Three separate engagements this week, one stupid bias.
I just turned 50. Like all 'milestone' birthdays, it brings the whackadoos out of the woodwork. I'm supposed to act my age - this hasn't been a problem since they said it 10 years ago. Not only am I supposed to ACT my age, I'm supposed to be in a certain STAGE of my life. Which is a lovely sentiment, but just doesn't hold water.
Let's pretend no one knows how old I am:
I graduated college in 2009, and bought my first house in 2011. I've had 2 jobs in my career. I hope to get married within 3 years. I've just started on my entrepreneurial journey. I turned down my trainer's offer to prep me for a bodybuilding competition, because I don't have time.
Now how old am I?
See? I'm 31. Except that I look like a nice middle-aged lady, and the cognitive dissonance really, really bugs some people.
So what? What's this got to do with the Fastlane? Lots!
No one outside our brains knows what we're capable of. It doesn't matter what we look like; we're under no obligation to perform like trained seals to what other people think. We don't have to buy in to narratives that don't work for us, and we don't have to listen to people who want to pull us back in to the crab bucket. The standard 'everyone does it' bias is a great filter - if someone pulls that noise, they're not going to get any more of my time.
I just turned 50. Like all 'milestone' birthdays, it brings the whackadoos out of the woodwork. I'm supposed to act my age - this hasn't been a problem since they said it 10 years ago. Not only am I supposed to ACT my age, I'm supposed to be in a certain STAGE of my life. Which is a lovely sentiment, but just doesn't hold water.
Let's pretend no one knows how old I am:
I graduated college in 2009, and bought my first house in 2011. I've had 2 jobs in my career. I hope to get married within 3 years. I've just started on my entrepreneurial journey. I turned down my trainer's offer to prep me for a bodybuilding competition, because I don't have time.
Now how old am I?
See? I'm 31. Except that I look like a nice middle-aged lady, and the cognitive dissonance really, really bugs some people.
So what? What's this got to do with the Fastlane? Lots!
No one outside our brains knows what we're capable of. It doesn't matter what we look like; we're under no obligation to perform like trained seals to what other people think. We don't have to buy in to narratives that don't work for us, and we don't have to listen to people who want to pull us back in to the crab bucket. The standard 'everyone does it' bias is a great filter - if someone pulls that noise, they're not going to get any more of my time.
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