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Maybe, I don't claim to be all-knowing guru. I'm sharing my point of view based on my experiences and you've got your right to disagree as a human being. Totally ok.I recently read a review of studies that refute this "contrary" approach. In fact, this approach can do more harm than good. The further a person is from actually being the thing he/she affirms, the more likely the affirmation will backfire. The reason is that it sets off the person's own BS meter, negating the underlying belief that is necessary for the affirmation to work.
This also aligns with Dan Sullivan's "Gap" theory, which, in a nutshell, states that the more we focus on the horizon/destination, the more we are reminded of how far we have to go to reach that destination, which leads to discouragement.
The studies showed that a more effective affirmative technique is the one similar to what author Noah St. John advocates. This technique affirms the state of "becoming" what one desires, rather than the destination/desired outcome. For example, if you are deep in debt, have never run a business, etc., it's more effective to repeat the affirmation "I am becoming a successful entrepreneur," rather than "I am a multi-millionaire."
Based on my personal experience using affirmations, I would agree with these studies. Any time I would affirm some grand desire, I never really believed it and ended up feeling crappy about having a pipe dream.
Never heard of it, it's not very popular in my country.Jarecki, what do you think about REBT (Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy)? Have you heard about it?
If it works for you.I recorded an affirmation yesterday that goes "I am very proud of my work ethic. I always do what is right, and not what is easy."
Is that a good way to word it? I figured falling asleep with it playing might help so that's what I did last night. Is there any benefit to that? I've got it on my iPod and listen to it whenever I have down time.
Some of the first affirmations I've been practicing were dull and long-sentenced, never really ticked me. I prefer shorter ones, their impact is more powerful because they usually "work" on more basal, deeper beliefs.
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