But that's when I was still trying to isolate the source of all/most of the problems I was having. Since then I've removed my mercury fillings and I'm chemically extracting deep body stores of mercury, and most of my problems have vanished. (Except focus/productivity/etc, which are very common mercury behaviors.) Maybe it would be worth giving folate another try.
I've always had a big appetite and I'm fairly lethargic & don't exercise much, but fortunately weight is not a problem. I'm actually UNDERweight in spite of eating whatever the **** I want. And in spite of having almost every symptom of low thyroid EXCEPT weight gain.
[/QUOTE]
This thread is about what you actually can do to overcome distractibilty.
The discussion will cover "Indistractible," the new book by Nir Eyal. His information is new and it also works.
You can pre-order the book on Amazon and get immediate access to the free downloadable PDF.
Note: the free download might have expired as of 8.9.19.
All the talk on this forum about DNA, dopamine, ADD/ADHD, personality, depression and health really only deals with one of the four elements of focus and distractibility explained in Eyal's absolutely useful work.
Hey, the old braino doesn't tell the diff between "genetics" and "environment."
If what you need is a real plan of action, read "Indistractible." The book will change your life.
Skip the personality tests. Personality traits and habit formation are two completely independent concerns.
Whether the problem is ADD/ADHD, poor nutrition, poor health and so on, it is the absence of good habits and the ongoing presence of environmental distractions that will cause you to fail to carry out your intentions and make you wholly fail at being yourself.
You might be fed up with all the encouragement to "just try." You know this problem of shiny objects and rabbit holes is not a matter of will. A person can have great quantities of will without having a clue about how to use it.
Read "Indistractible." Check out the workbook and aids also if that's your style.
This is the "How-To" content you need to get your act together, a scientifically researched, NEW solution to distraction and weak focus for everyone.together
For the first time it's going to be easy for you to change what you're doing wrong. You can learn to recognize what the heck is really going on with you throughout the day.I have not found any of this insight presented anywhere in this forum so far.
I'm hoping we can go through the book in sections on this thread.
Please indicate at top of your comment which sections you 've worked through. Feel free to post reviews however you prefer. I'm going to post questions and a survey at some point.
Label your posts as listed below if you're serious about doing this.
That way people can skip over the same old, same old face-melting common sense, the side glints of wisdom, cheerleading, product promotion, brand-building bromides and neurotrash.
First Section: (Introduction and) Master Internal Triggers
Second Section: Make Time for Traction
Third Section: Hack Back Internal Triggers
Fourth Section: Prevent Distraction with Pacts
Fifth Section: How to Make Your Workplace Indistractible
Sixth Section: How to Raise Indistractible Children (And Why We All Need Psychological Nutrients)
Seventh Section: How to Have Indistractible Relationships
Scroll the thread below for reviews of each section.
I'll post my review on each section every few days.
Let's do it.
Thank you @garyfritz.
Thank you MJ.
Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life: Eyal, Nir: 9781948836531: Amazon.com: Books
Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life [Eyal, Nir] on Amazon.com. *FREE* shipping on qualifying offers. Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life
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[QUOTE="garyfritz, post: 801979, member: 6889]
Do you think I haven't been TRYING to do that for over 50 years?? Some people (maybe including you) don't have this problem. That doesn't mean ALL people can "fix" the about lf.problem with a simple application of will. People are different. You may be very disciplined/motivated but I've had very little success with "deciding to" be that way myself.
(My brother, a typical type-A hyper-productive type, just doesn't understand this. It's easy for him, so obviously it's just easy, so if you don't do it, obviously you're lazy or not trying. He typically asks me questions like "Well why don't you just ..." One time I shot back "Well why don't you just read a damn book?" (He's fairly badly dyslexic.) That shut him up fast. It started to dawn on him that maybe other people have different challenges than he does.)
Yes, I *CAN* work hard at it and change my behaviors, and I do it frequently. I can hold my breath, too. But it's unsustainable and I can't keep it up. Sooner or later I have to breathe. Sooner or later I fall off the wagon and revert back to my "normal" behaviors, and I have never found a way to prevent that.
And I have a pretty solid internal locus of control. I don't blame anybody else for stuff unless it's clearly out of my control, like the weather or something like that. I would not have survived 30 years as a self-employed contractor/consultant if I didn't have a fairly good lock on that. My failings are my own. My focus and my productivity suck, but my **discipline** is pretty good. It's very common for me to plant my a$$ in my office chair 16 hours a day to get a job done. During the day I'm rabbit-holing and shiny-objecting (?) all over the place, so my time efficiency sucks rocks -- I might charge for only 4 hours of productive work. But my discipline keeps me in the chair until the job is done. The really maddening thing is that I can WATCH myself doing this, and think "you idiot, there you go again." I might pull myself out of it for the moment, but I seem nearly powerless to prevent it from happening again and again and again. I can't hold my breath forever.
I titrated up to 20mg/day, if I remember right, using a very high-quality recommended supplement, tons of B12, lots of Mg, etc. Zero effect.
But that's when I was still trying to isolate the source of all/most of the problems I was having. Since then I've removed my mercury fillings and I'm chemically extracting deep body stores of mercury, and most of my problems have vanished. (Except focus/productivity/etc, which are very common mercury behaviors.) Maybe it would be worth giving folate another try.
I've always had a big appetite and I'm fairly lethargic & don't exercise much, but fortunately weight is not a problem. I'm actually UNDERweight in spite of eating whatever the **** I want. And in spite of having almost every symptom of low thyroid EXCEPT weight gain.
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