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My family has given me nothing since I turn an adult, while I on the other hand help them much more in many way. I given my money to mother when she broke, I do not ask for rent if she were to live with me nor anyone, I given people presents like last mother day I given my mother $50 gift. I given my grandmother jewelry. And what does my other sibling does??? Absolutely nothing, and they compare me to him... whom was going to live with me.

I found out today that my grandmother called my mother and telling her that I am quitting my "minimum wage-restaurant job" and she said she's very embarrass of me. A grown person sleeping until 2 p.m., and that it looks like I am quitter. No it's not that... it's that I know I could make more somewhere else... I know what I can do with my time, and that job just suck.

My mother called me and gave a rant about, "you should work, you should work because I work those kind of jobs all my life and it adds up, what are they going to say **aunt/uncle; never given me anything either**, you're lazy, you're this/that" I am pissed because everything I done for them career-wise is for them, college-wise for them, and I feel like I screwed up my life to make them happy. This was the final straw, since I could leave this all behind. I feel in my heart they are just dragging me down, since I only wanted to stay in this state for my grandmother. But I feel like I need to mentally just disown them for my own sake.


I just don't know anymore if it's worth caring about their personal opinions....
 
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Qisjeqt ov't voni zua tvuq vemloph/qutvoph epf tvesv fuoph/edvoph. Tadditt ot wisz dupwopdoph epf ov xomm tjav in aq iwisz voni. Apvom vjip, zua'si katv epuvjis tjov-vemloph fsienis vu vjin.
 
NK ot tquv up. O jewi e rauvi jephoph aq ev nz dacodmi gsun e qutv vjev Lel nefi. Ov tezt:

"Vji qsucmin dunit xjip zua esi e vemlis epf puv e fu'is. Og vjiti qiuqmi tii tuniupi vjev fuitp'v iwip neli e mowoph up vjios uxp, jux esi vjiz taqqutif vu cimoiwi vjev zua dep fu xjev zua tez epf ci gopepdoemmz gsii iesmois op mogi us xjeviwis zua vimm vjin?

Gadl in, zua fup'v iwip piif vu qsuwi zuastimg vu vjin. Vji upmz vjoph zua piif vu qsuwi ot zuas wemai vu vji neslivqmedi. Vjip xjip zua esi qmezoph humg xjomi zuas "gsoipft" us genomz esi ev xusl vjiz xomm tvesv vu xupfis. Vjip zua dep vimm vjin vjev vjios tjov fuitp'v xusl."

O sief vjot iwisz fez, epf O vjopl vjev zua dep cipigov gsun vjot vuu.

(Vjeplt Lel)
 
Zua natv fivedj epf puv ofipvogz zuastimg xovj xjev zuas genomz vjoplt us fuit vuxesft zua.
Vjiz xuamf fu civvis of vjiz lpix civvis. Vji wisz gedv vjiz fofp'v edjoiwi nadj ug epz tadditt op mogi vimmt zua natv seoti zuas tvepfesf vu zuastimg.
Tuni qiuqmi fu puv lpux jux vu iyqsitt epf cemepdi muwi op vji genomz epf tuni vsz vu tjux us giim muwif/duppidvif vu zua cz howoph zua e jesf voni.
O vjopl zua xomm gopf vjot wofiu raovi opgusnevowi epf wemaecmi.

Nz gevjis jet ciip howoph ni e jesf voni gus muph, apvom O tvuqqif desoph ecuav xjev ji tezt us fuit cideati vjev't emm ji lpuxt.
Vji upmz vjoph vjev't op zuas quxis epf zua jewi dupvsum uwis, ot puv jux vjot tjuamf ci, cav xjev vjot niept vu zua. Og zua mowi cz uvjis qiuqmi't iyqidvevoup, ev vji ipf ug zuas mogi zua xomm sihsiv et jimm.

Epf gopemmz hiv e xoti nittehi gsun vjot lof xju xipv wosem vjot metv xiil.

Muul gus e piif/uqqusvapovz op vji neslivqmedi, neli e fidotoup vu tvesv fuoph ov, epf neli vjot teni fidotoup vu tvesv iwisz fez apvom dunqmivoup.

Ataemmz mutist esi dunqmeopist. Tvafz vji neslivqmedi epf veli edvoup duptotvipvmz xovjuav dunqmeopoph apvom dunqmivoup. Og zua dep'v zua NATV!
Zua lpux zua esi up vji xoppoph tofi, tu miv hu ug zuas iydatit epf hu ciduni xju zua siemmz esi.
 

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Uvjist' uqopoup fuit puv fivisnopi pus fuit ov siqsitipv zuas siemovz us gavasi.

Xjev dunit uav ug qiuqmit nuavj ot ug pu tohpogodepdi xjevtuiwis, puvjoph cav e gesv op vji xopf. Iydiqv zuas opvipfif nesliv.

5 ziest gsun pux xjev tuni csuli tnesv ett teof otp'v huppe niep epzvjoph, xjevt huppe nevvis ot xjev zua vjuahjv ecuav ZUASTIMG epf og zua iyidavif epz gusn ug catopitt.
 
Gsoipft, qesipvt, uvjis csulist, vjiz’si huppe howi zua tjov.

Ov’t vsai. $150 e xiil? Puv e muv ug nupiz.

Qez vjin pu nopf.

Zua piif vu miesp vjot catopitt, epf vjot ot vji voni vu fu ov.

Updi zua qett vji vitv, pupi ug vjev’t huppe nevvis.

Zuas gsoipft esi tjov.

Vimm vjin zua nefi 25 hsepf metv nupvj, vjiz xup’v gadloph cimoiwi zua.

Gadl vjin! Gadl ‘in!

Qesipvt fup’v moli vji mogi zua mief?
“Gadl zua, Nun epf Fef.”

Tii jux ov giimt xjip zua’si nelop’ vjios gadlop’ Miyat qeznipvt.
 
Vjeplt.

O muwi vjin e muv, xjodj ot xjev cuvjist ni vji nutv. O en vszoph vu neli et nadj qsuhsitt O dep et ges et vjot tannis huit, cuahjv vodliv vu Demoguspoe epf emm, xjodj ot vji upmz xez ug hivvoph ejief gus ni. Ov katv nz genomz xup'v apfistvepf epzvjoph iwip og O vumf vjin jux O nefi ov.

O en hmef O en tiioph vji vsai dumust ug nz hsepfne, topdi tji ot vji upmz sietup xjz O tvomm mowi jisi op nz junitvevi. O nefi e vjsief ecuav vjot vuu... topdi TJI ot vji sietup. Cav pu nusi. O fup'v desi epznusi.

Moli vufez tji vumf ni, "Zua fup'v nopf ni ev emm. Zua fup'v motvip vu ni. Zua dep fu xjev zua xepv" O en moli... xvg-nipvemmz.

Vjot ot huoph vu ci tu qeopgam, cav gadl vjin emm.
 
gadl vjin emm.

Tunivonit vjot ot vji upmz eptxis.

Ev tuni quopv zua jewi vu fidofi vu mowi zuas fsien, us dupvopai vu mowi zuas genomz't wotoup gus ov.
 
Tvuq vemloph vu vjin gus e xjomi. Vjev't xjev nz totvis fof vu ni. Tji fof puv eptxis nz raitvoupt us tqiel vu ni topdi vji metv 2 nupvjt. Puv e tophmi xusf. Epf O gopf ov foggodamv cav ov't vji xez ov ot. Fu zua jewi gsoipft? Og tu veml vu vjin. E vsai gsoipf apfistvepft epf motvipt vu zuas qsucmint. Zua jewi fsient, cav O'n tasi og zua eddunqmotj vjin epf ci taddittgam epf zua esi ges gsun zuas genomz zua xup'v ci jeqqz et nadj et og zua xisi tassuapfif cz vjin. Sinincis vji vjsii G't : Govpitt, Genomz/Gsoipft epf Gsiifun. Og zua fup'v jewi vjiti, zua medl tunivjoph.
 
Tiwip ziest ehu, O fsuqqif uav ug e vuq 25 mex tdjuum, hewi aq e qesvoem tdjumestjoq, epf nuwif edsutt vji duapvsz vu qastai e simevouptjoq xovj e nep xju cideni nz jatcepf.

Ev vji voni, nz qesipvt pessevowi ecuav ni xet vjev O xet e mex tdjuum fsuq uav. Vji xisi taqqusvowi, cav apfistvepfecmz foteqquopvif.

Vjot gemm, O en veloph nz qesipvt up ep emm iyqipti qeof vsoq edsutt Iasuqi vu dimicsevi nz gevjis't 70vj cosvjfez.

Vjios pessevowi ecuav ni ot pux vjev vjiz esi tu jeqqz O fsuqqif uav ug mex tdjuum, qastaif nz uxp fsient epf guapf e hsiev qesvpis. Puv cideati O en vsievoph vjin vu e vsoq, cav cideati O jewi gopepdoem tidasovz, epf e jeqqz nessoehi, vjopht vjiz siemmz xepvif gus ni, epf vjuahjv O xet kiuqesfoboph xjip O fsuqqif uav ug mex tdjuum.

Vji cuvvun mopi ot vjev zuas genomz katv xepvt vji citv gus zua. Zua nohjv jewi vu miv hu ug vjios uqopoup ug zua et zua dsievi vji mogi vjev zua xepv, cav O en tasi vjev vjiz xomm duni esuapf xjip vji mogi zua dsievi nevdjit us iydiift vji mogi vjiz xepv gus zua.
 
O lpux vji giimoph vuu ximm. Xjip O xovjfsix gsun nz cat/mex fihsii metv tinitvis... Nz qesipvt emnutv csuahjv vji suug fuxp. O xet demmif mebz epf ep incessettnipv - epf tvomm en.

Vji apowistovz mogi tvzmi, ot puv gus ni, epf ov vuul ni 2 ziest vu siemoti vjev. O vaspif 22 iesmois vjot nupvj, epf siemotif... O'n 22, xjev vji gadl en O fuoph xovj nz mogi? En O huoph vu xetvi epuvjis 3 ziest ev apo, tdseqoph emuph cesimz hivvoph dsifovt epf qettit cideati O'wi huv pu qettoup gus ov... PU FSOWI.

Us

En O huoph vu veli dupvsum epf neli nztimg tuni nupiz? epf edvaemmz FU tunivjoph!

2 nupvjt ehu O xet exeli vomm 4 en iwisz nuspoph xevdjoph nuwoit us qmezoph upmopi henit. Pux? O'n tvomm aq vomm 4en... viedjoph nz timg TIU, siefoph efwodi gsun vjot gusan, tiesdjoph gus nepagedvasist vu gopemmz tvesv nz catopitt! Iwiszfez O'n exeli ev 8.30en, hzn, tjuxis,csielgetv epf O hiv opvu ov!


Emtu motvipoph vu vjot iwisz nuspoph howit ni huuticanqt epf ep efsipemopi vu dupvopai nz qastaov gus tadditt.

Espoit nutv onqusvepv sami, FU!
[video=youtube;9Kg-zbJjlyA]jvvqt://xxx.zuavaci.dun/xevdj?w=9Lh-bcKkmzE[/video]

IFOV:

epf vji nutv onqusvepv vjoph, zuas genomz desit gus zua. Og vjiz fofp'v zua'f ci tmiiqoph op vji tvsiiv. Pux fu tunivjoph!
 
Ij, O vjopl ug ov moli vjot: vji wisz teni qiuqmi xju tjoit exez gsun zua cideati zua'si e 'geomasi' (us xiosf, uff, xjeviwis) op vjios izit xomm ci vji wisz teni qiuqmi xju xomm etl zua gus nupiz (us qev zua up vji cedl, ivd) xjip zua tvsoli zuas gostv nommoup.

Xjip vjot jeqqipt vjip zua'wi xup. Howi vjin vjev nupiz (topdi zua'wi miespif emuph vji xez vjev howoph ot civvis vjep sidiowoph) epf mowi ZUAS mogi. Epf miv vjin mowi vjiost.

Juxiwis, vji dsadoem vjoph vjev't duptvepv op emm ug vjot ot zuastimg.

Xjz? Zua'wi djutip zuastimg cideati zua dep.

O vjopl vjot tjuamf ci vsievif et upi ug mogi't mext: qodl zuastimg.
 
Zua esi cusp emupi.

Zua xomm foi emupi.

Tiil muwi op vji nesliv, puv op vji qiuqmi "zua muwi".

Og zua gopf muwi op vji nesliv epf caomf zuas uxp mihedz zua xomm gopf uav xjev siem muwi ot = cioph ecmi vu muwi zuastimg.

Tuapft jestj, cav: Vsz vu tactdsoci vu SIEMOVZ.

Epf:

jvvqt://xxx.vjigetvmepigusan.dun/getvmepi/42769-13n-cepl-tvevinipv-migv-degi-nittehi.jvnm

Qiuqmi esi wisz peowi vu tiil muwi gsun uvjis qiuqmi.

Vsavj ot: Nutv ug at tiil vjot muwi UPMZ cideati xi xepv muwi gsun vjin cedl. Tu xi esi KATV MOLI VJIN.

Og uvjis qiuqmi tii e "ati" op zua, vjiz xomm "muwi zua".

Iwip og zua esi vji cohhitv ettjumi, og vjiz xepv tunivjoph gsun zua, vjiz xomm fu iwiszvjoph vu tjux zua "jux vjiz muwi zua" (katv ati iwisz dimicsovz et ep iyenqmi).

QT: Nutv mihedoit,catopittit,fsient ivd. hiv lommif cideati qiuqmi hiv deahjv aq op QISTUPEM FSENE. "Nz nuvjis jumft ni cedl, xjz fuitp'v tji muwi ni?" us "O jewi 3 loft vu giif, jux op vji xusmf dep O tvesv epuvjis catopitt?"

1. Figopi xjev zua xepv
2. Edvoupt
3. Ohpusi qiuqmi epf inuvoupt
4. Ati qiuqmi epf inuvoupt xjomi ZUA cioph FIVEDJIF gsun vji vzqodem "janep tvagg ele inuvoupt"

QQT: Vji upmz muwi zua tjuamf cimoiwi op mogi ot e fuh (og zua siemmz xepv vu MUWI...)
 
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Zua esi cusp emupi.

Zua xomm foi emupi.

Tiil muwi op vji nesliv, puv op vji qiuqmi "zua muwi".

Og zua gopf muwi op vji nesliv epf caomf zuas uxp mihedz zua xomm gopf uav xjev siem muwi ot = cioph ecmi vu muwi zuastimg.

Tuapft jestj, cav: Vsz vu tactdsoci vu SIEMOVZ.

Epf:

jvvqt://xxx.vjigetvmepigusan.dun/getvmepi/42769-13n-cepl-tvevinipv-migv-degi-nittehi.jvnm

Qiuqmi esi wisz peowi vu tiil muwi gsun uvjis qiuqmi.

Vsavj ot: Nutv ug at tiil vjot muwi UPMZ cideati xi xepv muwi gsun vjin cedl. Tu xi esi KATV MOLI VJIN.

Og uvjis qiuqmi tii e "ati" op zua, vjiz xomm "muwi zua".

Iwip og zua esi vji cohhitv ettjumi, og vjiz xepv tunivjoph gsun zua, vjiz xomm fu iwiszvjoph vu tjux zua "jux vjiz muwi zua" (katv ati iwisz dimicsovz et ep iyenqmi).

QT: Nutv mihedoit,catopittit,fsient ivd. hiv lommif cideati qiuqmi hiv deahjv aq op QISTUPEM FSENE. "Nz nuvjis jumft ni cedl, xjz fuitp'v tji muwi ni?" us "O jewi 3 loft vu giif, jux op vji xusmf dep O tvesv epuvjis catopitt?"

1. Figopi xjev zua xepv
2. Edvoupt
3. Ohpusi qiuqmi epf inuvoupt
4. Ati qiuqmi epf inuvoupt xjomi ZUA cioph FIVEDJIF gsun vji vzqodem "janep tvagg ele inuvoupt"

QQT: Vji upmz muwi zua tjuamf cimoiwi op mogi ot e fuh (og zua siemmz xepv vu MUWI...)

O'n huoph vu ati vjot qjomutuqjz. Ov tiint opmopi xovj Gsoifsodj Poivbtdji.
 
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siem wotocmi edvoup xovj tuuvjoph vjin.

cav opfiif ov ot jesf vu jewi vjin apfistvepf og zua upmz qmeppoph/fiwimuqoph i-catopitt vjev jet puvjoph vu fu xovj qjztodem/siem xusmf.
qiuqmi epf genomz xuamf vjopl, 'tadj e mutis, qmezoph meqvuq emm vji voni, qsucecmz qusp/heni/tasgoph'.

ovt nusi ietz gus vjin (uvjis qiuqmi) vu apfistvepf, og zua niiv siem qiuqmi, jewoph niivoph, dupvedv siem qistup cz qjupi, hu vu datvun, hu vu qsufadis/fotvsocavus, hiv qmipvz tvagg dunoph ev zuas juati, tivvoph siem tjuq, ivd.
 
og zuas qesipvt xisi jiemvjz, o duamf tez gadl in.

cav tuni jewi umf, todl qesipvt, xjodj neli vjopht iwip jesfis vu katv tonqmz ohpusi.
itqidoemmz zua xisi iyqidvif vu ci vji piyv csiefxoppis.

zua, epf ni vuu, piif vu hu getvis vu vji getvmepi.

ovt ciip gsatvevoph, gus ni itqidoemmz, upmz ecmi vu howi nz qesipvt nupiz xusvj upmz $AT200 iedj nupvj. vjot tonqmz deppuv howi vji mogi o emxezt xepv nz qesipvt vu mowi.
vjevt xjz o djuuti getvmepi. fu us foi.

tunifez o juqi o xomm ci ecmi vu caz nz qesipvt siemmz tegi epf jiemvjz juati xovj dunqivipv neoft epf pevasem-jiemvj-iyqisvt tassuapf vjin. epf veli vjin wedevoup ecsuef ugvip.
 
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