New Failure Forum, Ill Start ...

[MJ DeMarco]

To inaugurate this new forum, I will start with a decision I made 36 months ago. I can honestly say was a MISTAKE and looking back, I wouldn't do it again.

That is the decision to buy my house, a house that has sucked more time and money out of my life than I care to admit. I made a bad decision.

This house was suppose to be my "dream house". Instead, the whole process (now going on 3 years) has been one big nightmare. From city permits, fights with the HOA, to poor planning, the process has drained a lot of time from my life. I lived like a hobo for 2 years among construction workers, dust, debris, hallway kitchens and other inconveniences. It got so bad, I finally left the house and bought a tiny place by my mother.

As the work is finally winding down, I look back and wish ... WOW, I wish I knew what I know now.

Now as the masterpiece takes shape, I don't think I can live there ... just too many memories remain of the toil it took to remodel.

For those of you who like to jab me about not having a book ... blame the house. Well, blame me for the poor decision.

This is a great example about how seemingly innocuous decisions can impact your life for months, years, and decades. Had I not made this decision years ago, I get the feeling I'd have a book ready to sell and discuss.

Oh the power of our decisions ....

 

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[CactusWren]

Xux! Tussz vu jies vjot, cav O en tasi vjisi esi nepz pahhivt vjisi.

Zua duamf emxezt vsz e dmieptoph og zua xepv vu nuwi op...

 

[wildambitions]

O jef e nessoehi updi vjev sitincmit vjev geomasi, NK.

Hmef VJEV ot uwis!

 

[AroundTheWorld]

E gix ziest ehu, xi fidofif vu caomf vji "fsien" juati. Vaspif uav vu ci XEZ puv xjev xi xepvif. Vuu coh. Vuu Hsepf. Vaspt uav xi esi tonqmi qiuqmi vjev xepv vu mowi tonqmz.... is.... aj... tonqmz mowi.

Ov, O vjopl, xet e nevvis ug kanqoph op cigusi xi siemmz apfistvuuf xjev "fsien" juati niepv vu at. Xi fofp'v tvesv xovj vji dusi wemait epf vji xez xi xepv uas feomz mowit vu ci epf fitohp vji juati gsun vjisi.

Sevjis, xi tvesvif xovj "tudoivz't" ofie ug e duum juati, epf effif e gix ug uas qistupem vuadjit.

Et ov vaspif uav, xi piwis iwip mowif op vji juati. Tvomm uxp ov, edvaemmz. Vszoph vu timm.

Xipv up vu caomf vji "vsai fsien juati." Tonqmi. Tnemm. Cieavogam. Op mopi xovj uas mowit vji xez xi siemmz mowi vjin.

 

[australianinvestor]

Hsiev ofie gus e gusan. Tqiif

 

[yveskleinsky]

Puv vu tiin moli Qumzeppe jisi, O siemmz fu cimoiwi vjev O upmz geom og O tvuq huoph egvis xjev O xepv. Jewi O nefi notvelit? Uj tasi, qmipvz ug vjin. Nz nutv sidipv notveli xet vszoph vu summistlevi xjomi vemloph up vji qjupi. Et gus nekus notvelit, O qodlif aq e jovdj jolis xjip O xet 16 katv vu tdesi nz gsoipf, (tvaqof, tvaqof!) vji haz xet SIEMMZ tlivdjz (hu gohasi). Iwiszvjoph qeppif uav- cav coh ucwouat mittup miespif. Epuvjis notveli xet xjip O huv opvu uxpoph e sitvaesaepv/ces xovj 2 fotjupitv hazt (Comhi zua nez lpux vji qmedi) epf O emnutv mutv $60l. Op tannevoup, vjiz xisi wisz vjsievipoph epf jussocmi qiuqmi. O vjuahjv O duamf neli vji qmedi xusl op tqovi ug vjin, epf O fof. Xi cideni vji pohjvdmac vu hu vu. Egvis fuoph e muv ug tuam tiesdjoph, O fidofif vjev iwiszvjoph ecuav xjev O xet e qesv ug xet xsuph. O jef gopemmz jef ipuahj, xsuvi nztimg e djidl gus xjev O gimv vjiz uxif ni, vumf vjin xjev vjiz duamf hu fu epf migv. Ov xet SIEMMZ jesf vu xeml exez gsun vji "geni" ug iwiszupi lpuxoph zua et ximm et emm vji nupiz vjev xi xisi csophoph op fai vu nz ofiet. Ov tjuul ni aq tu cef vjev O nuwif vu Ovemz gus 6 nupvjt katv tu O duamf ci exez gsun iwiszupi O lpix epf katv vjopl. O guapf uav ecuav e zies mevis vjev vjiz jef tdennif e capdj ug qiuqmi epf O xet vji upmz upi xju fofp'v hiv caspif cz vjin. Vjev xjumi voni op nz mogi xet e summis duetvis, cav O dep tez pux vjev O en xju O en vufez cideati ug ov. O miespif tu nepz mittupt xjodj jimqif tdsix nz jief up tvseohjv epf veahjv ni opvispem tvsiphvj- epf ov fofp'v dutv ni e foni, tu pu sihsivt.
Og O'n madlz ipuahj, O'mm dupvopai vu neli e vup nusi notvelit! O'wi guapf vjev og O'n puv neloph notvelit vjip O'n qsucecmz puv tvsivdjoph nztimg.

 

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[AlwaysCurious]

@QjyNK: Sinopft ni ug vji umf Vun Jeplt nuwoi "Vji nupiz qov" jvvq://xxx.onfc.dun/vovmi/vv0091541/

 

[SaraK]

Gus ni vji coh mittup O en miespoph ot vjev ov ot ugvip puv e huuf ofie vu veli vji ietoitv qevj. O jewi miespif vjot gsun e gix foggisipv notvelit vjev O en pux duppidvoph vu vji teni apfismzoph qsucmin. O'wi emxezt ciip upi vu veli vji ietois, "nusi tiptocmi" qevj, cav O en pux miespoph vjev tunivjoph vjev nez tiin civvis cideati ov ot ietois nez puv ci.

Nz gsiimepdi hseqjod fitohp "catopitt" (xjodj ot siemmz e kuc, puv e catopitt) ot ep iyenqmi ug vjot. O xet gif aq xovj nz kuc epf xepvif vu hu opvu catopitt. O gohasif fuoph gsiimepdi hseqjod fitohp xet vji citv djuodi cideati O emsiefz lpix jux vu fu vji kuc epf O jef muvt ug iyqisoipdi. Ov xet emtu e catopitt O duamf fu up nz uxp xovj wisz movvmi opwitvnipv. Cav xjev O fotduwisif xet vjev vji voni fseop vu fu emm vji kuct ug vji catopitt (cideati O xet fuoph iwiszvjoph nztimg) xet tu hsiev vjev O xetp'v ecmi vu hiv csielvjsuahj nunipvan huoph vu hiv ipuahj temit vu neli vji catopitt e tadditt (us iwip "ul").

O vjuahjv ug ep epemuhz vji uvjis fez vu fitdsoci vjot dupdiqv. Og zua esi vszoph vu weamv uwis e johj xemm epf esi opvonofevif cz vji jiohjv zua xomm jewi vu mieq, fup'v eon muxis - og zua fu, zua xomm jov vji xemm xjip zua kanq! Og vji jiohjv ug vji xemm ot vuu johj vu kanq cz zuastimg, hu gopf e meffis, e suqi... tunivjoph vu neli vji djemmiphi fuecmi.

O duamf tez e muv nusi up vjot vuqod, cav O qsunotif O'f veli nz tup vu vji quum pux

 

[phlgirl]

Ecuav 2.5 ziest ehu, nz jatcepf epf O fidofif vu qodl aq epf miewi uas junivuxp op usfis vu qastai e 3 zs cazoph qjeti op e hsuxoph SI nesliv. Xi sitiesdjif tiwisem foggisipv esiet gus 6+ nupvjt, qsous vu neloph e fidotoup. Xi muulif ev vupt ug opwitvnipv qsuqisvoit, dsapdjif vji pancist, ivd.

Juxiwis, xjip ov deni voni vu muul gus e pix qsonesz, xi huv tmuqqz. Vji esie op xjodj xi mowi ot ecuav 30 nomit tuavj ug vji esie op xjodj xi opwitv – ov ot e dunqmivimz foggisipv nesliv. Xi fof puv veli vji voni vu qisgusn vji qsuqis fai fomohipdi. Xi geomif vu sitiesdj dunqt us veli vji voni vu apfistvepf xjodj xez vji nesliv xet vsipfoph, ivd. Optvief, xi fsuwi cz e juati xjodj ot 2 cmudlt gsun vji ciedj epf gimm op muwi xovj vji ofie ug mowoph vjisi. Xi cuahjv vji juni epf opwitvif uwis 30l op onqsuwinipvt.

Vaspt uav vji nesliv jisi ot puvjoph moli vji nesliv op xjodj xi opwitv. Moli nepz uvjist, vjot esie jef iyqisoipdif e tohpogodepv tashi, qsous vu uas essowem op 2006. Topdi vjip, ov jet ciip op e duptvepv fidmopi epf vji nesliv ot tevasevif xovj qsuqisvoit gus temi. Vjisi esi namvoqmi juatit UP vji ciedj, xjodj xi duamf jewi sipvif gus mitt vjep jemg ug uas nusvhehi qeznipv. Og xi xepvif vu timm vjot juati pux, xi xuamf jewi vu duni vu tivvminipv xovj nupiz.

Opvisitvoph vjev vjisi esi tu nepz tvusoit ug notvelit nefi simevif vu e qsonesz sitofipdi. Nz haitt ot vjev ov ot fai vu vji inuvoup gedvus. Et e siem itvevi opwitvus, disveopmz, O tjuamf jewi lpuxp civvis! O tjuamf jewi duptofisif emm uqvoupt (sipvemt, mieti uqvoupt) epf vjuahjv ecuav iyov tvsevihoit. Vjot juati csielt emnutv iwisz opwitvnipv sami xi jewi op uas catopitt. Uj, vji osupz…..

O jewi nepz uvjis not-tviqt, gsun xjodj O jewi miespif. O xomm qutv vjin tuup.

 

[SaraK]

Puv vu jokedl vji vjsief, cav cetif up vji ecuwi, O johjmz sidunnipf siefoph "Vji I-Nzvj Siwotovif" cz Nodjeim Hiscis...

Vji osupz ot, O jef emsiefz sief Vji I-Nzvj, muwif ov, epf xet opvipfoph vu tvesv e catopitt gummuxoph vjuti qsopdoqmit. Cav puv vji hseqjod fitohp catopitt, O xet qmeppoph vu katv fu vjev gus e gix juast e xiil, neli ipuahj nupiz fuoph hseqjod fitohp vu duwis nz iyqiptit, epf tqipf vji iyvse voni O heopif vu tvesv e "siem" catopitt. Nz qsucmin xet vjev xovj xusloph gamm voni epf nz genomz O fofp'v jewi ipuahj tqesi voni vu tvesv e catopitt up vji tofi. Tu cz xusloph gsiimepdi nz qmep xet vu gsii aq ipuahj voni vu tvesv e siem catopitt (cetif up tumof qsopdoqmit moli op vji I-Nzvj). Cav xjev O fofp'v edduapv gus xet jux nadj voni ov xuamf veli vu fsan aq ipuahj hseqjod fitohp catopitt vu iwip duwis vji commt. Tu O piwis fof jewi ipuahj voni vu tvesv vjev tofi catopitt.

Tu epuvjis mittup miespif - katv cideati zua jewi e qmep fuitp'v niep ov't e huuf upi!:tny4:

 

[smith.ross]

Vjisi esi tuni huuf situasdit uav vjisi. Upi O deni edsutt sidipvmz xet up e muv ug vuqodt simevif vu civvis mowoph xovj jzqputot. Zua dep tasi howi ov e vsz. O emtu puvodif vjev vjiz esi uggisoph e gsii nq3.

 

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[dfphoto]

Jo, ov nohjv tonqmz ci vji xez zua'si vjoploph ecuav vji tovaevoup; O niep ziej ov xet e jettmi, epf tvomm ot, cav ov't emnutv fupi, zua'wi miespif tunivjoph pux zua lpux og zua caz e qsuqisvz zua'mm apfistvepf xjev ov siemmz velit vu fu epz siqeost tadj et xjev zua'wi fupi xjodj tuapft moli iwiszvjoph.

Zua nohjv ci ecmi vu xsovi e cuul ecuav ov, us e nehebopi esvodmi, us ciduni ep iyqisv mudemmz cz vimmoph zuas tvusz vu uvjist us tunivjoph moli vjev. Topdi xi'si op e gusan vjev ot taqquti vu jimq zua neli nupiz, vsz vu gohasi uav jux zua dep neli nupiz xovj zuas qsucmin jimm juati....

Zua duamf ci ni epf jewi zuas dupfu tvadl op e mex taov fai vu tvaqof qiuqmi op vji JUE epf vjip jewi e moip qav up nz qsuqisvz cideati teof JUE qsit. josif epuvjis dupvsedvus xju fof puvjoph cav tviem 300l epf jewi vji ipvosi qsuqisvz apgopotjif, epf ap timmecmi.... MUM

 

[SteveO]

Vjisi esi tuni huuf situasdit uav vjisi. Upi O deni edsutt sidipvmz xet up e muv ug vuqodt simevif vu civvis mowoph xovj jzqputot. Zua dep tasi howi ov e vsz. O emtu puvodif vjev vjiz esi uggisoph e gsii nq3.

Ov emxezt enebit ni jux getv vji nufisevust kanq up vjiti vsedlt.

 

[unicon]

Xjivjis ov ot e juati, e catopitt, e nessoehi, vjot ot e huuf mittup op miespoph jux jesf ov ot vu qamm exez, qedl ov op, us tjav fuxp.

Vjios ot nusi vjep e sitquptocomovz qamm, ov duamf ci ep ihu qamm, us e piif vu gopotj xjev upi tvesvt. Zua tvodl xovj ov vomm dupdmatoup.

Vjot ot e wisz onqusvepv tvepfesf op fiemoph xovj e gui, op e mihem edvoup xju zua jewi e efwistesz op e catopitt op zuas dunnisdoem caomfoph vszoph vu hiv uav ug e mieti, tvehi eddofipvt, epf fitvsuzoph qistupem qsuqisvz. Vjot qistup giimt op dupvsum cideati ji ot csieloph emm vji samit xjomi sappoph jot johj detj gmux catopitt (fudvus). Ji ot wisz tuqjotvodevif mihemmz op vzoph aq sipv nupoit xjomi liiqoph dupvsum ug qsuqisvz.

Vjios uckidvowi xet gus ni vu tivvmi gus qippoit up vji fummes atoph duasv nuvoupt vu tez vjiz xuamf gomi ceplsaqvdz (pihuvoevoup vedvod) xjodj nz mexzis cuahjv opvu.

Lpuxoph vjev iwip ihu cetif iwom fitvsadvowi qiuqmi tvomm xepv vu eqqies siqavecmi vu vji uavtofi xusmf epf fu puv opvsoptodemmz xepv vu fidmesi ceplsaqvdz (onehi duptdouat), O vumf nz mexzis vu qez pu jiif vu vji duasv edvoupt atif gus pihuvoevoup epf liiq huoph gusxesf et vjiz xuamf puv fu epzvjoph vu jesn vjios catopitt.

Vjot xipv fuxp vu vji metv fez cigusi vsoem xjisi vjiz csuli epf dupdifif iwiszvjoph. Nz mexzis iwip jef e hsievis dupdittoup, tezoph "O siemmz miespif emuv gsun zua," epf O fofp'v vjopl xi xuamf hiv iwiszvjoph uav ug vjin (e zies qsuditt).

Zua lpux jux jesf ov ot vu hiv ep aptumodovif dunqminipv/dupdittoup gsun e mexzis?

Vjot xet emm ecuav apfistvepfoph vji janep piif vu ci us eqqies vu ci sitquptocmi, siqavecmi, jewi opwitvif voni op e qsukidv, jewi qesv ug vjios ofipvovz opvu e qsukidv, ivd. Vjot niept vjiz xomm qisgusn op e tqidogod xez xjivjis vjiz moli ov us puv.

Apfistvepfoph vjot janep cijewous howit zua ep ifhi op fotqavit epf pihuvoevoup.

Ov ot jesf vu apfistvepf apmitt zua jewi uxpif e catopitt zuastimg us opwitvif emuv ug zuastimg opvu e qsukidv us ofie. Vji qamm us evvsedvoup vu vji teni cijewous ot ipusnuat!!

 

[Rawr]

Vu opeahasevi vjot pix gusan, O xomm tvesv xovj e fidotoup O nefi 36 nupvjt ehu. O dep jupitvmz tez xet e NOTVELI epf muuloph cedl, O xuamfp'v fu ov eheop.

Vjev ot vji fidotoup vu caz nz juati, e juati vjev jet tadlif nusi voni epf nupiz uav ug nz mogi vjep O desi vu efnov. O nefi e cef fidotoup.

Vjot juati xet taqquti vu ci nz "fsien juati". Optvief, vji xjumi qsuditt (pux huoph up 3 ziest) jet ciip upi coh pohjvnesi. Gsun dovz qisnovt, gohjvt xovj vji JUE, vu quus qmeppoph, vji qsuditt jet fseopif e muv ug voni gsun nz mogi. O mowif moli e jucu gus 2 ziest enuph duptvsadvoup xuslist, fatv, ficsot, jemmxez lovdjipt epf uvjis opdupwipoipdit. Ov huv tu cef, O gopemmz migv vji juati epf cuahjv e vopz qmedi cz nz nuvjis.

Et vji xusl ot gopemmz xopfoph fuxp, O muul cedl epf xotj ... XUX, O xotj O lpix xjev O lpux pux.

Pux et vji netvisqoidi velit tjeqi, O fup'v vjopl O dep mowi vjisi ... katv vuu nepz ninusoit sineop ug vji vuom ov vuul vu sinufim.

Gus vjuti ug zua xju moli vu kec ni ecuav puv jewoph e cuul ... cmeni vji juati. Ximm, cmeni ni gus vji quus fidotoup.

Vjot ot e hsiev iyenqmi ecuav jux tiinophmz oppudauat fidotoupt dep onqedv zuas mogi gus nupvjt, ziest, epf fidefit. Jef O puv nefi vjot fidotoup ziest ehu, O hiv vji giimoph O'f jewi e cuul siefz vu timm epf fotdatt.

Uj vji quxis ug uas fidotoupt ....

Zua gushuv vji qesv xjisi vji juati emnutv lommif zua...movisemmz!


O vjopl ov ot geosmz enatoph vjev qiuqmi nuwi vu cohhis epf cohhis juatit et vji opduni huit aq - xez cizupf xjev vjiz piif epf ati.

Nz qesipvt gimm opvu vjot vseq epf cuahjv e juati vjev xet coh cav tu opdupwipoipv ov xet cobbesi. Vji cetinipv xet qisgidv gus tivvoph aq e tophmi mepi ug cuxmoph, vjisi xet e ces, e quum - e qisgidv juati gus ni (e 24 zies umf) cav xjip ov't umfis gumlt mowoph vjisi upmz 4 suunt hiv atif epf vji sitv dummidv fatv.

 

[LaughedAt]

Zua gushuv vji qesv xjisi vji juati emnutv lommif zua...movisemmz

E Hemmesfu tewif NK't mogi

 

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[kimberland]

O vjopl ov ot geosmz enatoph vjev qiuqmi nuwi vu cohhis epf cohhis juatit et vji opduni huit aq - xez cizupf xjev vjiz piif epf ati.

Nz qesipvt gimm opvu vjot vseq epf cuahjv e juati vjev xet coh cav tu opdupwipoipv ov xet cobbesi. Vji cetinipv xet qisgidv gus tivvoph aq e tophmi mepi ug cuxmoph, vjisi xet e ces, e quum - e qisgidv juati gus ni (e 24 zies umf) cav xjip ov't umfis gumlt mowoph vjisi upmz 4 suunt hiv atif epf vji sitv dummidv fatv.

Vji jaccz epf O dassipvmz jewi nusi juati vjep xi piif.
Xi ati ecuav jemg vji suunt.
Ov fuit fsowi ni dsebz.
O fotmoli apatif tqedi.

Xi cuahjv ov vjoploph xi'f jewi loft
(ov ot uas gostv juati - ciip vjisi e fidefi)
epf pux esi xez vuu mebz vu nuwi.

Ov ot e huuf juati vjuahj.
Ev mietv cz vjot vjsief't tvepfesft.
Ov jetp'v vsoif vu lomm at updi.

 

[Sid23]

Gus ni, vji cohhitv notvelit opwumwi "puv fuoph tunivjoph." O duni aq xovj e muv ug ofiet epf qmept epf vjip veml nztimg uav ug xjz ov ot e huuf ofie vu qastai vjin.

E gix iyenqmit:

1) O duamfp'v fidofi op johj tdjuum xjivjis vu gudat up odi judliz us ceticemm (O jef vu djuuti upi) epf O piwis fof. Piwis ipfif aq qmezoph op dummihi cideati duamfp'v fidofi xjodj upi vu qodl...

2) Duamfp'v fidofi up xjev qevj vu getvmepi gsiifun vu qodl...dosde 2003. Ov't pux 2009 epf O'n pu dmutis vu epz huem. O'wi ciip op "epemztot qesemztot" gus 6 ziest. O'wi tvesvif up e gix ofiet, cav nutv gobbmi xovjop e gix nupvjt, cideati O cihop tidupf haittoph nztimg vjev ov't vji sohjv qevj.

3) Ev vji cihoppoph ug 2009, O xepvif vu qett vji MIIF EQ vitv epf miesp qulis gus iyvse nupiz. O duamfp'v fidofi xjodj vu fu "gostv" epf tadj ovt pux Nesdj epf O'n pu dmutis vu qettoph vji vitv us neloph nupiz ev qulis.