I read alot on porn addiction and finally this one book really helped me out have been porn clean for months now without even temptation. It was called your brain on porn by gary wilson.
Will share some of my top notes here.
"problems correlated most closely with the number of screens opened (variety) and degree of arousal, not with time spent viewing online porn."
"researchers found that ‘young people who are initially free of mental health problems but use the Internet pathologically’ develop depression at 2.5 times the rate of those who don't engage in such use."
"If a fantasy even remotely resembles porn, it should be off the table during a reboot. Two reasons: 1) Porn fantasies can lead to relapsing. 2) They can reinforce the screwed up neural circuitry that we're attempting to undo by rebooting. Your brain doesn't make a distinction between imagery that comes
"
"I totally stopped fantasizing about porn about four weeks ago. Whenever a porn flashback enters my mind I visualise a big red X over it and imagine a loud ambulance siren. If the porn image is insistent, I visualise exploding it in my head. The key is to do it immediately. The technique becomes more automatic with time."
"Lie on your back and list everything that you are grateful for. When I first started doing this, my gratitude list was long. Now, I barely get through being thankful for my friends and my dog and I'm dead asleep."
"You will be able to go long periods of time without porn when watching porn is no longer an option in your life. Live as if porn didn't exist. Completely forget about it. Don't spend your day fighting urges. Don't ‘try hard’. Be OK with the idea that you will never watch porn ever again in your life."
"If I don't actually have a sexual encounter with a real woman, I have to go to bed frustrated, and that's all there is to it. I don't allow myself to make up scenarios about women, but I do allow myself to reflect visually on women I have seen. Now, if I remember a woman's smile, I know that it's someone I met in real life."
"I've spoken to numerous men older than me and have asked them how they last long. Many said that they last long naturally and don’t watch porn or masturbate. My cousin who says he lasts 20-30 minutes has said he lasts longer when he doesn’t watch porn or masturbate."
"PE may be related to a history of forcing orgasms with weak erections: I would force myself to ejaculate in the morning before school, and several times after. I wasn't even horny or hard, merely compelled by some urge to keep forcing myself to cum. My mechanistic porn habits have taken away all sensuality from the act of orgasm, turning it into a short spurt and muscle memory twitch of a climax. If you have porn-induced PE consider the new behaviours, feelings and sensations that came with its onset. Before, orgasms were absolutely phenomenal (my f--king knees would literally shake), but now I cum with a mechanical twitch and no sort of real gratitude toward the act (and that is including with women). If feels different and lame."
Will share some of my top notes here.
"problems correlated most closely with the number of screens opened (variety) and degree of arousal, not with time spent viewing online porn."
"researchers found that ‘young people who are initially free of mental health problems but use the Internet pathologically’ develop depression at 2.5 times the rate of those who don't engage in such use."
"If a fantasy even remotely resembles porn, it should be off the table during a reboot. Two reasons: 1) Porn fantasies can lead to relapsing. 2) They can reinforce the screwed up neural circuitry that we're attempting to undo by rebooting. Your brain doesn't make a distinction between imagery that comes
"
"I totally stopped fantasizing about porn about four weeks ago. Whenever a porn flashback enters my mind I visualise a big red X over it and imagine a loud ambulance siren. If the porn image is insistent, I visualise exploding it in my head. The key is to do it immediately. The technique becomes more automatic with time."
"Lie on your back and list everything that you are grateful for. When I first started doing this, my gratitude list was long. Now, I barely get through being thankful for my friends and my dog and I'm dead asleep."
"You will be able to go long periods of time without porn when watching porn is no longer an option in your life. Live as if porn didn't exist. Completely forget about it. Don't spend your day fighting urges. Don't ‘try hard’. Be OK with the idea that you will never watch porn ever again in your life."
"If I don't actually have a sexual encounter with a real woman, I have to go to bed frustrated, and that's all there is to it. I don't allow myself to make up scenarios about women, but I do allow myself to reflect visually on women I have seen. Now, if I remember a woman's smile, I know that it's someone I met in real life."
"I've spoken to numerous men older than me and have asked them how they last long. Many said that they last long naturally and don’t watch porn or masturbate. My cousin who says he lasts 20-30 minutes has said he lasts longer when he doesn’t watch porn or masturbate."
"PE may be related to a history of forcing orgasms with weak erections: I would force myself to ejaculate in the morning before school, and several times after. I wasn't even horny or hard, merely compelled by some urge to keep forcing myself to cum. My mechanistic porn habits have taken away all sensuality from the act of orgasm, turning it into a short spurt and muscle memory twitch of a climax. If you have porn-induced PE consider the new behaviours, feelings and sensations that came with its onset. Before, orgasms were absolutely phenomenal (my f--king knees would literally shake), but now I cum with a mechanical twitch and no sort of real gratitude toward the act (and that is including with women). If feels different and lame."
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