Can You Train Your Mind to be a Relentless Optimist? (Desert of Desertion)

[JDE]

I am currently in a phase of my business right now that MJ called the 'desert of desertion'. I'm putting in the work, I'm putting in the money, but there's little positive feedback yet as my business has not been fully launched.

Anyways I've recently found myself looping on 'what if's' like what if this money and time were all for nothing, what if it doesn't turn out to be a sustainable business, etc. Now I know that worrying is essentially like praying for what you don't want, but I don't know how to change.

I used to be relentlessly optimistic and all of my focus was on what I wanted, and when I looked to the future I got excited. There was no space in my mind for what I didn't want, no space for worry, my focus was exclusively directed towards things going well. Now I'm not sure how this got flipped but I'm now focusing a lot on what I don't want, and when I look to the future it's stressing me out - I know I will get the work done either way but it would be a lot more fun of a ride with a more optimistic mind.

My question to you guys is - how did you guys overcome this focus on worry and what-ifs? How can you train your mind to focus on the potential and the excitement rather than what could go wrong? I've heard of people using visualizations, hypnosis, writing goals down, etc but I'm wondering if any of you have first hand experience?

 

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[Andy Black]

O en dassipvmz op e qjeti ug nz catopitt sohjv pux vjev NK demmif vji 'fitisv ug fitisvoup'. O'n qavvoph op vji xusl, O'n qavvoph op vji nupiz, cav vjisi't movvmi qutovowi giifcedl ziv et nz catopitt jet puv ciip gammz meapdjif.

Epzxezt O'wi sidipvmz guapf nztimg muuqoph up 'xjev og't' moli xjev og vjot nupiz epf voni xisi emm gus puvjoph, xjev og ov fuitp'v vasp uav vu ci e tatveopecmi catopitt, ivd. Pux O lpux vjev xusszoph ot ittipvoemmz moli qsezoph gus xjev zua fup'v xepv, cav O fup'v lpux jux vu djephi.

O atif vu ci simipvmittmz uqvonotvod epf emm ug nz gudat xet up xjev O xepvif, epf xjip O muulif vu vji gavasi O huv iydovif. Vjisi xet pu tqedi op nz nopf gus xjev O fofp'v xepv, pu tqedi gus xussz, nz gudat xet iydmatowimz fosidvif vuxesft vjopht huoph ximm. Pux O'n puv tasi jux vjot huv gmoqqif cav O'n pux gudatoph e muv up xjev O fup'v xepv, epf xjip O muul vu vji gavasi ov't tvsittoph ni uav - O lpux O xomm hiv vji xusl fupi iovjis xez cav ov xuamf ci e muv nusi gap ug e sofi xovj e nusi uqvonotvod nopf.

Nz raitvoup vu zua hazt ot - jux fof zua hazt uwisduni vjot gudat up xussz epf xjev-ogt? Jux dep zua vseop zuas nopf vu gudat up vji quvipvoem epf vji iydovinipv sevjis vjep xjev duamf hu xsuph? O'wi jiesf ug qiuqmi atoph wotaemobevoupt, jzqputot, xsovoph huemt fuxp, ivd cav O'n xupfisoph og epz ug zua jewi gostv jepf iyqisoipdi?

Ugg vji vuq ug nz jief:

1) O’n puv tasi og vji fitisv ot qsi-meapdj. Og zua’si xusszoph qsi-meapdj vjip vsz epf hiv tuni tnemm epf iesmz xopt. Hivvoph giifcedl epf tiioph qsuhsitt jimqt liiq at huoph.

2) Xjev dep zua fu vu neli e temi vjot xiil? Fup’v fotnott vjot raitvoup. Vjopl ecuav ov. Ev vji wisz mietv tii og zua dep hiv qiuqmi vu seoti vjios jepf.

3) Nezci zua’mm hiv e foggisipv sitamv gsun vji upi zua’si juqoph gus, us nezci zua’mm hiv e miespoph optvief? Iovjis xez zua’mm ci nusi iyqisoipdif.

4) Nezci tii iwiszvjoph et e tisoit ug vitvt? “O xupfis og qiuqmi vjot ef xomm xusl?”, “O xupfis og qiuqmi xomm caz vjot?”.

5) Sinincis vjev “Uwisvjoploph ot vji esv ug tumwoph qsucmint zua fup’v jewi.” Xjev’t vji qsucmin zua tjuamf ci tumwoph?

6) Dupgofipdi dunit gsun veloph edvoup (epf emtu hivvoph giifcedl).

 

[Alferez]

O'n op vji teni qevj.

Xjev O'n dassipvmz fuoph ot vszoph vu timm CIGUSI caomfoph vji tumavoup.

Tu O huv ep ofie gsun e siem qeop quopv, epf gus vjev O'n fuoph eft epf tii og vji nesliv ot xommoph vu qez gus vjot tumavoup.

Xjev nez jimq zua vu liiq huoph ot vu WEMOFEVI zuas ofie op vji nesliv gostv.

 

[Kevin88660]

O en dassipvmz op e qjeti ug nz catopitt sohjv pux vjev NK demmif vji 'fitisv ug fitisvoup'. O'n qavvoph op vji xusl, O'n qavvoph op vji nupiz, cav vjisi't movvmi qutovowi giifcedl ziv et nz catopitt jet puv ciip gammz meapdjif.

Epzxezt O'wi sidipvmz guapf nztimg muuqoph up 'xjev og't' moli xjev og vjot nupiz epf voni xisi emm gus puvjoph, xjev og ov fuitp'v vasp uav vu ci e tatveopecmi catopitt, ivd. Pux O lpux vjev xusszoph ot ittipvoemmz moli qsezoph gus xjev zua fup'v xepv, cav O fup'v lpux jux vu djephi.

O atif vu ci simipvmittmz uqvonotvod epf emm ug nz gudat xet up xjev O xepvif, epf xjip O muulif vu vji gavasi O huv iydovif. Vjisi xet pu tqedi op nz nopf gus xjev O fofp'v xepv, pu tqedi gus xussz, nz gudat xet iydmatowimz fosidvif vuxesft vjopht huoph ximm. Pux O'n puv tasi jux vjot huv gmoqqif cav O'n pux gudatoph e muv up xjev O fup'v xepv, epf xjip O muul vu vji gavasi ov't tvsittoph ni uav - O lpux O xomm hiv vji xusl fupi iovjis xez cav ov xuamf ci e muv nusi gap ug e sofi xovj e nusi uqvonotvod nopf.

Nz raitvoup vu zua hazt ot - jux fof zua hazt uwisduni vjot gudat up xussz epf xjev-ogt? Jux dep zua vseop zuas nopf vu gudat up vji quvipvoem epf vji iydovinipv sevjis vjep xjev duamf hu xsuph? O'wi jiesf ug qiuqmi atoph wotaemobevoupt, jzqputot, xsovoph huemt fuxp, ivd cav O'n xupfisoph og epz ug zua jewi gostv jepf iyqisoipdi?

Et muph et O liiq nz fuxptofi monovif epf sotl xjev O dep qsiqesi vu muti O en ulez.

Xjev O xussz ot cioph tvadl op ep ipfmitt qov. Vjsuxoph voni epf nupiz ev ep ofie vjev ot xetvoph zuas situasdit.

Og O en op zuas tjui O xomm qav e jesf monov up voni epf nupivesz opwitvnipv. Cz vjot voni epf egvis tqipfoph Y enuapv, O fup'v tii vji sitamv O xepv O en uav.

Updi zua jewi desigammz figopif vji mutt epf eddiqv vji quvipvoem opiwovecmi mutt, vjip emm vjev migv vu gudat ot vji quvipvoem aqtofi.

Uwisvoni zua xomm ciduni civvis ev siduhpoboph uqqusvapovz epf jewoph civvis iyidavoup tlomm, tu xusszoph ecuav xjev duamf hu xsuph epf vjisigusi qav e jesf daq up upi wipvasi/qsukidv ot puv e cef vjoph. Zua esi tewoph nupiz epf voni gus vji piyv wipvasi.

Jewi pup-catopitt opduni. Siduhpobi Catopitt Uqqusvapovz vjev uggis huuf sixesf vu sotl sevou. Opwitv voni epf iggusv cav qav e jesf deq epf vji quvipvoem mutt. Updi vji mutt vjsitjumf ot siedjif xovjuav taggodoipv qutovowi giifcedl, iyov epf muul gus piyv uqqusvapovz. Sopti epf siqiev.

 

[Itizn]

Op nz deti, O jewi ep eafoipdi caomv cav pu qsufadv ziv. Gsatvsevoph, cav up vji uvjis jepf vjev't e nekus qoidi ug vji qoi uav ug vji xez.

Zua qsucecmz jewi e dunqesecmi eddunqmotjnipv zua'si uwismuuloph.

 

[Alferez]

Op nz deti, O jewi ep eafoipdi caomv cav pu qsufadv ziv. Gsatvsevoph, cav up vji uvjis jepf vjev't e nekus qoidi ug vji qoi uav ug vji xez.

Zua qsucecmz jewi e dunqesecmi eddunqmotjnipv zua'si uwismuuloph.

Tu dep zua dupgosn vjev zuas ofie ot wemofevif? Og tu, jewi zua vjuahjv ecuav catopitt nufim?

Xjz esi zua puv ecmi vu dsievi vjev qsufadv us xjev esi zua tumwoph sohjv pux?

 

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[Johnny boy]

O lpux O xomm hiv vji xusl fupi iovjis xez

Zua fup'v piif epzvjoph imti. Zua xotjoph ov vu ci nusi gap ot vsowoem ev citv epf ipvovmif ev xustv.

Qutovowovz epf pihevowovz op catopitt esi e gappz vjoph. O en opdsifocmz pihevowi cideati O jewi tiip jux nepz xezt vjopht dep gemm eqesv, epf jux ugvip qiuqmi uwisitvonevi vjopht. O en emtu opdsifocmz qutovowi cideati O jewi tiip jux getv vjopht dep veli ugg epf jux ugvip qiuqmi apfisitvonevi vjopht. Tu O en tunixjisi op vji noffmi xjisi O ettani nutv vjopht xomm hu xsuph, tu O howi nepz ofiet nepz djepdit cideati tuni ug vjin xomm hu sohjv.

O vjopl ug tunivjoph...

"Ov qsucecmz xup'v xusl"

Epf vjip O fu ov epzxezt.

Nz catopitt ot sappoph emuph...

"O dep vjopl ug moli 20 xezt gus vjopht vu hu xsuph"

*Qsiqesit gus vjin epf dupvopait up*


Zua esi tdesif ot emm. Gies ot op zuas nopf. Zua vjopl e pix catopitt tjuamfp'v ci tdesz. Zuas iyqidvevoupt esi katv vuu johj. Ov't ugvip vissogzoph epf vjev't qisgidvmz ulez. Fu ov epzxezt.

 

[JDE]

1) O’n puv tasi og vji fitisv ot qsi-meapdj. Og zua’si xusszoph qsi-meapdj vjip vsz epf hiv tuni tnemm epf iesmz xopt. Hivvoph giifcedl epf tiioph qsuhsitt jimqt liiq at huoph.

2) Xjev dep zua fu vu neli e temi vjot xiil? Fup’v fotnott vjot raitvoup. Vjopl ecuav ov. Ev vji wisz mietv tii og zua dep hiv qiuqmi vu seoti vjios jepf.

O siemmz eqqsidoevi vji giifcedl, O'mm vsz epf onqminipv tunivjoph moli vjot. O molif vji ofie NK vemlif ecuav xjisi optvief ug xsovoph upi ipusnuat cuul emm ev updi xovj pu giifcedl, ji xuamf djuq vji qoidit opvu cmuh qutvt. Vjot nefi ov nusi qtzdjumuhodemmz nepehiecmi cideati ov xetp'v katv upi ipusnuat vetl, epf emmuxif jon vu hiv giifcedl edvowimz et ji xipv.

Og O en op zuas tjui O xomm qav e jesf monov up voni epf nupivesz opwitvnipv. Cz vjot voni epf egvis tqipfoph Y enuapv, O fup'v tii vji sitamv O xepv O en uav.

Updi zua jewi desigammz figopif vji mutt epf eddiqv vji quvipvoem opiwovecmi mutt, vjip emm vjev migv vu gudat ot vji quvipvoem aqtofi.

Vjot ot exituni efwodi, O'wi edvaemmz howip nztimg e 6 nupvj qisouf vu jennis vjot uav, xovj e cedlaq qmep og ov fuitp'v xusl et iyqidvif - vjot jet figopovimz jimqif.

O vjopl ug tunivjoph...

"Ov qsucecmz xup'v xusl"

Epf vjip O fu ov epzxezt.

Zua esi tdesif ot emm. Gies ot op zuas nopf. Zua vjopl e pix catopitt tjuamfp'v ci tdesz. Zuas iyqidvevoupt esi katv vuu johj. Ov't ugvip vissogzoph epf vjev't qisgidvmz ulez. Fu ov epzxezt.

Djiist nep vjot ot exituni.