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Hey guys,
I've recently began the process of starting a business with a friend of mine. So far things are going well but I have some concerns regarding his character and difference in values which I think could cause problems down the road.
Its a long story but he has a lot of resentment for a company we both worked for and the founder of that company, he carries with him a lot of bitterness and hate and I really don't like being around that. He quit the company 6 months ago but he still regularly talks about how much he hates the founder and the company including my girlfriends best friend who currently works for the company.
I really dislike it when people carrying around bitterness, I think it poisons them and is of no use. I believe life is too short to be carrying it around. I'm worried about how this tendency to hate and be bitter will manifest in the business, he has already banned my girlfriends best friend from coming to the business or any of our events.
The cause of this bitterness I believe is a complex he has about being made to feel incompetent or inferior. He admits he hates to be made to feel like he is wrong and he is insecure around people that make him feel inferior, this was a problem when he tried to do sales at the last company. This is also a big problem for me as he wants no one else to help us in the company (no mentors, board members, advisors) due to his insecurity. This goes against my values as I want to surround myself with people who will raise me up, people who can inspire me and I can learn from. I also fundamentally believe that we should hire people who are better than we are, I can see this becoming a massive problem down the line.
We have the potential to start this company and give it a real go but I really don't feel good about the above concerns. Am I justified? Are these concerns worth putting a halt to the business before we get started properly?
Thanks for all your advice!
I've recently began the process of starting a business with a friend of mine. So far things are going well but I have some concerns regarding his character and difference in values which I think could cause problems down the road.
Its a long story but he has a lot of resentment for a company we both worked for and the founder of that company, he carries with him a lot of bitterness and hate and I really don't like being around that. He quit the company 6 months ago but he still regularly talks about how much he hates the founder and the company including my girlfriends best friend who currently works for the company.
I really dislike it when people carrying around bitterness, I think it poisons them and is of no use. I believe life is too short to be carrying it around. I'm worried about how this tendency to hate and be bitter will manifest in the business, he has already banned my girlfriends best friend from coming to the business or any of our events.
The cause of this bitterness I believe is a complex he has about being made to feel incompetent or inferior. He admits he hates to be made to feel like he is wrong and he is insecure around people that make him feel inferior, this was a problem when he tried to do sales at the last company. This is also a big problem for me as he wants no one else to help us in the company (no mentors, board members, advisors) due to his insecurity. This goes against my values as I want to surround myself with people who will raise me up, people who can inspire me and I can learn from. I also fundamentally believe that we should hire people who are better than we are, I can see this becoming a massive problem down the line.
We have the potential to start this company and give it a real go but I really don't feel good about the above concerns. Am I justified? Are these concerns worth putting a halt to the business before we get started properly?
Thanks for all your advice!
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