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So, got off the phone with the last person who I'd thought would be happy that I am doing well in life. This was an old "friend" from school -- this dude did all the partying he could, always got Fs, didn't give a F*ck, etc. All this while I was busting my a$$ studying, writing papers, basically evening the odds/ increasing probability that I'd make it into the light.
This dude used to hang out with me for a while and knew everything I was doing or wanted to do. Not someone who didn't know or understand, just someone who said "naaaahhhh I'd rather get drunk and stoned". He had way more money, way more connections and we were in the same classes.
Anyway, I see him after a long time and we exchange details of our vastly different lives -- accumulated results of 14 years of making choices differently.
I make many times over what he makes, the job he finally managed to get in pays a fraction. I am on the path of 2Xing my income at the very least in the slowlane job, he is hoping for a steady 3%. He lives in an 'apartment' in a remote village in the middle of nowhere in the 3rd world. I live in a 5 bedroom/4 bathroom house here in a beautiful coastal city in the West. I have a dog, which, if this friend was to buy, well he just cannot, ever. A pup of this breed alone would cost him 10 years of penny pinching savings, if he could cut down on emergencies, which he cannot.
So, obviously, he asks me to wire him $2,000. Just because, you know, we are 'pals'. This guy didn't show up or take my calls for almost a decade when I was slogging in the trenches alone.
Now, he hates me with a vengeance.
I am an immigrant to the west and the natives hate me too because I am one of those scum because of whom they cannot buy a house. Like my barber mumbling while cutting hair who was born here and would just like to fish all day. He's a victim too. "It's because of these people coming from outside that cause prices to rise". Before he realized he is cutting the hair of an outsider customer too and shut himself up. He doesn't like books or studying. He'd just like to fish all day. And not be bothered. And it's because of someone else that he can't just do that. It's too unfair. He was born here and went to school here. I was born in a F*ckhole. Just different choices.
My 'pal' would like to travel to far off countries and get to live in the West, etc. Now he realizes he cannot and I can.
Hate. It's unfair.
14 years ago,
Their choices were: Comfort, Ease, Victim of life
My choices were: Taking pain, Difficulty, Taking ownership of life
I also graduated from a top school, without student debt and close to a perfect GPA. I work a remote job and live in a city where the sea is 5 mins away, the trails are 5 mins away and the malls are 5 mins away. I live in a big house. I have a pup who will weigh close to 250+ pounds as a fully grown. I am fitter and look younger than you'd imagine for my age and race too.
I cried when trying to write my first program because I was already broken from stress from other aspects in my life. But I did not close that book. I did not quit. I chose to pick that book, to focus and not to quit. I chose to apply to that school, chose to move to this country, city and chose to buy the house while my eye was on MJ's inflation thread and the amount of money being printed.
I chose to do research and find my pup. I choose to not eat shit, to go to the gym. The remote job was my idea. I will make my future decisions very carefully too. Because choices add up in the end. And that's all the difference between winning and losing.
Not something you'd be able to explain to everyone though. It's too unfair!!
EDIT: Just to make it clear,
1.) I don't hate ANYONE.
2.) I am not here trying to show off my 'wealth'. I live at best a middle class lifestyle that is no big deal. There are WAY more richer people here alone. WAY MORE. I am not even at 1% wealth of these people.
It is the mindset that pisses me off. People hating on other people because? Why?
I worked my a$$ off. I am telling you in crystal clear terms how you can too. I am giving away secrets that cost me pain to learn. For free.
And the response is not gratitude for giving away good advice that could be used to improve their own lives.
I would kill to get advice from someone successful , someone who has done it and is willing to help.
My hope is that this will change someone's mindset. And seek solutions hopefully for my own situation too.
I do not look down on ANYONE. I hope every soul lives their best lives.
Just remember the difference between MJs and let's call it, a categorical 'people' response:
Type A conversation:
MJ -- Hey, what did you to get that Lamborghini man?
Man -- Entrepreneur.
MJ -- ~works his a$$ off and becomes an entrepreneur to EARN that Lamborghini~
Type B conversation:
Guy with the ice cream cone -- ~sees Lamborghini~ ~makes deductions~ ~HATES~
Man -- Runs away
Guy with the ice cream cone still has an ice cream cone.
This dude used to hang out with me for a while and knew everything I was doing or wanted to do. Not someone who didn't know or understand, just someone who said "naaaahhhh I'd rather get drunk and stoned". He had way more money, way more connections and we were in the same classes.
Anyway, I see him after a long time and we exchange details of our vastly different lives -- accumulated results of 14 years of making choices differently.
I make many times over what he makes, the job he finally managed to get in pays a fraction. I am on the path of 2Xing my income at the very least in the slowlane job, he is hoping for a steady 3%. He lives in an 'apartment' in a remote village in the middle of nowhere in the 3rd world. I live in a 5 bedroom/4 bathroom house here in a beautiful coastal city in the West. I have a dog, which, if this friend was to buy, well he just cannot, ever. A pup of this breed alone would cost him 10 years of penny pinching savings, if he could cut down on emergencies, which he cannot.
So, obviously, he asks me to wire him $2,000. Just because, you know, we are 'pals'. This guy didn't show up or take my calls for almost a decade when I was slogging in the trenches alone.
Now, he hates me with a vengeance.
I am an immigrant to the west and the natives hate me too because I am one of those scum because of whom they cannot buy a house. Like my barber mumbling while cutting hair who was born here and would just like to fish all day. He's a victim too. "It's because of these people coming from outside that cause prices to rise". Before he realized he is cutting the hair of an outsider customer too and shut himself up. He doesn't like books or studying. He'd just like to fish all day. And not be bothered. And it's because of someone else that he can't just do that. It's too unfair. He was born here and went to school here. I was born in a F*ckhole. Just different choices.
My 'pal' would like to travel to far off countries and get to live in the West, etc. Now he realizes he cannot and I can.
Hate. It's unfair.
14 years ago,
Their choices were: Comfort, Ease, Victim of life
My choices were: Taking pain, Difficulty, Taking ownership of life
I also graduated from a top school, without student debt and close to a perfect GPA. I work a remote job and live in a city where the sea is 5 mins away, the trails are 5 mins away and the malls are 5 mins away. I live in a big house. I have a pup who will weigh close to 250+ pounds as a fully grown. I am fitter and look younger than you'd imagine for my age and race too.
I cried when trying to write my first program because I was already broken from stress from other aspects in my life. But I did not close that book. I did not quit. I chose to pick that book, to focus and not to quit. I chose to apply to that school, chose to move to this country, city and chose to buy the house while my eye was on MJ's inflation thread and the amount of money being printed.
I chose to do research and find my pup. I choose to not eat shit, to go to the gym. The remote job was my idea. I will make my future decisions very carefully too. Because choices add up in the end. And that's all the difference between winning and losing.
Not something you'd be able to explain to everyone though. It's too unfair!!
EDIT: Just to make it clear,
1.) I don't hate ANYONE.
2.) I am not here trying to show off my 'wealth'. I live at best a middle class lifestyle that is no big deal. There are WAY more richer people here alone. WAY MORE. I am not even at 1% wealth of these people.
It is the mindset that pisses me off. People hating on other people because? Why?
I worked my a$$ off. I am telling you in crystal clear terms how you can too. I am giving away secrets that cost me pain to learn. For free.
And the response is not gratitude for giving away good advice that could be used to improve their own lives.
I would kill to get advice from someone successful , someone who has done it and is willing to help.
My hope is that this will change someone's mindset. And seek solutions hopefully for my own situation too.
I do not look down on ANYONE. I hope every soul lives their best lives.
Just remember the difference between MJs and let's call it, a categorical 'people' response:
Type A conversation:
MJ -- Hey, what did you to get that Lamborghini man?
Man -- Entrepreneur.
MJ -- ~works his a$$ off and becomes an entrepreneur to EARN that Lamborghini~
Type B conversation:
Guy with the ice cream cone -- ~sees Lamborghini~ ~makes deductions~ ~HATES~
Man -- Runs away
Guy with the ice cream cone still has an ice cream cone.
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