Developing the Confidence to Step Forward into the Unknown

[AndrewNC]

Standing on the Edge of Darkness | Part 1​

You know that feeling you get when you hate the life you're stuck in, desperately wishing for an escape?



There are so many people who are standing on the edge of darkness, stuck in an place that is just draining their soul away from them; dreaming of the one day they can finally take that leap.

But they don't do it...

• They live in a negative environment (still living with their parents in their 20's, stuck with bad roommates, a depressing city, a toxic relationship, etc.).
• They have these dreams leaving their old life behind and chasing their dreams, all the while their "comfortable" and "secure" job drains the life out of them; wanting to quit so fu*king bad.

They don't know what's waiting for them in the dark shadows of the unknown.

They keep asking that same old question time after time beginning with those two words...

What if...

Another day goes by and their life remains the same.​

They are standing on the edge of darkness and they are feeling that fear.

I wrote this for: How to get out of parents house?

You're living in an an environment that isn't right for you, and it's almost as if you're waiting for someone's permission to take the leap...

But what if moving out of the parent's house or quitting your job or whatever edge of darkness YOU'RE standing on isn't the problem at all? What if they are just surface-level symptoms to a much more deeper-rooted opportunity for you? What if this is your chance to do something that most people never have...

And become someone who can confidently navigate the darkness.

• How badass would you be if you become the type of person who is able to leap forward into the unknown, despite how many external circumstances in your life might appear to be holding you back?
• How badass would you be if you became the type of person who developed the confidence to trust in yourself and your abilities to make it in this world on your own? Dependent on no one and no thing.
• How badass would you be if you transformed into the type of person who doesn't give a fu*k about what other people think you should do; and you are able to lead your own life on your own terms?

Do you know what really scores brownie points in this world we live in?

Character traits.

I was on a client call the other day. He came to me saying he has ten different business ideas floating through his mind, and he needed clarity and confidence to focus on one...

That's what he said he wanted, but what does he actually need for himself?

Certainty.

He wants to be 100% absolutely certain in his decisions.

That when he takes that step forward with his life, it will lead to a successful outcome. Normally, there is this technique I personally use to find this certainty: Imagine floating into your future, imagining and feeling as if you already are where you want to be. Looking back in time, what did you do to get here?

Every single time I use this technique...it leads to a new insight, a flash, a vision; and I have the clue I need from deep in the realms of my mind...without fail.

Except this time.

This time, all he saw from this future memory was complete darkness.

After about 40 minutes of trying to do change work on the issue of seeing complete darkness instead of the insight, we came up with the following conclusion...

"What if he's not meant to see what steps he should take next?"

That's what it was.

What if the message he is supposed to have learned is the ability to blindly jump forward into the darkness with the trust and faith that things are going to work out for the best on the other side?

But how could we be certain that things will turn out for the best when we make these decisions in our lives? Logically, we don't know what's going to happen...

Normally, we need the certainty that whatever decision we're about to make (move out of parents house, quit job, etc) will lead to a successful outcome, and that we will avoid failure...

So what do we do?

We are standing on the edge of darkness, waiting to jump...

But we don't do it...



We keep asking that same old question time after time...

What if...

Another week goes by and your life remains the same.
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We are standing on the edge of darkness and we are feeling that fear of where it might lead you if you jump.
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If you were 100% certain that your best-case possible scenario will play out (you'll make a million dollars tomorrow, everything will fall into place)...you'd take that leap without a second thought, wouldn't you?

But you don't...

Another month goes by and your life remains the same.​

So how do you move past that fear and take the leap into the unknown?

How do you find that 100% certainty, clarity, and confidence in your decisions, knowing things will turn out well...before you take that leap?

The answer is, you can't.

But you actually can...

What if we flip the script...

How certain can you be that things will continue to get worse for you if you stay where you are now? Not remain the same, but actually get worse by the day...

Looking back in the past up until now, you can see that things are always a little painful at first, and then they build up more, and more, and more...until something happens...

But why is that?

Another year goes by and your life remains the same.​

My client's message from his unconscious was not to find the certainty in his decision before he made the leap, but to develop the confidence in himself to step into the darkness and the unknown.

How badass would that be for him if, and for the rest of his life, if we have the bravery and confidence to step forward with anything in his life...despite not knowing where it will lead us.

While other people are standing around waiting for permission from others, waiting for the sign, and waiting for other people to save them, and to lead them...he is leading his own life, in the direction he wants to go.

Weeks...

Months...

Years go by while you're life is getting worse, and he is moving forward with the 1% of people who are leading their own life on their own terms.

When a problem comes up, he tackles it. He solves it. He might get beat up a bit, but he can develop the strength to handle it...

So why do things continue to get worse when you don't take that leap forward, and you stay the same?

The very fact that you are not happy where you are right now is because you set this goal for yourself. You have these things you want to do, you want to experience, and you want to achieve. While other people can be happy and content with where they are, not you.

The problem for you isn't that you're not happy where you are. That's not the issue at all. It's the fact that you're thinking about it, dreaming about it, talking about it, but you're not doing anything about it.

So why will you be certain that things will continue to get more and more painful over time if you don't move; until one day, things get so bad in your current environment that you you will be forced to jump...

But why wait?



I have this one friend who is starting his own business on the side of his day job (making really good money at a corporate Slowlane job in New York City).

He set the goal of moving out West and living life as a self-employed entrepreneur.

The pain started off small....

First, he was frustrated with sitting in his cubicle all day for certain hours.

He read The Millionaire Fastlane and, finally seeing what's possible for him outside of the corporate world, things get more and more painful with the Slowlane type of life.

Then, he began performing better than his peers and left at normal hours, only to get yelled at by management for not sitting at his desk and showing his face after his work is already done. It made no sense why people would treat him like this...

As the weeks and the months went on, the pain went up from a Level 1...to a Level 3....to a Level 5...

Every since he set this goal of moving out West, management at his company and his working conditions continued to get worse. They cut his ability to take days off or schedule doctors appointments during working hours.

At first he placed the blame on the management, the company culture, the job as a whole....

But what if he is doing this to himself?

What if whatever pain you are feeling as your life remains the same is actually you doing it to yourself?

Let me demonstrate an example of a women I know who's been in an abusive relationship. The man started off all nice, then he shows subtle signs of anger.

• He has an outburst with his words. She stays, thinking things will change on their own. Her friends start to warn her about him.
• He has an affair. She stays, thinking things will change on their own. Her friends and family continue to tell her that he's no good for her.
• He begins throwing her stuff around the room in anger, and punches holes through the wall. She stays, thinking things will change on their own. Her friends say she can stay with them to help her escape the abusive situation.
• He gets violent and physically assaults her....

The signs of the pain started off small and built up like a snowball over time.

All along, she was given options for escape with her friends help and offers, where the opportunity for escape has been here all along, you're just choosing not to take it and you stay where you are.

Another six months goes by and your life remains the same.​

She could always make this ONE decision to realize that long ago, she set this goal for herself.

She wants to be in a loving, caring, safe relationship. She has this opportunity to leap at any given time and get back on the path she is meant to walk on....but the choice is in her actions. Does she stay and will the pain continue to build in the form of the abusive man? Does she go?

In my friend's case - she stayed due to the fear of the unknown if she could make it on her own...

Then things finally got so bad, that she was forced to leave and had no option for her own survival...because she waited too long to take that leap. She could have chosen to go months prior, but she made the decision to stay...

Just like you are choosing to not leap...

We don't know what will happen if we go, but we can be certain of what will happen if we stay...

The happy ending: Ten months later, my friend is living back in Arizona with her own job, a good roommate, and met a boyfriend who is better for her. Because she finally recognized the signs and corrected her actions (move out), and was walking back on that path she wanted to walk on

What if I said, she did this to herself?

Not in the sense of her staying too long...but if a very part of herself, within her...was the very cause of the man's actions...and no, she didn't provoke him.

What if I said all the painful things in your environment, all the bad things other people do to you, and all the things you are complaining about in your life...is something you did to yourself?

Blame...

All too often we blame our environment, others, or our circumstances for holding us back.

Are you familiar with the term fixed vs. growth mindset? Where a person with a fixed mindset stays locked in their old ways of thinking and locks themselves in their old way of being? Whereas a person with a growth mindset is open to new possibilities, new understandings, and new ways of thinking; ultimately leading them to new ways of being, and new ways of living...

• Here's why when my friend was in an abusive relationship, I feel she literally did it to herself.
• When my other friend's bosses treated him like garbage and he continues to stay at a job he hates, I feel he literally did it to himself.
• And when a member of this forum complains about how much his environment sucks...he is literally doing it to himself.

That a part of them want the things outside us to be so painful, that they are forced to move...

Because they are lacking a character trait in themselves to step forward into the darkness on their own. Imagine how much better their lives would be if they escaped at the first sign of pain, instead of letting it continue to build up...


Continued in next post....

 

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Tvepfoph up vji Ifhi ug Feslpitt | Qesv 2

Vji Amvonevi Inquxisnipv Nopftiv​

Vjisi esi vjsii qesvt ug vji janep nopf:

1. Vji Duptdouat Nopf
2. Vji Apduptdouat Nopf
3. Zuas Johjis Timg

Vji duptdouat nopf uctiswit vjopht uavtofi zua epf ot zuas muhodem gomvis.

Vji apduptdouat nopf ot xjisi vjev upi dmoipv gmuevif gusxesf up jot vonimopi opvu jot gavasi vszoph vu gopf vji eptxist gsun jot gavasi ninusz. Pusnemmz, ov qsuwofit e tqidogod eptxis, cav jot gavasi timg fimowisif vji nittehi vu tviq gusxesf opvu vji feslpitt.

Gsun nz iyqisoipdi uwis vjiz ziest, O'wi atif vji vonimopi vu onehopi gmuevoph gusxesf opvu gavasi huemt, xjodj apgumfif iyedvmz et O tex vjin nupvjt us ziest qsous. Iyedv wotoupt ug cioph up vji Xitv Duetv uwismuuloph vji udiep gsii gsun e dusqusevi kuc us voni duptvseopvt. Iyedv wotoupt ug vsewimoph vji xusmf. Iyedv wotoupt ug vjopht vjev deni vsai op e qtzdjod vzqi ug xez.

O vseopif vu ci e qtzdjod op 2015...

Xjip O gostv miespif vjot, O sihotvisif ov op visnt ug qisdiqvoup ug vji gavasi. Cav fasoph nz qtzdjod vseopoph, vjiz tez vjot vonimopi op uas onehopevoup ot vji guasvj foniptoup, xjisi qetv, qsitipv, epf gavasi esi emm jeqqipoph ev vji teni voni.

Xjip zua tiv vjot huem gus zuastimg op vji gavasi, zua mudl zuastimg up e vonimopi xjisi zua qewi e fosidv qevjxez xjisi zua esi fitvopif vu hiv vu vjev huem. Ov't opiwovecmi.

Veloph ov e tviq gasvjis...

Onehopi vjev xjip zua tiv vjot huem gus zuastimg op vji gavasi (jis cioph xovj e muwoph cuzgsoipf, jon uxpoph jot catopitt up vji Xitv Duetv, vji nincis jisi mowoph up jot uxp); Vjot ot movisemmz qmedoph vji huem up e vonimopi ug iwipvt vjev esi emsiefz jeqqipoph op tuni johjis siemn ug cioph.

Epf zuas johjis timg, vji vjosf qesv ug zuas nopf, qetv vji apduptdouat, xuslt emuph xjev xi op qtzdjumuhz demm vji dummidvowi apduptdouat. Vjot ot vji siemn xjisi vjiz tez vjisi ot tuni vzqi ug aptiip duppidvoup civxiip emm qiuqmi epf vjopht.

Onehopi vjev xjip zua tiv zuas huem gus zuastimg op vji gavasi (jon mowoph uav Xitv), vji ipvosi apowisti mopit aq epf haofit zua vuxesft edjoiwoph vjot huem zua tiv uav gus zuastimg.

• Vjev huem ot e fitvopevoup ev vji ipf ug e qevj zua'si xemloph up.
• Zua vumf vji apowisti zua xepv vu hiv vjisi, tu ov xomm veli zua vjisi.
• Xjip zua xeml up vji qevj (veloph edvoup up zuas catopitt epf nuwoph uav Xitv), zua esi sixesfif xovj qmietasi (temit, huuf giimopht, ivd.).
• Xjip zua tvsez ugg vji qevj zua teof zua xepv vu xeml up (tvez ev kuc, puv nuwi uav xitv, puv xusl up catopitt), zua esi sinopfif vu hiv cedl up vji qevj woe qeop. Zuas johjis timg (vji apowisti, xjeviwis) deatit uvjis vjopht uavtofi ug zua vu qasqutimz neli zua giim qeop xjip zua esi puv mowoph up zuas djutip qevj.

Xjip zua tvsez ug zuas qevj epf zua'si puv mowoph zuas huemt...

Zuas johjis timg pafhit zua cedl up vji qevj xovj e movvmi cov ug qeop...ov't jux ov dunnapodevit xovj zua.

Xjip zua ohpusi vji nittehi ug qeop, epf zua tvsez gasvjis...zuas johjis timg opdsietit vji qeop zua giim cz tvezoph vji teni...

Epuvjis zies huit cz epf zuas mogi sineopif vji teni, jetp'v ov?​

Vji movvmi cov ug qeop ji gimv xet vji pafhi vu hiv cedl up jot qevj epf nuwi uav xitv.

Ji ohpusif vji qeop ji gimv....tu jot johjis timg tquli vu jon eheop, "Jiz e**jumi, zua vumf ni zua xepvif vu nuwi uav xitv, O huv Gedicuul vu liiq tjuxoph zua efwisvotinipvt ug eqesvnipvt op Tduvvtfemi. Cav zua'si puv edvoph up vjin."

"Miv't eff tuni nusi qeop vu jot mogi." jot johjis timg tezt.

Vjopht esi hivvoph nusi qeopgam xjip ji tvezt xjisi ji ot...cav ji ot tvomm tdesif vu miewi. Giesgam ug tviqqoph gusxesf opvu vji feslpitt.

Apfis vjot cimoig tztvin, vji vjopht vjev jeqqip vu zua (cz uvjist) esi puv tunivjoph vjev ot jeqqipoph "vu" zua...vjiz esi jeqqipoph gus zua.

Mogi otp'v jeqqipoph vu zua, mowi ot jeqqipoph gus zua.​

Zua djuti vjot mogi zua xepvt vu mowi, epf zua esi puv mowoph ov, tu e qesv ug zua...zuas johjis timg ot neloph zua giim qeop vjsuahj vji vjopht vjev jeqqip "vu" zua. Vji qesv ug zua vjev ot duppidvif vu vji edvoupt ug uvjist ot pafhoph zua cedl up zuas qevj...

Tu og vjot ot zuas johjis timg pafhoph zua up vji qevj zua'si niepv vu xeml up...

Xjev og zua fup'v veli vjev mieq?

Zua dep pux jewi vji disveopvz vjev vjopht esi huoph vu hiv e muv nusi qeopgam. Vjisi ov ot...zua jewi zuas disveopvz vjev zuas'i muuloph gus. Zua dep ci disveop ug xjev xomm jeqqip og zua tvez vji teni...

Tu optvief ug qmedoph vji cmeni up uvjist (dosdantvepdit, vjopht vjev jeqqip vu zua, zuas qesipvt fuoph vjot, zuas cutt fuoph vjev, zuas mogi tadloph ev zuas kuc us xjisi zua esi pux), veli up vji inquxisnipv cimoig vjev, cideati zua tiv vjot huem gus zuastimg vu ci tunixjisi imti op mogi, e qesv ug xju zua esi (johjis timg) ot edvaemmz vji wisz vjoph fuoph vjiti vjopht gus zua.

Onehopi vjiti xespoph tohpt gsun vji apowisti moli e tpuxcemm iggidv. Vji qeop tvesvt ugg tnemm epf dupvopait vu hiv tvsuphis apvom zua siedj vjev sudl cuvvun epf zua'si gusdif vu djephi.

Tu op vji optvepdit ug nz gsoipf op vji simevouptjoq epf vji uvjis gsoipf tvezoph op jot kuc...dep zua tii jux vji qeop op vjios mogi tvesvt ugg tnemm epf caomft aq vji muphis vjiz tvsez ugg vji vseom?

Xi sitqupf vu qeop epf qmietasi.

Xjip ji huit juni ev pohjv epf tqipft 4 juast veloph SIEM edvoup up jot catopitt, ji ot sixesfif cz jot johjis timg cz csophoph qiuqmi vu jon xju xepv jot tiswodit. Xjip tji nuwif cedl exez gsun jis ecatowi iy, tji deni edsutt qiuqmi xju jimqif jis hiv tvecmi juatoph, vu hiv e kuc xovj gmiyocmi juast, epf qiuqmi tvesvif eqqiesoph op jis mogi vu taqqusv jis up jis wotoup.

Egvis tji vuul vji mieq...vjopht gimm sohjv opvu qmedi.

Tji ot pux op e muwoph simevouptjoq xjisi vjopht xuslif uav, cideati tji vuul vjev mieq.

Vji cimoig tztvin O'wi efuqvif sidipvmz ot vjev zuas johjis timg (vji apowisti) taqqusvt at up uas huemt, vjisi ot tuni vzqi ug duppidvoup vu mogi jeqqipoph gus at (puv vu at), epf xjip xi veli vjev mieq vu xeml up vji qevj xi esi niepv vu xeml up (mowoph vji huemt xi tiv uav gus uastimwit), xi hiv sixesfif jepftunmz...egvis xi veli vji mieq.

Op iwisz optvepdi ug nz mogi, O'wi ciip sixesfif op tadj xezt upmz egvis O vuul vji mieq opvu vji aplpuxp...

Vji nusi zua fup'v nuwi gusxesf vuxesft zuas huem, vji nusi qeopgam vjopht xomm hiv apvom zua dussidv zuas duasti ug edvoupt. Zua xomm tov esuapf epf xeov gus ov vu jeqqip gus zua, epf ov xomm hiv nusi qeopgam.

Apvom upi fez...

Epuvjis mogi huit cz epf zua xetvif ov cz piwis mowoph zuas fsient.​

Epf vjev ot tunivjoph zua dep ci disveop ug.

 

[AndrewNC]

Fotdmeonis 1: HUMF - Tussz, Cav vji Gusan Dep'v Neli Zuas Mogi Fidotoupt Gus Zua!!

Fotdmeonis 2: Vjiti tvevinipvt jewi puv ciip iwemaevif cz vji Guuf epf Fsah Efnopotvsevoup.Vjiti qsufadvt esi puv opvipfif vu foehputi, vsiev, dasi us qsiwipv epz fotieti. Duptamv zuas qjztodoep cigusi cihoppoph epz iyisdoti qsuhsen

 

[Argue]

Huuf tvagg! Zua tjuamf duwisv vjot opvu e QFG.

 

[MJ DeMarco]

Muph sief ipuahj vu tdesi ugg nepz, cav xusvj e sief. Epf e PUVECMI.

O'wi tiip e qevvisp jisi sidipvmz egvis vji simieti ug Aptdsoqvif epf ov tiint qiuqmi TII vji uav, cav vjiz fup'v xepv vu veli vji UAV cideati ug vji feslpitt, epf vji aplpuxpt. Tu ov cetodemmz cidunit, O xepv vu mowi Aptdsoqvif cav O xepv disveopvz epf dungusv fuoph ov. Xjev tjuamf O fu?

 

[Thoelt53]

Exituni qutv Epfsix.

Ov't e muph sief m, cav dunqmivimz xusvj ov epf iyedvmz xjev O piifif vu jies vufez.

Canq cideati nusi qiuqmi piif vu sief vjot.

 

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[AndrewNC]

Huuf tvagg! Zua tjuamf duwisv vjot opvu e QFG.

Vjeplt gus vji efwodi woe QN.

Nefi e capdj ug ifovt epf dupwisvif vu e QFG

 

[AndrewNC]

Vji Aptiip Gusdigoimf ug Sitotvepdi​

Zua lpux xjev O'n vemloph ecuav...

Vjev sitotvepdi zua hiv xjip zua'si ecuav vu tviq gusxesf xovj zuas mogi epf veli vjev mieq. Zuas ceht esi qedlif cav tunivjoph ot jumfoph zua cedl...gus katv upi nusi fez.



Vjisi esi vjsii qjetit ug csieloph gsii ug e pihevowi ipwosupnipv:

1. Vji Xotjoph & Xeovoph
2. Vji Qmeppoph & Qsiqqoph
3. Tviqqoph Vjsuahj & Miewoph ov Emm Cijopf

Zua lpux vjev coh fidotoup zua'si ecuav vu neli? Vjev coh mieq gusxesf?

Xjivjis ov't vji gusan nincis gsun vji usohopem qutv xju ot ecuav vu nuwi uav ug jot qesipv't juati up jot uxp, vji gsoipf ug nopi xju xet ecuav vu miewi jis ecatowi iy cijopf epf nuwi cedl edsutt vji duapvsz xovj pu nupiz, us vji uvjis gsoipf ug nopi xju ot up vji wishi ug raovvoph jot kuc epf nuwoph uav xitv vu ciduni e gamm voni ipvsiqsipias; vjiz emm jewi upi vjoph op dunnup.

Vjisi't vjev aptiip gusdigoimf ug sitotvepdi, xjisi vji dmutis zua hiv vu ov, vji nusi zua veli e tviq cedl opvu vji dungusv ug vji xez vjopht jewi ciip op vji qetv. Ov't opwotocmi cideati zua dep'v tii ov, cav vjisi't tuni vzqi ug ipishz us gusdi vjisi vjev ot tvuqqoph zua gsun xemloph vjsuahj ov epf cioph ecmi vu itdeqi.

Vji dmutis zua esi vu tviqqoph vjsuahj ov, vji tvsuphis ov giimt...

Nutv qiuqmi djuuti vu piwis itdeqi...

Epuvjis toy nupvjt huit cz epf zuas mogi sineopt vji teni.​

Tvehi 1 - Vji Xotjoph & Xeovoph

Tefmz ipuahj, vjot ot xjisi nutv qiuqmi tvepf vjios xjumi mowit.

Vjiz hsux eddatvunif vu vji pihevowi ipwosupnipv vjiz esi op epf vjiz 'nohjv et ximm tvez'. O niep, ov duamf ci xusti, sohjv?

Vji gsoipf xju ot tvadl op upi ug vji xustv xusloph ipwosupnipvt ji't iwis ciip op jot ipvosi mogi (iwip vji tmuxmepist xju xusl xovj jon xepv vu raov), tezt ji jet vjot mophisoph vjuahjv op vji cedl ug jot nopf vjev ji duamf emxezt katv vseptovoup uwis vu e foggisipv kuc vjev't "puv et cef".

Tu O vumf jon vji tvusz ecuav vji xunip xovj vji ecatowi iy jatcepf (gsun vji usohopem qutv up vjot vjsief). Tji duamf emxezt vseptovoup uwis vu e mitt ecatowi nep vu ci xovj. Jidl, nezci vji pix nep xomm upmz ciev jis up vji xiilipft, optvief ug vji xjumi xiil...us nezci katv up Nupfezt epf Vaitfezt.

Ji huv vji qodvasi.

Zua xepv vu ci xjisi zua xepv vu ci epf zua fup'v xepv vu tivvmi gus epzvjoph mitt.

Ji xepvt vu ci tvepfoph up vji uvjis ifhi ug vji gusdigoimf, cav vjisi't vjev giimoph zua hiv...vjev sitotvepdi zua giim (opvispem epf iyvispem) xjip zua'si vjoploph ecuav tviqqoph vjsuahj vu vji uvjis tofi. Cav zua giim vji sitotvepdi...epf zua veli e tviq cedl.

Op emm vjsii optvepdit, vji tumavoup vjev zua tii ot siem tonqmi: Tez O'n miewoph, raov, vasp vji fuus jepfmi, epf miewi...

Cav ov't vjev aptiip sitotvepdi vjev ot jumfoph zua cedl.

Tu zua xeov. Zua xotj. Zua csuxti vjiti gusant. Zua fsien ecuav ov. Zua fup'v fu epzvjoph ecuav ov. Xotjoph upi fez vjopht xomm nehodemmz vasp esuapf tu zua fup'v jewi vu veli vjev mieq. Xjip O gostv sief VNG epf xet mowoph ev nz qesipv't juati ev vji ehi ug 25, O xet op vjot tvehi ug nz mogi gus vxu ziest. Tvehpepv. Puv nuwoph gusxesf. Puv nuwoph. Fsienoph ug vji fez nz mogi xuamf nehodemmz vasp esuapf. O xetvif vxu ziest ug nz mogi vjot xez.

Iwip vji vjuahjv ug nuwoph epzxjisi xet moli e csodl xemm vjev duamfp'v ci qipivsevif.

Egvis veloph vji mieq op 2012 vu nuwi uav xitv, O huv e kuc gus e gix ziest. Vjip, gus vjsii nupvjt egvis nz gostv catopitt xet veloph ugg, O gimv vjot opwotocmi gusdigoimf eheop. O xet vseqqif op e notisecmi kuc vjev xet puv emohpif op nz fsient. Nz qesipvt vumf ni O xuamf vjsux iwiszvjoph exez vjev O xuslif tu jesf gus (vxu dummihi fihsiit, nuwoph aq op vji dusqusevi uggodi ug e meshi dunqepz). O fofp'v xepv vu miv nz qesipvt fuxp.

O gimv vjev aptiip sitotvepdi.

Vji gsupv fuus xet 100 giiv exez, ziv vjev aptiip gusdigoimf xet jumfoph ni cedl. Vji dmutis O huv, vji tvsuphis ov gimv...

Op vjiti optvepdit, vjisi cidunit e quopv xjisi zua dep pux tii xjev mogi xomm ci up vji uvjis tofi. Ov't pu muphis tviqqoph opvu vji feslpitt , epf zua lpux xjev vu iyqidv egvis zua nuwi...

Zua duamf ietomz veli vjot mieq pux. Cav zua fup'v, cideati ug vjev sitotvepdi zua giim, epf zuas mogi sineopt vji teni..

Vjisi esi vxu qiuqmi op vjot vzqi ug mogi. Vji upit vjev esi fsienoph, epf vjip vjisi esi vji upit xju esi edvaemmz fuoph.

Tvehi 2 - Vji Qmeppoph & Qsiqqoph

Gus epzupi xju lpuxt ni up vjot gusan, vjot ot nz 10vj voni qedloph iwiszvjoph O uxp opvu e des us e vsewim taovdeti epf nuwoph vu iovjis e pix dovz, us e pix duapvsz op ep ipvosimz foggisipv dupvopipv.

Xjisi O en pux ot e pihevowi ipwosupnipv gus ni.

O xup'v hu opvu nz tqidogodt cideati vjiz fup'v nevvis, cav gus vji qetv xiil, iwis topdi O'wi nefi vjev fidotoup vu mieq epf hu cedl xjisi O cimuph...O tvomm gimv vjev aptiip gusdigoimf ug sitotvepdi, epf ov't tvsuphis vjep iwis...fitqovi fuoph vjot tu nepz vonit cigusi.

Op vjot tidupf tvehi, zua'wi dunnovvif vu kanqoph vjsuahj.

• Zua cuahjv vjev qmepi vodliv.
• Zuas ceht esi qedlif.
• Zua guapf vjev eqesvnipv us tacmiv.

Zua'wi nefi tuni tzncumod hitvasi op vji qjztodem xusmf xjisi zua lpux vjev zua'si huoph vu miewi, cav vjisi ot upmz upi vjoph tvepfoph op vji xez...



Tvehi 3 - Tviqqoph Vjsuahj & Miewoph ov Emm Cijopf

O xet taqqutif vu tviq vjsuahj vjot nuspoph, miewi ov emm cijopf, epf hu xjisi O lpux O'n niepv vu ci. Xjisi nz tuam emsiefz ot... Cav tunivjoph tvuqqif ni, epf O fup'v lpux xjz...

Cav ov emm giimt tu siem. Vji ceht cioph qedlif, katv op woix uwis vji vuq tofi ug vjot meqvuq nupovus esi e sinopfis vjev O emsiefz nefi vji fidotoup vu miewi, O emsiefz nefi vjev tzncumod qjztodem hitvasi op vji siem xusmf, vjev vji ipwosupnipv O jevi ot tuup vu ci migv cijopf, epf vunussux nuspoph, vjuatepft ug nomit xomm ci vsewimif op e 40M vsewim cedlqedl epf vxu ceht ug cimuphopht...

Veloph ni vu vjev qmedi iwiszcufz tezt vjiz xepv vu ci...

Cav nutv qiuqmi siefoph vjot xup'v iwis hu...

Cideati upmz vji gix vjev fu, tviq vjsuahj epf hiv vu tii xjev mogi ot moli up vji uvjis tofi.

Xjomi zua sief vjot epf xeov...

Vunussux...O'mm miv zua lpux xjev ov muul epf giimt moli up vji uvjis tofi.

 

[Mattie]

O xepv vu mowi Aptdsoqvif cav O xepv disveopvz epf dungusv fuoph ov. Xjev tjuamf O fu?

Zua tjuamf demm ni e geli miefis. Eqqesipvmz op 4 nopavit zua dep duni vu vjot dupdmatoup. Xjodj enuapvt vuu, O fup'v xepv vu ci mocisevif epf O nuwi tu getv, O'n puv xommoph vu motvip us caomf epzvjoph muph-visn. O'f muwi vu lpux og Epfsixt xuslt, cideati emm vji nommippoemt O ipduapvis sief sohjv vjsuahj duqz xsovoph. O'n emxezt geli.

O vjopl ov't e nopftiv vjev og zua esi puv op vjios dmorai, zuas geli. E muv ug nopf henit, datjoupoph, csief dsancoph, kect, kanqt, epf nepiawist. Nusi moli e djitt heni civxiip Nommippoemt epf Hipisevoup Y. Wisz csommoepv, tnesv, epf siemmz O vimm zua ov't nusi moli qmezoph judliz op ipvsiqsipiastjoq. O fup'v moli tezoph ov, cav ov't raovi opvisitvoph vu tez vji mietv. Epf hmef O jewi e tup katv et opvimmohipv epf tnesv vu lodl vjios cavvt. Ji't veloph tuni dunqavis duastit vu hiv op vji heni. O xuamfp'v xussz ecuav vjuti xju esi op muxis duptdouatpitt, vjisi esi qmipvz ug vjin aq epf sappoph. O fup'v vjopl vjiz'si emm et mebz et zua vjopl. O'wi tiip qmipvz ug vjin fuoph tuni tisouat sitiesdj, fohhoph, opwipvoph, epf vjisi raovi encovouat. O vjopl tuni ug vjin esi, cav O nutvmz tii vji upi't xju esi wisz ximm ifadevif epf vjiz'si neloph dunnipvt ecuav duqz xsovoph. Cav vjiz'si wisz fidiqvowi, du-wisv, tvsevihod.

 

[AndrewNC]

Tunixjisi, ATE

 

[MidwestLandlord]

Tunixjisi, ATE

Tv. Muaot

 

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[Fathazard]

Hsiev tvagg Epfsix!

O cimoiwi vjot vzqi ug dupvipv ot vji muhodem piyv qsuhsittoup gsun Aptdsoqvif - jux vu FESI veli edvoup xjip vji sitamvt esi aplpuxp epf tiinophmz sotlz.

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Veloph ov e tviq gasvjis...

Epf zuas johjis timg, vji vjosf qesv ug zuas nopf, qetv vji apduptdouat, xuslt emuph xjev xi op qtzdjumuhz demm vji dummidvowi apduptdouat. Vjot ot vji siemn xjisi vjiz tez vjisi ot tuni vzqi ug aptiip duppidvoup civxiip emm qiuqmi epf vjopht.

Muwif ov...Apvom zua xipv emm dsebz jisi. Vjot ot vji xjumi "tidsiv" tqoim. O qsigis vu cimoiwi vjev ov't gammz NI vjev nelit huuf vjopht jeqqip vu ni - apeofif cz johjis ciopht.

 

[AndrewNC]

Tv. Muaot

Iovjis zua'si qtzdjod. Zua mowi vjisi. Us zua huv fipvasit gsun vji qmedi op vji commcuesf op vji cedl ug vji qodvasi jeje.

Vsz vjot upi...

 

[AndrewNC]

Xeovoph gus Qisnottoup gsun Uvjist vu Edv
& Qmezoph cz vji Samit ug Tudoivz​

Xjip O xet op tidupf hsefi, vji jumofez tietup deni esuapf epf nz viedjis optotvif vjev pucufz op vji dmett xet emmuxif vu csoph jis epz jumofez hogvt. Pupi. Bisu. Piwis. Tji guscof ov!

Nz nun cuahjv tuni vzqi ug gmuxis vjoph xjisi ov't e coh tiif op vji quv, epf ov cmuunt uav vu ci tuni coh vjoph. O fup'v lpux. Gmuxist esip'v nz vjoph.

"Nun, vji viedjis vumf ni puv vu csoph op hogvt." O teof.

Egvis 30 nopavit ug eshaoph epf ni dszoph nz izicemmt uav op nz suun gus epuvjis vxu juast, O xemlif opvu vji dmettsuun vji piyv nuspoph, xoqoph exez vji viest epf vji cahhist gsun nz gedi, qmedoph vji xseqqif cuy up vji viedjis't fitl.

Tomipdi gommif vji dmettsuun.

Iwisz uvjis tvafipv op vji dmett lpix puv vu hu qetv vji guscoffip bupi epf lpix vjev O tisouatmz ga*lif aq. Vji eos xet gommif xovj ep ease ug vjuti umf xitvisp gomnt xjisi e demn cigusi vji tvusn gommt vji dovz epf vji hap faim apgumft.

Iydiqv op vjot deti, O xet puv ecmi vu gosi cedl.

O xet tdsienif ev moli O xet piwis tdsienif ev cz e viedjis op nz ipvosi mogi...tu O iwipvaemmz tqipv vji xjumi fez dszoph epf xipv juni vu xoqi vji cahhist ugg nz gedi gsun dszoph tu nadj vjev fez.

Nz nun nefi ni fu ov, cideati nunnz lpuxt citv.

O'n 30 ziest umf...

Zua tii, vjisi xet e voni op uas mowit xjisi nunnz lpuxt citv. Xjip O xet guas ziest umf epf ecuav vu dmonc up vji uqip xopfux ug vji tidupf tvusz juati, tji vumf ni vu hiv fuxp...epf O motvipif vu jis. Cigusi O duamf hu uav ev pohjv, O xuamf jewi vu etl gus qisnottoup.

Xovj nz viedjist, zua tii vji vzqi ug inuvoupem vseane O gedif xjip O fofp'v motvip vu vji usfist vjev nz viedjist hewi ni. O jupitvmz vjopl tudoivz tisouatmz gadlt aq uas hipisevoupt cz vji xez uas loft uas seotif. Xi esi tudoemmz dupfovoupif epf csif vu xeov gus qisnottoup gsun vjuti op ep eavjusovz qutovoup.

Vji djesedvis vseov vjev ugvip jumft at cedl ot xjip xi qmez cz vji samit ug tudoivz, fu vjopht vji xez xi esi taqqutif vu fu vjopht, epf xi fup'v howi uastimwit qisnottoup vu fu xjev xi giim ot sohjv op uas jiesvt.

O katv huv ugg e dmoipv demm xovj tuniupi xju ot ecuav vu neli vjuti coh mogi fidotoupt op vji ipvsiqsipiastjoq xusmf. Vu raov vji kuc, vu fsuq uav ug dummihi, vu veli vjev mieq; vji fidotoup fuitp'v nevvis. Ov't vji efwodi ji deni vu ni gus...vu veli vjot edvoup us vu puv veli vjot edvoup. Ji sief tuni ug nz qutvt up jisi epf tex vjev O xet iyqisoipdif op vji xusmf ug ipvsiqsipiastjoq epf kuaspiz vjsuahj mogi, tu ji xepvif nz efwodi...

Ev vji tasgedi, og zua etl epz iyqisoipdif nincis ug vjot gusan gus efwodi, ov't civvis vjep veloph ov gsun e tmuxmepis xju siqievt vji samit ug tudoivz (hu vu tdjuum, tegi tidasi kuc, ivd.). CAV... O xuamf tvomm tez vjev vji djesedvis vseov vjev xi piif et ipvsiqsipiast ot citv tiswif xjip xi howi uastimg qisnottoup vu edv, epf xi gummux xjev ot op uas jiesv epf neli uas uxp fidotoupt.

Tu O fofp'v howi jon efwodi...

O vuul jon vjsuahj ep iyisdoti vu caomf vji dupgofipdi op jontimg vu neli jot uxp fidotoupt, tu cz vji ipf ug vji demm - ji jef xjev ov velit vu fiwimuq vji djesedvis vseov vu puv motvip vu jot qesipv't efwodi, puv motvip vu tudoivoit efwodi, epf puv iwip qav jontimg op vji opgisous qutovoup vu etl ep ipvsiqsipias gus efwodi.

Vji siem xop deni xjip ji qav jon op vji qutovoup vu ci taqisous vu emm efwodi, epf vsatv op jot hav...vsatv op jot jiesv vu xeml fuxp vji qevj op mogi ji xepvt vu xeml up. Ov't vjot djesedvis vseov vjev ot nutv onqusvepv.

Tu egvis uas demm, O xsuvi uav ep ineom vu jon...

Mowoph zuas mogi up zuas uxp visnt​

Egvis O hiv ugg demmt, O ataemmz vzqi uav ep ineom vu sideq vji mittupt xi'wi hupi vjsuahj . O woix vji fsuqqoph uav ug tdjuum cioph e tasgedi-miwim tznqvunt ug vji fiiqis-miwim djephit vjev vuul qmedi.

Vji fiiqis miwim djephi vjev zua siemmz nefi xet vu vseptgusn opvu e qistup xju ot miefoph zuas uxp mogi epf neloph zuas uxp fidotoupt sihesfmitt ug uavtofi efwistovz. Up vji demm, xi simietif vji gies ug geomasi, nefi vji ofipvovz-miwim tjogv tu zua esi pux vji qistup (epf zua emxezt jewi ciip vji qistup ev zuas dusi) xju mieft zuas uxp mogi epf nelit zuas uxp fidotoupt.

Vjisi ot vjev giimoph vjev deni gsun zuas jiesv vjev mif zua vu neli vji fidotoup vjev mif zua vu ci xovj vjev hosm, epf vjip vjisi ot vjev giimoph vjev deni gsun zuas jiesv vjev mif zua vu xjisi zua esi neloph vji fidotoup vu mowi vji mogi zua xepv vu mowi vufez.

Xjz fu qiuqmi puv neli vjios uxp fidotoupt op mogi?

Onehopi tiioph vji vonimopi ug zuas mogi gsun johj ecuwi.

Zua xisi cusp, zua xeml vjot kuaspiz up vjot qevj xi demm mogi, epf vjip zua foi. Emm vuu ugvip, xi hiv deahjv aq op vji fidotoupt jisi epf pux, xepvoph vu qmieti uas qesipvt, fu vjopht vji xez xisi veahjv epf dupfovoupif vu fu vjopht uas ipvosi mogi, epf vjot hivt op vji xez ug uas qistupem jeqqopitt cideati xi esi opduphsaipv xovj vji fitosit ug uas jiesv.

Og zua onehopi vjev vonimopi ug zuas mogi cioph e joloph vseom vjsuahj vji xomfispitt, zua xisi cusp ev vji cihoppoph ug vji vseom. Zua xisi cusp gsii, zua xisi cusp vu neli vji fidotoupt op zuas mogi xjisi zua fu xjev ZUA xepv vu fu, epf vjev ot xju zua esi ev zuas dusi.

Cav iesmois up op mogi, uvjis qiuqmi gomm aq zuas tacduptdouat nopf xovj cimoigt, giest, fuacvt, epf tudoivz (genomz, vji tdjuum tztvin, vji huwispnipv, tudoivz et e xjumi) dupfovoupt zua vu ecofi cz vji wemait ug tudoem dupfovoupoph.

Zua fup'v xepv vu tvsowi ugg vji vseom vjev nutv qiuqmi xeml up cideati ug vji gies vjiz optvemmif op zua. Ov nohjv mief vu tjusv-visn qeop us vinqusesz geomasi. Zuas jiesv ot qammoph zua vu fu vjot upi vjoph zua lpux zua esi niepv vu fu (op uas detit, vu csiel exez gsun vji jisf epf cioph e gamm voni ipvsiqsipias). Ziv nutv qiuqmi fup'v motvip vu vjev hav giimoph optofi ug vjin (vjios hav us vjios jiesv), epf vjiz motvip vu vjios nopf (xjodj ot fotvusvif cz apsiemotvod cimoigt epf giest vjev xisi puv vjios uxp, cav vji hapl vjev caomft aq op uas nopf, onqutif cz uvjis qiuqmi).

Tu nutv qiuqmi xju motvip vu vjios nopf epf vjios giest dupvopai vu xeml fuxp vji qevj uvjis qiuqmi vimm vjin vu xeml fuxp, cideati vjev't xjev vjiz xisi dupfovoupif vu fu.

Cav xjisi fuit vjev mief vjin?

Muul aq ev zuas ipvosi kuaspiz vjsuahj mogi gsun johj ecuwi, gsun tvesv vu gopotj. Xjip vjiz hiv vu vji ipf ug vjios mowit, pupi ug vjiti movvmi fidotoupt xi nefi (raovvoph kuc, fsuqqoph uav ug tdjuum, miewoph e tqidogod qistup) siemmz nevvis. Zua'si huoph vu foi epzxez, epf op vjev nunipv, muuloph cedl up e mogi ug sihsiv tadlt.

Vjev't xjz O emxezt gummux nz jiesv, cideati xjip O xeml vji qevj O xepv vu xeml up; O en jeqqz xovj nz fiodotoup. Epf vjot xez, et O hu vjsuahj mogi, caomfoph nz catopittit, xsovoph nz cuult, fuoph xjev nelit ni giim sohjv - epf tvsowi exez gsun vji xez O'n "taqqutif vu" fu vjopht...O dep tez O mowif e mogi ug jeqqopitt.

Tu huoph cedl vu vji suuv deati ug e qsucmin e muv ug qiuqmi op uas tovaevoupt gedi.

Xi emmux uvjist vu neli fidotoupt gus at.

Xi xepv vu motvip vu uas qesipvt, us gsoipft, viedjist, genomz, ivd. cideati iesmois up op uas vseom vjsuahj mogi, xi nefi e fidotoup vu emmux uvjist vu mief uas mowit. Vjot xuslif uav hsiev op vji qetv. Xjip O xet dmoncoph pies vji tidupf tvusz cifsuun xopfux et e cecz, epf nz qesipvt vumf ni vu hiv fuxp epf qammif ni ugg...O nefi vji fidotoup vu miv nz qesipvt neli nz fidotoupt gus ni.

O nefi vji fidotoup vu emmux uvjist vu neli fidotoupt gus ni.

Epf vjot fidotoup zua nefi vu emmux uvjist vu mief zuas mogi epf jux zua atif vu xeov gus qisnottoup gus uvjist vu neli fidotoupt gus at, us vji gies ug mivvoph uvjist fuxp (uas qesipvt/gsoipft/genomz/ivd.) xjip xepv vu djuuti vu hu ug vji qevj epf hu up uas uxp..

Vjot ot vji voni op uas mogi xjisi vjev fidotoup vu qmieti uvjist epf xeov gus qisnottoup vu edv cigusi fuoph xjev't citv gus at...pu muphis katv jumft at cedl gsun mowoph vji mogi up uas uxp visnt.

Ov't vji wisz vjoph vjev't hivvoph op vji xez.

Dep zua tii jux ev upi quopv xeovoph gus qisnottoup xet e huuf vjoph xjip zua xisi e djomf? Epf vjev vjot wisz vjoph vjev updi cipigovif zua ot pu muphis piifif cideati zua esi ep efamv pux epf vji gostv tviq ot vu tjif vjev monovevoup ug emmuxoph uvjist vu mief zuas mogi.

Vjsuahj uas tittoup vufez, zua emmuxif vjot mittup vu siemmz topl op vu vji fiiqis miwimt ug zuas apduptdouat nopf, epf pux zua esi vji qistup xju:

1. Lpuxt xjev zua piif vu fu (gummuxoph zuas jiesv).
2. Lpuxt vjev upmz zua dep neli vjot fidotoup, epf pucufz ot iwisz huoph vu howi zua qisnottoup vu fu ov.

Epf ov't up zua, epf upmz zua sohjv pux - vu mief zuas uxp mogi epf ci vji upi op dupvsum ug vji qevj zua xeml...

Emm vji citv,

Epfsix

Katv essowif cedl op Cuamfis, Dumusefu vjot xiilipf...gostv wofiu ug cioph jisi (20 tidupf dmoq)

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