Hi everybody,
I'm 27. I have been lurking for the past few months, and I have been action faking ever since I've read both Millionaire Fastlane and Unscripted . Reading business and mindset books make me feel good, but I never go beyond that.
To make it simple, I'm in a vicious circle of helplessness, and I can't seem to be able to get out of it. I might go all over the place in this post, so please excuse me.
There's been a positive change though: I finally understood what it takes to earn money. You have to create value by fulfilling needs and wants of other people, by helping them fulfilling those needs and wants. It is now engraved in my mind, and whenever I start telling myself that I have to make money quickly, I stop this thinking process and focus on how I could provide value.
The problem is that I can't find any topic in which I could provide value right now. Maybe I'm too hard on myself. I'm currently employed in a telecommunications company as a sales administrative assistant. The company is a virtual network enabler, allowing other companies to become mobile/internet network operators.
However, the only skills involved in my job are copy/pasting and the knowledge of the products and the industry. And I can't see how I could provide value, surely because of my state of helplessness. I tried to ask for training in order to gain technical knowledge, management did not accept my request.
I interviewed for a job in another company in a totally different market: modular construction for a very niche market. It's a small company (4 people, including the owner) and my role would be to design plans and make quotes for clients. I don't have any experience in this, not even in construction, but the owner is one of the few in my country that has knowledge in this niche, so he's willing (and also doesn't really have a choice it seems) to train the person who will be hired. I'm waiting for his answer right now.
Even though I would be very happy to be paid to learn everything I need to in order to become top notch in this niche, I'm also feeling down because my goal in life is to be financially free and I can't get the idea of owning my own business out of my head. It's haunting me.
Everytime I find something that I could work on, I find reasons and excuses not to. I have a few examples under my belt ; I thought of:
- Dropshipping UV sterilizers for toothbrushes and so on ; did not do it because I dislike dropshipping as a model
- Bringing japanese street food to my area ; did not do it because it requires my presence, and I already have a job. Plus, it would be expensive just to test the market
- Creating a platform based on the instragram API to connect influencers / theme pages with brands and ecommerce owners ; did not do it because it lacks control (IG could cut off their API any time)
- Creating a line of e-bikes / e-scooters bags made from cork leather ; figured it would be a good idea to tap into the green mindset but did not do it because I'm not a designer
- Creating bespoke stencils for sneakers ; there's a whole market for sneakers customization but did not do it because it required me to take measures for every size of sneaker models plus barrier of entry is too low
I have several other examples that I could list. Here are examples of needs I discovered:
- Teachers in my country don't necessarily learn pedagogy
- Teachers usually have to have a state diploma to teach, but the number of registrations for those state exams are declining. Vacant teaching positions are increasing, so schools are considering hiring teachers through other ways.
- The digital signage (digital out-of-home) market is booming but is mainly used by the biggest players/brands. Small business are not tapping this new way of marketing to people.
For every one of my ideas, I find excuses. For example, I wanted to start offering glass films and filters installation (UV filters, mirror films, etc...). I gathered all the information needed to put a powerful marketing message and plan together, but then I stopped because I thought there was no barrier of entry and that people wouldn't want the service of somebody who's not answering the phone during the week (as I have a job).
I have about 6K in savings. I try to save more, but my GF earns less than I do and I constantly have to put more money in for our common expenses because she's not good with money and she doesn't plan ahead for incoming bills.
I'm afraid to put any of those savings to work because I'm afraid of the risk of losing it.
I'm also petrified by the idea of wasting time. It's ironic because I'm already wasting time by doing nothing. But what if I choose a path and I'm not good at it? What if there's a bigger, more profitable opportunity that I cannot pursue because I'm busy with my first project?
Sometimes I tell myself, "F*ck it, I'm picking this field and going to learn everything there is to know about it and I'm going to become an expert and a mogul in it!". But I quickly set it aside, because the time required to achieve this is terrifying to me. I know it's impossible, but I want to make profits right now. I can't seem to overcome this false expectation.
I'm currently doing this with paper engineering / origami / compliant mechanisms: it's a fascinating subject and it could bring solutions to a lot of problems, but what if I'm not good at it? What if this is just a passion project and all I'm able to do is paper frogs?
Anyway, feel free to roast me, maybe that's what I need. I didn't want to come up as a whiny bitch, but I have to admit that's what I'm portraying right now. I just wanted to get those things off my chest, everyone around is telling me to be patient but I'm tired of not moving forward. And I'm aware that it's my own fault.
But I lie to myself, my lifestyle is unhealthy (no hobbies, no interests, I don't workout, I smoke, etc...) and I think I will be able to turn everything around the moment I'll have my eureka moment.
Maybe I'm not cut out to be an entrepreneur? Who knows, I don't even know what I want out of life at this point.
I just wanted to come clean with this community and myself.
SiuLung
P-S: Sorry for the long post.
I'm 27. I have been lurking for the past few months, and I have been action faking ever since I've read both Millionaire Fastlane and Unscripted . Reading business and mindset books make me feel good, but I never go beyond that.
To make it simple, I'm in a vicious circle of helplessness, and I can't seem to be able to get out of it. I might go all over the place in this post, so please excuse me.
There's been a positive change though: I finally understood what it takes to earn money. You have to create value by fulfilling needs and wants of other people, by helping them fulfilling those needs and wants. It is now engraved in my mind, and whenever I start telling myself that I have to make money quickly, I stop this thinking process and focus on how I could provide value.
The problem is that I can't find any topic in which I could provide value right now. Maybe I'm too hard on myself. I'm currently employed in a telecommunications company as a sales administrative assistant. The company is a virtual network enabler, allowing other companies to become mobile/internet network operators.
However, the only skills involved in my job are copy/pasting and the knowledge of the products and the industry. And I can't see how I could provide value, surely because of my state of helplessness. I tried to ask for training in order to gain technical knowledge, management did not accept my request.
I interviewed for a job in another company in a totally different market: modular construction for a very niche market. It's a small company (4 people, including the owner) and my role would be to design plans and make quotes for clients. I don't have any experience in this, not even in construction, but the owner is one of the few in my country that has knowledge in this niche, so he's willing (and also doesn't really have a choice it seems) to train the person who will be hired. I'm waiting for his answer right now.
Even though I would be very happy to be paid to learn everything I need to in order to become top notch in this niche, I'm also feeling down because my goal in life is to be financially free and I can't get the idea of owning my own business out of my head. It's haunting me.
Everytime I find something that I could work on, I find reasons and excuses not to. I have a few examples under my belt ; I thought of:
- Dropshipping UV sterilizers for toothbrushes and so on ; did not do it because I dislike dropshipping as a model
- Bringing japanese street food to my area ; did not do it because it requires my presence, and I already have a job. Plus, it would be expensive just to test the market
- Creating a platform based on the instragram API to connect influencers / theme pages with brands and ecommerce owners ; did not do it because it lacks control (IG could cut off their API any time)
- Creating a line of e-bikes / e-scooters bags made from cork leather ; figured it would be a good idea to tap into the green mindset but did not do it because I'm not a designer
- Creating bespoke stencils for sneakers ; there's a whole market for sneakers customization but did not do it because it required me to take measures for every size of sneaker models plus barrier of entry is too low
I have several other examples that I could list. Here are examples of needs I discovered:
- Teachers in my country don't necessarily learn pedagogy
- Teachers usually have to have a state diploma to teach, but the number of registrations for those state exams are declining. Vacant teaching positions are increasing, so schools are considering hiring teachers through other ways.
- The digital signage (digital out-of-home) market is booming but is mainly used by the biggest players/brands. Small business are not tapping this new way of marketing to people.
For every one of my ideas, I find excuses. For example, I wanted to start offering glass films and filters installation (UV filters, mirror films, etc...). I gathered all the information needed to put a powerful marketing message and plan together, but then I stopped because I thought there was no barrier of entry and that people wouldn't want the service of somebody who's not answering the phone during the week (as I have a job).
I have about 6K in savings. I try to save more, but my GF earns less than I do and I constantly have to put more money in for our common expenses because she's not good with money and she doesn't plan ahead for incoming bills.
I'm afraid to put any of those savings to work because I'm afraid of the risk of losing it.
I'm also petrified by the idea of wasting time. It's ironic because I'm already wasting time by doing nothing. But what if I choose a path and I'm not good at it? What if there's a bigger, more profitable opportunity that I cannot pursue because I'm busy with my first project?
Sometimes I tell myself, "F*ck it, I'm picking this field and going to learn everything there is to know about it and I'm going to become an expert and a mogul in it!". But I quickly set it aside, because the time required to achieve this is terrifying to me. I know it's impossible, but I want to make profits right now. I can't seem to overcome this false expectation.
I'm currently doing this with paper engineering / origami / compliant mechanisms: it's a fascinating subject and it could bring solutions to a lot of problems, but what if I'm not good at it? What if this is just a passion project and all I'm able to do is paper frogs?
Anyway, feel free to roast me, maybe that's what I need. I didn't want to come up as a whiny bitch, but I have to admit that's what I'm portraying right now. I just wanted to get those things off my chest, everyone around is telling me to be patient but I'm tired of not moving forward. And I'm aware that it's my own fault.
But I lie to myself, my lifestyle is unhealthy (no hobbies, no interests, I don't workout, I smoke, etc...) and I think I will be able to turn everything around the moment I'll have my eureka moment.
Maybe I'm not cut out to be an entrepreneur? Who knows, I don't even know what I want out of life at this point.
I just wanted to come clean with this community and myself.
SiuLung
P-S: Sorry for the long post.
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