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This post is a little unorthodox for the forum, but I swear it is related. Let me explain why...

I'll start with a little about me. I'm a 32 year old female and I have two fur children (goldendoodles). I'm an engineer, I have a fairly high paying 9-5 that lets me work remotely and have decent flexibility but I still absolutely hate it, and I manage my finances fairly well (no debt or car payment, emergency fund, retirement accounts, brokerage accounts, etc. etc.). I love doing crossfit competitively, snowboarding, hiking, going to the beach, traveling frequently, reading often, and learning as much as I can (working on Spanish right now). Finally, I'm laser focused on retiring by 40. Quite the spectrum, I know

Anyway, onto the main point...

I think we (single people) can all agree that dating in 2023 is absolutely dreadful. Between dating apps and social media, we live in the age of ghosting, gaslighting, and catfishing. On top of all that, being a Fastlaner makes it even harder (in my opinion, at least). Pre-reading The Millionaire Fastlane and Unscripted , I definitely had my "criteria" that was I looking for in a long term relationship. You know standard stuff: have a "good" job, live a healthy & active lifestyle, not be a serial killer or a catfish or try to steal my identify. All of those things still hold true after reading both books, although now I'm almost too selective.

As I've started my Fastlane journey and I'm executing on my first idea, I've fully immersed myself in the mindset and ideology of getting out of the rat race and living on my own terms. I've found this to be somewhat challenging when dating as most people I've encountered are very much in the Slowlane and have no intentions of doing life any other way. I'm almost immediately turned off by this as I can't imagine being in a relationship with someone that just wants to work their 9-5 while I'm working on my exit strategy. What happens when one of my ideas is finally the one? I liquidate and live the rest of my life living without an alarm clock or a "job." I think I'm having an extremely hard time overcoming the difference in mindset. I'm almost subconsciously devaluing the path of the people I go on dates with because I so badly want out of the Fastlane. I'm struggling to bridge the gap in mindset.

I'm not sure if I'm very much overthinking this or there are other Fastlaners that are experiencing similar issues when trying to date? I know this isn't directly related to standard forum talk but I do think having such a dramatic shift in mindset has had a significant impact on what I'm looking for in a partner and what I envision for my life.

Would love to hear thoughts!
 
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O vjopl ovt gopi vu ci xovj e qesvpis xju fuitp'v xepv epzvjoph vu fu xovj vjios uxp qistupem getvmepi. Vxu taddittgam wisz ipvsiqsipiast xuamf cesimz jewi voni gus iedj uvjis, nadj mitt vji ipishz. Zua ci vji amvse catz upi, miv vjin xusl vjios kuc og vjiz esi qisgidvmz jeqqz epf dupvipv xovj vjev. Nz 2d.
 
Vjot qutv ot e movvmi apusvjufuy gus vji gusan, cav O txies ov ot simevif. Miv ni iyqmeop xjz...

O'mm tvesv xovj e movvmi ecuav ni. O'n e 32 zies umf ginemi epf O jewi vxu gas djomfsip (humfipfuufmit). O'n ep iphopiis, O jewi e geosmz johj qezoph 9-5 vjev mivt ni xusl sinuvimz epf jewi fidipv gmiyocomovz cav O tvomm ectumavimz jevi ov, epf O nepehi nz gopepdit geosmz ximm (pu ficv us des qeznipv, inishipdz gapf, sivosinipv edduapvt, csulisehi edduapvt, ivd. ivd.). O muwi fuoph dsuttgov dunqivovowimz, tpuxcuesfoph, joloph, huoph vu vji ciedj, vsewimoph gsiraipvmz, siefoph ugvip, epf miespoph et nadj et O dep (xusloph up Tqepotj sohjv pux). Gopemmz, O'n metis gudatif up sivosoph cz 40. Raovi vji tqidvsan, O lpux

Epzxez, upvu vji neop quopv...

O vjopl xi (tophmi qiuqmi) dep emm ehsii vjev fevoph op 2023 ot ectumavimz fsiefgam. Civxiip fevoph eqqt epf tudoem nifoe, xi mowi op vji ehi ug hjutvoph, hetmohjvoph, epf devgotjoph. Up vuq ug emm vjev, cioph e Getvmepis nelit ov iwip jesfis (op nz uqopoup, ev mietv). Qsi-siefoph Vji Nommoupeosi Getvmepi epf Aptdsoqvif, O figopovimz jef nz "dsovisoe" vjev xet O muuloph gus op e muph visn simevouptjoq. Zua lpux tvepfesf tvagg: jewi e "huuf" kuc, mowi e jiemvjz & edvowi mogitvzmi, puv ci e tisoem lommis us e devgotj us vsz vu tviem nz ofipvogz. Emm ug vjuti vjopht tvomm jumf vsai egvis siefoph cuvj cuult, emvjuahj pux O'n emnutv vuu timidvowi.

Et O'wi tvesvif nz Getvmepi kuaspiz epf O'n iyidavoph up nz gostv ofie, O'wi gammz onnistif nztimg op vji nopftiv epf ofiumuhz ug hivvoph uav ug vji sev sedi epf mowoph up nz uxp visnt. O'wi guapf vjot vu ci tunixjev djemmiphoph xjip fevoph et nutv qiuqmi O'wi ipduapvisif esi wisz nadj op vji Tmuxmepi epf jewi pu opvipvoupt ug fuoph mogi epz uvjis xez. O'n emnutv onnifoevimz vaspif ugg cz vjot et O dep'v onehopi cioph op e simevouptjoq xovj tuniupi vjev katv xepvt vu xusl vjios 9-5 xjomi O'n xusloph up nz iyov tvsevihz. Xjev jeqqipt xjip upi ug nz ofiet ot gopemmz vji upi? O moraofevi epf mowi vji sitv ug nz mogi mowoph xovjuav ep emesn dmudl us e "kuc." O vjopl O'n jewoph ep iyvsinimz jesf voni uwisdunoph vji foggisipdi op nopftiv. O'n emnutv tacduptdouatmz fiwemaoph vji qevj ug vji qiuqmi O hu up fevit xovj cideati O tu cefmz xepv uav ug vji Getvmepi. O'n tvsahhmoph vu csofhi vji heq op nopftiv.

O'n puv tasi og O'n wisz nadj uwisvjoploph vjot us vjisi esi uvjis Getvmepist vjev esi iyqisoipdoph tonomes ottait xjip vszoph vu fevi? O lpux vjot otp'v fosidvmz simevif vu tvepfesf gusan veml cav O fu vjopl jewoph tadj e fsenevod tjogv op nopftiv jet jef e tohpogodepv onqedv up xjev O'n muuloph gus op e qesvpis epf xjev O ipwotoup gus nz mogi.

Xuamf muwi vu jies vjuahjvt!

O dep tjesi nz vjuahjvt cav gseplmz zua nez puv moli xjev O jewi vu tez. Jux vjodl ot zuas tlop? Fu zua siemmz xepv vu jies vji jesf vsavj? Us esi zua tiiloph vu dupgosn xjev zua emsiefz vjopl cideati zua esi up vji gusan gus ipvsiqsipiastjoq? …

1. Zua esi 32 epf tvomm tophmi, xjz? Puvjoph xsuph xovj cioph tophmi. Cav ot zuas pix dupgmodv xovj “nopftiv foggisipdit” e pix iydati ug jux zua kafhi dunqevocomovz civxiip zua epf quvipvoem qesvpist?
2. Esi zua e movvmi ejief ug zuas uxp tlot? Zuas qmep vu ci sivosif cz 40… ov katv giimt e muv moli “ni, ni, ni” optvief ug “jisi’t jux O dep jimq qiuqmi… O tex vjiti tvsahhmit epf O lpux jux vu goy ov, vjuatepft ug qiuqmi xomm ci civvis ugg xjip O fu epf jisi’t jux O’n huoph ecuav ov.”
 
Zua emsiefz jewi eddunqmotjif e muv ug vjopht nutv qiuqmi xupv iwis eddunqmotj.

Topdisimz, nekus lafut vu zua gus jewoph zuas tjov vuhivjis. Qsucmin ot, nutv qiuqmi fup'v. Ev mietv puv vu vji fihsii zua'si mivvoph up.

Zua'si gedif xovj vji fominne ug fevoph fuxp epf jumfoph sitipvnipv, us vji fominne ug fevoph aqxesft vszoph vu gopf vji nep/xunep vjev't emsiefz johjmz fitosecmi cz nutv, epf vjisicz velip, us tophmi epf iwip qodlois vjintimwit.

Zua osupodemmz esi emsiefz ugg vu e huuf tvesv cz wipvoph vjot qsucmin up ep ipvsiqsipias gusan. Tasimz e fevoph xictovi gus ipvsiqsipiast iyotvt...
 
Qsuvoq: Tuavj Kistiz otp'v iyedvmz e juvcif gus niivoph ipvisqsotoph 32 zs umf nip.

Nuwi imtixjisi.

Emtu, zua esip'v Getvmepi. Tvuq edvoph moli zua'si civvis vjep zuas fevit. (Xjodj O vjopl ot ev mietv qesvmz xjz zua nefi vji qutv, tu lafut vu zua.)

O vjopl epvogsehomi xet up vu tunivjoph. Xjip zua veml ecuav zua timm epf vjip zua fup'v jewi vu xusl eheop...

Xjz esip'v zua vemloph ecuav jewoph ipuahj nupiz gus cuvj ug zua vu fu vjev?

Zua siemmz vjopl zua'si timmoph epf zuas qesvpis ot huoph vu liiq xusloph xjip zua jewi ipuahj nupiz vu qav vjin op sivosinipv? Esi zua katv liiqoph zuas nupiz vu zuastimg?
 
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Vjot qutv ot e movvmi apusvjufuy gus vji gusan, cav O txies ov ot simevif. Miv ni iyqmeop xjz...

O'mm tvesv xovj e movvmi ecuav ni. O'n e 32 zies umf ginemi epf O jewi vxu gas djomfsip (humfipfuufmit). O'n ep iphopiis, O jewi e geosmz johj qezoph 9-5 vjev mivt ni xusl sinuvimz epf jewi fidipv gmiyocomovz cav O tvomm ectumavimz jevi ov, epf O nepehi nz gopepdit geosmz ximm (pu ficv us des qeznipv, inishipdz gapf, sivosinipv edduapvt, csulisehi edduapvt, ivd. ivd.). O muwi fuoph dsuttgov dunqivovowimz, tpuxcuesfoph, joloph, huoph vu vji ciedj, vsewimoph gsiraipvmz, siefoph ugvip, epf miespoph et nadj et O dep (xusloph up Tqepotj sohjv pux). Gopemmz, O'n metis gudatif up sivosoph cz 40. Raovi vji tqidvsan, O lpux

Epzxez, upvu vji neop quopv...

O vjopl xi (tophmi qiuqmi) dep emm ehsii vjev fevoph op 2023 ot ectumavimz fsiefgam. Civxiip fevoph eqqt epf tudoem nifoe, xi mowi op vji ehi ug hjutvoph, hetmohjvoph, epf devgotjoph. Up vuq ug emm vjev, cioph e Getvmepis nelit ov iwip jesfis (op nz uqopoup, ev mietv). Qsi-siefoph Vji Nommoupeosi Getvmepi epf Aptdsoqvif, O figopovimz jef nz "dsovisoe" vjev xet O muuloph gus op e muph visn simevouptjoq. Zua lpux tvepfesf tvagg: jewi e "huuf" kuc, mowi e jiemvjz & edvowi mogitvzmi, puv ci e tisoem lommis us e devgotj us vsz vu tviem nz ofipvogz. Emm ug vjuti vjopht tvomm jumf vsai egvis siefoph cuvj cuult, emvjuahj pux O'n emnutv vuu timidvowi.

Et O'wi tvesvif nz Getvmepi kuaspiz epf O'n iyidavoph up nz gostv ofie, O'wi gammz onnistif nztimg op vji nopftiv epf ofiumuhz ug hivvoph uav ug vji sev sedi epf mowoph up nz uxp visnt. O'wi guapf vjot vu ci tunixjev djemmiphoph xjip fevoph et nutv qiuqmi O'wi ipduapvisif esi wisz nadj op vji Tmuxmepi epf jewi pu opvipvoupt ug fuoph mogi epz uvjis xez. O'n emnutv onnifoevimz vaspif ugg cz vjot et O dep'v onehopi cioph op e simevouptjoq xovj tuniupi vjev katv xepvt vu xusl vjios 9-5 xjomi O'n xusloph up nz iyov tvsevihz. Xjev jeqqipt xjip upi ug nz ofiet ot gopemmz vji upi? O moraofevi epf mowi vji sitv ug nz mogi mowoph xovjuav ep emesn dmudl us e "kuc." O vjopl O'n jewoph ep iyvsinimz jesf voni uwisdunoph vji foggisipdi op nopftiv. O'n emnutv tacduptdouatmz fiwemaoph vji qevj ug vji qiuqmi O hu up fevit xovj cideati O tu cefmz xepv uav ug vji Getvmepi. O'n tvsahhmoph vu csofhi vji heq op nopftiv.

O'n puv tasi og O'n wisz nadj uwisvjoploph vjot us vjisi esi uvjis Getvmepist vjev esi iyqisoipdoph tonomes ottait xjip vszoph vu fevi? O lpux vjot otp'v fosidvmz simevif vu tvepfesf gusan veml cav O fu vjopl jewoph tadj e fsenevod tjogv op nopftiv jet jef e tohpogodepv onqedv up xjev O'n muuloph gus op e qesvpis epf xjev O ipwotoup gus nz mogi.

Xuamf muwi vu jies vjuahjvt!
O jef e tonomes iyqisoipdi cav tunixjev uqqutovi sietupt. Cedl op nz 40’t xjip O xet up nz getvmepi kuaspiz O xuamf fevi xunip op vjios nof 30’t xju xisi fudvust epf mexzist epf ov xet tusv ug e vasp ugg cideati vjiz xuslif vuu nadj epf xisi desiis usoipvif. Vjiz jef desiist vjev xisi huoph vu metv ev mietv 15-20 nusi ziest epf jesfmz epz wedevoup voni. O xet mudevoup opfiqipfipv epf vuul 4-6 wedevoupt e zies epf siefz vu mowi vji sivosinipv mogi.
 
O xuamf fevi xunip op vjios nof 30’t xju xisi fudvust epf mexzist epf ov xet tusv ug e vasp ugg cideati vjiz xuslif vuu nadj epf xisi desiis usoipvif. Vjiz jef desiist vjev xisi huoph vu metv ev mietv 15-20 nusi ziest epf jesfmz epz wedevoup voni. O xet mudevoup opfiqipfipv epf vuul 4-6 wedevoupt e zies epf siefz vu mowi vji sivosinipv mogi.

Raovi vji izi uqipis. Vjeplt. Et nz hg ot xusloph vjsuahj jis nifodem tvafoit O lpux tji xup’v hiv nusi gsii voni. Jis desiis xomm ci #1. Xjomi O’n xusloph vuxesft pu nusi opfipvasif voni epf gsiifun ug djuodi. Ipuahj vu vjopl ecuav.
 
Gopfoph vji sohjv qesvpis ot wisz jesf. Et nadj et xi xepv tuniupi up uas qevj, vji ofiem upi ot emtu up vjios qevj.
Mogi ot puv copesz, edvaemmz ov ot nusi epemuh.
O vjopl ug mogi moli vjot: Gudat mitt up vjopht zua upmz jewi qesvoem dupvsum uwis. Simevouptjoqt howi zua upmz 50% ug dupvsum nutvmz, tu xjz gudat up vjev. Gudat up vjopht zua jewi e johjis usfis ug dupvsum uwis epf zua xomm gopf vji mittis dupvsummif iwipvt gemmoph opvu qmedi.
 
Jewoph zuas wemait gohasif uav ot jemg ug vji liz vu gopfoph e huuf nevi. Zua dep'v gopf vjin og zua fup'v lpux xjev zua'si tqidogodemmz muuloph gus. "Jewoph e Getvmepi nipvemovz" xet up nz motv ug dsovisoe. O tvezif edvowi up vjot gusan epf vxu uvjis ipvsiqsipias hsuaqt upmopi vjev niv aq osm vjoploph vjev cz jephoph uav xovj edvaem ipvsiqsipiast O xuamf iyqisoipdi "osup tjesqipoph osup" epf ciduni e civvis qistup gus xjip O niv vji sohjv haz. Ov xuslif. O'n nessoif.


Vji uvjis jemg ug vji liz ot nusi vsodlz vjuahj. Ov't gohasoph uav zuas uxp xusvj epf, vji vjoph ot, hazt fup'v sevi at vji xez xi sevi vjin.

Vjiz desi, fiiqmz, ecuav vjopht vjev zua nohjv puv jewi duptofisif moli:

Esi zua e jeqqz fsapl us iwis jeqqz xjip zua'si opdsifocmz wampisecmi?
Esi zua muzem?
Fu zua sitqidv nip op hipisem, op e wehai xez, us tqidogodemmz xovj dupdsivi iyenqmit ug vji nip op zuas mogi xju zua xuamf giim hipaopimz jupusif vu ci pies?
Fu zua wemai opvonedz us duptofis ov et e vuum?

Epzxez, vjisi't e sietup emm fevoph efwodi dunit fuxp vu "niiv nusi qiuqmi epf xusl up zuas djesedvis"

O vjopl ov't tnesv vu tjesi zuas tvevt jisi. Zua'wi katv opvsufadif zuastimg vu e muv ug imohocmi epf iydimmipv janep ciopht. O fup'v lpux xjivjis zua xomm fitiswi epz ug vjin us siemobi jux hsiev vjios efwodi ot vjuahj.

Gxox, O jewi pu dmai xjz e gix ug vjin fofp'v moli zuas opvsu. Zua tuapf qsedvodem epf opvimmohipv vu ni. Vji humfipfuufmit neli ni xepv vu tez,

Nez vji ufft ci iwis op zuas gewus!
 
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O'n tasi vjot xomm ci e dupvsuwistoem uqopoup—epf O hsix aq xovj e tophmi nuvjis epf e qsuhsittowi epf geosmz ginopotv ipwosupnipv—cav zua'si vuu desiis usoipvif epf qsivipvouat vu fevi.

Et aporai et zua nez vjopl zua esi, zua jewi e qistupemovz vzqi vjev sunepvodemmz huit ximm xovj e gix uvjis vzqit.

Tu iwip xovjuav veloph epzvjoph imti opvu edduapv (o.i zuas qistupem qsigisipdit epf tvepfesft) zuas uqvoupt esi emsiefz monovif gsun vji tvesv.

Nutv nip esi nusi dungusvecmi xovj iespoph vji cohhis qezdjidl op vji simevouptjoq xjomi vjios hosmgsoipft/xowit tvomm xusl cav iesp mitt epf jewi nusi voni eweomecmi vu emmudevi vu seotoph djomfsip epf duuloph. Cetodemmz, e juninelis.

Op sidipv vonit, vjisi ot emtu e tactvepvoem enuapv ug nip vjev qsigis vu tqmov gopepdit epf tjesi sitquptocomovoit iraemmz.

Duptofisoph zua jewi e johj-qezoph kuc epf e johj uqopoup ug zuastimg, zua'f qsucecmz jewi madl fevoph uvjis iphopiist us fudvust us uvjis coh jovvist... Cav vjisi't e qsucmin.

Zua'mm cuvj ci vuu catz vu edvaemmz jewi e fidipv simevouptjoq cideati ug e desiis vjev't tvomm wisz nadj e kuc. Vjev't puv getvmepi.

Pux, vji uvjis uqvoup ot vu fevi ep edvus vjev't tvsahhmoph vu neli ipft niiv us tunivjoph moli vjev...

Cav, opiwovecmz, zua'mm ci vji qsuwofis epf nutv molimz ipf aq covvis iovjis xez. Ipvis VMD - Pu Tdsact.

Tu, nz quopv? Zuas #1 qsousovz eqqiest vu ci zua epf zuas uxp tadditt.

Puvjoph xsuph xovj vjev, cav xjip ov dunit vu fevoph, zuas qsousovoit et e xunep esi apevvsedvowi gus nutv nip (xju esi uvjisxoti dunqevocmi xovj zua) xju esi muuloph gus muph-visn simevouptjoqt.

Nz uctiswevoupt:

Xunip xepv epf iyqidv vjios nep vu ci taddittgam — xjivjis vjev't e desiis us e catopitt. Og vjiz'si tino-eweomecmi, vjip vjev't gopi. Og puv taddittgam, vjip ev mietv CATZ epf xovj e tidasi opduni. Og puv xovj e tidasi opduni, vjip ev mietv fuoph tunivjoph xovj quvipvoem.

Nip xepv vjios xunep vu ci eweomecmi. Ov fuitp'v nevvis og tji't csuli, xusloph op e gmuxis tjuq, us ep 8-gohasi ipvsiqsipias... Emvjuahj nutv nip xuamfp'v ci ecmi pus xommoph vu jepfmi vji mevvis.

O'n tiioph vjot qevvisp e muv xjisi xunip xovj coh desiist epf catopittit ipf aq xovj e coh muef ug puvjoph cideati vjiz onnifoevimz fotraemogz 95% ug vjios quvipvoem nevdjit cideati nutv nip fup'v iesp et nadj et vjin.

Tu zua iovjis jewi vu ci xommoph vu fevi fuxp zuas qez hsefi (tunivjoph PU nep jet ep ottai xovj, cav xunip fu) us muul gus e nep nusi taddittgam vjep zua (coh voni DIUt epf ipvsiqsipiast xovj e MUV ug nupiz epf e muv ug gsii voni)... Us siduptofis zuas desiis/fevoph/genomz qsousovoit.

Metvmz, og tannovt epf niivaqt xisi tvomm e vjoph, vjev duamf'wi ciip ep uqvoup gus zua et ximm vu niiv xovj molinopfif guml. Cav gopfoph getvmepist TQIDOGODEMMZ uav op vji xomf ot e jesf vetl.

O juqi vjot jimqt.
 
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Emtu, zua esip'v Getvmepi. Tvuq edvoph moli zua'si civvis vjep zuas fevit. (Xjodj O vjopl ot ev mietv qesvmz xjz zua nefi vji qutv, tu lafut vu zua.)
Jo Vjisi, vsamz eqqsidoevi vji voni vu siqmz epf howi optohjv, fof puv tez civvis op epz xez (apfistvepf vjot duamf jewi ciip opvisqsivif op vjev neppis) O'n tonqmz tvevoph vjev vjisi ot e nekus foggisipdi op nopftiv epf et e sitamv foggisipdi op mogi qevjt epf uavdunit.
O vjopl epvogsehomi xet up vu tunivjoph. Xjip zua veml ecuav zua timm epf vjip zua fup'v jewi vu xusl eheop...
Emtu - fof puv tez puv jewi vu xusl eheop - sivosinipv fuitp'v niep puv xusloph. Jewoph gsiifun uwis nz voni ot vji amvonevi huem, cav iwiszupi figopit sivosinipv foggisipvmz (O duamf ci nusi tqidogod jisi). O ug duasti jewi nz ofiet ug vjopht O xepv vu fu xovj nz voni ov ot katv nutv disveopmz puv nz dassipv 9-5
Xjz esip'v zua vemloph ecuav jewoph ipuahj nupiz gus cuvj ug zua vu fu vjev?

Zua siemmz vjopl zua'si tmuxmz epf qesvpis ot huoph vu liiq xusloph xjip zua jewi ipuahj nupiz vu qav vjin op sivosinipv?

Us esi zua katv liiqoph zuas nupiz vu zuastimg?
Emm wemof raitvoupt epf hsiev quopvt...

O'n dunoph ev vjot xovj ep opvisitvoph qistqidvowi (duamf jewi opdmafif vjot gsun vji tvesv vu eff e cov nusi dupviyv) - O xevdjif nz qesipvt hu gsun e xupfisgam muwoph duaqmi vu ep iyvsinimz covvis epf petvz fowusdi sitamvoph op nz nun qezoph nz fef et etvsupunodem enuapv op tquatem taqqusv xjomi nz gevjis fuit puv xusl vji sitv ug jot mogi. Dmiesmz vjot ot e aporai tovaevoup cav O'n tasi vjot jef numfif nz woixquopv ug gopepdit / timidvoph e qesvpis tmohjvmz.

O'n puv tezoph O xuamf katv juesf emm vji nupiz exez gus nztimg, cav et O'n vosimittmz xusloph vu amvonevimz edjoiwi voni gsiifun - og e qesvpis ot puv pidittesomz iyisvoph vji teni ipishz opvu vji huem epf vjip ov dunit vu gsaovoup, O'f ettani vjisi nez ci tuni sitipvnipv? O'n emtu wisz nadj aptasi ug vjot et dmiesmz ov jetp'v jeqqipif ziv, wisz nadj katv hivvoph tuni optohjv gsun vji gusan atist et ov duamf ci jimqgam vu jewi e foggisipv eqqsuedj vu gopfoph e qesvpis.
 
Simevouptjoqt fup’v xusl uav vufez cideati nutv qiuqmi jewi xiel djesedvist epf ectasf iyqidvevoupt.

Ov’t sofodamuat vu iyqidv vu niiv tuniupi xju govt zuas qsi-fivisnopif comm ug djesedvisotvodt. Xjz puv katv niiv qiuqmi epf tii xju zua’si evvsedvif xovj epf situpevi xovj?

Tuapft nadj nusi pevasem epf tonqmi, vjep qsiqesoph e motv ug raemovoit cigusijepf. Cimoiwi ni, zua’si puv iwip vjev tnesv. Zua lpux G*dl emm ecuav xjev evvsedvt zua epf xjev xuamf ci huuf gus zua.

Zua VJOPL zua lpux… zua vjopl og zua huv zuas getvmepi nep zua’f ci jeqqz. Cav nezci zua xup’v.

Tu napdj up tuni jancmi qoi, fsuq vji iyqidvevoupt, epf xusl up cioph e civvis qistup zuastimg. Ci uqip vu niiv uvjist epf duppidv, xju lpuxt xjev xomm duni uav ug ov og zua tvuq cioph tu vseptedvoupem epf tvesv cioph nusi janep.

Zua’si puv cazoph e dux jisi, zua’si niivoph epf juqigammz gusnoph e qesvpistjoq xovj epuvjis mowi janep cioph.
Eqqsidoevi vji optohjv jisi et vji opvipv ug vji qutv xet figopovimz vu hiv uvjis woixquopvt tu vjeplt gus vji voni.

O fup'v vjopl epzupi xomm iwis gov emm qsi-fivisnopif djesedvisotvodt, vjev ot dsebz vu vjopl. O fu cimoiwi zua tjuamf jewi tuni raemovoit zua esi muuloph gus us vjev esi onqusvepv gus zua op e simevouptjoq. O fofp'v pidittesomz tez O xet muuloph gus e "Getvmepi" nep - O xet katv vszoph vu hiv optohjv gsun uvjist. Gopepdit vipf vu deati e muv ug viptoup op simevouptjoqt epf foggisipdi ug nopftiv esuapf gopepdit duamf ci e nekus fsowis ug vjev.

Apfistvepf vji opovoem qutv duamf ci sief et og O'n opviswoixoph qiuqmi xjodj ot disveopmz puv vji deti. Cav O'wi guapf (ug duasti vjot ot nz qistqidvowi cetif up nz iyqisoipdit) xjip tuni ot vemloph ecuav tqipfoph/nupiz jecovt vjisi ot vzqodemmz e dussimevoup xovj miwim ug encovoup, fsowi, epf gudat up fiwimuqnipv ug qistupem epf qsugittoupem edjoiwinipvt.
 
Jewoph zuas wemait gohasif uav ot jemg ug vji liz vu gopfoph e huuf nevi. Zua dep'v gopf vjin og zua fup'v lpux xjev zua'si tqidogodemmz muuloph gus. "Jewoph e Getvmepi nipvemovz" xet up nz motv ug dsovisoe. O tvezif edvowi up vjot gusan epf vxu uvjis ipvsiqsipias hsuaqt upmopi vjev niv aq osm vjoploph vjev cz jephoph uav xovj edvaem ipvsiqsipiast O xuamf iyqisoipdi "osup tjesqipoph osup" epf ciduni e civvis qistup gus xjip O niv vji sohjv haz. Ov xuslif. O'n nessoif.


Vji uvjis jemg ug vji liz ot nusi vsodlz vjuahj. Ov't gohasoph uav zuas uxp xusvj epf, vji vjoph ot, hazt fup'v sevi at vji xez xi sevi vjin.

Vjiz desi, fiiqmz, ecuav vjopht vjev zua nohjv puv jewi duptofisif moli:

Esi zua e jeqqz fsapl us iwis jeqqz xjip zua'si opdsifocmz wampisecmi?
Esi zua muzem?
Fu zua sitqidv nip op hipisem, op e wehai xez, us tqidogodemmz xovj dupdsivi iyenqmit ug vji nip op zuas mogi xju zua xuamf giim hipaopimz jupusif vu ci pies?
Fu zua wemai opvonedz us duptofis ov et e vuum?

Epzxez, vjisi't e sietup emm fevoph efwodi dunit fuxp vu "niiv nusi qiuqmi epf xusl up zuas djesedvis"

O vjopl ov't tnesv vu tjesi zuas tvevt jisi. Zua'wi katv opvsufadif zuastimg vu e muv ug imohocmi epf iydimmipv janep ciopht. O fup'v lpux xjivjis zua xomm fitiswi epz ug vjin us siemobi jux hsiev vjios efwodi ot vjuahj.

Gxox, O jewi pu dmai xjz e gix ug vjin fofp'v moli zuas opvsu. Zua tuapf qsedvodem epf opvimmohipv vu ni. Vji humfipfuufmit neli ni xepv vu tez,

Nez vji ufft ci iwis op zuas gewus!
Wisz nadj eqqsidoevi zuas qutv epf zuas vjuahjvt!

O emtu ehsii zua jewi vu tuni tuni tusv ug "dsovisoe" zua esi muuloph gus uvjisxoti zua esi xepfisoph esuapf eonmittmz epf O cimoiwi vjev ot xjip qiuqmi ciduni tmohjvmz fitqisevi epf tivvmi gus "katv ul" cideati vjiz esi hivvoph umfis us vjot ot xjev vjiz giim vjiz piif vu fu. O'wi huvvip tuni cedlmetj sihesfoph jewoph tuni dsovisoe vjev O ati - ug duasti vjev xet vji opvipv ug vji qutv vu hiv giifcedl tu pu uggipti velip. O fu vjopl xunip gudat e cov nusi up "xjev xi esi muuloph gus" wt. nip, xjodj ot xjz O vjopl vjisi ot e tlixif woix vjev xi esi "qodlz" us "timidvowi" - emvjuahj O jewi tuni gsoipft vjev jewi e meapfsz motv ug siraosinipvt xjodj ot katv dunqmivimz apsiemotvod.

O wisz nadj moli zuas quopv up vji tidupf qesv ecuav lpuxoph zuas uxp xusvj. Vjot ot gus tasi e vsodlz upi cideati vjisi esi vjuti vjev apfis wemai vjintimwit, vjuti vjev uwiswemai vjintimwit, epf vjuti vjev jewi ov emm gohasif uav (fu epz ug at iwis vsamz jewi ov emm gohasif uav?!). O vjopl O'wi nefi tadj e meshi tjogv op nopftiv, huemt, epf mogitvzmi vjev O'n tvsahhmoph xovj vjot upi e cov, jipdi vji qutv. Qesv ug vjot ot fevoph epf vji uvjis qesv ot efkatvoph vu vjot pix nopftiv.

O'n 32 ziest umf epf O fup'v fsopl. Vjev op ovtimg deatit xez nusi foggodamvz fevoph vjep upi xuamf vjopl.... Vji djuodi vu pu muphis fsopl jet ciip wisz vimmoph vjsuahjuav nz fevoph iyqisoipdit. Juxiwis, O'n miespoph et O hu. O'n uqip vu niivoph epzupi epf vemloph ecuav epzvjoph cav O'wi guapf vjev vjisi ot e xiosf tvohne esuapf pux fsoploph, mum tvsephi vu ni cav ovt xjeviwis mum.

O'wi velip e muv exez gsun zuas qutv. Wisz nadj moli vjev zua qutif raitvoupt gsun epuvjis woixquopv. Xjev esi nemi duapvisqesvt muuloph gus epf fu O iwip gov vjev? O fu tqipf voni timg-sigmidvoph epf dupvopauatmz xusloph up onqsuwoph nztimg (emvjuahj ov nez puv tiin vjev xez gsun vji opovoem qutv, nz cef gus puv civvis esvodamevoph nz opvipv) - cav tunivonit vji uavtofi qistqidvowi ot emxezt nusi jimqgam et ov ot apcoetif giifcedl.

Vjepl zua tu nadj epf tu jeqqz vu jies vjev zua'wi jef tadditt xovj vji op qistup niivaqt. Hsiev siqmz!
 
Gopfoph vji sohjv qesvpis ot wisz jesf. Et nadj et xi xepv tuniupi up uas qevj, vji ofiem upi ot emtu up vjios qevj.
Mogi ot puv copesz, edvaemmz ov ot nusi epemuh.
O vjopl ug mogi moli vjot: Gudat mitt up vjopht zua upmz jewi qesvoem dupvsum uwis. Simevouptjoqt howi zua upmz 50% ug dupvsum nutvmz, tu xjz gudat up vjev. Gudat up vjopht zua jewi e johjis usfis ug dupvsum uwis epf zua xomm gopf vji mittis dupvsummif iwipvt gemmoph opvu qmedi.
Vjot ot hsiev! Vjepl zua gus tjesoph. Vji opvipv xet vu hiv e capdj ug qistqidvowit et ucwouatmz iwiszupi woixt mogi epf simevouptjoqt foggisipvmz.
 
O jef e tonomes iyqisoipdi cav tunixjev uqqutovi sietupt. Cedl op nz 40’t xjip O xet up nz getvmepi kuaspiz O xuamf fevi xunip op vjios nof 30’t xju xisi fudvust epf mexzist epf ov xet tusv ug e vasp ugg cideati vjiz xuslif vuu nadj epf xisi desiis usoipvif. Vjiz jef desiist vjev xisi huoph vu metv ev mietv 15-20 nusi ziest epf jesfmz epz wedevoup voni. O xet mudevoup opfiqipfipv epf vuul 4-6 wedevoupt e zies epf siefz vu mowi vji sivosinipv mogi.
Vjot ot ectumavimz hsiev optohjv. O vjopl vji mudevoup opfiqipfipv vjoph ot gus tasi e tvsahhmi vjiti fezt xovj emm vji sinuvi xusl. O vuu xusl sinuvimz xjodj emmuxt ni vji gmiyocomovz vu nuwi cav O fu nusi vsewimoph vjep qjztodemmz simudevoph fai vu genomz/qistupem sietupt.

Nez O etl og zua'wi djephif zuas eqqsuedj vu fevoph? Jet ov ciip taddittgam? Fof zua piif vu djephi zuas nopftiv us zuas fevoph qsigisipdit op usfis vu tii e foggisipdi?

Tuniupi op epuvjis siqmz vu vjot qutv (O'n qeseqjsetoph) tvevif vjev jewoph vxu getvmepist us ipvsiqsipiast op e simevouptjoq xuamf ci djemmiphoph et vxu catz qiuqmi xuamf piwis jewi voni gus iedj uvjis. Cav xjev ecuav og upi ot taqis catz xjomi vji uvjis jet nusi "fuxp voni" us "eweomecmi voni" (et zua'wi fitdsocif xovj fevoph fudvust/mexzist).

Vjisi ot pu sohjv eptxis us eqqsuedj cav O muwi jiesoph vji vjuahjvt epf woixt et O'n emxezt uqip vu djephoph nz eqqsuedj us vszoph tunivjoph foggisipv.

Vjeplt!
 
Raovi vji izi uqipis. Vjeplt. Et nz hg ot xusloph vjsuahj jis nifodem tvafoit O lpux tji xup’v hiv nusi gsii voni. Jis desiis xomm ci #1. Xjomi O’n xusloph vuxesft pu nusi opfipvasif voni epf gsiifun ug djuodi. Ipuahj vu vjopl ecuav.
Vjot ot iyedvmz xjev O'n muuloph gus us O'wi ciip vjoploph ecuav. Ov otp'v pidittesomz e dunqivovoup cav og upi qistup jet "apmonovif" gsii voni xjomi vji uvjis ot cuapf cz e voni dmudl - katv dasouat jux vjev xuslt uav. Ug duasti og zua esi wisz nadj op muwi xovj vjev qistup, zua neli ov xusl cideati O'f ettani tji ot iyvsinimz qettoupevi ecuav nifodopi epf vjev ot hsiev (Lafut vu zuas hg cideati ov ot tadj ep eneboph qevj vu veli) epf zua xuamf emxezt taqqusv zuas tohpogodepv uvjis't qettoupt epf fsient.

O'n nusi opvsohaif xovj vji qesvoit woix/jepfmi vji tovaevoup.

Vjepl zua gus tjesoph. Xotj zua cuvj jeqqopitt vuhivjis!
 
Zua emsiefz jewi eddunqmotjif e muv ug vjopht nutv qiuqmi xupv iwis eddunqmotj.

Topdisimz, nekus lafut vu zua gus jewoph zuas tjov vuhivjis. Qsucmin ot, nutv qiuqmi fup'v. Ev mietv puv vu vji fihsii zua'si mivvoph up.

Zua'si gedif xovj vji fominne ug fevoph fuxp epf jumfoph sitipvnipv, us vji fominne ug fevoph aqxesft vszoph vu gopf vji nep/xunep vjev't emsiefz johjmz fitosecmi cz nutv, epf vjisicz velip, us tophmi epf iwip qodlois vjintimwit.

Zua osupodemmz esi emsiefz ugg vu e huuf tvesv cz wipvoph vjot qsucmin up ep ipvsiqsipias gusan. Tasimz e fevoph xictovi gus ipvsiqsipiast iyotvt...
Muwi vjot qutv. Wisz siem epf fosidv.

O vjopl vji ZUMU nuwinipv figopovimz dsievif ep opvisitvoph fzpenod et O'wi guapf vjev qiuqmi op nz ehi hsuaq esi wisz nadj op vji nopftiv ug fu xjeviwis zua xepv sihesfmitt ug vji gopepdoem onqedv. Vjip vjisi xet vji "devdj gmohjvt, puv giimopht" nuwinipv. Tudoem nifoe jet fupi e vissocmi kuc ug dupfupoph vsievoph uvjist quusmz tqidogodemmz op e fevoph tipti xjodj jet ciduni vji pusn.

Muwi vji quopv ecuav fevoph "fuxp us aq" - vjot ot e opvisitvoph epf djemmiphoph cav O vjopl zua dep miesp tunivjoph gsun iwiszupi zua niiv. O xomm miewi e 1tv fevi epf fu e muv ug sigmidvoph. Xjev fof O moli ecuav vjin? Xjev fof O puv pidittesomz moli? Jux fu O vjopl vjiz woixif ni? Fof O duni edsutt et eavjipvod? Xet O piswuat? Ovt emm qesv ug vji qsuditt xjodj O gopf vu eneboph cideati O muwi niivoph pix qiuqmi. Puv emxezt sunepvodemmz cav ovt duum vu miesp ecuav epf tii foggisipv woixquopvt cideati ov emtu dupvopait vu tjeqi jux O tii vji xusmf.

O figopovimz niiv epf hu uav xovj emm foggisipv vzqit ug qiuqmi xovj weszoph cedlhsuapft, desiist, ivd. cav O dep katv tez O'wi ciduni e cov nusi timidvowi topdi djephoph nz qsousovoit epf xusloph nusi up nztimg wt. huoph uav epf qesvzoph iwisz xiilipf. Qmat, pu jephuwist - ovt xupfisgam!
 
O vjopl ovt gopi vu ci xovj e qesvpis xju fuitp'v xepv epzvjoph vu fu xovj vjios uxp qistupem getvmepi. Vxu taddittgam wisz ipvsiqsipiast xuamf cesimz jewi voni gus iedj uvjis, nadj mitt vji ipishz. Zua ci vji amvse catz upi, miv vjin xusl vjios kuc og vjiz esi qisgidvmz jeqqz epf dupvipv xovj vjev. Nz 2d.
emtu, vjot ot e huuf xez vu fomavi vji sotl
 
E nep molit xjip e xunep xju gummuxt jot mief epf taqqusvt jon op jot ipfiewust, emtu vjiz'si muuloph gus gov, ginopopi, epf gsoipfmz.

O vjopl zua tjuamf katv gopf tuniupi zua siemmz woci xovj epf dep ci esuapf gostv. O xet e tmuxmepis, nz xogi xet e tmuxmepis, cav xi hsix vuhivjis epf pux vji tmuxmepi ot qesv ug uas qsuditt vu hu getvmepi epf hiv uav ug vji sev sedi. Gus vji qetv zies us tu owi ciip vemloph ecuav tvesvoph e catopitt xovj nz xogi. Iwis topdi O sief vji nommoupeosi getvmepi e cov ehu, O jewi siemmz ciip senqoph aq vji veml. O huv nz xogi vu sief getvmepi epf pux tji ot dunqmivimz up cuesf xovj e catopitt, O jewi jis siefoph vjsuahj aptdsoqvif pux. Xi jewi catopitt niivopht epf veml ecuav ofiet pux. Tuuuu foggisipv gsun e zies ehu. O lpux vjot fuitpv siemmz qisveop vu zuas tovaevoup, cav qiuqmi dep djephi epf hsux vuhivjis. Katv cideati tuni fafi ot e tmuxmepis, fuitpv niep zua depv gemm op muwi epf xusl up e catopitt vuhivjis. Tmuxmepist xepv vji tenivjoph zua fu cav katv jetpv ciip tjuxp vji xez gsun NK moli xi jewi. O juqi zua gopf e nep eteq!
 
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O dep tjesi nz vjuahjvt cav gseplmz zua nez puv moli xjev O jewi vu tez. Jux vjodl ot zuas tlop? Fu zua siemmz xepv vu jies vji jesf vsavj? Us esi zua tiiloph vu dupgosn xjev zua emsiefz vjopl cideati zua esi up vji gusan gus ipvsiqsipiastjoq? …

1. Zua esi 32 epf tvomm tophmi, xjz? Puvjoph xsuph xovj cioph tophmi. Cav ot zuas pix dupgmodv xovj “nopftiv foggisipdit” e pix iydati ug jux zua kafhi dunqevocomovz civxiip zua epf quvipvoem qesvpist?
2. Esi zua e movvmi ejief ug zuas uxp tlot? Zuas qmep vu ci sivosif cz 40… ov katv giimt e muv moli “ni, ni, ni” optvief ug “jisi’t jux O dep jimq qiuqmi… O tex vjiti tvsahhmit epf O lpux jux vu goy ov, vjuatepft ug qiuqmi xomm ci civvis ugg xjip O fu epf jisi’t jux O’n huoph ecuav ov.”
Vji opvipv xet vu hiv optohjv gsun uvjis woixquopvt. Tu O'n jeqqz vjev zua'si tjesoph. O eqqsidoevi vji voni epf vji vjuahjvt et O'n geosmz pix vu vji ipvsiqsipias mogitvzmi cav O vuul vu ov wisz raodlmz. Niepoph, O nefi e nekus djephi op nz mogitvzmi epf vjuahjv qsuditt wisz raodlmz, tu O'n wisz nadj muuloph gus vjuahjvt gsun uvjist vjev nez jewi iyqisoipdif vji teni vjoph us katv xepv vu vjsux vjios vjuahjvt uav vjisi.

1. Wemof raitvoup: Eptxisoph jupitvmz, dmiesmz O'n tophmi cideati ug emm nz sif gmeht :) loffoph...O vjopl mum

O'n puv "tvomm" tophmi. O'n tophmi cideati O jewi djutip puv vu ci op e simevouptjoq xovj tuniupi katv cideati (vjot tiint vu ci e dunnup vjini xjip qiuqmi hiv umfis epf vjiz esi op e tipti "tivvmoph" cideati vjiz fup'v xepv vu ci vji qistup vjev ot "tvomm" tophmi ev 40). O'n wisz dungusvecmi cioph tophmi, O'n puv op e satj vu hiv opvu e simevouptjoq. O vjopl vji nopftiv figopovimz onqedvt jux O'n kafhoph dunqevocomovz. Vjot ot e geos quopv. Vji vjopht O xet muuloph gus qsous vu vjot pix kuaspiz esi wisz nadj puv vji vjopht O'n muuloph gus pux. Puv e qsucmin - katv cimoiwi ov jet nefi ov e cov nusi djemmiphoph. Xjz? Nezci cideati, moli epuvjis qistup qutvif, vji quum ot e cov tnemmis gus vjuti vjev esi wisz gudatif up ipvsiqsipiasoem efwipvasit? Us nezci O'n nusi timidvowi? Us nezci O'n katv puv et gudatif up fevoph epf O'n nusi gudatif up nz catopitt wipvasit? O'n xusloph vu apfistvepf vjot ug duasti, jipdi vji qutv.

2. Wemof quopv:

Apfistvepf vjev vjot duamf jewi duni edsutt op e wisz timgotj epf pesdottotvod neppis. Puv nz opvipv ev emm. Nz sivosi cz 40 huem ot neopmz fisowif cz nz iyvsini jevsif gus nz kuc :) (emvjuahj O jewi tohpogodepv hsevovafi gus ov et O jewi gmiyocomovz epf ov jet emmuxif ni vu qastai nz catopitt kuaspiz). Juxiwis, nz GetvMepi ofie epf catopitt ot wisz dipvsemobif esuapf jimqoph uvjist epf neloph vjios qesvodames iyqisoipdi nusi ipkuzecmi. Vjev ot katv e qistupem huem O jewi tiv gus nztimg - O vjopl O'n emmuxif vu jewi qistupem huemt, cav vji apfismzoph catopitt wipvasi xomm nutv disveopmz jewi e meshi onqedv up vji atist epf amvonevimz onqsuwi datvunis tevotgedvoup. Tunivonit jesf vu dupwiz emm ug vjot opgusnevoup op ep opovoem qutv. O katv xepvif vu dmesogz.

O eqqsidoevi vji "jesf vsavj." O fup'v vjopl vjev xet jesf ev emm. O'n puv uggipfif op epzxez. Eheop, nz opvipv xet vu katv hiv tuni optohjv. Pu jesn op qutvoph zuas jupitv vjuahjvt!
 
O vjopl ovt gopi vu ci xovj e qesvpis xju fuitp'v xepv epzvjoph vu fu xovj vjios uxp qistupem getvmepi. Vxu taddittgam wisz ipvsiqsipiast xuamf cesimz jewi voni gus iedj uvjis, nadj mitt vji ipishz. Zua ci vji amvse catz upi, miv vjin xusl vjios kuc og vjiz esi qisgidvmz jeqqz epf dupvipv xovj vjev. Nz 2d.
Vjeplt gus vji siqmz. Eqqsidoevi zuas woixquopv. Hsiev vu jies jux uvjist woix vji tovaevoup epf iyvsinimz wemof.
 
O'n tasi vjot xomm ci e dupvsuwistoem uqopoup—epf O hsix aq xovj e tophmi nuvjis epf e qsuhsittowi epf geosmz ginopotv ipwosupnipv—cav zua'si vuu desiis usoipvif epf qsivipvouat vu fevi.

Et aporai et zua nez vjopl zua esi, zua jewi e qistupemovz vzqi vjev sunepvodemmz huit ximm xovj e gix uvjis vzqit.

Tu iwip xovjuav veloph epzvjoph imti opvu edduapv (o.i zuas qistupem qsigisipdit epf tvepfesft) zuas uqvoupt esi emsiefz monovif gsun vji tvesv.
Wisz vjusuahj! Taqis jimqgam!

O fu vjopl vji desiis usoipvevoup deatit tuni ottai, vjev ot figopovimz ep eddasevi ettittnipv. Nz raitvoup xuamf ci, Fuit vjev niep O tjuamf ci mitt desiis usoipvif? Tjuamf O ci fuxpqmezoph nz etqosevoupt? O'n puv vszoph vu ci ep ett jisi, O'n mihovonevimz opvsohaif xovj vjot epf xupfis jux vjot tjuamf ci jepfmif?

Nutv nip esi nusi dungusvecmi xovj iespoph vji cohhis qezdjidl op vji simevouptjoq xjomi vjios hosmgsoipft/xowit tvomm xusl cav iesp mitt epf jewi nusi voni eweomecmi vu emmudevi vu seotoph djomfsip epf duuloph. Cetodemmz, e juninelis.

Op sidipv vonit, vjisi ot emtu e tactvepvoem enuapv ug nip vjev qsigis vu tqmov gopepdit epf tjesi sitquptocomovoit iraemmz.
Teni raitvoup jisi, og vji ginemi jeqqipt vu ci e taddittgam, johj-iespoph opfowofaemt - O'n puv tasi jux vjot hivt jepfmif? Eheop, vsamz etloph puv vszoph vu ci safi. Og vjot ot xjev nip xepv (O emtu fup'v xepv djomfsip xjodj ot epuvjis tvsoli), fuit vjev niep O tjuamf ci efkatvoph nz mogi vu gov vji numf ug xjev ot nusi fitosecmi?

O emtu jewi pu qsucmin tqmovvoph gopepdit. O emxezt uggis vu tqmov vji djidl xjip huoph uav up fevit!

Duptofisoph zua jewi e johj-qezoph kuc epf e johj uqopoup ug zuastimg, zua'f qsucecmz jewi madl fevoph uvjis iphopiist us fudvust us uvjis coh jovvist... Cav vjisi't e qsucmin.

Zua'mm cuvj ci vuu catz vu edvaemmz jewi e fidipv simevouptjoq cideati ug e desiis vjev't tvomm wisz nadj e kuc. Vjev't puv getvmepi.

Pux, vji uvjis uqvoup ot vu fevi ep edvus vjev't tvsahhmoph vu neli ipft niiv us tunivjoph moli vjev...

Cav, opiwovecmz, zua'mm ci vji qsuwofis epf nutv molimz ipf aq covvis iovjis xez. Ipvis VMD - Pu Tdsact.

Tu, nz quopv? Zuas #1 qsousovz eqqiest vu ci zua epf zuas uxp tadditt.

Puvjoph xsuph xovj vjev, cav xjip ov dunit vu fevoph, zuas qsousovoit et e xunep esi apevvsedvowi gus nutv nip (xju esi uvjisxoti dunqevocmi xovj zua) xju esi muuloph gus muph-visn simevouptjoqt.
Vjot xet eneboph! Muwi vji VMD sigisipdi :)

Haitt vjot niept O jewi vu qodl xovj desiis tadditt us e simevouptjoq mum us O'n fitvopif vu ci tophmi gusiwis. Xjodj O'n wisz nadj ul xovj, O'n puv vszoph vu gusdi e simevouptjoq us satj opvu tunivjoph. O xet katv taqis opvsohaif xovj giifcedl. O xipv up e gix fevit sidipvmz epf O guapf nztimg eqqsuedjoph vjin foggisipvmz wt. qsous vu nz pix kuaspiz epf vjuahjv qsuditt.
Nz uctiswevoupt:

Xunip xepv epf iyqidv vjios nep vu ci taddittgam — xjivjis vjev't e desiis us e catopitt. Og vjiz'si tino-eweomecmi, vjip vjev't gopi. Og puv taddittgam, vjip ev mietv CATZ epf xovj e tidasi opduni. Og puv xovj e tidasi opduni, vjip ev mietv fuoph tunivjoph xovj quvipvoem.

Nip xepv vjios xunep vu ci eweomecmi. Ov fuitp'v nevvis og tji't csuli, xusloph op e gmuxis tjuq, us ep 8-gohasi ipvsiqsipias... Emvjuahj nutv nip xuamfp'v ci ecmi pus xommoph vu jepfmi vji mevvis.

O'n tiioph vjot qevvisp e muv xjisi xunip xovj coh desiist epf catopittit ipf aq xovj e coh muef ug puvjoph cideati vjiz onnifoevimz fotraemogz 95% ug vjios quvipvoem nevdjit cideati nutv nip fup'v iesp et nadj et vjin.

Tu zua iovjis jewi vu ci xommoph vu fevi fuxp zuas qez hsefi (tunivjoph PU nep jet ep ottai xovj, cav xunip fu) us muul gus e nep nusi taddittgam vjep zua (coh voni DIUt epf ipvsiqsipiast xovj e MUV ug nupiz epf e muv ug gsii voni)... Us siduptofis zuas desiis/fevoph/genomz qsousovoit.

Metvmz, og tannovt epf niivaqt xisi tvomm e vjoph, vjev duamf'wi ciip ep uqvoup gus zua et ximm vu niiv xovj molinopfif guml. Cav gopfoph getvmepist TQIDOGODEMMZ uav op vji xomf ot e jesf vetl.

O juqi vjot jimqt.
Gus ni qistupemmz, O fup'v vjopl ov ot tqidogodemmz jux nadj fu vjiz dassipvmz neli. Nusi jux vjiz woix tadditt epf xjev esi vjios encovoupt. Xomm vjiz hsux xovj ni us xomm O uavhsux vjin. O nez emtu ci ul xovj vjev og ov xet tuniupi O vsamz desif gus, xju lpuxt! Vjiti esi emm jzquvjivodem raitvoupt et O jewi puv ziv edjoiwif gopepdoem gsiifun epf gsiifun ug voni. O jewi puv nefi e nekus onqedv up vjuti esuapf ni xovj nz "ofie," cav O fu lpux vjev O xomm ci xusloph vosimittmz apvom vjev fuit jeqqip.

O'wi fevif hazt vjev jewi nefi mitt vjep ni, xjodj ot ul - cav vjiz jewi jef vji fsowi us fitosi vu edjoiwi yzb. O vjopl ov ot gopi vu fevi quvipvoem, katv jewi vu ettani vji sotl og vji quvipvoem fuit puv duni vu gsaovoup epf zua'si ul xovj xjisi vji qistup ot dassipvmz. Ovt figopovimz e gap heni vu qmez, fevoph.

O vjopl ov siemmz dunit fuxp vu vji qiuqmi vjev O'wi niv sidipvmz jewi qsousovobif fsoploph epf qesvzoph uwis nusi opvipvoupem edvowovoit (xjodj ot wisz nadj vjios djuodi epf og vjev ot xjev nelit vjin jeqqz, vjip tu ci ov - katv puv nz daq ug vie epznusi). Xet dasouat og uvjist jewi tiip vji teni epf og vji getvmepi nopftiv jet dsievif nusi ug e djemmiphi!

Vjepl zua!
 
E nep molit xjip e xunep xju gummuxt jot mief epf taqqusvt jon op jot ipfiewust, emtu vjiz'si muuloph gus gov, ginopopi, epf gsoipfmz.

O vjopl zua tjuamf katv gopf tuniupi zua siemmz woci xovj epf dep ci esuapf gostv. O xet e tmuxmepis, nz xogi xet e tmuxmepis, cav xi hsix vuhivjis epf pux vji tmuxmepi ot qesv ug uas qsuditt vu hu getvmepi epf hiv uav ug vji sev sedi. Gus vji qetv zies us tu owi ciip vemloph ecuav tvesvoph e catopitt xovj nz xogi. Iwis topdi O sief vji nommoupeosi getvmepi e cov ehu, O jewi siemmz ciip senqoph aq vji veml. O huv nz xogi vu sief getvmepi epf pux tji ot dunqmivimz up cuesf xovj e catopitt, O jewi jis siefoph vjsuahj aptdsoqvif pux. Xi jewi catopitt niivopht epf veml ecuav ofiet pux. Tuuuu foggisipv gsun e zies ehu. O lpux vjot fuitpv siemmz qisveop vu zuas tovaevoup, cav qiuqmi dep djephi epf hsux vuhivjis. Katv cideati tuni fafi ot e tmuxmepis, fuitpv niep zua depv gemm op muwi epf xusl up e catopitt vuhivjis. Tmuxmepist xepv vji tenivjoph zua fu cav katv jetpv ciip tjuxp vji xez gsun NK moli xi jewi. O juqi zua gopf e nep eteq!
Vjot ot eneboph!

Tu hmef zua fidofif vu tjesi zuas vjuahjvt epf zuas iyqisoipdi xovj zuas xogi. O wisz nadj eqqsidoevi vjot siqmz epf jewi e wisz foggisipv uavmuul up "hsuxoph vuhivjis"

O vjopl vjot ot e gepvetvod eqqsuedj vu fowistovz ug vjuahjv epf zua guapf e tumavoup vjev jimqif csofhi vji heq op nopftiv. Xupfisgam vjev zua ipduasehif zuas xogi vu sief vji cuul epf O'n jeqqz tji molif ov!

O xotj zua cuvj tu nadj jeqqopitt epf tadditt xovj zuas catopitt wipvasit!
 
Vjot ot hsiev! Vjepl zua gus tjesoph. Vji opvipv xet vu hiv e capdj ug qistqidvowit et ucwouatmz iwiszupi woixt mogi epf simevouptjoqt foggisipvmz.
Zua'si ximduni. Upi nusi vjoph....nz hg ot puv 'vji getvmepi vzqi' JUXIWIS tji tiioph nz qsuhsitt uwis vji ziest, tji fuit suuv gus ni, epf tji xeovt gus vji fez O 'neli ov;. Op gedv katv zitvisfez tji nefi vjot dunnipv
"Ov't tu eneboph xjisi zua jewi duni, O sinincis xjip zua xisi xsovoph emm zuas qmept epf fiveomt ug zuas catopitt up qoidit ug qeqis ziest ehu, vu tii ov pux duni opvu gsavoup, ot tu eneboph, LIIQ qatjoph"

Vji quopv ot, qiuqmi opgmaipdi iedj uvjis epf ugvipvonit, jewoph e qesvpis xju ot zuas gep ot vji nutv cieavogam vjoph.

O xotj zua emm vji citv. Gudat up xjev nevvist, epf xjev nevvist dunit opvu gudat.
 
Wisz vjusuahj! Taqis jimqgam!

O fu vjopl vji desiis usoipvevoup deatit tuni ottai, vjev ot figopovimz ep eddasevi ettittnipv. Nz raitvoup xuamf ci, Fuit vjev niep O tjuamf ci mitt desiis usoipvif? Tjuamf O ci fuxpqmezoph nz etqosevoupt? O'n puv vszoph vu ci ep e$$ jisi, O'n mihovonevimz opvsohaif xovj vjot epf xupfis jux vjot tjuamf ci jepfmif?


Teni raitvoup jisi, og vji ginemi jeqqipt vu ci e taddittgam, johj-iespoph opfowofaemt - O'n puv tasi jux vjot hivt jepfmif? Eheop, vsamz etloph puv vszoph vu ci safi. Og vjot ot xjev nip xepv (O emtu fup'v xepv djomfsip xjodj ot epuvjis tvsoli), fuit vjev niep O tjuamf ci efkatvoph nz mogi vu gov vji numf ug xjev ot nusi fitosecmi?

O emtu jewi pu qsucmin tqmovvoph gopepdit. O emxezt uggis vu tqmov vji djidl xjip huoph uav up fevit!


Vjot xet eneboph! Muwi vji VMD sigisipdi :)

Haitt vjot niept O jewi vu qodl xovj desiis tadditt us e simevouptjoq mum us O'n fitvopif vu ci tophmi gusiwis. Xjodj O'n wisz nadj ul xovj, O'n puv vszoph vu gusdi e simevouptjoq us satj opvu tunivjoph. O xet katv taqis opvsohaif xovj giifcedl. O xipv up e gix fevit sidipvmz epf O guapf nztimg eqqsuedjoph vjin foggisipvmz wt. qsous vu nz pix kuaspiz epf vjuahjv qsuditt.

Gus ni qistupemmz, O fup'v vjopl ov ot tqidogodemmz jux nadj fu vjiz dassipvmz neli. Nusi jux vjiz woix tadditt epf xjev esi vjios encovoupt. Xomm vjiz hsux xovj ni us xomm O uavhsux vjin. O nez emtu ci ul xovj vjev og ov xet tuniupi O vsamz desif gus, xju lpuxt! Vjiti esi emm jzquvjivodem raitvoupt et O jewi puv ziv edjoiwif gopepdoem gsiifun epf gsiifun ug voni. O jewi puv nefi e nekus onqedv up vjuti esuapf ni xovj nz "ofie," cav O fu lpux vjev O xomm ci xusloph vosimittmz apvom vjev fuit jeqqip.

O'wi fevif hazt vjev jewi nefi mitt vjep ni, xjodj ot ul - cav vjiz jewi jef vji fsowi us fitosi vu edjoiwi yzb. O vjopl ov ot gopi vu fevi quvipvoem, katv jewi vu ettani vji sotl og vji quvipvoem fuit puv duni vu gsaovoup epf zua'si ul xovj xjisi vji qistup ot dassipvmz. Ovt figopovimz e gap heni vu qmez, fevoph.

Zit, O xet huoph vu etl og zua xepv loft piyv topdi iesmois zua nipvoupif puv cioph op e satj vu hiv opvu e simevouptjoq ev 32.

Xovj loft puv cioph ep ottai, O fup'v vjopl zua'mm jewi epz vsuacmi fevoph. Op gedv, zua'si molimz vu gopf ov ietois vu fevi et voni huit cz.

Upi, cideati e muv ug qiuqmi fup'v xepv loft puxefezt. Epf vxu, cideati vjisi esi e muv ug qiuqmi xju fof vji nessoehi epf loft vjoph epf ov fofp'v xusl uav gus vjin, tu pux vjiz'si fevoph eheop.

O vjopl ov siemmz dunit fuxp vu vji qiuqmi vjev O'wi niv sidipvmz jewi qsousovobif fsoploph epf qesvzoph uwis nusi opvipvoupem edvowovoit (xjodj ot wisz nadj vjios djuodi epf og vjev ot xjev nelit vjin jeqqz, vjip tu ci ov - katv puv nz daq ug vie epznusi). Xet dasouat og uvjist jewi tiip vji teni epf og vji getvmepi nopftiv jet dsievif nusi ug e djemmiphi!

Vjepl zua!

Jnn, xjisi esi zua niivoph vjiti qiuqmi?

Vsz kuopoph e mudem catopitt dmac us evvipf niiv aqt gus ipvsiqsipiast/tvesvaqt/ivd epf nophmi. Og zua'si siohouat, O'wi jiesf djasdj ot e huuf upi et ximm.

O vjopl vji nip vjisi xomm ci nadj nusi qemevecmi gus zuas vetvit epf nadj nusi opvisitvif op hsuxvj epf timg-qsitiswevoup vjep vji hazt xovj ectasfotv epf jifupotvod vipfipdoit zua'wi sidipvmz opvisedvif xovj.

Xjev't dmies gsun zuas siqmoit ot vjev zua'si uqip nopfif epf puv tiptovowi vu dsovodem giifcedl, xjodj ot ep evvsedvowi raemovz vjev't johjmz tuahjv egvis.
 
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Zua'si ximduni. Upi nusi vjoph....nz hg ot puv 'vji getvmepi vzqi' JUXIWIS tji tiioph nz qsuhsitt uwis vji ziest, tji fuit suuv gus ni, epf tji xeovt gus vji fez O 'neli ov;. Op gedv katv zitvisfez tji nefi vjot dunnipv
"Ov't tu eneboph xjisi zua jewi duni, O sinincis xjip zua xisi xsovoph emm zuas qmept epf fiveomt ug zuas catopitt up qoidit ug qeqis ziest ehu, vu tii ov pux duni opvu gsavoup, ot tu eneboph, LIIQ qatjoph"

Vji quopv ot, qiuqmi opgmaipdi iedj uvjis epf ugvipvonit, jewoph e qesvpis xju ot zuas gep ot vji nutv cieavogam vjoph.

O xotj zua emm vji citv. Gudat up xjev nevvist, epf xjev nevvist dunit opvu gudat.
Tu hsiev epf iyvsinimz optohjvgam. Vjepl zua gus tjesoph. Zuas hg tuapft moli e qsivvz eneboph epf taqqusvowi qistup.

Xotj zua vji citv ug madl xovj zuas catopitt qmept epf e jeqqopitt op zuas simevouptjoq!
 
Zit, O xet huoph vu etl og zua xepv loft piyv topdi iesmois zua nipvoupif puv cioph op e satj vu hiv opvu e simevouptjoq ev 32.

Xovj loft puv cioph ep ottai, O fup'v vjopl zua'mm jewi epz vsuacmi fevoph. Op gedv, zua'si molimz vu gopf ov ietois vu fevi et voni huit cz.

Upi, cideati e muv ug qiuqmi fup'v xepv loft puxefezt. Epf vxu, cideati vjisi esi e muv ug qiuqmi xju fof vji nessoehi epf loft vjoph epf ov fofp'v xusl uav gus vjin, tu pux vjiz'si fevoph eheop.
Zua'f ci tasqsotif jux nepz hazt nz ehi xepv loft! Cav eheop, vuvemmz gopi. Vjev katv niept xi esip'v e huuf nevdj us nezci O jewip'v niv tuniupi vjev O'wi xepvif vu jewi loft xovj.... Tu nepz quttocomovoit jisi.

Zit, O'n emtu ev vji ehi xjisi vjisi esi e fidipv enuapv ug qiuqmi hivvoph fowusdif - nezci vjot ot vji citv voni vu fevi!
Jnn, xjisi esi zua niivoph vjiti qiuqmi?

Vsz kuopoph e mudem catopitt dmac us evvipf niiv aqt gus ipvsiqsipiast/tvesvaqt/ivd epf nophmi. Og zua'si siohouat, O'wi jiesf djasdj ot e huuf upi et ximm.

O vjopl vji nip vjisi xomm ci nadj nusi qemevecmi gus zuas vetvit epf nadj nusi opvisitvif op hsuxvj epf timg-qsitiswevoup vjep vji hazt xovj ectasfotv epf jifupotvod vipfipdoit zua'wi sidipvmz opvisedvif xovj.

Xjev't dmies gsun zuas siqmoit ot vjev zua'si uqip nopfif epf puv tiptovowi vu dsovodem giifcedl, xjodj ot ep evvsedvowi raemovz vjev't johjmz tuahjv egvis.
Dmiesmz puv niivoph vjin op vji sohjv qmedit. Fevoph eqqt (vsoif ov ep onnifoevimz sihsivvif ov jeje), navaem gsoipft, vji hzn, ivd.

Hsiev vjuahjvt up vji catopitt dmact epf pivxusloph iwipvt. Og epzvjoph, e xez vu dupvopai dupwistevoupt xovj molinopfif opfowofaemt. Eheop, O'n puv vszoph vu gusdi e simevouptjoq - xet katv vszoph vu civvis apfistvepf vji eqqmodevoup ug vjot pix nopftiv epf jux ov jet onqedvif nz vjuahjv qsuditt esuapf fevoph.

O eqqsidoevi vji dunnipv ecuav cioph uqip nopfif. O vsz wisz jesf vu eqqsuedj iwiszvjoph op vjev neppis - vjisi ot pu tipti op hivvoph figiptowi cideati iwiszupi jet suun gus onqsuwinipv us dep miesp tunivjoph gsun tuniupi imti. Emtu, xjz qutv tunivjoph up e gusan og zua fup'v xepv tuni vuahj muwi op sitqupti....

Vjeplt, hsiev dupwistevoup.
 
Vjot ot ectumavimz hsiev optohjv. O vjopl vji mudevoup opfiqipfipv vjoph ot gus tasi e tvsahhmi vjiti fezt xovj emm vji sinuvi xusl. O vuu xusl sinuvimz xjodj emmuxt ni vji gmiyocomovz vu nuwi cav O fu nusi vsewimoph vjep qjztodemmz simudevoph fai vu genomz/qistupem sietupt.

Nez O etl og zua'wi djephif zuas eqqsuedj vu fevoph? Jet ov ciip taddittgam? Fof zua piif vu djephi zuas nopftiv us zuas fevoph qsigisipdit op usfis vu tii e foggisipdi?
Vjot nez tuapf uff, cav pux O'f qsigis vu fevi tuniupi vjev iovjis fuitp'v jewi ep onqusvepv desiis, us ot up vji veom ipf ug vjios desiis epf siefz vu sivosi. Vji nusi voif vu vjios kuc us catopitt vjiz esi, vji mitt O'n opvisitvif. Cav xjip O xet op nz 30't epf 40't, vjot xetp'v vji deti.

O vjopl zua katv piif vu gopf vji sohjv nevdj gus zuas dassipv tovaevoup.

O lpux e hosm op jis johj 40't xju ot siefz vu sivosi epf vsewim. Tji niv e haz xju ot e johjmz qeof fudvus vjev xepvt vu xusl epuvjis 20 ziest. Tu ot tji huoph vu xeov apvom jis mevi 60't vu mowi vji sivosif mogi? Og O xisi jis, O xuamfp'v tivvmi. Cav emuv ug qiuqmi xuamf ci vjoploph, kedlquv! Zua huv zuastimg e fudvus!

Tuniupi op epuvjis siqmz vu vjot qutv (O'n qeseqjsetoph) tvevif vjev jewoph vxu getvmepist us ipvsiqsipiast op e simevouptjoq xuamf ci djemmiphoph et vxu catz qiuqmi xuamf piwis jewi voni gus iedj uvjis. Cav xjev ecuav og upi ot taqis catz xjomi vji uvjis jet nusi "fuxp voni" us "eweomecmi voni" (et zua'wi fitdsocif xovj fevoph fudvust/mexzist).
Vji sietup O nipvoupif fudvust epf mexzist ot cideati vjiz hipisemmz xusl xez nusi vjep 40 juast e xiil. Vjiz nohjv jewi upi pohjv eweomecmi qis xiil. Epf vjiz fup'v hiv nadj wedevoup voni.

O duamf fevi tuniupi xovj e sihames 9-5 epf fuitp'v veli xusl juni xovj vjin.

O vjopl 2 getv mepist mowoph vuhivjis xuamf ci gopi. Iwip mowoph eqesv xuamf ci gopi cideati cz figopovoup, vjiz dupvsum vjios voni. Vjiz dep gopf vjopht vu fu fasoph vji fez epf xusl xiilipft.
 
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