Hy guys,
I didnt actually want to start this topic, I thought I could handle this, but I found myself going nowhere! Here's what has happened ...
6 years ago ~I was still teen like 16 probably~ my father lost small sum gambling - behind our back, to my whole family and mother, he lied, he has taken lots of loans to handle the lost. Well, he couldnt and at some point when he obviously coulndnt take it anymore cuz the expensive for the family were pretty much the same as always, but since he owed a lot of money it was hard to handle it all by himself. When mom found out, she lost like 10 kg, she stop eating for some time, she didnt even want to look at him cuz that man was someone who we didint actually know. She was 1 step away from leaving him ... but at the end, a lot of tears ect, she forgive him, they managed to cover the cost together and in next 6 years we managed to get back our trust in him.
Nowadays : couple of days ago, same person, same father and husband come to us and told us he has lost like 3 times more then last time... again gambling! Mom totally crashed this time. He has been lying to us for more then a year now and he hasnt actually stopped gambling ~just the beginning at the first time cuz he was scared he will lose his family~. So I know this is actually disease, I know that. His argument why he has done it are pretty much the same as first time. Let me just mention that my grandparents lost all of their money long time ago with the inflation, just because they havent listen. So he feel guilty about them cuz they live in a awful house and always has felt that it's his due to buy them some nice apartment or house or whatever. But the situation in my country is really bad, I mean starting business here, especially now is almost doomed and that's why he hasnt started anything ~I blame him about it cuz there is always a way out~ and gambling is not a way out!
So he used the same excuse over and over. My grandma passed away like couple of months ago, so my grandpa live alone now, in the same hole, but instead of taking normal loan and start some sort of business, but no, he lost them gambling online. The worst part, my mother has some small loan that she took for me just to give me for my student years at university. Well, he has spent them too. But that's not all. My grandpa had a small country house that we sold with the intention to sell my grandpa's house and with all the money to buy him something better. Well, father fast lost those money too. And that's not all, grandpa has given him some time ago some money about his own funeral if something happened so just to be prepared, well father has lost his father funeral money too. I mean, that was the too much to handle.
Now I actually watch my family fallin apart, mom thinkin about leaving him, cuz well she live with that guy for 27 years and he's such a good fxckin liar that i cant even tell ya! You just cant catch him, he's calm and confident. Plus not to mention he actually want to mortgage our home so he could start pay off his loans - which are like 4 or 5 dont know for sure.
I was so excited reading reading the fastlane millionaire. I havent even finished it yet but I was already thinking to stat some online business, I have always wanted to start a real online business, that's one of my dreams, just my own thing and I could help my grandpa and my family. And couple of days my dad told us this ... and now I'm nowhere! We have no money and we wont have for a long time!
So I was thinking last couple of days what the hell should I do? Any advices ? If I dont do something and make like 15-20 K the fastest way possible and give all of them to my parents, my mother and him will have to spend next 5 years trying to get rid of the loans. 5 years of total misery ~if they together of course~ but even if they dont, no matter what he has done and the lies and everything, he remains my father, I had to do something to help him! I dont want a single dime for myself now, I just want to help my family and mostly my mother, cuz i cant keep watching her fallin apart, It just break my heart!
What to do guys? Any Ideas
I didnt actually want to start this topic, I thought I could handle this, but I found myself going nowhere! Here's what has happened ...
6 years ago ~I was still teen like 16 probably~ my father lost small sum gambling - behind our back, to my whole family and mother, he lied, he has taken lots of loans to handle the lost. Well, he couldnt and at some point when he obviously coulndnt take it anymore cuz the expensive for the family were pretty much the same as always, but since he owed a lot of money it was hard to handle it all by himself. When mom found out, she lost like 10 kg, she stop eating for some time, she didnt even want to look at him cuz that man was someone who we didint actually know. She was 1 step away from leaving him ... but at the end, a lot of tears ect, she forgive him, they managed to cover the cost together and in next 6 years we managed to get back our trust in him.
Nowadays : couple of days ago, same person, same father and husband come to us and told us he has lost like 3 times more then last time... again gambling! Mom totally crashed this time. He has been lying to us for more then a year now and he hasnt actually stopped gambling ~just the beginning at the first time cuz he was scared he will lose his family~. So I know this is actually disease, I know that. His argument why he has done it are pretty much the same as first time. Let me just mention that my grandparents lost all of their money long time ago with the inflation, just because they havent listen. So he feel guilty about them cuz they live in a awful house and always has felt that it's his due to buy them some nice apartment or house or whatever. But the situation in my country is really bad, I mean starting business here, especially now is almost doomed and that's why he hasnt started anything ~I blame him about it cuz there is always a way out~ and gambling is not a way out!
So he used the same excuse over and over. My grandma passed away like couple of months ago, so my grandpa live alone now, in the same hole, but instead of taking normal loan and start some sort of business, but no, he lost them gambling online. The worst part, my mother has some small loan that she took for me just to give me for my student years at university. Well, he has spent them too. But that's not all. My grandpa had a small country house that we sold with the intention to sell my grandpa's house and with all the money to buy him something better. Well, father fast lost those money too. And that's not all, grandpa has given him some time ago some money about his own funeral if something happened so just to be prepared, well father has lost his father funeral money too. I mean, that was the too much to handle.
Now I actually watch my family fallin apart, mom thinkin about leaving him, cuz well she live with that guy for 27 years and he's such a good fxckin liar that i cant even tell ya! You just cant catch him, he's calm and confident. Plus not to mention he actually want to mortgage our home so he could start pay off his loans - which are like 4 or 5 dont know for sure.
I was so excited reading reading the fastlane millionaire. I havent even finished it yet but I was already thinking to stat some online business, I have always wanted to start a real online business, that's one of my dreams, just my own thing and I could help my grandpa and my family. And couple of days my dad told us this ... and now I'm nowhere! We have no money and we wont have for a long time!
So I was thinking last couple of days what the hell should I do?
Any advices ? If I dont do something and make like 15-20 K the fastest way possible and give all of them to my parents, my mother and him will have to spend next 5 years trying to get rid of the loans. 5 years of total misery ~if they together of course~ but even if they dont, no matter what he has done and the lies and everything, he remains my father, I had to do something to help him! I dont want a single dime for myself now, I just want to help my family and mostly my mother, cuz i cant keep watching her fallin apart, It just break my heart! What to do guys? Any Ideas
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