Thank you for your very straightforward and clear answers! (@MJ DeMarco, @csalvato, @Tubs) They are highly appreciated, because they provide a different point of view and therefore a change of perspectives. They also gave me a great opportunity to reflect on my current situation.
Agreed. Ask 20 people to describe the world in 3 words, you'll most likely end up with 60 different words - yet everyone talks about the same world.
A friend of mine knows someone who attended many of the coach's seminars and spent tens of thousands. Yet the person is still working in an average job and not particularly happy about it. Would that person call him a guru? Most likely. Others have attended the same seminars and are now extremely successful, happy and fulfilled entrepreneurs. Would they call him a guru? I don't think so. They'd probably call him coach, mentor, or maybe even friend.
Same seminars, same teacher, different perspectives, different outcomes.
I don't think so. € 70k or $ 100k is what it is. A number. If you are homeless with zero money in your pocket $ 8.50 for a hot meal is a lot. Again, it depends on your perspective.
But to be honest it took a few weeks for me to see it that way. In the beginning the sum intimidated and scared me and made me feel very uncomfortable and aware of my financial state. Now I don't feel that way around that number any more. It's just a number. A sum that I was given to work on, a sum that triggers my creativity and motivation and that kicks me into action.
If I want to reach my (financial) goals in the next few years I better get comfortable with any kind of number. If big numbers evoke negative feelings I will most likely either stay clear of them all together or not handle them with confidence and a calm, focused state of mind.
Do you think there is a connection on how one thinks about money (or numbers) and the balance of their bank accounts?
It might be a little bit like the example MJ gave in his book: If you think "Can I afford it?" the answer is no. You can't. Change the question to "What do I need to, and am I willing to do in order to be able to pay for it?" it will give you a different starting point. - I'm not talking about chasing money here, in case that came across that way.
It's also a bit like @csalvato says about Tony Robbins and the ROI. I don't think that everyone who books his program (or similar programs) "can afford" it in the sense that they have the money as "fun-money" in their bank accounts. I believe many see it as an investment they are purchasing in order to get way more out of it than what they invested and are therefore even willing to take on a personal loan.
Anyway, I'm truly grateful that I made the decision, it.
Thank you so much for those two questions! They are great and challenging questions! I truly enjoyed pondering on them!
Does it fit into a realistic budget for me? Again: perspective. If I look into my bank account (which I did at first), then no, it doesn't. If I see the bigger picture, then yes, it is absolutely achievable.
Why did I decide to do it? Any decision we make is primarily an emotional one. Then our head starts to argue the pro and cons. So, in my case it started with pure “gut-feeling”. Then it was because of the things I can learn there (hard skills as well as soft skills), of how it stretches me and creates opportunities, because of the networking that comes along with it, and because I can see more value in it than € 70k.
Time will proof the real value of that decision.
Again - thank you so much for your answers! As always, I'll keep you updated.
Agreed. Ask 20 people to describe the world in 3 words, you'll most likely end up with 60 different words - yet everyone talks about the same world.
A friend of mine knows someone who attended many of the coach's seminars and spent tens of thousands. Yet the person is still working in an average job and not particularly happy about it. Would that person call him a guru? Most likely. Others have attended the same seminars and are now extremely successful, happy and fulfilled entrepreneurs. Would they call him a guru? I don't think so. They'd probably call him coach, mentor, or maybe even friend.
Same seminars, same teacher, different perspectives, different outcomes.
I don't think so. € 70k or $ 100k is what it is. A number. If you are homeless with zero money in your pocket $ 8.50 for a hot meal is a lot. Again, it depends on your perspective.
But to be honest it took a few weeks for me to see it that way. In the beginning the sum intimidated and scared me and made me feel very uncomfortable and aware of my financial state. Now I don't feel that way around that number any more. It's just a number. A sum that I was given to work on, a sum that triggers my creativity and motivation and that kicks me into action.
If I want to reach my (financial) goals in the next few years I better get comfortable with any kind of number. If big numbers evoke negative feelings I will most likely either stay clear of them all together or not handle them with confidence and a calm, focused state of mind.
Do you think there is a connection on how one thinks about money (or numbers) and the balance of their bank accounts?
It might be a little bit like the example MJ gave in his book: If you think "Can I afford it?" the answer is no. You can't. Change the question to "What do I need to, and am I willing to do in order to be able to pay for it?" it will give you a different starting point. - I'm not talking about chasing money here, in case that came across that way.
It's also a bit like @csalvato says about Tony Robbins and the ROI. I don't think that everyone who books his program (or similar programs) "can afford" it in the sense that they have the money as "fun-money" in their bank accounts. I believe many see it as an investment they are purchasing in order to get way more out of it than what they invested and are therefore even willing to take on a personal loan.
Anyway, I'm truly grateful that I made the decision, it.
Thank you so much for those two questions! They are great and challenging questions! I truly enjoyed pondering on them!
Does it fit into a realistic budget for me? Again: perspective. If I look into my bank account (which I did at first), then no, it doesn't. If I see the bigger picture, then yes, it is absolutely achievable.
Why did I decide to do it? Any decision we make is primarily an emotional one. Then our head starts to argue the pro and cons. So, in my case it started with pure “gut-feeling”. Then it was because of the things I can learn there (hard skills as well as soft skills), of how it stretches me and creates opportunities, because of the networking that comes along with it, and because I can see more value in it than € 70k.
Time will proof the real value of that decision.
Again - thank you so much for your answers! As always, I'll keep you updated.
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