Moving out. Choosing to either go to a new city or a new country.

[Deleted025167]

Hi there fastlaners and soon-to-be fastlaners.
I've got a question and would be grateful if you can advise me!

The question is, should I move out to a different city in uk, or should I move out and go to a city thats warm and sunny with more than 150 days of sun all year round like Perth in australia?

So, for context, I'm a 25-year-old guy.

I've had a form of depression since the age of 16. I didn't complete my college because it was hard for me to focus and attend class, and then I went on to work in my father's business, which I did well, but it wasn't consistent. I sold a substantial worth of dead stock whenever I was there.

Anyways,

I developed an addiction to sex with escorts, which I still have today. I've been doing this at least 2 to 4 times per month since the age of 19. This happens with masturbation and progresses. Expensive addiction. I've read dopamine nation by Anna lembkhe and her advice helped alot.

9 months ago I made the decision to go to a holiday to Thailand for 6 months and that changed my life. I know whatever I was going though is curable. Im grateful for that experience. I felt so good every single day. Even the shitty weather that happened rarely wasnt so bad haha. Only did my addictive habit 1 time or 2 time in 6 months. That is success for me. My purpose was being achieved. That is a huge win for me.

I was eating well, exercising with HIIT workouts, drinking enough water, socializing, the sun tanned me like a dark cookie haha, and I felt cured and great.

Now, since I've been back to London, there have been highs and lows. I lost 20kg in Thailand and gained back 10kg here. I know when I'm happy, I can achieve absolutely anything and everything. Also, I have bad memories in this family house I live in.

New country, new life. That's how I see life. And the grass was Greener on the others side.

I've done the **WADM** (weighted Decision Matrix) on either staying or moving out, and every time it came back to moving out. I did it 3 to 4 times, and each time even with different factors, the decision was going on to moving out.

Then I did a WADM on either maybe moving to Manchester or Brisbane, Australia(this place because of a high hourly rate and its sunny with english speakers. Spain would've won but I don't speak Spanish, even though I love spain and theres low pay with high expenses)

Moving to Brisbane won.

Now the main issue I have is this.

Since I've stayed at my family's house, I'm able to save money but spend that on my addiction. But if I were to stay here and be more disciplined, I can generate around £2000 and save that monthly. Do that for 6 months, and I have £12k, plus some profits from the family business, which would be around £10,000. This I can use for an Amazon FBA business, for which I already have the wholesalers and distributors. My brother does FBA and generates a substantial amount.
He operates it from the family bussiness which saves him money and i can do the same but the only issue is, I hate staying here.

Is my issue with the family house? Should I move out and get a flat or a spare room? Or is my issue with this country?

I've subconsciously made a decision to go to Australia .
It may not sound logical but to me it's what I need.
Yes I'm letting go of around £24k per year which I could save and invest into a bussiness if I stayed at my family house but I just feel like I'm not progressing and it may be inconsistent.

I'm only staying at the family house because of comfort I think. Not progressing rather going backwards. My heart tells me to go to Brisbane or even Manchester, and I'll figure it out there. I'll be happy. I'll progress much more. Happy to hear all your suggestions. Thank you!!

 

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[Deleted025167]

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[Private Witt]

I have no advice on your move but I'd take that addiction very seriously. Could be some dire consequences one day that will be with you for life. The good news is you showed in Thailand that you have hope as most sex addicts would be crumbling 1 to 2 times in a day in that country.

I can say I moved from Western Washington which has at least a six month sun block period and even though moved to rough weather place of Oklahoma, I absolutely love winters with less snowing the few times a year as the sun comes out a lot and to have it year round has been amazing for my mood and other facets of life.

 

[MTF]

Do you think that Australia will happily let you in just because you want to live there?

Immigrating there is ridiculously hard and takes a lot of time and money. You can't just pack your stuff and go live there.

 

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[Deleted025167]

Do you think that Australia will happily let you in just because you want to live there?

Immigrating there is ridiculously hard and takes a lot of time and money. You can't just pack your stuff and go live there.

Australia
Working holiday visa. This is valid for 1-2yrs +
There a shortage of workers aswell so there, that makes it favourable.
Then a temporary work visa and see if I can somehow get sponsorship from a company there.

On the other hand, there are other cities in uk which just isn't it but maybe me living in a different environment would be enough.

 

[Johannf]

Hi there fastlaners and soon-to-be fastlaners.
I've got a question and would be grateful if you can advise me!

The question is, should I move out to a different city in uk, or should I move out and go to a city thats warm and sunny with more than 150 days of sun all year round like Perth in australia?

So, for context, I'm a 25-year-old guy.

I've had a form of depression since the age of 16. I didn't complete my college because it was hard for me to focus and attend class, and then I went on to work in my father's business, which I did well, but it wasn't consistent. I sold a substantial worth of dead stock whenever I was there.

Anyways,

I developed an addiction to sex with escorts, which I still have today. I've been doing this at least 2 to 4 times per month since the age of 19. This happens with masturbation and progresses. Expensive addiction. I've read dopamine nation by Anna lembkhe and her advice helped alot.

9 months ago I made the decision to go to a holiday to Thailand for 6 months and that changed my life. I know whatever I was going though is curable. Im grateful for that experience. I felt so good every single day. Even the shitty weather that happened rarely wasnt so bad haha. Only did my addictive habit 1 time or 2 time in 6 months. That is success for me. My purpose was being achieved. That is a huge win for me.

I was eating well, exercising with HIIT workouts, drinking enough water, socializing, the sun tanned me like a dark cookie haha, and I felt cured and great.

Now, since I've been back to London, there have been highs and lows. I lost 20kg in Thailand and gained back 10kg here. I know when I'm happy, I can achieve absolutely anything and everything. Also, I have bad memories in this family house I live in.

New country, new life. That's how I see life. And the grass was Greener on the others side.

I've done the **WADM** (weighted Decision Matrix) on either staying or moving out, and every time it came back to moving out. I did it 3 to 4 times, and each time even with different factors, the decision was going on to moving out.

Then I did a WADM on either maybe moving to Manchester or Brisbane, Australia(this place because of a high hourly rate and its sunny with english speakers. Spain would've won but I don't speak Spanish, even though I love spain and theres low pay with high expenses)

Moving to Brisbane won.

Now the main issue I have is this.

Since I've stayed at my family's house, I'm able to save money but spend that on my addiction. But if I were to stay here and be more disciplined, I can generate around £2000 and save that monthly. Do that for 6 months, and I have £12k, plus some profits from the family business, which would be around £10,000. This I can use for an Amazon FBA business, for which I already have the wholesalers and distributors. My brother does FBA and generates a substantial amount.
He operates it from the family bussiness which saves him money and i can do the same but the only issue is, I hate staying here.

Is my issue with the family house? Should I move out and get a flat or a spare room? Or is my issue with this country?

I've subconsciously made a decision to go to Australia .
It may not sound logical but to me it's what I need.
Yes I'm letting go of around £24k per year which I could save and invest into a bussiness if I stayed at my family house but I just feel like I'm not progressing and it may be inconsistent.

I'm only staying at the family house because of comfort I think. Not progressing rather going backwards. My heart tells me to go to Brisbane or even Manchester, and I'll figure it out there. I'll be happy. I'll progress much more. Happy to hear all your suggestions. Thank you!!

Hi Wasq,

I lived in the UK for 18 months and also got seriously depressed. I lived in sunny South Africa all my life, so weather and environment do have a huge effect. Also living in a big city like London did not help. Lots of unhealthy fast food, cold people, sound and air pollution.
My advice would be to try and manage your depression where you are with lots of Vitamin D, sun beds, exercise and a healthy diet. Maybe try and move to a nice small town somewhere in the UK (Stratford-upon-Avon, Bath, etc), the Lake District is also very beautiful.
Moving to a different country is a big stressful life event, not so easy and a big disruption. But it can also be very interesting and rewarding experience to learn about other countries and cultures.

 

[MTF]

On the other hand, there are other cities in uk which just isn't it but maybe me living in a different environment would be enough.

A different environment can help but I'm not sure if changing from one UK city to another will help that much if you don't function well without sunlight. Even the sunniest cities in the UK still aren't that sunny.

I'm the same as for needing sunlight to feel good. I even started a thread on this topic:

NOTABLE! - MINDSET - Has Moving to a Warm and Sunny Climate Made You Happier?

I live in a cold country and each year suffer for up to 6 months because of the low temperatures, lack of sunlight, short days, and people with permanent scowls on their faces. I'm starting to wonder if it wouldn't be better to leave everything I have here and move elsewhere where I wouldn't...

www.thefastlaneforum.com

If you absolutely need an English-speaking country, perhaps you could also consider British Overseas Territories in the Caribbean (if you're willing to work in tourism). Another option is Cyprus (English is very common) and Malta.

Australia is awesome but a lot of people from the UK complain how hot it is. It's also extremely expensive.

 

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[Deleted025167]

Thanks for the replies guys.
A Sunny country would be defo better for me so I'll go there. setting myself up for success would be the way to go for.

I'll be first making enough money so I can go to a new environment. Can't waste time. ill more pick up more shifts. I know when your stressed inside you have to look outside so that's the gym, running, breath work. Get my bloodwork in control and then move out in 2months when the money allows me to do so. Time is precious. I'll work for this move now.
Thank you @MTF for those cities you showed. I'll take a look!

 

[JordanK]

Have you considered Marbella/Puerto Banus in Spain? It's basically an english speaking business enclave.

 

[Matt Sun]

Do you suplement magnesium ? It has shown't to improve depression very fast, like in just 7 days. Helped me the last time I was feeling kind of down.

Rapid recovery from major depression using magnesium treatment - PubMed

Major depression is a mood disorder characterized by a sense of inadequacy, despondency, decreased activity, pessimism, anhedonia and sadness where these symptoms severely disrupt and adversely affect the person's life, sometimes to such an extent that suicide is attempted or results...

pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov

"Case histories are presented showing rapid recovery (less than 7 days) from major depression using 125-300 mg of magnesium (as glycinate and taurinate) with each meal and at bedtime. Magnesium was found usually effective for treatment of depression in general use. "

I think you'll take better decisions not being depressed.

 

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[Plushy]

I'm in favor of moving to where you want, there's lots of stories of people moving and then striking it rich. You won't have the old habits associated with your old living conditions, nor the expectations of the people around you who knew the old you. Losing that 24k is going to be nothing if the sunny Australian weather encourages you to make millions. You'll also have the forcing condition of "I really want to stay here. I have to figure out how to do it." You have more to lose staying where you are bc the risk of repeating the same is quite high.
Where I used to live, the cost of living was cheaper but people were laid back. It was hard to find ambitious friends. I've moved to a new culture where everyone seems business oriented and don't waste time. It's going to be more expensive here but I want to stay, so my advice is from my personal choice. I am very happy almost everyday because of the environment.

 

[Happyheart]

Thanks for the replies guys.
A Sunny country would be defo better for me so I'll go there. setting myself up for success would be the way to go for.

I'll be first making enough money so I can go to a new environment. Can't waste time. ill more pick up more shifts. I know when your stressed inside you have to look outside so that's the gym, running, breath work. Get my bloodwork in control and then move out in 2months when the money allows me to do so. Time is precious. I'll work for this move now.
Thank you @MTF for those cities you showed. I'll take a look!

Keep up the good work. Moving sounds very sensible.
As to your addiction, it is very important to get it under control now, before you make much money. It is not a good feeling having spent thousands of dollars on your addiction, now wait how you will feel having spent millions on it. Getting rich will not save you from that. Hunter B iden is a great example of that. Also moving may not fix the addiction.

Also, it will ruin your intimate relationships in a number of ways, as one day you will slip up, or someone will see you and tell your spouse/girlfriend/parents/children.

You are on the right road, now get help, e.g. in a 12 step program, e.g. Sex Addicts Anonymous - SAA. You are not alone.

Good luck

 

[Deleted025167]

Have you considered Marbella/Puerto Banus in Spain? It's basically an english speaking business enclave.

I'll look into it. in my list to check up on. Ill put up a list on a new thread aswell. maybe People in uk can use that list because in america its pretty easy. just go to a different city. In uk its hard because you gotta go out of the country.
Thanks Jordan

I'm in favor of moving to where you want, there's lots of stories of people moving and then striking it rich. You won't have the old habits associated with your old living conditions, nor the expectations of the people around you who knew the old you. Losing that 24k is going to be nothing if the sunny Australian weather encourages you to make millions. You'll also have the forcing condition of "I really want to stay here. I have to figure out how to do it." You have more to lose staying where you are bc the risk of repeating the same is quite high.
Where I used to live, the cost of living was cheaper but people were laid back. It was hard to find ambitious friends. I've moved to a new culture where everyone seems business oriented and don't waste time. It's going to be more expensive here but I want to stay, so my advice is from my personal choice. I am very happy almost everyday because of the environment.

Appreciate your take my man.
I just know it, I can feel it in my soul that everything will follow towards success. Yeah the logistics make no sense but I'll make it make sense. When your happy, your generally going to want good things for you and I feel that effect from thailand is what made me rethink staying in uk. Good to hear your happy everyday. Savour that feeling buddy.

 

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[Deleted025167]

Keep up the good work. Moving sounds very sensible.
As to your addiction, it is very important to get it under control now, before you make much money. It is not a good feeling having spent thousands of dollars on your addiction, now wait how you will feel having spent millions on it. Getting rich will not save you from that. Hunter B iden is a great example of that. Also moving may not fix the addiction.

Also, it will ruin your intimate relationships in a number of ways, as one day you will slip up, or someone will see you and tell your spouse/girlfriend/parents/children.

You are on the right road, now get help, e.g. in a 12 step program, e.g. Sex Addicts Anonymous - SAA. You are not alone.

Good luck

Thank you. i'll Look into it Bud. Im working towards fixing the issue.
This is a great resource to help fix this issue, ofcourse with time.

View: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p3JLaF_4Tz8&ab_channel=AndrewHuberman

 

[Robdavis]

Hi there fastlaners and soon-to-be fastlaners.
I've got a question and would be grateful if you can advise me!

The question is, should I move out to a different city in uk, or should I move out and go to a city thats warm and sunny with more than 150 days of sun all year round like Perth in australia?

So, for context, I'm a 25-year-old guy.

I've had a form of depression since the age of 16. I didn't complete my college because it was hard for me to focus and attend class, and then I went on to work in my father's business, which I did well, but it wasn't consistent. I sold a substantial worth of dead stock whenever I was there.

Anyways,

I developed an addiction to sex with escorts, which I still have today. I've been doing this at least 2 to 4 times per month since the age of 19. This happens with masturbation and progresses. Expensive addiction. I've read dopamine nation by Anna lembkhe and her advice helped alot.

9 months ago I made the decision to go to a holiday to Thailand for 6 months and that changed my life. I know whatever I was going though is curable. Im grateful for that experience. I felt so good every single day. Even the shitty weather that happened rarely wasnt so bad haha. Only did my addictive habit 1 time or 2 time in 6 months. That is success for me. My purpose was being achieved. That is a huge win for me.

I was eating well, exercising with HIIT workouts, drinking enough water, socializing, the sun tanned me like a dark cookie haha, and I felt cured and great.

Now, since I've been back to London, there have been highs and lows. I lost 20kg in Thailand and gained back 10kg here. I know when I'm happy, I can achieve absolutely anything and everything. Also, I have bad memories in this family house I live in.

New country, new life. That's how I see life. And the grass was Greener on the others side.

I've done the **WADM** (weighted Decision Matrix) on either staying or moving out, and every time it came back to moving out. I did it 3 to 4 times, and each time even with different factors, the decision was going on to moving out.

Then I did a WADM on either maybe moving to Manchester or Brisbane, Australia(this place because of a high hourly rate and its sunny with english speakers. Spain would've won but I don't speak Spanish, even though I love spain and theres low pay with high expenses)

Moving to Brisbane won.

Now the main issue I have is this.

Since I've stayed at my family's house, I'm able to save money but spend that on my addiction. But if I were to stay here and be more disciplined, I can generate around £2000 and save that monthly. Do that for 6 months, and I have £12k, plus some profits from the family business, which would be around £10,000. This I can use for an Amazon FBA business, for which I already have the wholesalers and distributors. My brother does FBA and generates a substantial amount.
He operates it from the family bussiness which saves him money and i can do the same but the only issue is, I hate staying here.

Is my issue with the family house? Should I move out and get a flat or a spare room? Or is my issue with this country?

I've subconsciously made a decision to go to Australia .
It may not sound logical but to me it's what I need.
Yes I'm letting go of around £24k per year which I could save and invest into a bussiness if I stayed at my family house but I just feel like I'm not progressing and it may be inconsistent.

I'm only staying at the family house because of comfort I think. Not progressing rather going backwards. My heart tells me to go to Brisbane or even Manchester, and I'll figure it out there. I'll be happy. I'll progress much more. Happy to hear all your suggestions. Thank you!!

You say that you like Spain, but don't speak Spanish.

Have you considered moving to Gibraltar? I know it's not very big, but with a UK passport the formalities would be very simple. It would just depend on whether you could find work there. Much warmer and sunnier than UK mainland. Perhaps something to think about?

 

[Tau Ceti]

Australia
Working holiday visa. This is valid for 1-2yrs +
There a shortage of workers aswell so there, that makes it favourable.
Then a temporary work visa and see if I can somehow get sponsorship from a company there.

On the other hand, there are other cities in uk which just isn't it but maybe me living in a different environment would be enough.

Australian here who has done the working holiday visa thing as well.

The working holiday visa gives you 12 months in Australia. If you want to stay an extra 12 months, during your first year you need to go work on a farm in the country side to plant/pick fruits/vegetables. It is incredibly hard low paid work where you are constantly abused by unscrupulous farm owners/operators.

If you want to know more just go on youtube and search for it yourself, there are countless documentaries on the subject.

If you do the farm work then you get your second year. During the second year if you do 6 months of farm work, then you get a third year of working holiday.

Getting a visa sponsorship after that is also incredibly difficult.

My boss had hired this guy on my team when I was still living in Australia and it took 6+ months before his visa was delivered and it cost the company an arm and a leg.

Also most likely you won't be able to stay in the country while your visa is processed. Also to be eligible for sponsorship, you need to have a job title that is on the list of sponsore-able skills, aka skills in demand and you also need the correct diplomas and past references.

Now, please don't misunderstand me, I am not saying it is impossible but you better be ready to fight an uphill battle to stay there.

Finally Brisbane is a good choice(I lived there for 8 years) but if you want to work in tech, Melbourne or Sydney is probably better unless you get a remote job.

 

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[ryanbransby]

In a similar situation right now, I currently live in Melbourne, VIC. The weather is cold (depressing), in the same hometown I grew up in. I am moving to Perth along the beach to improve my lifestyle, get more active, and get a sense of responsibility to pay for rent/live alone.

Good luck with everything, I say take the risk (only life experience).

 

[Deleted025167]

Do you suplement magnesium ? It has shown't to improve depression very fast, like in just 7 days. Helped me the last time I was feeling kind of down.

Rapid recovery from major depression using magnesium treatment - PubMed

Major depression is a mood disorder characterized by a sense of inadequacy, despondency, decreased activity, pessimism, anhedonia and sadness where these symptoms severely disrupt and adversely affect the person's life, sometimes to such an extent that suicide is attempted or results...

pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov

"Case histories are presented showing rapid recovery (less than 7 days) from major depression using 125-300 mg of magnesium (as glycinate and taurinate) with each meal and at bedtime. Magnesium was found usually effective for treatment of depression in general use. "

I think you'll take better decisions not being depressed.

Ive done this before. It didnt help that much tbh. I've had a naturopath and I found out good food helped me much more than alot of these supplements.
So ill keep that up.

Environment was the biggest factor that changed my whole belief system. made me know what life was like on the other side. So still working towards moving out.

 

[Deleted025167]

Australian here who has done the working holiday visa thing as well.

The working holiday visa gives you 12 months in Australia. If you want to stay an extra 12 months, during your first year you need to go work on a farm in the country side to plant/pick fruits/vegetables. It is incredibly hard low paid work where you are constantly abused by unscrupulous farm owners/operators.

If you want to know more just go on youtube and search for it yourself, there are countless documentaries on the subject.

If you do the farm work then you get your second year. During the second year if you do 6 months of farm work, then you get a third year of working holiday.

Getting a visa sponsorship after that is also incredibly difficult.

My boss had hired this guy on my team when I was still living in Australia and it took 6+ months before his visa was delivered and it cost the company an arm and a leg.

Also most likely you won't be able to stay in the country while your visa is processed. Also to be eligible for sponsorship, you need to have a job title that is on the list of sponsore-able skills, aka skills in demand and you also need the correct diplomas and past references.

Now, please don't misunderstand me, I am not saying it is impossible but you better be ready to fight an uphill battle to stay there.

Finally Brisbane is a good choice(I lived there for 8 years) but if you want to work in tech, Melbourne or Sydney is probably better unless you get a remote job.

Hi there, So Australia passed a new law that doesen't require farm work anymore. Thats effective from july 1st. Source.

The next issue would be the visa sponsorship.
well, That an issue I don't really have an answer to as of right now which means This gives me 3 years of time to figure it out.
I'd like to think i'll have an online bussiness before then.

 

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[Deleted025167]

In a similar situation right now, I currently live in Melbourne, VIC. The weather is cold (depressing), in the same hometown I grew up in. I am moving to Perth along the beach to improve my lifestyle, get more active, and get a sense of responsibility to pay for rent/live alone.

Good luck with everything, I say take the risk (only life experience).

Cool. glad to see someone with a similiar goal. when are you moving?

 

[Deleted025167]

You say that you like Spain, but don't speak Spanish.

Have you considered moving to Gibraltar? I know it's not very big, but with a UK passport the formalities would be very simple. It would just depend on whether you could find work there. Much warmer and sunnier than UK mainland. Perhaps something to think about? there. Much warmer and sunnier than UK mainland. Perhaps something to think about?

Issue with gibraltar is less job opportunities, high cost of living and dosent seem to have a night life i would like.

 

[Deleted025167]

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[Antifragile]

Hi there fastlaners and soon-to-be fastlaners.
I've got a question and would be grateful if you can advise me!

The question is, should I move out to a different city in uk, or should I move out and go to a city thats warm and sunny with more than 150 days of sun all year round like Perth in australia?

So, for context, I'm a 25-year-old guy.

I've had a form of depression since the age of 16. I didn't complete my college because it was hard for me to focus and attend class, and then I went on to work in my father's business, which I did well, but it wasn't consistent. I sold a substantial worth of dead stock whenever I was there.

Anyways,

I developed an addiction to sex with escorts, which I still have today. I've been doing this at least 2 to 4 times per month since the age of 19. This happens with masturbation and progresses. Expensive addiction. I've read dopamine nation by Anna lembkhe and her advice helped alot.

9 months ago I made the decision to go to a holiday to Thailand for 6 months and that changed my life. I know whatever I was going though is curable. Im grateful for that experience. I felt so good every single day. Even the shitty weather that happened rarely wasnt so bad haha. Only did my addictive habit 1 time or 2 time in 6 months. That is success for me. My purpose was being achieved. That is a huge win for me.

I was eating well, exercising with HIIT workouts, drinking enough water, socializing, the sun tanned me like a dark cookie haha, and I felt cured and great.

Now, since I've been back to London, there have been highs and lows. I lost 20kg in Thailand and gained back 10kg here. I know when I'm happy, I can achieve absolutely anything and everything. Also, I have bad memories in this family house I live in.

New country, new life. That's how I see life. And the grass was Greener on the others side.

I've done the **WADM** (weighted Decision Matrix) on either staying or moving out, and every time it came back to moving out. I did it 3 to 4 times, and each time even with different factors, the decision was going on to moving out.

Then I did a WADM on either maybe moving to Manchester or Brisbane, Australia(this place because of a high hourly rate and its sunny with english speakers. Spain would've won but I don't speak Spanish, even though I love spain and theres low pay with high expenses)

Moving to Brisbane won.

Now the main issue I have is this.

Since I've stayed at my family's house, I'm able to save money but spend that on my addiction. But if I were to stay here and be more disciplined, I can generate around £2000 and save that monthly. Do that for 6 months, and I have £12k, plus some profits from the family business, which would be around £10,000. This I can use for an Amazon FBA business, for which I already have the wholesalers and distributors. My brother does FBA and generates a substantial amount.
He operates it from the family bussiness which saves him money and i can do the same but the only issue is, I hate staying here.

Is my issue with the family house? Should I move out and get a flat or a spare room? Or is my issue with this country?

I've subconsciously made a decision to go to Australia .
It may not sound logical but to me it's what I need.
Yes I'm letting go of around £24k per year which I could save and invest into a bussiness if I stayed at my family house but I just feel like I'm not progressing and it may be inconsistent.

I'm only staying at the family house because of comfort I think. Not progressing rather going backwards. My heart tells me to go to Brisbane or even Manchester, and I'll figure it out there. I'll be happy. I'll progress much more. Happy to hear all your suggestions. Thank you!!

I’ll be my typical resident a**hole here with my reply, but with a reminder: I have no pony in your race, my post comes from the heart with a sincere desire to be helpful. That’s it. That’s the motivation.

Ready? Buckle up, it’ll be rough.

Your story reminds me of Louis CK’s famous rant (“everything is amazing right now and nobody is happy”), which took place during an appearance in the fall of 2008 on the Late Night with Conan O’Brien Show.

View: https://youtu.be/q8LaT5Iiwo4


I get it, you have an addition. All addictions should be taken seriously, they can ruin your life. And I get it, change your environment, change yourself is one path… but it looks like you are seeking that “easy button”. There is none.

Yet I fundamentally view the world the other way. I want to do hard stuff. If I want to change myself, I don’t think it’ll work if is easy and my mood depends on some external event or place. F*ck that! I am in charge of how I feel. Period. Have you ever read Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor E. Frankl? It is a classic psychiatric text that chronicles Frankl's experiences as an Auschwitz concentration camp inmate during World War II.

Take ownership over where you are today!

You were born into what appears to be a wealthy family, you have all these options and opportunities. Want to feel great? Start doing great things! Yet that’s what I am not reading in your posts.

I believe happiness comes from achieving goals. Small, medium, big - whatever. Moving in the right direction in your life has so much power, it is like a snowball. You should become harder! Sure, sunshine brings more happiness, but there are so many people who are in the UK and are really happy anyways. Shit, when I lived there I was one of them. Even now, I live on the West Coast here in Canada and let me tell you, sure I am more happy in the sun, undeniable fact! Yet, here is another fact, without doing something worthy I’d feel shitty even in the sunshine.

Hang out with people doing great things, you’ll “monkey see, monkey do” will do more than otherwise.

What I mean is that when you are thinking of changing your environment, start within. Start changing YOURSELF. Then work outwards, country, city, people etc.

In short, be careful not to fall into this trap of external locus of control. And your post screams of external locus of control.

An external locus of control is a belief that events outside of one's control are responsible for their actions and outcomes.
An individual with an external locus of control is more likely to blame external factors such as the weather, their current condition, or the exam itself as an excuse rather than accept that the exam went the way it did because of personal decisions.

An internal locus of control leads to a reinforcement of that behavior and the behavior will continue, while an external locus of control causes the behavior to extinguish. People with an external locus of control attribute academic success or failure to luck or chance, a higher power, or the influence of another person, rather than their own actions. They also struggle with procrastination and difficult tasks.
Having an external locus of control has been associated with a range of well-supported risk correlates of offending behavior, while individuals with an internal locus of control orientation are suggested to be more open to engaging in treatment and are also considered more likely to have successful treatment outcomes.

 

[Deleted025167]

Hi there, So I received an Opportunity here.
So There's a store that is £350k, My family wants to give me half of that amount as a loan to buy that store with a silent partner who will serve with the other half of the investment.

Currently it does 1m revenue per year. 150k profit net.
I've increased my own Family shops revenue by 20 to 30 percent yearly so I know I can improve On this store if purchased.
In 5 years I see this bussiness having a revenue of 3m per year.
In the Total span of 5 years the Profit would be £1.5m ishh if i stick to my process of How I grew the other stores.
This bussiness has a joke of a multiplier. It's 1x. mJ Would say to reconsider but this bussiness is just an avenue to fulfill my PL And Fba Bussinesses.

Amazon FBA can be run within this store which will double up the revenues within a short period of time.
Now, the big question: Is it worth it? Definitely! This business, though smaller than a retail giant like Superdrug, has huge potential for growth and improvement. I have exciting ideas lined up, including creating a strong online presence with social media, a website, and strategic advertisements. setting up haircare events and offering subscription boxes etc.
While I understand the silent investor will be reaping benefits too, logically, this business venture opens up a world of opportunities for me. With the boost in income, I can pursue other ventures like house flipping, acquiring businesses, and expanding into private label lines. yup.

So now the question is about my happiness. I feel like myself when I'm in these Sunny counties. Yeah makes sense to think its something biological going on here. It may sound stupid to say no to this opportunity but I Believe this opportunity may come again, So I have to say no to this. Ive spent 7 years depressed, then I saw the light at the end of the tunnel which was my Thailand experience and now I'll persue moving out as a priority. pack my bags and go.

 

[BizyDad]

Expletive. I don't want to curse but this thread calls for an expletive.

Move. Don't move. Move in country. Move out of country.

None of these decisions are permanent. Take control of your life and MAKE A DECISION for yourself.

This is a business forum people. The amount of psychology threads, health threads, and basic life skills threads is getting ridiculous.

Oh wait... Something changed as I typed...

Hi people, so I just got an amazing offer.
It's an amazing offer yes but I'm still thinking and saving for that Australia shift.

anyways heres the opportunity:

So There's a store that is £350k
My family wants to give me half of that amount to buy that store with a silent partner who will serve with the other half of the investment.

Currently it does 1m revenue per year. 150k profit net.
I've actually increased my own shops revenue by 20 percent yearly so i know I can improve so much on this store.
In 5 years I see this bussiness having a revenue of 3m per year.
In the Total span of 5 years the profit would be £1.4m
My salary is 45k per year.
This bussiness has a joke of a multiplier. It's 1x. So on 3m profit, the profit would be around 460k per year.
Which leaves me with 230k .

So 5 year plan can be this:
My share
£700k profit
230k sell
225k salary
Total £1.1m profit.
Minus 175k loan to family fund
=980k profit.

Illl be working this bussiness 50 hours per week for at least 6 months to set the foundation of the bussiness then delegate some tasks and do 30 hours per week giving the other amount of hours to another bussiness called amazon fba.

Now the question is this worth it.
It's a retail store like super drugs but smaller.
5 staff everyday. With 200k worth of stock.
Has soooo much room to improve.
I can create social media, website, ads, have haircare events, subscriptions boxes and more.

Now on to this.
The silent investor is winning here I know but logically looking at this, I don't have any much savings. This gives me a huge boost with more opportunities like house flipping, buying bussineses and also having a online fba store plus a private label line.
I want to operate the amazon fba bussiness whilst having this bussiness in the 2nd year which will grow substantially.

Now the PL fba bussiness I can sell for a multiple of 4x plus. That's what will get me to the figures I need to live the fast lane life.
Plus a fba abritage bussiness also has a multiplier.
That's two extra million pound businesses.

I say all of this with conviction because we have done the percent increases in these businesses before.

So now the question is.
1.Is the silent partner justified with 50 percent of the profit when I'm increasing the profit?

2.The sunny country post. I feel like myself when I'm in these counties and when I'm away from london. It may sound stupid to say no to this opportunity but I would rather be happier each single day with a proud smile on my face that I'm doing thr right thing then maybe be miserable in London.

Finally a real business question!!!

And I still can't handle the wishy washiness of the presentation. Someone shed a tear for this boy.

Here is most forum poster's dream on a silver platter, something that can support frequent travel to tropical locations and the fulfillment of other business endeavours in one of the richest countries on earth...

and this guy still can't make a decision.

2.The sunny country post. I feel like myself when I'm in these counties and when I'm away from london. It may sound stupid to say no to this opportunity but I would rather be happier each single day with a proud smile on my face that I'm doing thr right thing then maybe be miserable in London.

Which is the bigger regret? Going there, not making it, struggling as an immigrant and crying to your parents for another opportunity...

Or...

Taking this business, showing everyone what a boss you are, delaying a move for a mere five years, and moving elsewhere a millionaire?

HOW HARD ARE YOU GOING TO MAKE THIS?!?!?!

You're right. Just quit it all, sell it all and go south to worship the sun. Be happy. That's what makes dreams come true.

 

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[Deleted025167]

Expletive. I don't want to curse but this thread calls for an expletive.

Move. Don't move. Move in country. Move out of country.

None of these decisions are permanent. Take control of your life and MAKE A DECISION for yourself.

This is a business forum people. The amount of psychology threads, health threads, and basic life skills threads is getting ridiculous.

Oh wait... Something changed as I typed...



Finally a real business question!!!

And I still can't handle the wishy washiness of the presentation. Someone shed a tear for this boy.

Here is most forum poster's dream on a silver platter, something that can support frequent travel to tropical locations and the fulfillment of other business endeavours in one of the richest countries on earth...

and this guy still can't make a decision.



Which is the bigger regret? Going there, not making it, struggling as an immigrant and crying to your parents for another opportunity...

Or...

Taking this business, showing everyone what a boss you are, delaying a move for a mere five years, and moving elsewhere a millionaire?

HOW HARD ARE YOU GOING TO MAKE THIS?!?!?!

You're right. Just quit it all, sell it all and go south to worship the sun. Be happy. That's what makes dreams come

Yeah I hear you.
I'll make a decision.

 

[Deleted025167]

I’ll be my typical resident a**hole here with my reply, but with a reminder: I have no pony in your race, my post comes from the heart with a sincere desire to be helpful. That’s it. That’s the motivation.

Ready? Buckle up, it’ll be rough.

Your story reminds me of Louis CK’s famous rant (“everything is amazing right now and nobody is happy”), which took place during an appearance in the fall of 2008 on the Late Night with Conan O’Brien Show.

View: https://youtu.be/q8LaT5Iiwo4


I get it, you have an addition. All addictions should be taken seriously, they can ruin your life. And I get it, change your environment, change yourself is one path… but it looks like you are seeking that “easy button”. There is none.

Yet I fundamentally view the world the other way. I want to do hard stuff. If I want to change myself, I don’t think it’ll work if is easy and my mood depends on some external event or place. F*ck that! I am in charge of how I feel. Period. Have you ever read Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor E. Frankl? It is a classic psychiatric text that chronicles Frankl's experiences as an Auschwitz concentration camp inmate during World War II.

Take ownership over where you are today!

You were born into what appears to be a wealthy family, you have all these options and opportunities. Want to feel great? Start doing great things! Yet that’s what I am not reading in your posts.

I believe happiness comes from achieving goals. Small, medium, big - whatever. Moving in the right direction in your life has so much power, it is like a snowball. You should become harder! Sure, sunshine brings more happiness, but there are so many people who are in the UK and are really happy anyways. Shit, when I lived there I was one of them. Even now, I live on the West Coast here in Canada and let me tell you, sure I am more happy in the sun, undeniable fact! Yet, here is another fact, without doing something worthy I’d feel shitty even in the sunshine.

Hang out with people doing great things, you’ll “monkey see, monkey do” will do more than otherwise.

What I mean is that when you are thinking of changing your environment, start within. Start changing YOURSELF. Then work outwards, country, city, people etc.

In short, be careful not to fall into this trap of external locus of control. And your post screams of external locus of control.

That is insightful.