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Hello fellow fastlaners,
I have some time today and this has been a topic on my mind for quite some time now. There is no real guide or book that you can read that will provide you with the knowledge and intuition you need to find mentors and surround yourself with them. There is only experience and lessons that can be passed down and utilized in the real world.
In this thread I would like to provide you with some of my knowledge that I have gained. To surround myself with millionaires and multi-millionaires as well as key influential people who are where I want to be.. with age not being a factor..
1. Mindset Shift
When it comes down to it, most newbies to the fastlane, business, and entrepreneurship come here with an "I WANT" attitude, they want MJ to mentor them, they want to get on a call with some and have them give them the secret recipe to success.
Many people subconsciously approach others with the same mindset and although you may not blatantly say it, your body language, demeanor, and tone scream it.
Approach everyone regardless of who they are with a problem solving mindset.
Ask yourself, "How can I help this person"
There is no use in going out into the world and seeking out mentors without having this mindset drilled into your soul. I think I've read so much on this forum that I was conditioned to always be looking for ways to help other people. Its a gradual shift because the way society conditions us as we grow up many of us come from a place of scarcity. This can literally condition your brain into always asking whats in it for me? When it comes to finding mentors you do not want to come from that mentality because:
1. Any mentor worthwhile will notice you show signs of being a leech.
2. You would be a waste of time because there would be no long term benefit to assisting you.
2. Get Clear
Do you really need a mentor?
You might want a mentor but you are nowhere near being ready for one. You need to spend time learning skills, understanding how to provide value, learning, spending time failing on ideas and understanding why they failed. You need to get out and do some work and try.
What are you wanting to accelerate your learning in?
If you do not know what you want but you know you want money, you're not ready.
Are you chasing money or relationships?
Get clear on what you are doing before blindly chasing successful people and burning bridges with foolish intentions.
3. Successful people hangout with successful people
Where could you possibly find someone to mentor you?
Hmmm.
What about where all wealthy people hangout?
Make a list if you are not clear on what your interests are.
Im gonna speak from my experience:
Im interested in:
-Real Estate Investing
-Online Business
-Amazon
-Fitness
-Entreprenuership
So I found a local real estate meet up group in my area. This was easy and I started showing up to the weekly meetings. Keep in mind, I knew literally nothing about real estate, I just knew that these people did and that real estate grows wealth.
Within 3 months of going to these meetings I had put an offer in on my first property, had all of the resources I would need to execute my first investment (documents, inspectors, handymen, painters, real estate agents, and investors) and I had also built relationships with a multimillionaire investor whom was also my broker through the process.
My mentor not only pushed me to move fast, continue doing what I was doing, and invest at a young age but he also helped me find the deal. When you show your work ethic to those that are ahead of you they want to help you.
Now, that’s a sweet story but lets break it down:
Remember it,
Figure out what meet ups are going on in your area, pick up the phone and call some big name investors and ask them out to lunch, show up early and give your card to the waitress and tell them you would like to pay for the table... this prevents them from even thinking about paying and they are impressed you took the initiative.
I have some time today and this has been a topic on my mind for quite some time now. There is no real guide or book that you can read that will provide you with the knowledge and intuition you need to find mentors and surround yourself with them. There is only experience and lessons that can be passed down and utilized in the real world.
In this thread I would like to provide you with some of my knowledge that I have gained. To surround myself with millionaires and multi-millionaires as well as key influential people who are where I want to be.. with age not being a factor..
1. Mindset Shift
When it comes down to it, most newbies to the fastlane, business, and entrepreneurship come here with an "I WANT" attitude, they want MJ to mentor them, they want to get on a call with some and have them give them the secret recipe to success.
Many people subconsciously approach others with the same mindset and although you may not blatantly say it, your body language, demeanor, and tone scream it.
Approach everyone regardless of who they are with a problem solving mindset.
Ask yourself, "How can I help this person"
1. Any mentor worthwhile will notice you show signs of being a leech.
2. You would be a waste of time because there would be no long term benefit to assisting you.
Mindset Challenge:
If you understand your mindset and are self aware enough to notice that you come from a place of need. Every morning upon waking up and go through your morning routine choose to help 1 person throughout the course of the day. It doesn't matter with what, it doesn't matter if you get paid, it doesn't matter if you cant find someone, call family, call friends, call organizations and ask if there is something you can help with.2. Get Clear
Do you really need a mentor?
You might want a mentor but you are nowhere near being ready for one. You need to spend time learning skills, understanding how to provide value, learning, spending time failing on ideas and understanding why they failed. You need to get out and do some work and try.
What are you wanting to accelerate your learning in?
If you do not know what you want but you know you want money, you're not ready.
Are you chasing money or relationships?
Get clear on what you are doing before blindly chasing successful people and burning bridges with foolish intentions.
3. Successful people hangout with successful people
Where could you possibly find someone to mentor you?
Hmmm.
What about where all wealthy people hangout?
Make a list if you are not clear on what your interests are.
Im gonna speak from my experience:
Im interested in:
-Real Estate Investing
-Online Business
-Amazon
-Fitness
-Entreprenuership
So I found a local real estate meet up group in my area. This was easy and I started showing up to the weekly meetings. Keep in mind, I knew literally nothing about real estate, I just knew that these people did and that real estate grows wealth.
Within 3 months of going to these meetings I had put an offer in on my first property, had all of the resources I would need to execute my first investment (documents, inspectors, handymen, painters, real estate agents, and investors) and I had also built relationships with a multimillionaire investor whom was also my broker through the process.
My mentor not only pushed me to move fast, continue doing what I was doing, and invest at a young age but he also helped me find the deal. When you show your work ethic to those that are ahead of you they want to help you.
Now, that’s a sweet story but lets break it down:
- Identify where people who you want to be are.
- Show up, if its free great. If its paid, pay.
- Show up everytime there is a meeting, you never know who will show up (more on this later)
- Follow up with asking people out to lunch, have questions prepared for people
- Ask whoever you are taking out what they are working on and when you see their passion for it, follow up on it.
- Finally, towards the end, ask if there is anything you can do for them, if you know there is something you can do for them – tell them and do it. And mention that you would love to meet up in the future… relationships are like kids, you have to feed it or it dies.
Above is a sequence and an outline.
Remember it,
Figure out what meet ups are going on in your area, pick up the phone and call some big name investors and ask them out to lunch, show up early and give your card to the waitress and tell them you would like to pay for the table... this prevents them from even thinking about paying and they are impressed you took the initiative.
Expanding your Circle Challenge
1. Make a list of places successful people hangout
2. Show up
3. Provide VALUE
4. Follow up
1. Make a list of places successful people hangout
2. Show up
3. Provide VALUE
4. Follow up
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