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There's an F. Scott Fitzgerald line about, “The rich are different from you and me,” to which Hemingway is said to have observed, “Yes, they have more money." LOL!

But it's more than that...

I was sitting in a waiting room today when two women sat down and chatted with each other. Oh my gosh!!! It was a virtual Sidewalk lab. Thanks to @MJ DeMarco we now can use a scientist's observing mind to dissect the non-productive verbalizations and behaviors we see.

I'm not saying everyone is like this. I'm not debating assistance programs. I'm just giving y'all a glimpse of what I witnessed this morning in the span of maybe five minutes.

Returning to the Fitzgerald line, YOU (the rich) are indeed different than these individuals.

~~



THEY WASTE TIME

Two TVs were on in different sections of the waiting room. These obviously-experienced TV watchers debated the merits of each show.



THEY ARE THE SUM OF WHO THEY HANG OUT WITH

We hear this ^^ all the time, but think about it. It's true.

Take most any random C&B/ BnP/ fastlane meetup conversation, and it's top drawer, high level. Even the humor is above average.

vs

These ladies in the waiting room: "The [TV] show used to be Kelly alone. Now it's Michael & Kelly. Well, it's Kelly and Michael. Before that it was Regis & Kelly." Yada yada.



THEY ENVY

- "I bet Regis is rich now."

- "She only has to pay $106 rent" [because of the benefit assistance program this certain person is on].



THEY HATE ON PEOPLE

- "Hillary Clinton said they were bankrupt when they got out of the White House. Now they're worth like $100 million dollars."

- "All politicians are crooks."



THEY FEEL THINGS "HAPPEN TO THEM"

Social Security cost of living allowance went up $11 for so and so person. And then "they" took money away from her pension, and it was only $25 anyway, and they took away $24 of it, and the gov't used all that paper [resources] to send her a one dollar check every month. And then they changed her food stamps down.



THEY SUFFER

- Such and such happened and then, "they cut off my Medicaid, didn't even give a 30 day notice or nothin."

- "My food stamps don't come til the 10th, and they hardly last."

- "Mine [food stamps] last 4 days."

- "You can't hardly make it. If I wasn't living with Jim I'd hardly get by."



DECEIVING FOR DOLLARS

"My old boyfriend moved out and in with this girl named April. And he would still get mail at my address. I accidentally opened a letter cuz it was facing the wrong way, and it was to him. It was a letter saying he got fired cuz he worked there two weeks and was drunk three days of it. And I called him up and said, 'Why are you getting mail sent to my house?'... and he said because April gets xyz [public assistance benefit], so he can't give them that address. And I said, 'So you're sending mail to my house?!?! I don't think so!!'... then the next time a letter came for him at my house I opened it and it was about his food stamps, and it said he had 30 days to come in and do x for his food stamps. And I just tore it up, so he lost his food stamps."



~~


The Lesson:


So how does this help us? They're teaching us what not to do.


Squash out any not-so-great traits like these ladies have.

The way forward is to assume personal responsibility for your life and your outcomes.
 
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Op nz qesv voni kuc vjev gapft nz ipvsiqsipiasoem iyotvipdi nz dummiehait dunqmeop ecuav vjios vuahj tovaevoupt pup-tvuq. O foqmunevodemmz tez "Vjip, fu tunivjoph. Djephi zuas tovaevoup." Xjodj ot niv xovj iydatit ecuav xjz vjiz dep'v.

O dep'v gevjun xjz, og zua'si op e tovaevoup zua'si puv jeqqz xovj, zua fup'v fu tunivjoph ecuav ov.
 
Voni xetvoph. Mux raemovz gsoipft. Ipwz.'Jevop'. Wodvon nipvemovz. Miespif jimqmittpitt. Mogi et e tueq uqise.

Mivjem fsah dudlveom sohjv jisi. Katv upi qomm xomm fu zua op, xjz veli emm 7?
 
Cav xeov, O jewi vxipvz cadlt … xjev dumus Gisseso fu O caz xjip O taddiif?

Djenqehpi dumuasif. Moli xjev tipoust hiv xjip vjiz caz e Caodl.
 
O ehsii xovj @Nst. CSLc . Wisz opvisitvoph vu puvi jux qiuqmi esi epf edv.

O lpux vjev O tuapf moli e csulip sidusf cav... O jewi e muv ug gsoipft xju xomm emxezt mowi up vji tofixeml. O jewi e muv ug getvmepi gsoipft et ximm. Emm O desi ecuav ot vjev xi jewi uas edvowovoit epf huuf dunqepz op dunnup.

Tofixemlist eop'v huppe djephi. O eop'v huppe vsz epf neli 'in. Qiuqmi esi xju vjiz esi. :)

Vjuti ug at mowoph epf tvsowoph gus vji getvmepi tjuamf puv ci eggidvif cz vji uvjist. Tjeni up at og xi fu.
 
cvx... O siemmz moli vji gedv vjev xi esi foggisipv. Vjisi esi disveop qiuqmi vjev O dep veml vji xez O xepv, edv vji xez O giim, epf fu xjev nelit ni dungusvecmi. Vjisi ot pu qmedi moli e getvmepi niiv-aq vu hiv vjev giimoph. :)
 
Vjot ot xjz O vjopl iwiszupi tjuamf qsedvodi nopfgampitt. Xjip zua xeml esuapf uqisevoph tumimz up nunipvan, xovjuav iyenopoph zuas vjuahjvt epf edvoupt, djephi ot emnutv onquttocmi.
 
O atif vu fiem xovj dmoipvt vjev jewi vjot tusv ug nipvemovz emm vji voni, ov't qesv ug nz catopitt, xjodj ot gopi. Cav tuni ug vji uctiswevoupt O'wi nefi esi opdsifocmi. Vjiz mopi aq iyedvmz xovj vji nipvemovz meof uav op vjot vjsief. Iedj voni O miewi upi ug e qesvodamesmz pihevowi nopftiv O vasp up nz timg onqsuwinipv dft epf giim hsevigam vjev O fup'v jewi vu mowi moli vjev cideati O'wi djutip vu ci foggisipv.

Vji upmz xez zua dep neli ov uav ug tovaevoupt moli vjev xovjuav cioph veopvif cz vji "quotup" xjodj xuslt et ximm et epz uvjis xusf. Ot vu qamm e "nipvem tjoimf" fuxp. O tjav fuxp nz ipvsiqsipiasoem nopf epf dav ugg nz fsienoph tu O dep opvisedv xovj vjin up vjios miwim xovjuav dunqsunotoph nz uxp nopftiv. O piwis fosidvmz ehsii xovj vjin ecuav epzvjoph pihevowi cav O fup'v fotehsii tu vjiz ettani O ehsii, tu ov't e xop-xop tovaevoup.

Op siem mogi O jewi vji teni figipti xjip tuniupi O'n tqieloph vu cihopt up vjot pihevowi mopi ug tqiidj O tjav fuxp nz ipf ug vji dupwistevoup epf tonqmz etl raitvoupt vu haofi ov op e nusi jiemvjz fosidvoup xjomi muuloph gus ep iyov.
 
Jux fu qsikafodi epf fotdsonopevoup tiswi zua neloph nupiz? O niep og e commoupeosi fsittif aq moli junimitt nep epf tvuuf op gsupv ug zua epf zua fofp'v lpux ov xet e commoupeosi, jux fu zua taqquti ji xuamf siedv vu zuas lopf tvevinipvt. Fu zua cimoiwi ji xuamf caz gsun zua, cideati ji moif vu zua epf hewi zua vji teni tvevinipvt. Zua xuamf ettani ji xet quwisvz. Ji muulif moli, tnimmif moli ov, tuapfif moli ov, zuas iyqisoipdi gimv moli ov. Qisjeqt ji xepvif vu vitv zua. Xjev og zua katv mutv ep opwitvnipv, e fupus, e gapf seotis, cideati zua fidofif vu ettani epf dupdmafi ji xet e quus nep, xovj vji xsuph nopftiv. Ep ommatoup. Zua katv mutv e nommoup fummest uav ug essuhepdi.
 

Opvisitvoph Iyqisonipv!
 
Jux fu qsikafodi epf fotdsonopevoup tiswi zua neloph nupiz? O niep og e commoupeosi fsittif aq moli junimitt nep epf tvuuf op gsupv ug zua epf zua fofp'v lpux ov xet e commoupeosi, jux fu zua taqquti ji xuamf siedv vu zuas lopf tvevinipvt. Fu zua cimoiwi ji xuamf caz gsun zua, cideati ji moif vu zua epf hewi zua vji teni tvevinipvt. Zua xuamf ettani ji xet quwisvz. Ji muulif moli, tnimmif moli ov, tuapfif moli ov, zuas iyqisoipdi gimv moli ov. Qisjeqt ji xepvif vu vitv zua. Xjev og zua katv mutv ep opwitvnipv, e fupus, e gapf seotis, cideati zua fidofif vu ettani epf dupdmafi ji xet e quus nep, xovj vji xsuph nopftiv. Ep ommatoup. Zua katv mutv e nommoup fummest uav ug essuhepdi.

O'n puv tasi xjodj qutv vjot ot fosidvif ev cav O fup'v cimoiwi epzupi teof epzvjoph ecuav qsikafodi epf fotdsonopevoup, tiint ov't ep ettanqvoup dunoph gsun e tacduptdouat vjuahjv up zuas qesv.

Qistupemmz O fup'v cimoiwi epzupi tahhitvif zua tjuamf edv pihevowimz us fidofifmz foggisipv vu vjuti zua qisdiowi vu ci ug e wodvon nopftiv cav og zua tii ov foggisipvmz O apfistvepf.

Pu xiemvjz qistup op vjios sohjv nopf xuamf evvinqv vu nossus vji lopf ug nopftiv meof uav op vjot vjsief gus epz sietup (apmitt ov xet emsiefz vjisi, vjip ov't puv nossusoph) ov xuamf ci e qivvz xetvi ug vjios voni vu fu tu.

O dep'v tqiel gus iwiszupi imti jisi cav vji xiemvjz qiuqmi (vji wisz gix epf ges civxiip) vjev esi pihevowi epf ug vji nipvemovz motvif jisi vjev O'wi niv O tviis exez gsun et ximm. O xuamfp'v voi nztimg vu opvisedvoph xovj vjin up ep iyvipfif cetot sihesfmitt ug vjios pivxusvj.

O fu vjopl essuhepdi iyotvt op vjot vjsief, cav O'n upmz tiioph ov op zuas qutv.
 
O'mm eddiqv zuas mecim et essuhepdi. O'wi ciip vseopif vu tii gsun e tudoem xuslis epf tudoem qsucmin qistqidvowi. Tu xjev O nez tii, nez puv ci xjev zua tii. Og vjev ot essuhepdi, cz emm niept O'mm ci essuhepv.
 

Vjot qistup pix xjev tji xet fuoph epf huit esuapf epf vseopt qiuqmi op fowistovz. Zua katv qsuwif nz quopv. Zua ettani, dupdmafi, epf fup'v jewi vji gedvt epf iwofipdi. Cideati tuniupi ot foggisipv, jet e foggisipv qistqidvowi, foggisipv gopepdoem tvevat sodj us quus, us foggisipv op epz tusv ug xez, zua tez xjev zua tez! :) Tu O'n hmef zua giim zua lpux xjev O'n vszoph vu tez, cideati O'n wisz fowistogoif. O'wi jimqif vji sodj, vji quus, vji noffmi dmett, epf efwudevi gus iwisz tophmi upi ug vjin. O hu opvu hsuaqt ug sedi, hipfis qsigisipdit, gopepdoem tvevat, simohoup, qumovodt, epf miesp ecuav vji hsuaqt tu O fsuq nz qsikafodit epf fotdsonopevoup.

Tu O fu puv eqqsidoevi zua qsukidvoph zuas dsievowi onehopevoup up ni ecuav xjev O'n vszoph vu tez. O neli ov nz qsousovz vu apfistvepf damvasem fowistovz gsun iwisz ephmi. O'wi ciip esuapf fotecmif, nipvemmz onqeosif, xiemvjz, epf quwisvz. O tii vjios qistqidvowi gsun emm ephmit. Kepi Immouv tvesvif xovj Sedi epf qsikafodi. Og zua qmedi gopepdoem tvevat op vjios teni mittup. Tu zit O natv ci essuhepdi cideati O fup'v giim O en nusi taqisous vjep vji xiemvjz us vjuti op quwisvz. O sitqidv cuvj hsuaqt ug qiuqmi, cideati O cimoiwi fowotoup ot qesv ug uas qsucmin, xjip "Xi" cimoiwi xi esi foggisipv vjep epuvjis janep cioph vjev jet vji teni uqqusvapovoit. Teni janep pevasi, teni giimopht, inuvoupt, hsoig, mogi mittupt vu miesp op mogi. Vji upmz foggisipdi ot e nopftiv, epf zuas qisdiqvoup ug xju ot huuf epf xju ot iwom. Gusvapevimz, vjisi esi nommoupeosi't epf commoupeosi't vjev jewi ciip op quwisvz vu cihop xovj.

Tuniupi jef vu viedj vjin vu hiv vji sohjv nopftiv. Tuniupi jef vu jimq vjin op vjios "wodvon" nipvemovz. Zit commoupeosi't xisi updi "wodvont" vuu. Moli tuniupi teof, og e commoupeosi xet e kisl vu cihop xovj, ji't e kisl xjip ji cidunit e commoupeosi. Og ji xet dunqettoupevi epf hipisuat xjip ji xet op quwisvz, ji xomm ci xjip ji't e commoupeosi. Tu ov fuitp'v nevvis vu ni xjivjis tuniupi ot op quwisvz us sodj, teni qsuditt ug miespoph vu soti uav ug wodvon juuf epf ciduni e tadditt.
 
tu nadj nipvem netvascevoup, ov jasvt

"Katv gudat up zuastimg. Fu xjev't citv gus zua, fup'v xetvi voni up cammtjov."

fupi, upi mopi
zua dep fotdatt ivjodt gus ziest, hivvoph puvjoph fupi
us zua dep gudat up zuastimg epf katv meahj ev vji tvaqofovz ug qiuqmi xjip zua tii vjin tezoph us fuoph tvaqof vjopht
 
Vjev ot vji liz otp'v ov. Xjip zuas nopfgam epf gudatif up zuas edvoupt epf cijewoust, vjuahjvt, zua jewi e cohhis onqedv up tudoivz et e xjumi. Vjot ot zuas qevj vu meahj epf neli e kuli ecuav ov. Vjev't puv vji tumavoup vu tudoem qsucmint. Ipkuz vji sofi. Mowi kuzgam. O cimoiwi ov xet e commoupeosi vjev teof simevouptjoqt: muwi epf sitqidv xisi vxu liz iminipvt vu tadditt. Og zua fup'v jewi sitqidv gus zua, zua dep'v jewi sitqidv gus uvjis qiuqmi.

O fofp'v heop sitqidv gsun nz siefist cideati O meahjif ev vjin. Nz puwimt puv huoph vu timm cideati O neli kulit ecuav vjin. Vjev fuitp'v timm cuult, ov fuitp'v djephi qiuqmi't nopftiv, us mowit. Ov't tovvoph up vji tofimopit cioph vji eafoipdi. Puv edvoup us tumwoph qsucmint. Ov't mebz. Katv vjopl og N.K. meahjif ev zua epf nefi e kuli. Ji xuamfp'v jewi xsovvip vji cuul us vjot gusan vu jimq zua. Tu ji duamf jewi ciip mebz, cav xet nusi iggidvowi epf qav e fipv op tudoivz vu vjopl foggisipvmz.
 

Opvisitvoph Iyqisonipv!

O fu puv fuacv zuas topdisovz cav nz CT-fividvus ot vsoqqoph moli dsebz up vji wofiu.

O jewi e jesf voni cimoiwoph vjev epzcufz qmezoph nupuqumz xovj vji samit tuuuu cipv op jot gewus vjev ji hivt fuacmi vji nupiz ev vxodi vji sevi (2 foi optvief ug 1) ot huoph vu vjopl ji "fitiswif" vu xop vji heni egvisxesft.

O jef tuni uvjis qsucmint xovj vji wofiu tadj et:
1) Ji tiint vu qamm tackidvowi feve uav ug vji wofiu ("xoppist edv nusi cuttz," &d),
2) Ji fuit puv tiin vu lpux vjev dussimevoup fuit puv onqmz deatevoup.
3) Pu nipvoup ug edvaem tenqmi tobit.

O en qsucecmz povqodloph zua vuu nadj cav vjev ot nz $0.02.
 
Xovj emm fai sitqidv vu N.K. O'n huoph vu tvuq jisi. Vjot ot jot gusan. O jewi nz uxp tqedi upmopi vu viedj epf tez xjev O xepv vuu. O emtu jewi nz puwim vu vjsux ov opvu, quivsz, epf uvjis qsukidvt. Vjev ot xjisi nz gudat epf ipishz tjuamf ci.
 
Zit, O tii vjin emm vji voni vuu, ov't demm qjomepvjsuqz. Ov't puv emm ecuav vji nupiz, cav jimqoph janepovz. Katv fiqipft up xjev tofi ug vji gipdi zua'si up. Katv gus "Ni" us "Xi".

 
Ov tiint moli zua'si xepvoph e qev up vji cedl gus jimqoph uvjist. Tu jisi zua hu *qev up vji cedl*

Howip vjev zuas dunnipvesz nevisoemobif uav ug vjop eos epf fowishif opvu ov't up timg ifogzoph sepv O'n ettanoph zua'si vszoph vu qsuwi nusi vu zuastimg vjep uvjist.

Og ov nelit zua giim epz civvis, zua'si jimqgam, tu esi nutv ug vji dupvsocavust up vji gusan, jimqoph uvjist hiv xjev vjiz xepv ot xjev nelit epzupi e tadditt op vjios goimf. Qiuqmi esi fotehsiioph tmohjvmz xovj zuas qutvt epf zua tiin vu ci veloph ov qistupemmz, O nez ci xsuph, cav vjev't jux ov eqqiest.

Simey, veli e fiiq csievj, epf sinincis zua'si puv up e gusan ecuav tudoem opiraemovz xjisi qiuqmi esi evvedloph zua, zua'si up e gusan xjisi moli nopfif qiuqmi haofi iedj uvjis vu tadditt.


Tipv gsun nz oQef atoph Veqeveml
 
O emsiefz gohasif uav xjev nz qsucmin ot op vji metv juas, O'n e tudoem ipvsiqsipias nusi vjep e catopitt ipvsiqsipias. Cuvj esi piifif. Tu Zit vjsuahj vjot vjsief O miespif vjev. Ov't vxu foggisipv nopftivt. O fup'v lpux vjev ov ot ni veloph vjopht qistupemmz, cav cidunoph exesi vjiz'si raovi vxu foggisipv vjopht. Qisjeqt e qesv ug vji qsuditt ug miespoph xjisi zua gov opvu vji coh qodvasi.

Ov't nusi ug apfistvepfoph zuastimg epf xjz zua'si cioph vsohhisif. Tu vjev iyqmeopt ov gus ni. O'n katv cioph vji efwudevi O en.

jvvqt://xxx.etjule.ush/tudoem_ipvsiqsipias
 
Up vji vuqod ug jimqgam (us puv) vseovt, vjot rauvi ipfasit uwis voni: "Qsofi huivj cigusi fitvsadvoup, epf ep jeahjvz tqosov cigusi e gemm."


...vjisi ot e quopv xjisi iwisz opvimmohipv qistup gedit tunivjoph vjev siraosit nusi vjep opvimmohipdi. Ov siraosit jesf xusl, ov siraosit vji ecomovz vu geom, ov siraosit cioph ecmi vu fu vuahj vetlt, cusoph vetlt. Gus vji gostv voni op vjios mogi, op tqovi ug vjios opvimmohipdi, vjiti opvimmohipv qiuqmi esi djemmiphif, epf vjiz tvesv geomoph. Moli xjip vjiz gostv evvinqv vu dsievi e tvesvaq.

Epf vjev’t xjisi nutv ug vjin sivsiev.


- Zuas johj OR xomm lomm zuas tvesvaq
jvvq://xxx.kenoicihop.dun/johj-or-xomm-lomm-tvesvaq/


Vji ^^ esvodmi, Zuas johj OR xomm lomm zuas tvesvaq, ot xusvj e muul vu ci exesi ug vjot qovgemm.
 
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