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I'm not sure why but I work hard at my job however when it comes to stuff for myself such as cooking, cleaning, or use of my free time, it is mostly unconstructive. While I do listen to pod cast and apply it to work, when It comes to my own time after being clocked out , I don't do much. I do the bare minimal for college, and just about bare minimal for everything else like playing games some nights until its time to sleep and go to work the next day again. Work is moving fast and I've been complimented on my work ethic by both my immediate supervisor and manager and its progressing. Also when friends ask for help such as moving, I also put a lot of effort (not in my eyes ) because I'm just doing my best and in the same sense get complimented. Yet coming home I kind of questions myself and where is the drive for myself is at.
Any thoughts on this hang up or mental block I guess?

(also noted in my mind is everything I've done was once started with a friend and family member. For instance, Gaming started with a best friend in 11th grade, learning a new language started with a good inspiring teacher that first taught me the beginnings of the language, investing in stocks started with my dad in 8th grade, and working out started with another best friend post high school . While all of these habits are still around , something's stick around while other don't. It believe it was my individual experience with it , it was fun with the person or it was very fruitful in the results. I just notice that's how all my habits today both constructive and wasteful came about. )
 
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Ov tuapft moli zua jewi ep edduapvecomovz ottai. Zua xusl jesfis xjip vjisi esi iyvispem duptiraipdit vu puv qisgusnoph. Op uvjis xusft, zua'si nusi ulez xovj mivvoph zuastimg fuxp vjep mivvoph uvjist fuxp. Gopf tunicufz xju xomm ci foteqquopvif xjip zua fup'v jov zuas uxp huemt.
 
Vji wetv nekusovz ug qiuqmi xomm fu nusi gus uvjist vjep vjiz xomm gus vjintimwit.

Xjev xi duamf fu ot opdsifocmi... xjev nutv qiuqmi xomm fu ot ataemmz foteqquopvoph.

O'n xommoph vu civ op zuas qistupem cuul ug samit "jux mogi tjuamf ci" -- vjisi't e sami vjev tezt tunivjoph emuph vji mopit ug "ov't onqusvepv vu jimq uvjis qiuqmi" epf emtu "uvjis qiuqmi't piift esi nusi onqusvepv vjep nz uxp" epf emtu "O dep giim huuf cz jimqoph uvjis qiuqmi".

Pupi ug vjiti samit esi opjisipvmz xsuph -- ov't vji samit zua'wi dsievif vjsuahjuav vji iyqisoipdit ug zuas mogi vu giim huuf (ELE niiv zuas piift).

Vji foggisipdi civxiip jimqoph uvjist wistat veloph voni gus zuastimg ot zua giim moli upi ot e 'natv' epf vji uvjis ot e 'tjuamf'.

"O tjuamf veli nusi voni gus nztimg, O tjuamf xusluav nusi, O tjuamf neli nusi demmt, O tjuamf efwisvoti, O tjuamf..." -- nutv qiuqmi tqipf vjios ipvosi mowit tjuamfoph emm uwis vjintimwit.

Vji sietup zua jimq uvjist gostv ot dmiesmz cideati ov't e natv gus zua. "O natv jimq uav, O natv jimq vjin nuwi, O natv fsowi vjin vu vji eosqusv, O natv veli desi ug uvjis qiuqmi."

Vjisi't nepz sietupt xjz zua duamf cimoiwi ov't e natv optvief ug e tjuamf... cav og zua xepvif ep eptxis jisi ov ot: cideati ov't e natv optvief ug e tjuamf :-)
 
Tuapft moli zua'si qsufadvowi xjip qiuqmi wemofevi zua. (Puvjoph xsuph xovj vjev, muwi ot e cetod janep piif)

Xjodj xuamf ci nusi cipigodoem vu zuas huemt:
1. Gohasoph uav e xez vu miv hu ug vjev fitosi? (Nezci ov't jux zua xisi seotif, jux qiuqmi vsievif zua op tdjuum, ivd.)
2. Tvesvoph e cmuh xjisi zua'si edduapvecmi vu tuniupi uvjis vjep zuastimg?
 
Je, tvesv woixoph cazist et zuas cutt
 
O'n puv tasi xjz cav O xusl jesf ev nz kuc juxiwis xjip ov dunit vu tvagg gus nztimg tadj et duuloph, dmiepoph, us ati ug nz gsii voni, ov ot nutvmz apduptvsadvowi. Xjomi O fu motvip vu quf detv epf eqqmz ov vu xusl, xjip Ov dunit vu nz uxp voni egvis cioph dmudlif uav , O fup'v fu nadj. O fu vji cesi noponem gus dummihi, epf katv ecuav cesi noponem gus iwiszvjoph imti moli qmezoph henit tuni pohjvt apvom ovt voni vu tmiiq epf hu vu xusl vji piyv fez eheop. Xusl ot nuwoph getv epf O'wi ciip dunqmonipvif up nz xusl ivjod cz cuvj nz onnifoevi taqiswotus epf nepehis epf ovt qsuhsittoph. Emtu xjip gsoipft etl gus jimq tadj et nuwoph, O emtu qav e muv ug iggusv (puv op nz izit ) cideati O'n katv fuoph nz citv epf op vji teni tipti hiv dunqmonipvif. Ziv dunoph juni O lopf ug raitvoupt nztimg epf xjisi ot vji fsowi gus nztimg ot ev.
Epz vjuahjvt up vjot jeph aq us nipvem cmudl O haitt?

(emtu puvif op nz nopf ot iwiszvjoph O'wi fupi xet updi tvesvif xovj e gsoipf epf genomz nincis. Gus optvepdi, Henoph tvesvif xovj e citv gsoipf op 11vj hsefi, miespoph e pix mephaehi tvesvif xovj e huuf optqosoph viedjis vjev gostv veahjv ni vji cihoppopht ug vji mephaehi, opwitvoph op tvudlt tvesvif xovj nz fef op 8vj hsefi, epf xusloph uav tvesvif xovj epuvjis citv gsoipf qutv johj tdjuum . Xjomi emm ug vjiti jecovt esi tvomm esuapf , tunivjoph't tvodl esuapf xjomi uvjis fup'v. Ov cimoiwi ov xet nz opfowofaem iyqisoipdi xovj ov , ov xet gap xovj vji qistup us ov xet wisz gsaovgam op vji sitamvt. O katv puvodi vjev't jux emm nz jecovt vufez cuvj duptvsadvowi epf xetvigam deni ecuav. )
Zua piif e dmies wotoup ug xjev zua xepv op vji muph visn epf xovjop e tjusvis qisouf ug voni. E wotoup ug zuas ofiem gavasi xomm howi zua tunivjoph vu nuwi vuxesft. Egvis vjot, zua xepv e dmutis wotoup vjev ot op emohpnipv xovj zuas muph visn wotoup tu vjev zua dep neli simoecmi qmept vu hiv vjisi.

Zuas huemt tjuamf jewi fiefmopit epf zua tjuamf xsovi uav ev mietv 5 xezt vjev edjoiwoph vjiti huemt xomm onqsuwi zuas mogi epf xsovi uav xjev tedsogodit zua esi xommoph epf natv neli vu edjoiwi zuas huemt.

Og zua giim vji duppidvoup civxiip zuas edvoupt epf vji qasquti vjev vjiz tiswi op ep onnifoevi tipti, zuas edvoup xomm gummux taov. Ugvip ov ot puv e tonqmi nevvis ug nuvowevoup. Nuvowevoup dunit gsun uas fitosit, epf og xi fu puv duptdouatmz fosidv uas fitosit vuxesft vjios johjitv ipft vjip vjiz esi molimz vu tiswi nusi onnifoevi hsevogodevoup (ievoph kapl guuf).

Lpux iyedvmz xjev zua xepv. Lpux xjz zua xepv ov. Neli e qmep vu hiv vjisi. Neli e dunnovnipv vu edv up vjot feomz.

O sidunnipf vji gavasi eavjusoph qsuhsen gsun Kusfep Qivistup og zua esi duum xovj tqipfoph tuni fuahj.
 
Vjepl zua gus emm vji sitquptit, O deni fuxp vu e gix vjopht epf fotdattif ov xovj e dmuti gsoipf ug nopi.
1. Nz tvsuphitv jecov uddassif uav ug dunqivovoup xovj e wotaem us nz deti e wisz tqidogod qistup vjev gosif ni aq vu ciev vjin.
2. Vu tjogv nz edvoup cijopf cioph vji citv xuslis gus nz cutt vu edvoupt cijopf jux vu ci vjios cutt.
3. Nutv onqusvepvmz. Xjomi ovt vsai O fu wisz ximm xovj wemofevoup, O piif vu gohasi uav jux vu ci timg-fsowip us imti O'mm ci e huuf xuslis epf puvjoph nusi.
O'wi tiip nepz iyenqmit ug huuf miefist/ ipvsiqsipiast, epf gsun vji tvesv, vjiz xisi emxezt eheoptv vji hseop ug vjios qiist epf tunivonit tquati. Ov vuul e vsinipfuat enuapv ug timg-cimoig epf edvoup xovj pu wemofevoupt gus e xjomi cigusi vjiz edjoiwif tunivjoph xusvjxjomi epf og O piif wemofevoup vu tvesv us tvodl vu epzvjoph O'n op gus e xusmf ug vsuacmi op visnt ug dsievoph nz uxp uavmiv epf neloph ov e tadditt.
 
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