What do you do about your friends ex who cheated on your friend?
For me it's a no brainer, I burn that bridge in the blink of an eye. Recently one of my friends found out he was being cheated on, I instantly unfriended the girl on facebook and took him out for a guys night to go flirt with girls at the bar. A few days later, she sent me a message on facebook asking me why I deleted her, and that we should hang out sometime. I messaged her back giving her the cold hard truth what I thought about her and that she's dead to me. To me, that's what friends should do.
Here's my experience with this question though... Throughout the years I've watched all of my friends get cheated on. Every time I would be there for them, burn the bridge with their ex, and wingman them into a new romance. When my turn came up and I was cheated on in my 3 year that I posted about a little while ago, my 7 best friends from high school all chose to invite her out instead of me. They hit her up to party. They took her out to dinner one on one and tried to hit it. I burned bridges with them faster than I burned bridges with my ex haha.
Recently another friend did the same thing. I've only known him for about two years, and in that two years we've probably only hung out about 30 times, but he had only seen my ex twice and she was with me both times. We went out and had a beer together and chatted, he asked me about her and I told him I had ended it and why. I even talked about how I had lost a lot of friends over it who went behind my back and he talked about how low it was. Next day... he messages her asking her out and got pretty graphic in what he was going to do to her. I know all this because she sent me the convo haha. So I sent him a text being like "best of luck with the b****, cyaa." And that's it for me.
He's flippin out though, texting my phone constantly calling me a whipped little b and saying he didn't do anything wrong. The crazy thing is... even a lot of my newer friends completely agree? You go behind my back and try and bone my ex who cheated on me? You didn't have my back, you went behind my back? You're gone. No drama, just get out of my life haha.
So what do you guys think? Am I lone soul on this or do you guys agree? Should friends have eachother's backs unconditionally?
For me it's a no brainer, I burn that bridge in the blink of an eye. Recently one of my friends found out he was being cheated on, I instantly unfriended the girl on facebook and took him out for a guys night to go flirt with girls at the bar. A few days later, she sent me a message on facebook asking me why I deleted her, and that we should hang out sometime. I messaged her back giving her the cold hard truth what I thought about her and that she's dead to me. To me, that's what friends should do.
Here's my experience with this question though... Throughout the years I've watched all of my friends get cheated on. Every time I would be there for them, burn the bridge with their ex, and wingman them into a new romance. When my turn came up and I was cheated on in my 3 year that I posted about a little while ago, my 7 best friends from high school all chose to invite her out instead of me. They hit her up to party. They took her out to dinner one on one and tried to hit it. I burned bridges with them faster than I burned bridges with my ex haha.
Recently another friend did the same thing. I've only known him for about two years, and in that two years we've probably only hung out about 30 times, but he had only seen my ex twice and she was with me both times. We went out and had a beer together and chatted, he asked me about her and I told him I had ended it and why. I even talked about how I had lost a lot of friends over it who went behind my back and he talked about how low it was. Next day... he messages her asking her out and got pretty graphic in what he was going to do to her. I know all this because she sent me the convo haha. So I sent him a text being like "best of luck with the b****, cyaa." And that's it for me.
He's flippin out though, texting my phone constantly calling me a whipped little b and saying he didn't do anything wrong. The crazy thing is... even a lot of my newer friends completely agree? You go behind my back and try and bone my ex who cheated on me? You didn't have my back, you went behind my back? You're gone. No drama, just get out of my life haha.
So what do you guys think? Am I lone soul on this or do you guys agree? Should friends have eachother's backs unconditionally?
Dislike ads? Become a Fastlane member:
Subscribe today and surround yourself with winners and millionaire mentors, not those broke friends who only want to drink beer and play video games. :-)
Membership Required: Upgrade to Expose Nearly 1,000,000 Posts
Ready to Unleash the Millionaire Entrepreneur in You?
Become a member of the Fastlane Forum, the private community founded by best-selling author and multi-millionaire entrepreneur MJ DeMarco. Since 2007, MJ DeMarco has poured his heart and soul into the Fastlane Forum, helping entrepreneurs reclaim their time, win their financial freedom, and live their best life.
With more than 39,000 posts packed with insights, strategies, and advice, you’re not just a member—you’re stepping into MJ’s inner-circle, a place where you’ll never be left alone.
Become a member and gain immediate access to...
- Active Community: Ever join a community only to find it DEAD? Not at Fastlane! As you can see from our home page, life-changing content is posted dozens of times daily.
- Exclusive Insights: Direct access to MJ DeMarco’s daily contributions and wisdom.
- Powerful Networking Opportunities: Connect with a diverse group of successful entrepreneurs who can offer mentorship, collaboration, and opportunities.
- Proven Strategies: Learn from the best in the business, with actionable advice and strategies that can accelerate your success.
"You are the average of the five people you surround yourself with the most..."
Who are you surrounding yourself with? Surround yourself with millionaire success. Join Fastlane today!
Join Today
