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Why is it necessary to have an open mind?

Is it because we will drive off the answers of mentors?
Is it because we might not see opportunities?
Is it because its necessary for us, so that we do business fairly?

Here is my quick take on those questions;
Mentors should be a natural feedback loop of value (an unforced thing),
Opportunities are in the eye of the beholder,
And bad businessmen are a result of "its safe and actionable!"(this can of course also be good advice from another angle, but I'm sure you get what I mean).

An open mind is not for these things.
It is the result of an attitude, not the cause, and this attitude can sustain an open mind without having to apply force.


Business is very hard, when you force it and but can be very effortless when you don't. And having an open mind is the hardest thing to force.When you force an open mind it closes by default.

You have to discover an open mind.


The hardest part of my experience so far has been "letting go", "controlling less", and letting myself "feel it". I used to spend countless months, all day, brainstorming up everything I could think of, but as I got better at that I started feeling much more difficulty trying to "let go" of that task and felt way too safe routinely brain storming (so I knew I was doing something off and began trying to let go).

Its actually quite painful, having a lot invested in a project you have worked on for a very long time, to stop dragging it kicking and screaming through the door. You get into a habit (perhaps you always had this habit) where you think that to progress the plan it takes sweat blood and tears so you don't trust the idea of just "letting it be what it is". But if you let go... In a controlled way, everything can find its place with much more grace.

And this grace, is the very thing I was talking about before. It is the attitude that can sustain an open mind without force.


We hold onto this idea that manically punching away at our business, is the only way to stop it imploding, but it is a broken record when you do that, and you have to ask the question, or perhaps simly "just feel" how to fix it.

Why do we fear implosion?
Is it that we feel we betrayed our own promises to people?
Is it because we "don't know what we are doing?" and that we feel it is warranted?

In my understanding of this, it has nothing to do with the consequences, it has to do with a perception thats key lies within ourselves. We think it will break us, make us not want to ever try again. Having put so much effort in, we NEED something back.. Right? And when it implodes so do all our efforts, all of our want to ever do anything ever again.


But wait a moment... Think.
Isn't that perculiar?
If the consequences have no effect and are like water off a ducks back, then why are we afraid that we will never try again? Why are we afraid that we will never be able to get past our fears?

I think that it is because we think that this implosion says something. And what it says is "the fear you had that all this stuff in your future will never change is real".


So what you really fear is "realness".
But that is backwards. Because nothing is ever as bad as you imagine.
What a lot of people don't realise is that, it is only YOU who can give up because of that implosion, and only the value that you developed DURING the hard work, that can bring you back from the brink of that ever present abyss churning at your back.

The value of hard work, that may be taken away from you, can break you... OR you can let it go, and it can make you.



Hard work, IS what stops you imploding. Not because of what you spend it on, but the fact that you RISK that hard work, on an open mind. Taking the risk is an act of GRACE.

RISK is natural, risk is feedback, risk is carefully letting go of control so that you might not sabotage your work and so that you have enough perspective to feel where the business has to go.

Opening your mind, is about you risk letting go of your hard work.

Stop seeking a garuntee! Do your diligence, and as kneeling, broken, and with your best work... Slowly let go, and gain your strength, so that if it implodes it won't be the end of the dream.


Do not sell your company at the first chance
Do not to choose the color blue simply because some other business did and it feels safer
Do not to read a thousand more books,

because all those things are tightly holding onto your effort getting "rewarded". You have to let it go. You HAVE to risk it.

It doesn't need to be controlled, it needs to be supported, sustained, given things, and allowed to evolve. Clutching onto it like it is your one and only chance is a closed mind and will lead to everything you do being hard (and thusly forced).


Your opportunities are endless. The trick to seeing how they are endless, has no formula.
And the less you need that formula, the more original you will tend to be, the more open your mind.

This isn't an answer, I'm way too amatuer to give anyone answers. It is just what I see.
 
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