The Price of Opportunity

[Almantas]

This post is not related to business and is in a way emotional. Even though I feel weird sharing it on this forum, it's better than keeping everything inside, I guess.

I just have one of these stupid moments when I look at other slowlaners who work, have girlfriends, cars etc...and feels so fuarking crap. Probably it's jealousy, but then again, I have enough money to buy a decent looking car and sustain my lifestyle, I just don't do it. I don't do it because I see money as an army of soldiers that will help me win the battle of freedom; therefore I save money and invest in my business ventures.

It just feels crap to be different. Most people partying, spending money/time on their other 'halfs', going on vacations etc. I have some friends and seeing girls, but it just feels that I don't have anything to offer at the moment to them (i.e. cool car, house etc). Sometimes it feels so lonely... I usually come across strong, I regularly provide emotional assistance/motivation to many friends and have a reputation of being an emotionally strong guy - maybe that's why nobody ever ask me if I am okay.

When everybody party, I study. When they spend money on girlfriends and cars, I spend money on books, seminars and product prototypes. When they watch TV and cuddling with their girlfriends, I listen to motivational music and work my a$$ off until 5am on my business.

Even though sometimes I just want to don't exist and disappear forever, I know it's not a choice. Maybe it's my destiny that I have this kind of mindset, a mindset that forbids me from kneeling to social norms and being average. I know, I am not average, I just don't know whether it's good or bad. I know just one thing - I will never surrender fighting the war of freedom...

Thank you for reading.

 

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[Supa]

I've been in a pretty similar situation a few months ago. It was a friday evening and I felt like shit, because I wanted to take a break from working on my business and spend a few hours with my friends (I usually do that once or twice a week), but that day after nobody of them had time to hang out, because they were doing something with their girlfriends, I felt like shit. I had to go outside to clear my head of all those negative thoughts and feelings.

I sat down outside of the house on the stairs and just sat there for half an hour enjoying the cold autumn breeze. Thoughts like "they are laying in bed with their girls watching a movie or are out for dinner while I sit here on my own" ran through my head.

The cold air cleared my head after a few minutes and I had to smile. I realized that this is just one of those sacrifices you have to do, and even if it may make me sad to be on my own on a friday while everyone is with their girl, I know that this normal life won't make me happy in the long run. It may be cool now to do nothing and watch Netflix with a nice girl, that would really feel good NOW, but what about the FUTURE? How will I feel if I'm still living the mediocre life in 5 years from now? That's not what I want for my life.

I'm not saying that it is impossible to have a healthy relationship and at the same time work on a Fastlane business. But it is not possible for me right now, because it would take away my complete concentration from my goals, and that's not nothing I want to risk.

That's what I posted while sitting outside on those stairs:

Sometimes it is good to clear your head. I'm sitting outside the house right now, it's a nice fall evening, a bit cold, but the cold air feels good right now. Since the life we chose is a life that just a few people choose it can get a bit lonely sometimes I guess. Crazy when I think about it, most of my friends chill with their girlfriends right now and I'm sitting on those steps here writing this.. I just realized that as we get older those evenings with friends will probably get less and less. They will get into relationships or stay in their relationships and the 'chilling with the boys' will get less important. But actually those evenings chilling with my friends is the only real thing I do to get a break from working on my business.

While sitting here I had to think back to last summer where my brother, his gf, 2 friends and me where sitting exactly here chilling, talking. I knew that I won't have as much time for my friends and family as I used to before starting this journey.. But it's kinda hard for me to realize that those times will get less no matter what I do. While they slowly start to think about growing a family, building a safe future and doing couple evenings I'm still not interested in anything of this. It's a lonely road to my goal, and no matter how often you read about this fact, I guess you have to feel it for yourself to really understand it.

Maybe I'm just overreaching.. But I wanted to keep this moment in my thread, more for myself to come back to it and hopefully being thankful for pushing through those feelings.

What happens now is actually normal. Your friends will build their own families and will have less time for you. It's up to you if you do the same or if you follow another road, I chose the other road.

 

[Contrarian]

This post is not related to business and is in a way emotional. Even though I feel weird sharing it on this forum, it's better than keeping everything inside, I guess.

I just have one of these stupid moments when I look at other slowlaners who work, have girlfriends, cars etc...and feels so fuarking crap. Probably it's jealousy, but then again, I have enough money to buy a decent looking car and sustain my lifestyle, I just don't do it. I don't do it because I see money as an army of soldiers that will help me win the battle of freedom; therefore I save money and invest in my business ventures.

It just feels crap to be different. Most people partying, spending money/time on their other 'halfs', going on vacations etc. I have some friends and seeing girls, but it just feels that I don't have anything to offer at the moment to them (i.e. cool car, house etc). Sometimes it feels so lonely... I usually come across strong, I regularly provide emotional assistance/motivation to many friends and have a reputation of being an emotionally strong guy - maybe that's why nobody ever ask me if I am okay.

When everybody party, I study. When they spend money on girlfriends and cars, I spend money on books, seminars and product prototypes. When they watch TV and cuddling with their girlfriends, I listen to motivational music and work my a$$ off until 5am on my business.

Even though sometimes I just want to don't exist and disappear forever, I know it's not a choice. Maybe it's my destiny that I have this kind of mindset, a mindset that forbids me from kneeling to social norms and being average. I know, I am not average, I just don't know whether it's good or bad. I know just one thing - I will never surrender fighting the war of freedom...

Thank you for reading.

I read once about the concept of the "happiness change curve". For example, if you're an obese couch potato, your overall level of happiness might be 4/10 right now. When you first start exercising, you will hate it and be desperate to go lie on the couch and eat Doritos again. Your happiness level will be at about 2 at this point. But if you quit now you'll end up straight back at 4 again, whereas if you push through it you're likely to end up more like a 7 once you've got through the pain of change.

I spend most of my time alone now, which is a relatively new thing for me. Maybe you have a Toastmasters near you, or something else which is both social and productive.

 

[Serks]

Definitely relating to this at the moment

 

[JohnZ123]

I'm sure a lot of people feel the same way you do when they started their journey. For my personal example I'm 19, currently in college and also hustling a lot on the side. Many of my friends are buying cars, spending a lot of money on restaurants, partying, going out with their GF and etc. If my friends and other people want to spend time on those things rather than being productive then "good for them". You're obviously busting your a$$ off and it's going to pay off eventually. When they end up dreading the 9-5, regretting trapping themselves to car loans and wasting money on girls who don't even matter they're going to be the ones envying you. You're taking action and you should be proud of that.

 

[Almantas]

Thank you guys, it seems we all relate to each other in some ways. Feels good to know that I am not alone.

 

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