Getting to the F**k You position in life....

[million$$$smile]

First, it perfectly explains the WHY behind Fastlane.

The WHY...

For me the WHY has slowly evolved in my quest for the Fastlane. Early on it was to make the money to buy the stuff that everyone EXPECTS you to have when you are rich. You know, the Lambo lifestyle.

But a funny thing has been happening along the way.

I have begun to realize the closer I get (and I am very close) to being able to live the Fastlane lifestyle, the less I need to fulfill those earlier models of what I initially wanted.

No longer am I craving the platitudes of others, because I see myself satisfied knowing that it is now within my grasp, and I don't have to prove it to anyone else by 'wearing it on the outside'

I find myself craving experiences more than things.

And relationships with like minded people greater than admiration or envy from those without.

It is an evolvement.
A know that you know that you know that you can do it.

I think @Vigilante touched on this in this thread: https://www.thefastlaneforum.com/co...ich-but-your-friends-arent.46811/#post-285387

"My wife and I were talking about this the other day. The best way to live is in an unremarkable fashion so that people like you for who you are vs. what you have. Live casually. Give generously."

I now reflect as much on showing others how they can be producers rather than consumers, than on what I can even produce myself.

A mind shift. Perhaps it is because when your belly's full, you begin to help feed others...

 

[million$$$smile]

I watched 'The Gambler' the other night.

John Goodman's speech about getting to the f**k you position in life was amazing

I think a lot of us are somewhere on that road...

 

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[MJ DeMarco]

OMG, I love it. This resonates with me from multiple angles.

First, it perfectly explains the WHY behind Fastlane.

Second, it even goes into the mechanisms behind the money system, owning your house, having some cash in the bank as a base, etc.

Third, *F*ck You* is the foundation in which TMF was written! I didn't need to worry about publishers, pissing anyone off, or anything. If it sold ZERO or pissed of some financial planner, so what, F*ck you!

F*ck you is a great place to be. May Fastlane be the tool that helps ya'll get there.

 

[SteveO]

When I left my job 16 years ago, I was in "F*ck you" mode. As
@million$$$smile stated, things change. The outlook gets different.

This may sound selfish on my part but, I don't care that much about other people and their lives. This does not mean that I don't have feelings. We all have our lives to live. We all design and define them on a daily basis. I do have feelings, cares and concerns for the people in my life. But I also know that they will be able to deal with what they have in front of them.

I am also interested in hearing about people's lives and experiences. There are things to learn from these. At some stages of life, I may have been jealous of what others could do while I was unable to do the same.

There is a roller coaster effect in life. I have been to the +10M range and back to the -0 range again. I thought that it hurt.... But, it is what is in your head that allows you to continue.

Instead of "F*ck you", I prefer to adopt the "who cares" or "zero F*cks given" philosophy.

 

[Dwight Schrute]

Says the person with the question mark avatar?

I guess his avatar is *puts on sunglasses* questionable.

 

[Red]

Absolutely. Also shows that F*ck you isn't necessary a place or a set amount of money in the bank, it's a mindset.

This. While I can't say I have the F*ck you money in the bank yet, I've always had this mindset. And whether that's good or not is still up for debate. I have always ascribed to the belief that you teach people how to treat you & if you put up with bullshit, the only thing that will come your way is more bullshit. I walked out of a secure job making decent money in the IT/tech industry with two middle fingers in the air because I didn't like the way I was being treated & was tired of it. F*ck you, I'll wait tables if I have to. I refuse to put up with this bullshit any longer. My mindset has always been, I'll figure it out, I'll make it & I don't need you/your asshat antics in my life.

One of the biggest life lessons I've learned is that you get what you accept in life. If you accept bullshit, you get more of it. If you don't accept it, it magically disappears.

 

[RazorCut]

I would say you have to, to some degree. Ha ha! I don't like the word personally, but in this world it's either you receive the message, or you have to stand your ground and stand up for yourself and whether you like it or not have that attitude.

I agree, however there is more than one way to say F*ck you. Sometimes it is better to put someone down gently and not to burn your bridges. Life, after all, has a habit occasionally of biting you on the arse.

 

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[MJ DeMarco]

A yellow t-shirt and basketball shorts

Ha, my favorite pastime was tooling around town in my Lambo looking like I belonged on welfare. My prized outfit was an old hat weathered and faded, long hood basketball shorts, and and ripped up sleeveless dBacks jersey. Always enjoyed the WTF? looks.

Even today, my work clothes consists of the dollar special: boxer shorts and a t-shirt. I don't own a tie and refuse to wear one for anyone, or anything.

 

[Formless]

the mentality alone simply resonates with 'freedom'.

This.

I actually had a Eureka moment a few days ago where I truly internalized what drives me.

Not the 'right-thing-that-I-tell-people-that-drives-me' but literally the reason I get up in the morning..

"Do What You Want." Is where I am right now.

I've started freelancing and I'm making peanuts, but it has given me a small taste of choice and control. I got up at 7am today, which is pretty early. But it wasn't because someone told me to. I chose to get up at 7.

I just finished a contract... wearing the ugliest yellow t-shirt and most oversized basketball shorts imaginable.

And that freedom tastes sweet. How sweet will freedom from a fastlane business taste?

Personally, I think that ultimately, when you zoom out of the details. Out of sales-funnels and e-commerces and legal agreements and copywritings and dropshippers and trade-shows and customer relationship managements... it all comes down to one thing.

Freedom.

 

[Vigilante]

The WHY...

For me the WHY has slowly evolved in my quest for the Fastlane. Early on it was to make the money to buy the stuff that everyone EXPECTS you to have when you are rich. You know, the Lambo lifestyle.

But a funny thing has been happening along the way.

I have begun to realize the closer I get (and I am very close) to being able to live the Fastlane lifestyle, the less I need to fulfill those earlier models of what I initially wanted.

No longer am I craving the platitudes of others, because I see myself satisfied knowing that it is now within my grasp, and I don't have to prove it to anyone else by 'wearing it on the outside'

I find myself craving experiences more than things.

And relationships with like minded people greater than admiration or envy from those without.

It is an evolvement.
A know that you know that you know that you can do it.

I think @Vigilante touched on this in this thread: https://www.thefastlaneforum.com/co...ich-but-your-friends-arent.46811/#post-285387

"My wife and I were talking about this the other day. The best way to live is in an unremarkable fashion so that people like you for who you are vs. what you have. Live casually. Give generously."

I now reflect as much on showing others how they can be producers rather than consumers, than on what I can even produce myself.

A mind shift. Perhaps it is because when your belly's full, you begin to help feed others...

This. This is why I come back to this forum. Thorough understanding of your most recent post is truly where life begins. Most people will never grasp what you just said. my hope for every single one of the forum members that read your post is that they print it out, tape it to the mirror or bulletin board, and read it occasionally until they find the depth of character to live it out. Well written, my friend.

 

[Rem]

This is a great thread!! No matter how you say 'F*ck you', and no matter what style you have, the mentality alone simply resonates with 'freedom'. When you are in a position that nobody else can tell you what to do or if you are in a position that you can walk away from and lose nothing then you are in complete control. Having that control is the freedom we all desire.

Here is an example without using money. When I was in college I used to play in a summer baseball league. I was a good player but the coach kept benching me after the 3rd or 4th inning. Even all the players were like what the hell. I soon found out the coach had a beef with my uncle and therefore decided he didn't like me and he was almost giving me the 'F*ck you' attitude. He was the coach and he was in control.

I showed up to the next game and he didn't even start me. He even told me I was to sit out for the game. So I stood up and stripped my uniform off and handed it to him in my skivvies. I didn't even say anything and put on a pair of sweatpants and walked off the field. It was my way of saying well whatever F*ck you. I figured that would be the end of it.

He showed up at my house the next day with my uniform and told me to suit up. I honestly wasn't sure what I was going to do but I suited up and he started me and I played the entire game and all the rest of the games of the season.

So, here is how I look at it. If I had done nothing I would have continued to have sat on the bench all season while he wielded his power over me. So by having a F*ck you attitude I was able to get what I wanted. As soon as he realized he didn't have that power over me he didn't care any more.

 

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[Vigilante]

good thread but you, without a doubt have the worst avatar ive ever seen in my entire existence.

anyways, keep up the good work

Says the person with the question mark avatar?

 

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[SteveO]

"Do What You Want." Is where I am right now.

Years ago somebody made a statement to my wife on the softball field about something that she did. Her response was "I do what I want....". That phrase was overused by our team for a while.

It is a very empowering statement.

 

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[obrian]

 

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[SteveO]

I think that's what I've learned the last year being on Fastlane I've been putting up with bullshit for to long, and if I just listened to myself in the first place when I was younger, It would have avoided a lot of detours and problems.

You say the magic words. "...if I just listened to myself in the first place..."

The real question is why does it matter? "Who cares". The detours are life experiences and so are problems. We all need to modify this word or reset the definition in our heads. In math a problem is something that simply needs to be calculated or solved. That is really all it is.

We will all have obstacles to overcome. That is part of life. If we view everything as a problem, then we are going to live our lives in churn mode.

 

[OnlineGodfather]

Better quality video:

 

[Ubermensch]

@DrkSide

Really? You didn't think the movie was very good?

@S&P
@ChasingPaper

In the lecture scene above, Mark Wahlberg mentions Robert Greene, author of the 48 Laws of Power (the book Wahlberg refers to in the clip.) Shakespeare and Oxfordian Authorship Theory aside (the student in the clip had this idea, I suspect, because Greene almost seems to draw a Plutarch-is-to-Shakespeare as Tesla-is-to-Edison (loose) analogy in Law 7: Get Others to do the Work for You).

In an interview, The writer of the script for The Gambler refers to Robert Greene as "the contemporary Shakespeare," which is a very respectful thing to say. Although, I think if we take Greene by his own words and actions, he much prefers (and refers to himself as) the modern-day Machiavelli.

Regardless, as Esquire said, "It's heady, intellectual stuff. And it does take some getting used to seeing Wahlberg discussing Robert Greene's criticism of Shakespeare's early plays..." and the article concludes with "Mark Wahlberg is cunning. He's no fool. What he has realized is that, to get the big rewards, it is now necessary to take the huge creative risks. You have to gamble. You might not win. But the other way you can only lose." (emphasis mine)

Ironically, the whole “don't bother, unless you're a genius” line runs contrary to Robert Greene's personal beliefs, and the concepts espoused in Mastery. Mastery asserts that the anyone can reach the apex of human intellectual potential. Anyone with the guts and passion to take risks and use powerful, money-making skills can win. It just takes time, and what Greene would agree that anyone can become a Mozart, a Steve Jobs, a 50 Cent, a Machiavelli, an expert power broker, online money-maker, affiliate boss, MLM Giant, or even a Cesare Borgia. Anyone can do it. All one has to do, in the words of Leonard Piekoff in the final sentence of OPAR (Objectivism The Philosophy of Ayn Rand), “all one has to do is think.”

 

[Dwight Schrute]

perhaps it would be better to ask, why would you use THAT avatar?...

F*ck YOU.







Just kidding, come on tell us already.

 

[SteveO]

I just finished a contract... wearing the ugliest yellow t-shirt and most oversized basketball shorts imaginable.

Agreed! That is what I am wearing now. A yellow t-shirt and basketball shorts.... I have 6 pairs of basketball shorts and thirty t-shirts. It is what I put on in the mornings. It is what I wear when I go to meet a broker or banker. Although I do change into something nicer to play golf.

 

[million$$$smile]

"Do What You Want." Is where I am right now.

and if you can't do what you want,

find someone that CAN do it for you

share enough of the vision to get the help you need when you need it

 

[Mattie]

I would say you have to, to some degree. Ha ha! I don't like the word personally, but in this world it's either you receive the message, or you have to stand your ground and stand up for yourself and whether you like it or not have that attitude. In my experience, I don't remember anyone ever being overly concerned with giving that to me. Basically if you don't you're just a doormat and a martyr and people take advantage of you. I try to be polite about it, if it's possible. But not always possible to be nice with the attitude.

 

[JasonR]

That scene made the entire film for me.

It did for me, as well. I didn't think it was a terribly great movie (or bad), but this scene made watching it worth it.

 

[million$$$smile]

good thread but you, without a doubt have the worst avatar ive ever seen in my entire existence.

perhaps it would be better to ask, why would you use THAT avatar?...

 

[OVOvince]

good thread but you, without a doubt have the worst avatar ive ever seen in my entire existence.

anyways, keep up the good work

 

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[Formless]

That scene made the entire film for me.

 

[Dwight Schrute]

If there's anything to learn from J.Belfort is that he wanted it bad enough with no f**ks given...

Absolutely. Also shows that F*ck you isn't necessary a place or a set amount of money in the bank, it's a mindset.

You don't think I can do that? F*ck you, I'll do it.
You don't like my offer? F*ck you, it's really good and there are thousands out there who'll appreciate it.
You think being self-employed is too risky? F*ck you, I didn't ask you shit.

I don't like the word personally,I try to be polite about it, if it's possible. But not always possible to be nice with the attitude.

Here you can read about an example how to say it politely
https://www.thefastlaneforum.com/community/threads/because-i-can.43415/

 

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[Mattie]

One of the biggest life lessons I've learned is that you get what you accept in life. If you accept bullshit, you get more of it. If you don't accept it, it magically disappears.

I think that's what I've learned the last year being on Fastlane I've been putting up with bullshit for to long, and if I just listened to myself in the first place when I was younger, It would have avoided a lot of detours and problems. And after this thread, and reading the people code, I can't remember anyone every giving a f**k about anything in my life when they screwed me over. And yes in two years I've learned about the bullshit of this world. More so this last year. I suppose it's sweet and bitter at the same time.

 

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[livegrowfree]

Not sure if anybody has seen Promised Land with Matt Damon from a few years ago.
But The Gambler definitely took the F*ck you money phrase from em.
(Sorry for the terrible quality, only clip I could find of this great scene)

 

[Get Right]

This is quickly becoming one of my favorite threads on TFF.

Rep to the OP ++