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St Jerome, 393 AD
He is frequently ranked among the likes of Augustine, Ambrose, and Gregory the Great as one of the original Doctors of the Church.
Even back then, women were quick to move on with their (love) lives, and marriage vows held little sway.
A book - On Marriage - worth its weight in gold, passes under the name of Theophrastus. In it the author asks whether a wise man marries. And after laying down the conditions that the wife must be fair, of good character and honest parentage, the husband in good health and of ample means, and after saying that under these circumstances a wise man sometimes enters the state of matrimony, he immediately proceeds thus:
"But all these conditions are seldom satisfied in marriage. A wise man therefore must not take a wife.For in the first place his study of philosophy will be hindered, and it is impossible for anyone to attend to his books and his wife. Matrons want many things: costly dresses, gold, jewels, great outlay, maid-servants, all kinds of furniture, litters and gilded coaches. Then come curtain-lectures the livelong night: she complains that one lady goes out better dressed than she; that another is looked up to by all; 'I am a poor despised nobody at the ladies assemblies.' 'Why did you ogle that creature next door?' 'Why were you talking to the maid?' 'What did you bring from the market?' 'I am not allowed to have a single friend, or companion.' She suspects that her husband's love goes the same way as her hate.
We are not the first, nor the last men to discuss this. And at 21, I see no need to attach myself to someone. It does make me sad, that the 29 year, loving, caring, I need you like you need me, understanding and patient marriage my parents have is a thing of the past. I just fear for my classmates at conservative southern schools who are marred at my age. NO not engaged, fully legally married don't see the light that is a premature decision. I have a kingdom to build. places to go and people to meet. To me, marriage is like an anchor. Or like a mortgage depending on who you marry
Never get married.
He is frequently ranked among the likes of Augustine, Ambrose, and Gregory the Great as one of the original Doctors of the Church.
Even back then, women were quick to move on with their (love) lives, and marriage vows held little sway.
A book - On Marriage - worth its weight in gold, passes under the name of Theophrastus. In it the author asks whether a wise man marries. And after laying down the conditions that the wife must be fair, of good character and honest parentage, the husband in good health and of ample means, and after saying that under these circumstances a wise man sometimes enters the state of matrimony, he immediately proceeds thus:
"But all these conditions are seldom satisfied in marriage. A wise man therefore must not take a wife.For in the first place his study of philosophy will be hindered, and it is impossible for anyone to attend to his books and his wife. Matrons want many things: costly dresses, gold, jewels, great outlay, maid-servants, all kinds of furniture, litters and gilded coaches. Then come curtain-lectures the livelong night: she complains that one lady goes out better dressed than she; that another is looked up to by all; 'I am a poor despised nobody at the ladies assemblies.' 'Why did you ogle that creature next door?' 'Why were you talking to the maid?' 'What did you bring from the market?' 'I am not allowed to have a single friend, or companion.' She suspects that her husband's love goes the same way as her hate.
We are not the first, nor the last men to discuss this. And at 21, I see no need to attach myself to someone. It does make me sad, that the 29 year, loving, caring, I need you like you need me, understanding and patient marriage my parents have is a thing of the past. I just fear for my classmates at conservative southern schools who are marred at my age. NO not engaged, fully legally married don't see the light that is a premature decision. I have a kingdom to build. places to go and people to meet. To me, marriage is like an anchor. Or like a mortgage depending on who you marry
Never get married.
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