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When you see this title, it's not what you think. You're first thoughts will be something about my parents not agreeing with what I'm doing or go to college/uni etc. Infact, it's the complete opposite.

My parents have been serious sidewalkers for most of there life. They buy a house they can't afford. Spend money they don't have. Complain about there job all the time. You know, the usual sidewalker...

As of recent, we've had a few problems around the house. The TV broke. We need a new water tank for the bathroom. Basically, theres a few other things around the house that needs to be done here and there that cost money. Nothing too expensive though.

The problem is, they don't really have much interest in working towards something or sorting any of the problems and it really irritates me. My dad comes home and watches tv until he goes to bed or plays games on his ipad. My mum sits around pretty much doing nothing. Outside of work, they do nothing productive and never aim to improve there lives.

I don't really know how to address the situation. Part of me feels disrespectful when I address the problem to them because, well, they're my parents. I feel like I don't have the right to say anything. Nevertheless, the other half of me gets really annoyed with the way they look at life, because I'm totally opposite to them.

I've challenged them before to there actions but they don't really respond to what I say. My dad has a very negative outlook on life. When I ask him "when you we buying x" or "when are you sorting y" his responses are something along the lines of "I'm 53 Luke", "You have yet to enter the real world", "Everything costs money". Essentially saying "Feel sorry for me".

I don't want to challenge them or question there decisions. I'd happily help them all I can, but I don't see how I can help them when they never seem to help themselves.

I have thought about sorting the things that need to be sorted. But in the long run, I don't really see how this will change anything. They wont change there ways and there mentality will be the same

That being said, I'm currently working on a project/app. While I can make cash quickly and easily, it will take time away from my project so I have to weigh up the opportunity costs and I don't know what's right decision.

In no way do I mean to be disrespectful towards them. I just want them to live better lives and do better things, making better decisions. I don't really get how they can live doing the same boring shit everyday and wonder why they don't want more life.

Am I being selfish/disrespectful?
Should I just leave them to it and for me to just get on with what I'm doing?
What can I do to possibly change things, if anything?

I'm very thankful for my upbringing. I don't mean to be judgemental. It's just I hate seeing things how they are.
 
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