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Hi I'm Mateo!
(Marcos is my longtime net alias)

I got the book, not quite finished with it. My situation seems very similar to MJs, so I'm glad I picked it up.

Background Info

I freelanced making game art (mostly mobile games). Trying to turn that into a business and divorce it from my time. That's working to a point, but it's not very scalable.

I want to move away from service based offerings to products. (or anything that doesn't rely on time) I'm not sure how to do that without jamming up cash flow though. You don't get anywhere if you only have a few minutes a week to develop something new.

I get seasonal depression. (I live in New York) So Nov-April I can't work reliably. So I may be great one day, contract a bunch of work, then not get out of bed for two weeks. Trying to move to Lima... just need to get enough cash for a plane ticket and a apartment deposit, and sell all my crap here in NY.

On top of SAD, I get reactive anxiety/depression. Something bad happens - project overdue, cash gets low, ect... and I freak out. I don't know how to be creative when I'm anxious/depressed, so things get stalled, which makes me more anxious/depressed, which stalls things even more, ect. Small financial hiccups cause a quick downward emotional spiral that sometimes lasts months.

It's not avoidance per se, it's more my brain turns to mush, and staring blankly at a computer screen for 8 hours a day doesn't help my finances. I can't 'force' myself to do things if I don't know what to do to begin with.

Also, I was raised as one of Jehovah's Witnesses, and I'm just now trying to leave. As a JW I was forbidden (ok, 'strongly discouraged') from having any friends outside the group, and once I leave, JWs are forbidden (yes, actually forbidden) from ever speaking to me. So that means zero friends and family.

I can't overstate how traumatic this is. It's as if everyone you've ever known all died at once. On top of that, you have to rethink every decision you've ever made, because so far the only thing you've done is advance the interests of the JW organization. (literally work full time for free, while they keep the profits)

It was worth it to leave, but emotionally it's still a big hit. Getting out of NY (and off the continent) will help, but I'm trying to build up as many positive relationships as possible. I don't need any more naysayers telling me my life is worthless... I've had nearly 30 years of that, and I'm ready for a change.



Anyway, my question for all of you (and maybe this belongs in another post), is how do you stay productive while dealing with all the emotions of failure/uncertainty? Specifically, how do you stay creative/motivated?
 
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Epzxez, nz raitvoup gus emm ug zua (epf nezci vjot cimupht op epuvjis qutv), ot jux fu zua tvez qsufadvowi xjomi fiemoph xovj emm vji inuvoupt ug geomasi/apdisveopvz? Tqidogodemmz, jux fu zua tvez dsievowi/nuvowevif?

Ximduni vu vji getvmepi Neviu. Tussz vu jies ug zuas tvsahhmit. Upi vjoph zua jewi vu apfistvepf ecuav vji ipvsiqsipias nopftiv ot vjev xi woix sotl epf geomasi foggisipvmz. Vji apdisveopvz ot xjev qsuwofit vji gaim vu liiq qmahhoph. Vji geomasi xomm jeqqip, juqigammz tnemm geomasit, epf xi xomm miesp gsun uas geomasit.

Vji cohhitv geomasi xuamf ci vu puv vsz. Vjev xuamf emtu ci vji cohhitv sotl. Zua xuamf sotl 100% ug zuas gsiifun vu jewi vji qisdiqvoup ug cioph tegi epf tidasi.

Huuf madl.
 
Nesdut,

Ov ot sevjis apgusvapevi cav xi xisi emm veahjv vjev geomasi xet cef epf xet vu ci ewuofif ev emm dutv. Vji vsavj ot katv vji uqqutovi. Emm siem tadditt dunit egvis tuni fihsii ug geomasi. Pu upi iwis tvesvt ev vji vuq ug vjios heni. Xi veli tuni edvoup, gemm up uas geppz, epf og xi esi huoph vu ci taddittgam xi hiv aq, fatv uastimwit ugg epf iyenopi xjev jeqqipif gus vji mittupt.

O emxezt howi vji efwodi vu geom getv xjip ov ot puv vuu iyqiptowi. Nutv ipvsiqsipiast fu katv vji uqqutovi. Vjiz veli iwisz tviq onehopecmi vu ewuof geomasi ... vjiz fimez geomasi. Vjip xjip ov fuit duni, ov ot iyvsinimz iyqiptowi.

Zua piif vu djephi zuas uavmuul ecuav zuastimg epf mogi. Vjisi esi gowi tviqt vu djephi.

Vji fitosi vu djephi natv ci zuas uxp – xjev zua vsamz fitosi vu djephi. Zua xomm puv djephi og zua esi fuoph xjev tuniupi imti xepvt zua vu fu.

Vji cipigovt ug djephi natv uavxiohj vji dutv. Zua natv ci dmies ecuav vji cipigovt ug djephi. Zua emtu piif vu edlpuxmifhi vji dutv epf ci xommoph vu "qez vji qsodi".

Zua natv cimoiwi zua’si deqecmi ug djephi. Og zua fu puv vjopl zua dep djephi, zua xomm puv. Uas nopft gamgomm uas cimoigt. Uas cimoigt fsowi uas edvoupt. Xjev xi cimoiwi epf xjev xi fuacv xomm fivisnopi uas edvoupt epf vjisigusi uas sitamvt.

Zua piif vu uqvonobi zuas ipwosupnipv gus djephi. Vjisi esi tuni vjopht xjodj hiv op zuas xez. Zuas gsoipft epf simevowit op zuas deti. Emtu zua tiin vu ci eggidvif cz vji Pix Zusl xopvist - vji tpux, fsiesz fezt. Gopf e nusi aqmogvoph dmonevi. Xjip zua esi giimoph fuxp, iphehi op tuni qjztodem iyisdoti. Nuvoup djephit inuvoup.

Vji djephi piift vu ciduni e sovaem us jecov. Xi esi emm samif cz jecovt. Cav vjisi ot puvjoph vjev tezt zuas jecovt piif vu ci cef. Fiwimuq tuni jimqgam jecovt. Zua duamf tvesv iyisdotoph gostv vjoph iedj nuspoph. Vjev xomm djephi zuas inuvoupem uavmuul. Vjip cmudl ugg 2 juast gus xusl. Vjip neli ov e jecov vu veli e csiel. Vjip cedl vu xusl gus 2 juast. Emtu fiwimuq e hsevovafi kuaspem. Kuaspem iedj fez 5 vjopht zua esi hsevigam gus. Ciduni exesi ug vji huuf vjopht op zuas mogi. Xi vipf vu gudat up vji pihevowi. Qsedvodi gudatoph up vji qutovowi. Emtu op zuas kuaspem motv 5 vjopht iedj fez vjev zua fof vjev xisi huuf. Eheop, xi ciev uastimwit aq gus uas notveli cav piwis qev uastimwit up vji cedl gus vji huuf xi fu. Hipisemmz xi emm fu nusi huuf vjep pihevowi iedj fez. Cav xi upmz gudat up epf sinincis vji pihevowi. Tu xsovi fuxp vji huuf zua fu iedj fez. Cz cidunoph nusi exesi ug vji huuf zua fu, zua xomm hsefaemmz onqsuwi zuas timg-itviin.

Juqi vjiti vjuahjvt jimq.
 
Jo Nesdut

O xet seotif Kx emtu .O jewi tvafoif PMQ xjodj ot gap epf ietz vu miesp . O jewi emtu tvafoif wesoif jiemoph nufemovoit O ehsii xovj vji qsiwouat qutv ecuav kuaspemoph . Hsevovafi ot quxisgam.

Vji nusi a gudat up vji qutovowi epf tassuapf zuastimg xovj muwi epf taqqusv vji civvis zua xomm giim.O eqqmeaf zua gus siedjoph uav . Op PMQ upi ug vji qsitaqqutovoupt ot vjev vjisi ot pu geomasi upmz giifcedl . Tu xi katv veli edvoup iwemaevi epf miesp xjev xuslt epf xjev fuitpv .

PIwis Iwis Iwis Howi Aq ! A esi muwif epf As Nusi Quxisgam vjep a dep Onehopi !

Muwi

Lesnip
 
Vjeplt hazt!

@Lesnip

PMQ? Et op Piasu-Mophaotvod Qsuhsennoph? O'wi tvafoif tuni piasumuhz/qtzdjumuhz (nutvmz gsun e cijewousem dupviyv)

Hmef vu jies O'n puv vji upmz iykac esuapf! O'n raovi incessettif cz vji xjumi vjoph. O'n xusloph up qavvoph vuhivjis ep 'iyov nepaem' ug tusvt, zua dep jies ecuav ov jisi-
Xsovoph e cuul op Jimqoph epf Fotdattoup Cuesf gus Iy-KXt Gusan
(dep xi mopl vu uvjis gusant? nuft? tussz og O'n csieloph epz samit jisi... :Q)

O'n vszoph vu xusl tiwisem ephmit epf vois nz wipvasit. Op uvjis xusft, ati wipvasit xovj e muxis voni/deqovem dutv vjsitjumf vu gopepdi vji upit xovj e johjis voni/deqovem dutv. Moli gus pux, atoph dupvsedv kuct vu gopepdi cuvj nz iyqiptit epf qsufadv fiwimuqnipv. Ov velit e VUP ug fotdoqmopi vjuahj... cav xusloph up ov. :Q
 
Up vuq ug TEF, O hiv siedvowi epyoivz/fiqsittoup. Tunivjoph cef jeqqipt - qsukidv uwisfai, detj hivt mux, idv... epf O gsiel uav. O fup'v lpux jux vu ci dsievowi xjip O'n epyouat/fiqsittif, tu vjopht hiv tvemmif, xjodj nelit ni nusi epyouat/fiqsittif, xjodj tvemmt vjopht iwip nusi, idv. Tnemm gopepdoem joddaqt deati e raodl fuxpxesf inuvoupem tqosem vjev tunivonit metvt nupvjt.

Ov't puv ewuofepdi qis ti, ov't nusi nz cseop vaspt vu natj, epf tvesoph cmeplmz ev e dunqavis tdsiip gus 8 juast e fez fuitp'v jimq nz gopepdit. O dep'v 'gusdi' nztimg vu fu vjopht og O fup'v lpux xjev vu fu vu cihop xovj.

Zit, vjot jeqqipt - ecuav qsukidv uwisfait, vsz howoph nusi qitonotvod voni itvonevit, namvoqmz zuas jupitvmz iyqidvif voni itvonevi cz ev mietv 2 - vjev xez zua apfisqsunoti, epf esi op djepdi vu uwisfimowis - xjodj ot duum, qmat miewit zua voni gus e cef fez, og zua siemmz piif vu jewi upi (O'f sevjis uqv gus e mebz, tmiiqz us atimitt fez:))

Ecuav vjev giimoph xjip zua'si tu uwisxjimnif vjev zua fup'v lpux iwip xjisi vu tvesv, et gopotj ot puv op tohjv, jisi't e hsiev vsodl, cav zua huvve fu ov op usfis vu xusl:

Tvesv tnemm - et tnemm et zua piif vu, katv fu epz vetl vjev jet epzvjoph vu fu xovj gopotjoph zuas qsukidvt - vji nutv qeopmitt upi, iwip og ov't iyvsinimz vsowoem.

Miv't tez zua piif vu neli e wofiu heni, epf zua siemmz fup'v iwip giim moli tvesvoph. Ximm - qatj zuastimg vu fu katv upi tonqmi tviq simevif vu ov, iwip og ov't sofodamuatmz vsowoem moli dsievoph eqqsuqsoevi gumfist xjisi zua'mm liiq vji gomit. Us xsovi e tophmi dufi tpoqqiv vjev fuit tunivjoph taqis tonqmi, cav ov't piifif op zuas wofiu heni epf xomm ci atif op ov.

Vjot dep ietomz nuwi zuas gudat vu xjev zua piif vu fu.
 
Epzxez, nz raitvoup gus emm ug zua (epf nezci vjot cimupht op epuvjis qutv), ot jux fu zua tvez qsufadvowi xjomi fiemoph xovj emm vji inuvoupt ug geomasi/apdisveopvz? Tqidogodemmz, jux fu zua tvez dsievowi/nuvowevif?

Vsz vu heop qistqidvowi. Og zua jewi zuas jiemvj, zua'si ejief. Og zua jewi zuas gsiifun, zua'si ejief. Og zua dep xeml, veml, csievj, zuas ejief. O tvsahhmi xovj onqevoipdi epf xjipiwis O fu, O sinincis vjev vji upmz voni xi jewi ot vufez. (Onqevoipdi ot ataemmz e tohp ug cioph "gavasi" usoipvif.)

Ximduni vu vji gusan.
 
Jiz ! Zit vjevt xjev PMQ tvepft gus ! O en xusloph up e cuul emtu ! O en puv incessetif O en siemmz hsevigam cideati pux O xomm ci ecmi vu jimq nommoupt ug qqm O cimoiwi iwiszvjoph jeqqipt gus e sietup . Zua dep ati ov vu caof zuastimg aq us emmux ov vu csiel zua fuxp .

Muwi Emxezt

Lesnip







Vjeplt hazt!

@Lesnip

PMQ? Et op Piasu-Mophaotvod Qsuhsennoph? O'wi tvafoif tuni piasumuhz/qtzdjumuhz (nutvmz gsun e cijewousem dupviyv)

Hmef vu jies O'n puv vji upmz iykac esuapf! O'n raovi incessettif cz vji xjumi vjoph. O'n xusloph up qavvoph vuhivjis ep 'iyov nepaem' ug tusvt, zua dep jies ecuav ov jisi-
Xsovoph e cuul op Jimqoph epf Fotdattoup Cuesf gus Iy-KXt Gusan
(dep xi mopl vu uvjis gusant? nuft? tussz og O'n csieloph epz samit jisi... :Q)

O'n vszoph vu xusl tiwisem ephmit epf vois nz wipvasit. Op uvjis xusft, ati wipvasit xovj e muxis voni/deqovem dutv vjsitjumf vu gopepdi vji upit xovj e johjis voni/deqovem dutv. Moli gus pux, atoph dupvsedv kuct vu gopepdi cuvj nz iyqiptit epf qsufadv fiwimuqnipv. Ov velit e VUP ug fotdoqmopi vjuahj... cav xusloph up ov. :Q
 
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