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Let's image someone you know, or maybe even yourself having some sort of addiction. Maybe you might of known or still know someone with an addiction. Alcohol, food, drugs or gambling. It doesn't really matter what addiction. Just imagine it for a second what it looks like.
Ask yourself these questions:
What happens when they are heavily addicted?
What does there life look like?
How do they feel when you use the the substance they're addicted to?
What do you see in an addict?
How does an addict solve there problem?
Think about it for a few seconds and just answer them questions.
An addict, to me, is the same as a person who wants to be successful but is not willing to put the effort in. They are addicted to the slowlane/sidewalk. They don't want to accept change in there life. They do the same shit day in day out, putting off for another day. They're scared of doing things differently in order to stop this addiction.
The word "stop" in that last but one sentence is key here, because so many people will replace that word with "avoid". That simple change to that sentence makes a whole world of difference. Stop is permanent but avoidance is temporary. If they just avoid the addiction, they will never cure it and it will always be there.
So how does an addict cure there addiction?
Let's look at a real addict here, say a cocaine addict, probably one of the strongest addictions of them all. When an addict is heavily addicted to cocaine, it's hard for them to cure it by themselves. They have to go to rehab to sort themselves out.
So what happens at rehab?
First of all, it's a huge change to there day to day life. They are simply thrown in the deep end to fix themselves. The environment is completely different. New people. New area. They are entering the world of unknown.
This is one of the biggest things most people are not willing to accept to there life is change. They're so hung up in the slowlane. The fear of doing something different scares the living day out of them. Stuck doing the same old shit living the same old boring job.
They also pick up 'onedayitus'. "Oh i'll get it done tomorrow, the start of the month, new years resolution, January 2nd 2021" bla bla bla. It goes on, making up excuses to not do something. This is avoidance. Do you think avoiding this change is ever going to cure this addiction? Of course not. Stop is permanent, avoidance is temporary. Because when you pick up onedayitus, you don't only put it off for that one day, you put things off all the time for every task you do. You get in this habit of curing your addiction 'one day' and will never actually change.
So what's part of this change? You're environment.
You can break your environment down into two things, the people that surround you and the general day to day tasks you do.
Let's look at the people that surround you. If you're a cocaine addict, how are you more likely to cure your addiction? By being around people who are also heavy users of cocaine? Or by people who are successful at curing there addiction and have a successful life?
While you sit at your slowlane desk living your slowlane life doing slowlane stuff, what sort of people are you surrounded by? Who motivates you to get of your a$$ the most? Do you need to surround yourself with better people? Who's pulling you down and keeping you addicted? Do you need to get rid of these people?
Sometimes, you just need to put people to one side in order to move forward. You end up in the wrong crowd with the wrong sort of people doing the wrong things. That trip to the pub for a quick pint ends up being 5 pints which ends up being a trip to the club and so forth...Do you think this would happen if you went out with MJ? Of course not. Like my time, and so should yours, it's valuable to him. Spend it wisely with wise people.
Now, lets look at the day to day tasks. I see so many people on here talk about how they are procrastinating all the time. In fact, it's one problem I've had most of my life. But why do we do it?
How are you more likely to cure your cocaine addiction? If you're sitting in Pablo Escobars cocaine lab? Or, lets say, in a library where there is no cocaine around leaving no temptation to have a quick fix? (the library was the best place I could think of lol).
This is why fat people always stay fat. They might buy a million pieces of fruit and veg and go to the gym seven days a week, but they still also have to pick up a pack of biscuits to snack on and 'treat' themselves. This is why diets never work, they refuse to make a lifestyle change. They wont go all out. This is avoidance and they will always either stay fat or simply return to being fat.
What do you procrastinate the most with? Facebook? Games? How much invaluable time do you spend on these tasks? Image for a second if all the stuff you procrastinated with didn't even exist, do you think you'd procrastinate as much as you would?
Procrastination is always going to exist, but don't try and control it. Look at the cause of it and simply remove the cause altogether. When the causes are gone from your life all together, you're less likely to procrastinate altogether. If you remove the temptation all together, just like you remove the ice cream from your fridge, you're likely not going to do it at all.
For me, I used to play a game. Each round would last for 15 minutes, so essentially I'd tell myself I'm taking a "15 minute break". This would then turn into another break, then another break, then an extended 30 minute break and so forth. The only way I could ever stop these breaks is by completely removing the game altogether. By making a change.
Ironically, I read an article somewhere that Facebook affects your brain the same way cocaine does. Doesn't really surprise me. Just like a drug addict, you're always looking for that 'quick fix' by procrastinating. You're simply addicted to procrastinating and can't get rid of it. This is avoidance. You have to remove the cause.
Now go back up to the top and read over them questions again. This time, instead of imagining the addiction you originally thought of, change it to being addicted to the slowlane. Then ask yourself, are you addicted? If so, are you going to avoid the addiction? Or cure it?
Edit: Rehab for curing your slowlane addiction could simply be moving away to somewhere you've never been before. Just like rehab for a drug addict, you have a new environment, new people, new area and entering the world of unknown. Do you need to go to rehab?
Well that got a bit more lengthier than I thought. I'm not the best of writers but have felt like I've always wanted to improve my writing skill. If anyone has any input on how I can improve my writing skill here, let me know.
I might come back and add to this too, feel like I've missed some thing I've forgotten about.
Ask yourself these questions:
What happens when they are heavily addicted?
What does there life look like?
How do they feel when you use the the substance they're addicted to?
What do you see in an addict?
How does an addict solve there problem?
Think about it for a few seconds and just answer them questions.
An addict, to me, is the same as a person who wants to be successful but is not willing to put the effort in. They are addicted to the slowlane/sidewalk. They don't want to accept change in there life. They do the same shit day in day out, putting off for another day. They're scared of doing things differently in order to stop this addiction.
The word "stop" in that last but one sentence is key here, because so many people will replace that word with "avoid". That simple change to that sentence makes a whole world of difference. Stop is permanent but avoidance is temporary. If they just avoid the addiction, they will never cure it and it will always be there.
So how does an addict cure there addiction?
Let's look at a real addict here, say a cocaine addict, probably one of the strongest addictions of them all. When an addict is heavily addicted to cocaine, it's hard for them to cure it by themselves. They have to go to rehab to sort themselves out.
So what happens at rehab?
First of all, it's a huge change to there day to day life. They are simply thrown in the deep end to fix themselves. The environment is completely different. New people. New area. They are entering the world of unknown.
This is one of the biggest things most people are not willing to accept to there life is change. They're so hung up in the slowlane. The fear of doing something different scares the living day out of them. Stuck doing the same old shit living the same old boring job.
They also pick up 'onedayitus'. "Oh i'll get it done tomorrow, the start of the month, new years resolution, January 2nd 2021" bla bla bla. It goes on, making up excuses to not do something. This is avoidance. Do you think avoiding this change is ever going to cure this addiction? Of course not. Stop is permanent, avoidance is temporary. Because when you pick up onedayitus, you don't only put it off for that one day, you put things off all the time for every task you do. You get in this habit of curing your addiction 'one day' and will never actually change.
So what's part of this change? You're environment.
You can break your environment down into two things, the people that surround you and the general day to day tasks you do.
Let's look at the people that surround you. If you're a cocaine addict, how are you more likely to cure your addiction? By being around people who are also heavy users of cocaine? Or by people who are successful at curing there addiction and have a successful life?
While you sit at your slowlane desk living your slowlane life doing slowlane stuff, what sort of people are you surrounded by? Who motivates you to get of your a$$ the most? Do you need to surround yourself with better people? Who's pulling you down and keeping you addicted? Do you need to get rid of these people?
Sometimes, you just need to put people to one side in order to move forward. You end up in the wrong crowd with the wrong sort of people doing the wrong things. That trip to the pub for a quick pint ends up being 5 pints which ends up being a trip to the club and so forth...Do you think this would happen if you went out with MJ? Of course not. Like my time, and so should yours, it's valuable to him. Spend it wisely with wise people.
Now, lets look at the day to day tasks. I see so many people on here talk about how they are procrastinating all the time. In fact, it's one problem I've had most of my life. But why do we do it?
How are you more likely to cure your cocaine addiction? If you're sitting in Pablo Escobars cocaine lab? Or, lets say, in a library where there is no cocaine around leaving no temptation to have a quick fix? (the library was the best place I could think of lol).
This is why fat people always stay fat. They might buy a million pieces of fruit and veg and go to the gym seven days a week, but they still also have to pick up a pack of biscuits to snack on and 'treat' themselves. This is why diets never work, they refuse to make a lifestyle change. They wont go all out. This is avoidance and they will always either stay fat or simply return to being fat.
What do you procrastinate the most with? Facebook? Games? How much invaluable time do you spend on these tasks? Image for a second if all the stuff you procrastinated with didn't even exist, do you think you'd procrastinate as much as you would?
Procrastination is always going to exist, but don't try and control it. Look at the cause of it and simply remove the cause altogether. When the causes are gone from your life all together, you're less likely to procrastinate altogether. If you remove the temptation all together, just like you remove the ice cream from your fridge, you're likely not going to do it at all.
For me, I used to play a game. Each round would last for 15 minutes, so essentially I'd tell myself I'm taking a "15 minute break". This would then turn into another break, then another break, then an extended 30 minute break and so forth. The only way I could ever stop these breaks is by completely removing the game altogether. By making a change.
Ironically, I read an article somewhere that Facebook affects your brain the same way cocaine does. Doesn't really surprise me. Just like a drug addict, you're always looking for that 'quick fix' by procrastinating. You're simply addicted to procrastinating and can't get rid of it. This is avoidance. You have to remove the cause.
Now go back up to the top and read over them questions again. This time, instead of imagining the addiction you originally thought of, change it to being addicted to the slowlane. Then ask yourself, are you addicted? If so, are you going to avoid the addiction? Or cure it?
Edit: Rehab for curing your slowlane addiction could simply be moving away to somewhere you've never been before. Just like rehab for a drug addict, you have a new environment, new people, new area and entering the world of unknown. Do you need to go to rehab?
Well that got a bit more lengthier than I thought. I'm not the best of writers but have felt like I've always wanted to improve my writing skill. If anyone has any input on how I can improve my writing skill here, let me know.
I might come back and add to this too, feel like I've missed some thing I've forgotten about.
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