I guess this is an introduction and also to seek opinion of people in similar position.
I've read TMF and I'm a few chapters in on Unscripted . Hugely powerful and eye opening books. I've read some of the epic gold threads on here and blown away with the success and dedication of the posters, plus the willingness to share and help. Respect.
Currently I'm 100% slowlane:
I'm pessimistic by nature, and I'm firmly aware if I want anything then I need to make it happen.
My kids (and wife) are motivation to achieve something, but also motivation to carry on doing what I do, earning my salary each month. Playing it safe. I know!
However I wondered who else is in the same position and what it takes to break the mindset?
I feel like if I was 20 I would quit my job, and put every hour into what I want to achieve. I cant make that commitment at 38 with family to provide for. They MUST always be the priority.
I haven't had a lightbulb moment yet. I haven't seen the product or service I feel could lead me down my own path. I am busy learning new skills and I feel like the more I read this forum the more my eyes open to the world around me. The more I want/need to be my own boss.
My “plan” at the moment is to keep working the day job, keep learning outside of that, keep looking for opportunity, keep learning from the vast wealth of knowledge on here, and when I see the opportunity then triple my efforts then go for it.
I'm making an assumption that the more Info and topics on FF that I expose myself too, the more my perspective will change. The greater chance of seeing opportunity and how to approach it.
Am I holding myself back? Of those that have had success how many of you battled with the family commitments before taking the plunge? Is it easy to think of that “idea” whilst working 40 hours and not deviating from family time?
Thank you for the immense knowledge I've read on here (and in the books) so far.
I've read TMF and I'm a few chapters in on Unscripted . Hugely powerful and eye opening books. I've read some of the epic gold threads on here and blown away with the success and dedication of the posters, plus the willingness to share and help. Respect.
Currently I'm 100% slowlane:
- An OK job (Fairly relaxed environment, easy to work for if you don’t take liberties). Good people and an above average salary for my field. I don’t mind my job, but I don’t enjoy it.
- I have two young kids (3 and 5)
- I'm UK based, and 38 years old.
- Debt = Mortgage
- Some savings banked (Rainy day, if I lost my job etc)
- I don’t fully commit to the “save all my life and see the world when im older” – I don’t assume i will be around that long. I've lost friends and colleagues in my 30s sadly so have no right to assume it will be a long life, so I don’t think as far ahead as 60s/70s. I do however pay into a pension – contradiction.
- I don’t have great expenses. I cut down on a lot of luxuries to allow my wife to step back in her role and work less days. To be around the children whilst they are young. We cut our combined salary by 40% and managed…..just. Family time became the highest priority over a shiny new car or bustling social life.
- I want to create experiences and memories for my children. I rarely have nights out and restaurant visits are on special occasions only. We spend money on the kids and vacations.
I'm pessimistic by nature, and I'm firmly aware if I want anything then I need to make it happen.
My kids (and wife) are motivation to achieve something, but also motivation to carry on doing what I do, earning my salary each month. Playing it safe. I know!
However I wondered who else is in the same position and what it takes to break the mindset?
I feel like if I was 20 I would quit my job, and put every hour into what I want to achieve. I cant make that commitment at 38 with family to provide for. They MUST always be the priority.
I haven't had a lightbulb moment yet. I haven't seen the product or service I feel could lead me down my own path. I am busy learning new skills and I feel like the more I read this forum the more my eyes open to the world around me. The more I want/need to be my own boss.
My “plan” at the moment is to keep working the day job, keep learning outside of that, keep looking for opportunity, keep learning from the vast wealth of knowledge on here, and when I see the opportunity then triple my efforts then go for it.
I'm making an assumption that the more Info and topics on FF that I expose myself too, the more my perspective will change. The greater chance of seeing opportunity and how to approach it.
Am I holding myself back? Of those that have had success how many of you battled with the family commitments before taking the plunge? Is it easy to think of that “idea” whilst working 40 hours and not deviating from family time?
Thank you for the immense knowledge I've read on here (and in the books) so far.
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