First off I’d like to give a big hello to all fellow members and thank anyone who reads my little introduction. My friend recommended The Millionaire Fastlane , after reading it I’m questioning my life’s approach and here I am, a bit over a month shy of turning 25 years old with no idea what I’m doing with my life. All I know is I sure don’t want to travel down the slowlane, which is why I plan on giving a brief back story and who knows, maybe I’ll get chewed out or receive a warm reception, whichever it is, I’m all ears to any suggestions and criticism that come my way.
Growing up in the same house with my mom my whole life, I’ve gone through plenty of different phases. In my early years (elementary school-middle school) I was involved in plenty of different hobbies (thanks mom), played a lot of baseball and loved the sport, I wanted to become an MLB player at all costs; I had my neighborhood and school friends who I’d hang out with and enjoyed living a life with the only major responsibility of doing well in school, which I did. Fast forward to high school, freshman year was a blast, had my clique, got good grades, and relaxed all summer, what else could I ask for?
Sophomore year was truly life altering, in the first month of school (September 28 to be exact) I made a dumb mistake of being at the wrong place at the wrong time and ended up getting jumped and stabbed four times, this was a day before baseball tryouts too. I was hospitalized for two days and out of school until late December. During the recovery process, my teachers were empathetic of my situation and were very helpful giving me notes during my time out to try to stay up to speed. Mentally however, I was a wreck after this traumatic experience, I fell under a big depression spell and cried every night asking why me, because still to this day, I’ve never been in a fight and I would consider myself a pleasant guy, so why would this happen to someone like me. I didn’t have much support from my “friends”, only my mom was the one who helped me during these dark days.
My whole high school career (for lack of a better term) was ruined from that day, I was physically ready to go back to school but wasn’t mentally ready. I used to always take the bus to school, I was now afraid to be around my peers and my mom was so helpful to drive me to and from school, now looking back she went through to make sure I was on time and for her to get to work on time herself. Mind you, I was receiving therapy for my pstd and to say it wasn’t much help would be a lie, but I guess I let my pride get the best of me to think I didn’t need it after a couple months.
Junior year I only went to school for one month and couldn’t do it anymore, I was still too distraught and my mom had me placed into home schooling for that year. Senior year I tried to go back to high school, which I did and ended up going through it fine, but I still had my mom drive me to and fro. So essentially I only had a high school “life” freshman year and senior year, so it was rough to see my potential group of friends all grow close over the years and become the popular kids and I missed out because of what happened to me. One thing I’d like to point out is that my weight grew exponentially; I went from maybe 170-190 to all the way to 270+.
Okay I know I’ve wrote a lot but I wanted to go into detail about that experience because I sometimes blame why my life is the way it is now because of that, I’ll try to be a lot more brief from here on out. So I went to a commuter college with a media studies degree in mind and this is when I also started my physical transformation with working out. College was okay, but it was just like high school, go to class, go home, do homework, play video games, eat, sleep, and repeat. I eventually became interested in acting and decided to switch my major to theatre which was a fun semester but I thought to myself you don’t need to be a theatre major to be an actor.
So now that I got into the working out lifestyle and transformed my body completely I went with nutrition and exercise as a “safe” major to eventually live a slowlane lifestyle. I eventually grew to hate it (thanks biochem) and dropped my classes and took 2 years off from school, now I’m in the process of readmission going back to complete the major I was first interested in, media studies. I feel like an idiot because I would have already been done with school and now all the information that I got in my first few years of college is now long gone and I have to start from scratch and learn everything over. But thing is, I have no idea what I plan on doing with this degree and a part of me is doing this for my mom, but I’m scared this may not be for me, especially seeing how I’m confused on where to go with it once I graduate.
As for my work history, my major jobs have been a minimum waged job retail job with commission (almost 2 years), a minimum waged clothing store job (~1.5 years), and now a fulltime job (~3 months) which I probably will end up leaving due to school. I feel like I can do better and I want to do better, but I’m also a bit self conscious about my appearance (could be related to my stabbing) and that holds me back a bit as well.
Other details I should mention that may be important, I don’t have my driver’s license yet (I’m from NYC and working in the city kind of slowed down my pursuit for that), I have a girlfriend, my “close” friends are few and far between, so I just want to do this mainly to prove to myself that I can overcome the hardships and still be successful. And don’t get me wrong, I know no one owes me anything and we all go through our hard times. I’m scared if I don’t finish school, I would be ever more lost as I have no idea what my niche is and my fear is letting people down because I didn’t try at all(especially my mom). I don’t want to let life pass me by and wonder what is, so this is why you can say I’m probably in need of some words of wisdom (or lots of them haha).
All in all, some of this information may have been unnecessary but I wanted to shed light on my situation and appreciate any and all feedback, and will answer any questions on any information about my life that I may have not gone over. A big THANK YOU to those who managed to read it all and I hope to one day be as helpful and a source of motivation as everyone else apart of the forum.
P.S. I have a lot of goals on how I want my life to look and to be successful, but I can't get them by just dreaming about them, I know I must go through the process and that's what I'm most confused of, because honestly I have things I'm interested in, but my mindset needs to change to go from consumer to an entrepreneur to take any of them into the fastlane anyway, which is still a work in progress. I am now realizing that I need to stop dwelling on the past and wonder why me and start living in the present and ask why not me, all in hopes of living without worries in ~10 years.
Thanks again for reading.
Growing up in the same house with my mom my whole life, I’ve gone through plenty of different phases. In my early years (elementary school-middle school) I was involved in plenty of different hobbies (thanks mom), played a lot of baseball and loved the sport, I wanted to become an MLB player at all costs; I had my neighborhood and school friends who I’d hang out with and enjoyed living a life with the only major responsibility of doing well in school, which I did. Fast forward to high school, freshman year was a blast, had my clique, got good grades, and relaxed all summer, what else could I ask for?
Sophomore year was truly life altering, in the first month of school (September 28 to be exact) I made a dumb mistake of being at the wrong place at the wrong time and ended up getting jumped and stabbed four times, this was a day before baseball tryouts too. I was hospitalized for two days and out of school until late December. During the recovery process, my teachers were empathetic of my situation and were very helpful giving me notes during my time out to try to stay up to speed. Mentally however, I was a wreck after this traumatic experience, I fell under a big depression spell and cried every night asking why me, because still to this day, I’ve never been in a fight and I would consider myself a pleasant guy, so why would this happen to someone like me. I didn’t have much support from my “friends”, only my mom was the one who helped me during these dark days.
My whole high school career (for lack of a better term) was ruined from that day, I was physically ready to go back to school but wasn’t mentally ready. I used to always take the bus to school, I was now afraid to be around my peers and my mom was so helpful to drive me to and from school, now looking back she went through to make sure I was on time and for her to get to work on time herself. Mind you, I was receiving therapy for my pstd and to say it wasn’t much help would be a lie, but I guess I let my pride get the best of me to think I didn’t need it after a couple months.
Junior year I only went to school for one month and couldn’t do it anymore, I was still too distraught and my mom had me placed into home schooling for that year. Senior year I tried to go back to high school, which I did and ended up going through it fine, but I still had my mom drive me to and fro. So essentially I only had a high school “life” freshman year and senior year, so it was rough to see my potential group of friends all grow close over the years and become the popular kids and I missed out because of what happened to me. One thing I’d like to point out is that my weight grew exponentially; I went from maybe 170-190 to all the way to 270+.
Okay I know I’ve wrote a lot but I wanted to go into detail about that experience because I sometimes blame why my life is the way it is now because of that, I’ll try to be a lot more brief from here on out. So I went to a commuter college with a media studies degree in mind and this is when I also started my physical transformation with working out. College was okay, but it was just like high school, go to class, go home, do homework, play video games, eat, sleep, and repeat. I eventually became interested in acting and decided to switch my major to theatre which was a fun semester but I thought to myself you don’t need to be a theatre major to be an actor.
So now that I got into the working out lifestyle and transformed my body completely I went with nutrition and exercise as a “safe” major to eventually live a slowlane lifestyle. I eventually grew to hate it (thanks biochem) and dropped my classes and took 2 years off from school, now I’m in the process of readmission going back to complete the major I was first interested in, media studies. I feel like an idiot because I would have already been done with school and now all the information that I got in my first few years of college is now long gone and I have to start from scratch and learn everything over. But thing is, I have no idea what I plan on doing with this degree and a part of me is doing this for my mom, but I’m scared this may not be for me, especially seeing how I’m confused on where to go with it once I graduate.
As for my work history, my major jobs have been a minimum waged job retail job with commission (almost 2 years), a minimum waged clothing store job (~1.5 years), and now a fulltime job (~3 months) which I probably will end up leaving due to school. I feel like I can do better and I want to do better, but I’m also a bit self conscious about my appearance (could be related to my stabbing) and that holds me back a bit as well.
Other details I should mention that may be important, I don’t have my driver’s license yet (I’m from NYC and working in the city kind of slowed down my pursuit for that), I have a girlfriend, my “close” friends are few and far between, so I just want to do this mainly to prove to myself that I can overcome the hardships and still be successful. And don’t get me wrong, I know no one owes me anything and we all go through our hard times. I’m scared if I don’t finish school, I would be ever more lost as I have no idea what my niche is and my fear is letting people down because I didn’t try at all(especially my mom). I don’t want to let life pass me by and wonder what is, so this is why you can say I’m probably in need of some words of wisdom (or lots of them haha).
All in all, some of this information may have been unnecessary but I wanted to shed light on my situation and appreciate any and all feedback, and will answer any questions on any information about my life that I may have not gone over. A big THANK YOU to those who managed to read it all and I hope to one day be as helpful and a source of motivation as everyone else apart of the forum.
P.S. I have a lot of goals on how I want my life to look and to be successful, but I can't get them by just dreaming about them, I know I must go through the process and that's what I'm most confused of, because honestly I have things I'm interested in, but my mindset needs to change to go from consumer to an entrepreneur to take any of them into the fastlane anyway, which is still a work in progress. I am now realizing that I need to stop dwelling on the past and wonder why me and start living in the present and ask why not me, all in hopes of living without worries in ~10 years.
Thanks again for reading.
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