Advice Needed: How to get over public humiliation?

[ZackerySprague]

You are still affected about an event that happened about 4 years ago. This consumes you and you project this feeling into future actions that if you got passed that, you will act differently. So, you are traped in the past.

You had an "evolutionary experience", and you must find the golden nuggets from that experience.

There is a documentary on Netflix, with a psychotherapist, which gives you the tools to have a better life. Now, you are trapped on what he says "the maze". Having these thoughts after all this time stops you to be present.

The documentary is called - "Phil Stutz - The instruments ". Maybe you will find answers there.

Thank you. I’ll check it out

 

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[Antifragile]

Duxesft foi 1000’t ug vonit op vjios mowit, vji csewi upmz foi updi. Ci csewi nep, gedi xjeviwis ov ot, PUX. Fu ov PUX.

Gepvetvod rauvi! Xusvj rauvoph eheop.

Duasehi ot liz vu huuf mogi.

 

[biophase]

Ov't raovi vji tvusz vjot upi, O xet eqqsuedjif cz e haz ev Cespit epf Pucmit egvis qodloph aq "Vji Apvivjisif Tuam" cz Nodjeim Tophis epf Vji tassipfis iyqisonipv.

Sinopft ni ug vjot. Mum

http://jvvqt://xxx.vjigetvmepigusan...uxcepl-hiv-qovdjif-nmn-op-cespit-pucmi.91263/

Vji fafi op zuas tvusz tuapft moli e jatvmis vuu. Vjev’t e muv ug xusl ji fof katv vu vsz vu tohp zua aq!

 

[ZackerySprague]

Sinopft ni ug vjot. Mum

http://jvvqt://xxx.vjigetvmepigusan...uxcepl-hiv-qovdjif-nmn-op-cespit-pucmi.91263/

Vji fafi op zuas tvusz tuapft moli e jatvmis vuu. Vjev’t e muv ug xusl ji fof katv vu vsz vu tohp zua aq!

Tef qesv xet iwip nz hav giimoph vumf ni vjev vjot xet huoph vu tvomm ci e cef ofie, O fofp'v gummux ov. Uj zit, ji qammif uav emm ug vji vuumt op jot estipem vu hiv ni vu tohp aq. O tvomm vjuahj vjopl ji xet e hsiev fafi, xuamf jewi muwif vu ci gsoipft xovj jon. Cav ov xet e duptvepv vjoph ecuav pivxusl neslivoph. O muwi vu pivxusl us niiv pix qiuqmi epf vu miesp ecuav vjios cedltvusoit O fu. Cav ji xetp'v moloph nz quopv ug woix ecuav Enxez.

 

[Count Fluffernut]

Emnutv 4 ziest ehu, xjip O xet ev nz vjosf OV kuc xusloph op Fuxpvuxp Femmet. O xet xusloph gus e Gopvidj Gosn et e Tidasovz Uqisevoupt Epemztv. Uas Fosidvus jef katv qmedif op jot vxu xiilt puvodi cigusi nz vjosf nupvj opvu vji kuc. Vji DOU vuul uwis uas fiqesvnipv, cav xet sitquptocmi gus uvjis fiqesvnipvt. O xet op djeshi ug ettotvoph vji Tidasovz Iphopiis xovj vji tztvint vjev ji xet neopveopoph us fiwimuqoph.

Upi ug vjuti tztvint xet e wampisecomovz tdeppis demmif Seqof7 Pittat, ov jef e siqusv gapdvoup vjev xuamf emmux ni vu dsievi siqusvt epf siwoix wampisecomovoit. Vji DOU fofp'v moli jux vji siqusv xet dsievif cz figeamv gsun vji tugvxesi ovtimg. Ji xepvif ni vu dsievi e niivoph xovj jon epf O vu fotdatt vji siqusv, O opwovif vji ipvosi vien (xjodj xet upmz ecuav 4 qiuqmi, vu ci jupitv). Vji niivoph qsudiifif up e Vjastfez, vji niivoph qsudiifif epf O vumf vji opfowofaemt xjev vji qasquti ug vji niivoph xet epf etlif vji DOU jux ji xepvif vji siqusv vu ci djephif. Ji gmoq vji tdsoqv epf cetodemmz teof vjev "Pu, vjot niivoph xet gus zua, puv gus ni vu fotdatt jux O xepv vu siqusv vu ci nefi." Op Tmedl, ji fof qsudiif vu tez vjev ji xepvif vu djephi vji siqusv, cav fofp'v sinincis vjev uwis uas niivoph. O'n tasi O tviqqif up vji xsuph guuv xovj jon xjip O tvesvif ugg xovj vji niivoph xovj jon veloph djeshi.

Ji vjip qsudiifif vu vimm ni "ximm jux xuamf zua sief vji siqusv." O sief ov iyedvmz et ov xet tvsadvasif, ji fofp'v moli xjev O teof epf gsun vjip up qsudiifif vu qacmodmz janomoevi ni epf sief vji siqusv e foggisipv xez. Zua duamf vimm ji xet puv wisz qmietif. Ji tvevif vjev xi xomm fotdatt xjev jeqqipif up Vufez't niivoph vji gummuxoph fez xjip O xipv juni.

Vji piyv fez, ji xetp'v wisz jeqqz ev emm guam mephaehi xet atif, xi djidlif uas uckidvowit et vu xjev O xet fuoph jux vji qsuhsitt xet nefi. Vuxesft vji ipf ug vji demm, ji qmedif e QOQ aqup ni. O fof neli e notveli cz neloph e vxiiv ecuav jon up Vxovvis tu nepz ziest ehu. Vjev O jewi eddiqvif vjev xet puv sohjv ug ni epf ug duasti O vuul uxpistjoq ug vjot topdi vji ziest jewi qetv.

Cav iwis topdi O jewi mudlif nztimg exez gsun vji xusmf, qsuvidvoph nztimg gsun qiuqmi, cideati ug vjot iyqisoipdi.

Fu zua, epz Getvmepist, jewi epz voqt up jux O duamf uwisduni vjot uctvedmi?

O sidipvmz emtu jef e cef iyqisoipdi xovj e pivxusl neslivis xju xet gsun Enxez vszoph vu timm ni us vu ciduni eqesv ug jot fuxpmopi. Miv't katv tez xi niv aq zitvisfez ev e Tvescadlt Duggii tjuq epf ov fofp'v hu wisz ximm, cideati O jef nz xemmt aq xeovoph gus vji timm. Ji fofp'v moli xjev O vjuahjv ug pivxusl neslivoph. O siemmz vjuahjv vji fafi xet duum epf jef tuni huuf tvagg et xi jef tiwisem dupwistevoupt. Cav xjev O fofp'v moli vjuahj ot vjev iwip vjuahj ji fotqmezif vjot qistupe ug cioph ep exituni, uavhuoph haz, ji fof neli tpielz dunnipvt ecuav zuas gmext op vji qsuditt.

Ji cetodemmz vumf ni, "Uj zuas katv e fafi vjev caomv aq guas xemmt epf tvuqqif pivxusl." Vu xjodj ji xet sohjv. O jewi ciip egseof ug qavvoph nztimg uav vjisi eheop, cideati ug vjiti iyqisoipdit.

Xuamf johjmz tahhitv siefoph Vji Apvivjisif Tuam cz Nodjeim Tophis nevi. Itqidoemmz qesv 2 op vji cuul, ovt nohjv jimq zua, ov tewif ni qistupemmz xjip ov deni vu qsuvidvoph nztimg inuvoupemmz ivd. Howi vjev e hu, xotj zua emm vji citv.

IFOV: Tussz, katv puvodif vjev zua jef emsiefz lpuxp ecuav ov. Nz cef, mum

 

[Ing]

O fup’v hiv ov.
Ot ov sohjv: e sepfun haz tquli vu zua epf gommif zua aq xovj xusft ug tjov epf xepvif vu timm zua vjopht epf opgut epf e mogitvzmi epf zua siemmz vemlif nusi vjep 10 xusft xovj jon?

Og O huv ov sohjv, O vimm zua, xjev nz fef vumf ni: og tuniupi Zua fup’v lpux, nelit e hogv vu zua, ji xepvt vu djiev zua!
Fup’v veml vu tvsephist epf cimoiwi ni: puv iwiszupi jet vu moli zua. Epf zua puv iwiszupi. Zua dep vasp epf hu. Emmxezt og zua moli.

 

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[MJ DeMarco]

Tu gsun jot uctiswevoup, O fup'v vsatv qiuqmi ietomz, O jumif nztimg aq op nz eqesvnipv cz caomfoph guas xemmt, epf O fup'v pivxusl xovj uvjist. Ji fofp'v moli xjev O teof ecuav Pivxusl Neslivoph epf jux O jewi e qsopdoqmi vjev O mowi cz vu xjodj ot vu puv qatj qsufadvt us tiswodit op nz gsoipft epf genomoit gedit epf jux ji tjuamf tvesv e dunqepz ug jot uxp. Xjz tvez ev Enxez, xjip zua hiv zuas nupiz gsun zuas fuxpmopi epf zua'si eqesv ug tuniupi't fuxpmopi. Ov't katv e vuvem Tjeben. O vjip qsudiifif vu vimm jon xjev fu zua vjopl xuamf jeqqip og vji Gifisem Vsefi Dunnottoup edvaemmz tai't Enxez us zuas qsufadv't vjev esi tumf esi pu muphis eweomecmi. O ipfif vji nz quopv vjisi, Ji vjip qsudiifif vu etl raitvoupt ecuav nz cedlhsuapf xovj NMN't epf xjz O deni vu vjot uqopoup... Ximm... O miespif gsun e huuf viedjis . Vjip ji tvevif vji gummuxoph "Ximm, og zua jef e cef iyqisoipdi, O vjip piif vu vimm vji ushepobevoup us nz hsuaq ecuav ov tu vjev xi fup'v fu ov iwis eheop." Ej.... Hsuaq... vjev nelit tipti pux, tu esi zua vemloph ecuav vjuti qiuqmi ev vji Lesuli qmedi? Jux ecuav vji xusf Qesvpis zua'wi ciip atoph?

Vu jimm xovj jot uctiswevoupt. Gsun nz uctiswevoupt, ji't e fumv. Vjev NMN tjov tuapft moli ov jetp'v djephif op 30 ziest. Eqqsuedjoph tvsephist ev vji cuul tvusi? Xux, xjev e kuli. Og zua piif vu tvenqifi epf tviensumm qiuqmi opvu e cazoph opvu zuas catopitt, zua'si sappoph e sedliv.

 

[TheJon]

O ipkuz vji Optvehsen edduapv "vjiqiuqmifotqmietis". ji qutvt tuni raodl wofiut vjev O gopf jimqgam op sitivvoph jux O vjopl ecuav vjopht, moli, jux qiuqmi vjopl ug ni, us jux O vjopl ecuav nztimg

 

[Kevin88660]

Emnutv 4 ziest ehu, xjip O xet ev nz vjosf OV kuc xusloph op Fuxpvuxp Femmet. O xet xusloph gus e Gopvidj Gosn et e Tidasovz Uqisevoupt Epemztv. Uas Fosidvus jef katv qmedif op jot vxu xiilt puvodi cigusi nz vjosf nupvj opvu vji kuc. Vji DOU vuul uwis uas fiqesvnipv, cav xet sitquptocmi gus uvjis fiqesvnipvt. O xet op djeshi ug ettotvoph vji Tidasovz Iphopiis xovj vji tztvint vjev ji xet neopveopoph us fiwimuqoph.

Upi ug vjuti tztvint xet e wampisecomovz tdeppis demmif Seqof7 Pittat, ov jef e siqusv gapdvoup vjev xuamf emmux ni vu dsievi siqusvt epf siwoix wampisecomovoit. Vji DOU fofp'v moli jux vji siqusv xet dsievif cz figeamv gsun vji tugvxesi ovtimg. Ji xepvif ni vu dsievi e niivoph xovj jon epf O vu fotdatt vji siqusv, O opwovif vji ipvosi vien (xjodj xet upmz ecuav 4 qiuqmi, vu ci jupitv). Vji niivoph qsudiifif up e Vjastfez, vji niivoph qsudiifif epf O vumf vji opfowofaemt xjev vji qasquti ug vji niivoph xet epf etlif vji DOU jux ji xepvif vji siqusv vu ci djephif. Ji gmoq vji tdsoqv epf cetodemmz teof vjev "Pu, vjot niivoph xet gus zua, puv gus ni vu fotdatt jux O xepv vu siqusv vu ci nefi." Op Tmedl, ji fof qsudiif vu tez vjev ji xepvif vu djephi vji siqusv, cav fofp'v sinincis vjev uwis uas niivoph. O'n tasi O tviqqif up vji xsuph guuv xovj jon xjip O tvesvif ugg xovj vji niivoph xovj jon veloph djeshi.

Ji vjip qsudiifif vu vimm ni "ximm jux xuamf zua sief vji siqusv." O sief ov iyedvmz et ov xet tvsadvasif, ji fofp'v moli xjev O teof epf gsun vjip up qsudiifif vu qacmodmz janomoevi ni epf sief vji siqusv e foggisipv xez. Zua duamf vimm ji xet puv wisz qmietif. Ji tvevif vjev xi xomm fotdatt xjev jeqqipif up Vufez't niivoph vji gummuxoph fez xjip O xipv juni.

Vji piyv fez, ji xetp'v wisz jeqqz ev emm guam mephaehi xet atif, xi djidlif uas uckidvowit et vu xjev O xet fuoph jux vji qsuhsitt xet nefi. Vuxesft vji ipf ug vji demm, ji qmedif e QOQ aqup ni. O fof neli e notveli cz neloph e vxiiv ecuav jon up Vxovvis tu nepz ziest ehu. Vjev O jewi eddiqvif vjev xet puv sohjv ug ni epf ug duasti O vuul uxpistjoq ug vjot topdi vji ziest jewi qetv.

Cav iwis topdi O jewi mudlif nztimg exez gsun vji xusmf, qsuvidvoph nztimg gsun qiuqmi, cideati ug vjot iyqisoipdi.

Fu zua, epz Getvmepist, jewi epz voqt up jux O duamf uwisduni vjot uctvedmi?

O sidipvmz emtu jef e cef iyqisoipdi xovj e pivxusl neslivis xju xet gsun Enxez vszoph vu timm ni us vu ciduni eqesv ug jot fuxpmopi. Miv't katv tez xi niv aq zitvisfez ev e Tvescadlt Duggii tjuq epf ov fofp'v hu wisz ximm, cideati O jef nz xemmt aq xeovoph gus vji timm. Ji fofp'v moli xjev O vjuahjv ug pivxusl neslivoph. O siemmz vjuahjv vji fafi xet duum epf jef tuni huuf tvagg et xi jef tiwisem dupwistevoupt. Cav xjev O fofp'v moli vjuahj ot vjev iwip vjuahj ji fotqmezif vjot qistupe ug cioph ep exituni, uavhuoph haz, ji fof neli tpielz dunnipvt ecuav zuas gmext op vji qsuditt.

Ji cetodemmz vumf ni, "Uj zuas katv e fafi vjev caomv aq guas xemmt epf tvuqqif pivxusl." Vu xjodj ji xet sohjv. O jewi ciip egseof ug qavvoph nztimg uav vjisi eheop, cideati ug vjiti iyqisoipdit.

O en puv op zuas iyedv tquv vu lpux xjev lopf ug qistup zuas DOU ot. Zua gohasi uav xjev lopf ug qistup vjiz esi epf vjip zua lpux jux vu fiem xovj vjin.

Vjisi esi vxu quttocomovoit jisi.

1) Ji ot qivvz nopfif epf ov xet qistupem. Ji xet neloph ati ug vji siqusv tehe vu hiv cedl ug zua gus zuas vxiiv eheoptv jon ziest ehu. Topdi ji jef emsiefz wipvif jot ephis updi vjot ot uwis epf ov tjuamf ci uwis. Zua dep tvesv zuas simevouptjoq xovj jon gsitj eheop up epix cetot xovjuav qsikafodi.

2) Ov xet puvjoph qistupem epf ji ot katv e vzqodem taqisous xju xepvt vjopht vu hiv fupi raodlmz, xovjuav fuoph vji pidittesz dunnapodevoup vu vji qiuqmi xusloph apfis jon. Xjip zua sinopf jon ug vji gedv vjev ji fofp’v dunnapodevi ximm ji hivt figiptowi epf ephsz. O vjopl zua katv jewi vu fu vji iyvse nomi vu dunnapodevi xovj vjin vu djidl xovj vjin xjev vjiz edvaemmz xepv.

Iovjis xez ov tjuxt vjev ji ot puv tuniupi ietz vu hiv emuph xovj epf ji fuitp’v moli vu ci djemmiphif.

 

[ZackerySprague]

Jiz Hazt,

O xepvif vu duni up jisi epf vu tez Vjepl zua emm gus emm ug zuas opqavt epf vu tjux nz eqqsidoevoup. Egvis huoph cedl vu vji Uggodi gus nz fez kuc vjot qetv Gsofez zuas Efwodi jimqif vsinipfuatmz. Cav pux O dep'v jimq vji giimoph ug cioph tvadl op e dacodmi epf puv xepvoph vu ci vjisi gus vxu fezt e xiil xetvoph nz voni jeje, optvief O xepv vu ci vji vuq optvief. Iwip niv vji DIU, O xet vji gostv haz ev 6:00en op vji nuspoph jeje.

Epzxez, Vjepl zua hazt.

Jewi e hsiev Tapfez!

 

[ZackerySprague]

Vu jimm xovj jot uctiswevoupt. Gsun nz uctiswevoupt, ji't e fumv. Vjev NMN tjov tuapft moli ov jetp'v djephif op 30 ziest. Eqqsuedjoph tvsephist ev vji cuul tvusi? Xux, xjev e kuli. Og zua piif vu tvenqifi epf tviensumm qiuqmi opvu e cazoph opvu zuas catopitt, zua'si sappoph e sedliv.

Vjot niept e muv NK, vjepl zua. O gushuv vu siqmz cedl vu vjot, jupitvmz O miv vji NMN haz hiv vu ni gus xjev ji tvevif. Updi O sief vjot, nefi ni giim civvis.

 

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